I take too long to finish.

[jenlai29]

Hi brothers,

I've been punting weekly since Dec 2020.

However, I'm having a massive issue that's been
taking a toll on my sex life.

I take too long to finish. For example, I would book a girl at a shop and ask for 90mins. I'm not too sure if it's the consistency or maybe because I've been seeing different girls on the regular. But for a couple of sessions, after intercourse for a couple of positions my WL and I would get tired and she or I would finish me off with a HJ.

I've tried using Okamoto 0.02 condoms but for a couple of times, I would never finish through intercourse. The last session I've finished inside a WL was when she gave me a HJ and gave me a few pumps inside her.

I'd like to have a normal sex life but it is a journey and maybe you guys have some tips! Thank you!

[Eclipsefun]

Are you actually comfortable and relaxed when you are doing the act? Or are you all wrapped up thinking about it? Are you generally a stressed and anxious person?

My advice would be for your next punt don't even worry about finishing, just have a nice time and enjoy the journey and let the destination take care of itself. It might take a few punts to really get into that mindset, but worrying about finishing can, ironically, impede you from finishing.

[jenlai29]

Now I think about it, I do overthink about whether or not I'm going to be finishing inside her. I guess maybe it comes during intercourse that my mind says "hey mmm its alright but doesnt kinda feel good".

Though thank you for that advice, I do have a booking this evening. You know what, I'll think more about having a good time while I'm there. :D

[Sharphorse]

Agree that it sounds like it could be overthinking. Just try and concentrate on how it feels. I’m usually fine except when the WL suddenly asks “so are you gonna come?” Especially if it’s like the last 5-10mins the booking so they’re trying to get it finished up. Puts too much pressure on me

[1inchguy]

The other day when I had a massage from a regular. I took me longer than usual to come. Not sure if it was me but her HJ technique was boring and do anything else to get me over the edge. Wasnt exciting anymore. So I'm gonna go somewhere else

[DoMoSan]

Hopefully it is not emotional intimacy that you are after to climax cuz it will a regular to build the type of intimacy to go further.
But like everyone said. If it’s in the mind.. then change your mindset. Don’t focus on cumming.. and just relax and enjoy the session and that might change the outcome. And don’t forget to try position you are most comfortable with.
Enjoy.

[AHLUNGOR]

Hi brothers,

I've been punting weekly since Dec 2020.

However, I'm having a massive issue that's been
taking a toll on my sex life.

I take too long to finish. For example, I would book a girl at a shop and ask for 90mins. I'm not too sure if it's the consistency or maybe because I've been seeing different girls on the regular. But for a couple of sessions, after intercourse for a couple of positions my WL and I would get tired and she or I would finish me off with a HJ.

I've tried using Okamoto 0.02 condoms but for a couple of times, I would never finish through intercourse. The last session I've finished inside a WL was when she gave me a HJ and gave me a few pumps inside her.

I'd like to have a normal sex life but it is a journey and maybe you guys have some tips! Thank you!

Can you cum within a reasonable time if BBBJ ?

[GoldfishMan]

Now I think about it, I do overthink about whether or not I'm going to be finishing inside her. I guess maybe it comes during intercourse that my mind says "hey mmm its alright but doesnt kinda feel good".

Though thank you for that advice, I do have a booking this evening. You know what, I'll think more about having a good time while I'm there. :D
Could be a mental thing. I've had it before when after a particularly bad sex experience (not necessarily punting), it plays on my mind in my next sex sessions. I start to second guess myself if I can truly enjoy myself, whether I can get over the line, etc. Then that seed of doubt becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, it causes the sex to be bad simply because of the doubt.
One way I found that can fix it is a "circuit breaker". Just abstain (including self-help) for an extended period of time. How long this is depends on how frequently you usually have sex. If you normally do it once a week, maybe take a month or 2 off sex. Just to give your head the time to forget the bad experience.

[Meng]

A few things. Do you masturbate alot? If so try and stop masturbating for maybe 1-2 days before punting your dick will be sensitive as fuck. The other thing to try is that when you're ready to cum pick a position where you can control the tempo of the pumps easily without getting tired.

Again most of us masturbate and are use to a certain tempo/stroke speed to get off so again being able to control the speed is great.

It's actually one of the reasons why CIM is so hard for me. The tempo of the bbbj usually don't match my preferred speed which is quicker.

[Mrnice1234]

Same here : )
For me it is good in the beginning but when they start fake moaning I find it hard to get turned on
Note(im mid 20's)
That is why I like quick short session, pump and go

[liminal]

Another low post count, no account, account…could be that the OP has a really long cock so it takes quite a while to travel from the inner workings of the testicle along his large mastiff quivering rod, Where it may finally work its way free,

Along with your long time and long length you should be anything but sorrowful.. have you thought to try intense anal prostate stimulation , while looking at a picture of your favourite primary school teacher?

[fragnwin]

Hello OP,

Don’t worry, this is a common problem and it is very easy to fix,
Try to not touch yourself for 14 days, don’t even touch porn.
This alone can fix your problem but you have to have self control and will power.
Socialise with friends of both sexes, go and have a holiday for your mind.
I confident when you come back you be cumming like Pete North.

[Longprong]

Hi brothers,

I've been punting weekly since Dec 2020.

However, I'm having a massive issue that's been
taking a toll on my sex life.

I take too long to finish. For example, I would book a girl at a shop and ask for 90mins. I'm not too sure if it's the consistency or maybe because I've been seeing different girls on the regular. But for a couple of sessions, after intercourse for a couple of positions my WL and I would get tired and she or I would finish me off with a HJ.

I've tried using Okamoto 0.02 condoms but for a couple of times, I would never finish through intercourse. The last session I've finished inside a WL was when she gave me a HJ and gave me a few pumps inside her.

I'd like to have a normal sex life but it is a journey and maybe you guys have some tips! Thank you!

How old are you?

[smn5746]

Why try a few massages (ML) first and get your 'Eye In" (so to speak) and perhaps you become more relaxed. You might be building the whole event up to much.

[jenlai29]

Sounds, good I'll defs concentrate on how it feels.

[jenlai29]

The other day when I had a massage from a regular. I took me longer than usual to come. Not sure if it was me but her HJ technique was boring and do anything else to get me over the edge. Wasnt exciting anymore. So I'm gonna go somewhere else

I thoroughly enjoy this WL atm. But I will take that into consideration.

[jenlai29]

Hopefully it is not emotional intimacy that you are after to climax cuz it will a regular to build the type of intimacy to go further.
But like everyone said. If it’s in the mind.. then change your mindset. Don’t focus on cumming.. and just relax and enjoy the session and that might change the outcome. And don’t forget to try position you are most comfortable with.
Enjoy.

Maybe I didn't realise that I was after emotional initmacy this whole time. Now I think about it I'm really craving to see her mainly for the attention she gives me during a session.

[jenlai29]

Can you cum within a reasonable time if BBBJ ?

BBBJ feels good but I haven't felt a need to cum.

[jenlai29]

Could be a mental thing. I've had it before when after a particularly bad sex experience (not necessarily punting), it plays on my mind in my next sex sessions. I start to second guess myself if I can truly enjoy myself, whether I can get over the line, etc. Then that seed of doubt becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, it causes the sex to be bad simply because of the doubt.
One way I found that can fix it is a "circuit breaker". Just abstain (including self-help) for an extended period of time. How long this is depends on how frequently you usually have sex. If you normally do it once a week, maybe take a month or 2 off sex. Just to give your head the time to forget the bad experience.

To be honest, I agree with your reply. One of the WL mentioned maybe you're having too much sex. You should take time off. I'll take some time off even from masturbating.

[jenlai29]

A few things. Do you masturbate alot? If so try and stop masturbating for maybe 1-2 days before punting your dick will be sensitive as fuck. The other thing to try is that when you're ready to cum pick a position where you can control the tempo of the pumps easily without getting tired.

Again most of us masturbate and are use to a certain tempo/stroke speed to get off so again being able to control the speed is great.

It's actually one of the reasons why CIM is so hard for me. The tempo of the bbbj usually don't match my preferred speed which is quicker.

Thank you for your reply Meng, I'm a big fan of your ARs.

I masturbate 1-2 times a week. I agree with that, I'll try to abstain for a bit then get back into it. That's a good way to put it Meng. Setting yourself up into a position so that you can control the tempo should work.

[premature]

Thank you for your reply Meng, I'm a big fan of your ARs.

I masturbate 1-2 times a week. I agree with that, I'll try to abstain for a bit then get back into it. That's a good way to put it Meng. Setting yourself up into a position so that you can control the tempo should work.

1-2 times a week is definitely not over masturbation causing your libido issue.

I would know because I usually crank it every day or sometimes twice a day. But if I'm going to see a WL I usually don't have sex or jerk off for 2 days.

I find I have less of an issue going soft and gets me cumming hard

[jenlai29]

Hello OP,

Don’t worry, this is a common problem and it is very easy to fix,
Try to not touch yourself for 14 days, don’t even touch porn.
This alone can fix your problem but you have to have self control and will power.
Socialise with friends of both sexes, go and have a holiday for your mind.
I confident when you come back you be cumming like Pete North.

To be fair, I just finished up a session tonight. And yep, same results. I went soft while I was fucking the WL. Her word of advice, don't touch your dick for 2 months.

[jenlai29]

How old are you?

I'm 23 years old brother

[jenlai29]

Why try a few massages (ML) first and get your 'Eye In" (so to speak) and perhaps you become more relaxed. You might be building the whole event up to much.

To be fair, I used to see ML on the reg (mostly HJ finish). Because I've only started FS recently, I don't think I can get stimulated by a pussy atm because of how I'm so used to handjobs (Which I really love)

[jenlai29]

1-2 times a week is definitely not over masturbation causing your libido issue.

I would know because I usually crank it every day or sometimes twice a day. But if I'm going to see a WL I usually don't have sex or jerk off for 2 days.

I find I have less of an issue going soft and gets me cumming hard

You're right, like most brothers have said its more of the issue building up sensitivity just before a punt.

[Tommyboi]

I sometimes have a wank beforehand so I can last longer ... everyone is different I guess... hang in there bro!

[Icedlemontea1]

Holding off for 2-4 days usually does the trick. Just try and maybe hold off longer if needed

[tpol]

Try this position. Get into missionary or doggy, tell her to close her thighs tight then pump.

She has to be wet in order to do this or she'll get friction burn on the thighs

[DoMoSan]

@23 years of age... not being bais but just an educated guess... i could be wrong. If you happen to smoke weed or other recreational drugs before punting it will make you go soft. Or even getting drunk beforehand perhaps. I know I’ve did a lot of crazy shit which eventually lead to a need for some punting after a good time at that age.
Im only just assuming as we do not know the whole story. Could be a lot of factors at play.
Maybe see a different girl or punt without any substances if it has the same results.

[toilet33]

You're not alone. Sometimes it takes forever, and then with the right ML/WL, you just cum too quickly. In the end, if you can have an erection, then how long you take to cum is mostly a state of your mental mind. If you are super excited and eager, you cum super fast. If you are not clicking with the ML/WL, then it takes forever or never.

[Howgoodwerethe80s]

A day after a big drinking session can cause ejaculation problems. I drink a lot & it’s only happened to me once at 227 Broadway I just couldn’t cum.

[Raybo]

1st punt for a while today, nearly two months. Ended up jerking myself off to finish. Wasn't a bad punt but still....

[punter-pie]

Get more sleep, and wank less and you will be fine

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[the_boss_king]

i feel the more active you are, the harder and longer it takes to climax.

but also i feel like when i change things up and try different girls, it makes cummin easier

[hellodemin]

I have had WL get angry at me for not finishing fast enough which made me soft for rest of the session

[jenlai29]

Try this position. Get into missionary or doggy, tell her to close her thighs tight then pump.

She has to be wet in order to do this or she'll get friction burn on the thighs

mmm make her pussy tighter for a more stimulating fuck. i like this

[jenlai29]

@23 years of age... not being bais but just an educated guess... i could be wrong. If you happen to smoke weed or other recreational drugs before punting it will make you go soft. Or even getting drunk beforehand perhaps. I know I’ve did a lot of crazy shit which eventually lead to a need for some punting after a good time at that age.
Im only just assuming as we do not know the whole story. Could be a lot of factors at play.
Maybe see a different girl or punt without any substances if it has the same results.

Thanks for your replay DoMoSan. I don't do any recreational drugs and barely touch alcohol. I am overweight though, but recently started being active again.

[jenlai29]

You're not alone. Sometimes it takes forever, and then with the right ML/WL, you just cum too quickly. In the end, if you can have an erection, then how long you take to cum is mostly a state of your mental mind. If you are super excited and eager, you cum super fast. If you are not clicking with the ML/WL, then it takes forever or never.

To be fair I do agree with this. Recently I've been punting as a way to cope with stress from work. Which could be a factor of why I felt like I'm not into it i guess.

[jenlai29]

1st punt for a while today, nearly two months. Ended up jerking myself off to finish. Wasn't a bad punt but still....

I'd prefer to finish in her than jerking myself off. I have good punts too when I jerk myself off but really keen on finally finishing in her.

[jenlai29]

I have had WL get angry at me for not finishing fast enough which made me soft for rest of the session

Dude my last punt made me feel like the WL didn't really like me for going soft in the session.

[Itskens112]

all mental for me mate, so “could” be the same with you?

I usually take at least 40 minutes with an Asian but when it comes to Caucasian, I’m done within 10.

Mental, psychological, physical, it all adds up. Just try not to think about it and enjoy it ;)

[GoldfishMan]

Dude my last punt made me feel like the WL didn't really like me for going soft in the session.
If she's a WL that's worth her salt, she's more likely to be disappointed in herself than not liking you for losing your erection. It's her job to satisfy and pleasure you during the session. If you don't get that, she will likely lose a return customer. Don't think too much about this.
This also applies to GFs and wives, btw. Men always think women dislike them for lack of performance, but the main effect on the girls is they start second guessing themselves not the men: Am I not attractive enough for him? Not sexy enough? Something wrong with my pussy? And so on.

Back to your problem. Like other bros said there are a lot of factors at play, but since you're only 23 it takes out a lot of those related to health. So I think it could be libido. Do you actually not feel horny when you go for a punt?

You also need to understand what you personally like during sex. Then you take control of what happens in the session and make sure what ever you like happens. For example, I personally like to "service" the girl more than receiving it. So I always try to take charge and tell the girl to lie down at the beginning of the session. Some experienced girls like to stick to their routines and refuse to let me service them. I always perform poorly in those sessions.
That's just my example. You could be someone who likes to be serviced so you have to ask yourself what you really like and go for it.

[apokalypse]

I'm one of them have issues with mental health and it's not great..sex life with my recent ex just not that good and punt life is depends...i don't know what happen but one girl from local massage always got me.

[jenlai29]

I'm one of them have issues with mental health and it's not great..sex life with my recent ex just not that good and punt life is depends...i don't know what happen but one girl from local massage always got me.


It really sucks when you can't perfom how you want to. What have you tried to fix it?

[jenlai29]

If she's a WL that's worth her salt, she's more likely to be disappointed in herself than not liking you for losing your erection. It's her job to satisfy and pleasure you during the session. If you don't get that, she will likely lose a return customer. Don't think too much about this.
This also applies to GFs and wives, btw. Men always think women dislike them for lack of performance, but the main effect on the girls is they start second guessing themselves not the men: Am I not attractive enough for him? Not sexy enough? Something wrong with my pussy? And so on.

Back to your problem. Like other bros said there are a lot of factors at play, but since you're only 23 it takes out a lot of those related to health. So I think it could be libido. Do you actually not feel horny when you go for a punt?

You also need to understand what you personally like during sex. Then you take control of what happens in the session and make sure what ever you like happens. For example, I personally like to "service" the girl more than receiving it. So I always try to take charge and tell the girl to lie down at the beginning of the session. Some experienced girls like to stick to their routines and refuse to let me service them. I always perform poorly in those sessions.
That's just my example. You could be someone who likes to be serviced so you have to ask yourself what you really like and go for it.

That's a very interesting point that I've never tnought about. Now I think back to it a lot of the WLs I've been with mostly puts my pleasure first when working.

I may not have enough libido at the moment when I go for a punt. I've been abstaining away from it (incl. masturbation) though today I really wanted to go for a punt but chose not to. But I think I should crave it even more before I go for my next punt.

Another possible factor is when I change girls its more of a feeling for each others rhythm and learning how each other work. I do prefer girls that I've built rapport on. I find it more satisfying. Since I've only started going to FS places recently, maybe that's the reason why; I'm not comfortable with the girl I'm with yet.

An example of this is one of the regular WLs I go to at 42G has changed her routine to suit me and the last time I saw her, she helped me out with her hands then let me finish inside her. I thought that was a really good tactic by her. I'm really keen on seeing her again soon though, but I'm always intrigued on seeing other girls on their roster.

[Scanlan]

There is part of the Cerebellum which they call Vermis .
Its one of the more primitive parts of the brain.
When you are afraid its freezes your body functions.

[warwick1]

There is part of the Cerebellum which they call Vermis .
Its one of the more primitive parts of the brain.
When you are afraid its freezes your body functions.

I actually understand what your talking about, the rest of your posts not so much....cheers

[GoldfishMan]

That's a very interesting point that I've never tnought about. Now I think back to it a lot of the WLs I've been with mostly puts my pleasure first when working.

I may not have enough libido at the moment when I go for a punt. I've been abstaining away from it (incl. masturbation) though today I really wanted to go for a punt but chose not to. But I think I should crave it even more before I go for my next punt.

Another possible factor is when I change girls its more of a feeling for each others rhythm and learning how each other work. I do prefer girls that I've built rapport on. I find it more satisfying. Since I've only started going to FS places recently, maybe that's the reason why; I'm not comfortable with the girl I'm with yet.

An example of this is one of the regular WLs I go to at 42G has changed her routine to suit me and the last time I saw her, she helped me out with her hands then let me finish inside her. I thought that was a really good tactic by her. I'm really keen on seeing her again soon though, but I'm always intrigued on seeing other girls on their roster.
I don't know if it works for you, but another reason I like to service the girl is because if I let the girl take the lead, it's a bit of a toss up especially for a new girl I'm seeing the first time. What if I don't like her technique or "rhythm" as you put it? Also, after doing a lot of sessions, it all becomes the same. There's a girl here trying to get the same reactions from you over and over. Feels like you're watching different movies but all of them have the same main actor (you!).
Instead... If I flip it around and get some action on HER instead and make that the whole point of the session... Now it is different every time. Different main actor, different reactions, different feeling.

[jethro751]

Near the end of the session try doggy and get the girl to massage your balls and try getting the girl to crouch right down and just pump slowly as she massages and in some cases she will lightly finger your arse and this usually does the trick. Find the position that most turns you on and get the girl to do the massage and try this while going slow as it enhances the intimacy. Also very vigorous fucking can delay the cumming sensation and is a common trick by many porn stars to prolong the sensation and not cum too quickly. They then usually have a blowjob without the condom to finish as condoms can seriously dampen the sensation as compared to a handjob or a blowjob without a condom. If you watch porn then you will no doubt find some videos that really hit the mark as providing excitement and fantasy and you are wanking to the pace you favour so this is difficult to match when you are with a working girl as you are thinking of how she perceives you during the sex and this can cause performance anxiety especially if you care for the girl. During sex you need to immerse in the amazing sensations of being with a sexy lady that is actually letting you fuck her and every girl responds to guys who care about them and allows them to get some enjoyment from this work. Don't overthink the situation of performance and whether she thinks you are a good lover as this can overcrowd your brain and distract you from the pleasure of the sex. Once you find the right combination the girl will respond and her actions will give you a mental boost. Its all about excitement so surprise her with a gift and take her a nice flower or chocolates or give her a tip before the sex then try something romantic by kissing her neck and whispering in her ear that she is so sexy and beautiful and do this during the session as well.
The other punters have also put some very valid comments here.

[masacuph]

Man once tired out a regular of mine I felt sorry as her hand started going numb. Guess times like this should see if Spanish is on offer.