Is punting an addiction for you?

[virgileco]

Have you guys ever gone through periods where you've gone for punts several times a week but you feel like you're doing it out of habit rather than enjoyment? That you're addicted to the process rather than the punt itself?

In the last 7 days, I have gone punting 7 times. On two of those days, I went twice. While I'm sure there are others who do a lot more than I do, for me this is a lot. In the past, I might have gone once every couple of months, or every couple of weeks if there was a girl I was into.

My usual routine is that I browse this forum, I see a good review or something that piques my interest enough in a shop to give it a try, I book and then I go. That's the usual process for a lot of guys I imagine, but recently I feel like it's become some sort of rote thing for me.

Don't get me wrong - I still enjoy the sexual aspect of it. In the moment, I feel the thrill meeting a new girl and seeing what she can do. But before and after I see the girl, I just kind of feel hollow about the whole thing and meanwhile I'm burning through cash that I should be using otherwise responsibly.

Just interested in other people's experiences.

[StiFFFy]

Hey Friend,
Life is too busy to punt at the moment personally, but wanted to say the symptoms you described I have seen with some of my vices that turned into addictions, in particular the hollow feeling after the event.
I'm happy to point you in the direction to road of recovery, just send us a PM/DM.
Cheers

[Budgyboy]

Yep had exactly the same experience, self discipline has curbed my habit. A

[surething91]

Maybe try finding a real girlfriend? Or any passion/sport? See your friends, keep busy with work etc...? Read books?

Basically try to keep your mind busy.
I know it's hard these days as we are nit meant to socialise.

On the other hand if you get hard and horny that often it means you are healthy! It's good to realise that too: health is important!

Having said all these basics stuff if you really feel addicted ask a professional starting with your GP. They won't judge you and if they do who cares?

Good luck mate!

[daty2022]

Wouldn’t say addicted to the process, but certainly am to the outcome. Mind you I’m a once a week punter you are operating in a different league to me

[Candy1234]

I turned into a once a week punt lately, but I’m trying to keep busy, meet up with non punt friends hang out all night so there won’t be a chance for me to creep to a massage shop, good thing most closed at 8pm so once 8pm hits and I’m not in the shop than I’m cleared.

Right now I want to reduce to once a month. Yes even with once a week I do feel like I’m addicted, constantly looking at roaster throughout the week and plan my next trip. I mean I’m constantly looking at this forum for new ideas as well. Maybe reduce phone time on their WeChat and websites.

[Wok]

I only really started this during covid, which I feel I was doing out of boredom more than anything, the restrictions also made dating near impossible.

But once the gyms, and the rest of society, opened back up my normal afternoon hobbies resumed and I found the time to partake in this hobby severely reduced, and so did my urge to continue with it.

For a while I was doing it quite often, but I think this will just be left as my “Covid hobby”.

So, pretty much to parrot one of the replies above, get a hobby that occupies your free time and you might feel the urge, or compulsion, will subside.

Good luck bro.

[mustyincognito]

Hi mate, as others have said, try to occupy your mind/time with other things. I think it would be good if you don't browse this forum for a while to snap out of your usual routine.

[CharlieM]

I turned into a once a week punt lately, but I’m trying to keep busy, meet up with non punt friends hang out all night so there won’t be a chance for me to creep to a massage shop, good thing most closed at 8pm so once 8pm hits and I’m not in the shop than I’m cleared.

Right now I want to reduce to once a month. Yes even with once a week I do feel like I’m addicted, constantly looking at roaster throughout the week and plan my next trip. I mean I’m constantly looking at this forum for new ideas as well. Maybe reduce phone time on their WeChat and websites.

Me too, I'm a once a week guy. Been RnT (been to VC Broadway this morning) mostly but only recently started FS. Find myself looking at the roster most days. Turning into a bit of an obsession.

Is it just me or does anyone else go on this forum and check the rosters first thing in the morning even if they have no intention of punting that day?

[TARegistrar]

Like others it was something I picked up during COVID times, but I'm by no means addicted. I go once every month or two but I can see how people can become addicted and let it spiral. Probably helps for me that I don't earn enough to make it a more common thing! Wish you the best in getting more control over things.

[fjfan]

I've never had a girlfriend, hooked up or even dated a girl before and have a pretty dead social life so I would consider myself to be institutionalised by the institution of prostitution (that's what it is at the end of the day) for a variety of reasons. So I can definitely relate to what the OP said about being addicted to the process rather than the punt itself out of boredom and just making a "hobby" out of it.

In saying that, I do have it under control in the spending department.

[Candy1234]

Me too, I'm a once a week guy. Been RnT (been to VC Broadway this morning) mostly but only recently started FS. Find myself looking at the roster most days. Turning into a bit of an obsession.

Is it just me or does anyone else go on this forum and check the rosters first thing in the morning even if they have no intention of punting that day?

Yes, agreed. I don’t punt on week days as I get really tired from work and some times it’s harder for me to stay solid down there so weekend punting is for me. Week days is when I plan, check roasters, this forum, advanced Googling the girl I want to see lol if I apply that amount of effort in improving life I may come up with a million dollar idea.

I’ve deleted WeChat a few times during this month but downloaded it again lol yes obsession indeed.

[Sibon]

Hi mate, as others have said, try to occupy your mind/time with other things. I think it would be good if you don't browse this forum for a while to snap out of your usual routine.

Get yourself a tropical fish tank. Every time I feel like going to a parlour I just give my fish tank a good clean which often takes up 2-3 hours.

It has saved me $500 a week.

[dotcumdotinyou]

You need to try and limit yourself, try once a week for starters and extend from there. And as others have pointed out stop checking the forum and delete wechat, keep your mind busy...work more put in some overtime it'll keep you away from brothels and make you money.

[warwick1]

Get yourself a tropical fish tank. Every time I feel like going to a parlour I just give my fish tank a good clean which often takes up 2-3 hours.

It has saved me $500 a week.

Ah the old fish tank of yours, how many times have you cleaned it in the 3 months you've been an active "punter', or is the "fish tank" a metaphor for a blow up doll....

[virgileco]

Thanks for your responses so far guys.


Me too, I'm a once a week guy. Been RnT (been to VC Broadway this morning) mostly but only recently started FS. Find myself looking at the roster most days. Turning into a bit of an obsession.

Is it just me or does anyone else go on this forum and check the rosters first thing in the morning even if they have no intention of punting that day?

Yeah, this is me. Or worse, I don't intend to go punting, see something on the forum and then end up going punting.

I think I need to buckle down and just not visit the forum for a couple of days and distract myself with other hobbies. Thanks again for the feedback, everyone.

[rooter]

My approach to punting is the same as my approach to everything in life.
If I do something I do it full on and enjoy it, but if I decide not to do it then I just don't.
Maybe I just don't have an addictive personality. I don't know what craving or withdrawal or whatever is or feels like.
They say it's all in your genes and brain chemistry.
Some peoples DNA, biochemistry, neurons, whatever it is just makes them easily susceptible to getting addicted to whatever and some peoples doesn't.

[CharlieM]

Yes, agreed. I don’t punt on week days as I get really tired from work and some times it’s harder for me to stay solid down there so weekend punting is for me. Week days is when I plan, check roasters, this forum, advanced Googling the girl I want to see lol if I apply that amount of effort in improving life I may come up with a million dollar idea.

I’ve deleted WeChat a few times during this month but downloaded it again lol yes obsession indeed.

I hear ya. I don't know how many times I tell myself in the morning "going for a punt straight after work today" but at days end am mentally exhausted and no longer in the mood. I go Monday mornings as it is my day off and no rush. Wechat is so tempting. The pics of the girls. I find myself scrolling everyday when I get a break.

[Sibon]

You may need a distraction.

I feel like picking up learning to play guitar again. Once I did a shoot for a band. I asked the vocalist why did he take up music? His replay was, "Music is good for the soul." I remembered it until today.

[Azzkikr]

You may need a distraction.

I feel like picking up learning to play guitar again. Once I did a shoot for a band. I asked the vocalist why did he take up music? His replay was, "Music is good for the soul." I remembered it until today.

Cool story bro.

[daty2022]

You may need a distraction.

I feel like picking up learning to play guitar again. Once I did a shoot for a band. I asked the vocalist why did he take up music? His replay was, "Music is good for the soul." I remembered it until today.
Hahaha I took up Guitar to get laid. :)

[StiFFFy]

Get yourself a tropical fish tank. Every time I feel like going to a parlour I just give my fish tank a good clean which often takes up 2-3 hours.

It has saved me $500 a week.Wow that's quite a time sink for a hobby. How often do you clean it?
Personally I find gardening to soothe the itch/pass the time as a good contender. You learn shit, get some Vitamin D, burn off calories and end of the season, even eat for free depending on what you've planted.
Thanks for your responses so far guys.



Yeah, this is me. Or worse, I don't intend to go punting, see something on the forum and then end up going punting.

I think I need to buckle down and just not visit the forum for a couple of days and distract myself with other hobbies. Thanks again for the feedback, everyone.Good luck matey!
Cool story bro.But it needs more dragons and shit?

[Double_Adapter]

Interesting thread lads, kudos to Mr Virgileco for initiating the discussion.

There’s much debate amongst behavioural psychotherapists on this topic. Suffice to say there is disagreement between academics as to what are routines, rituals, habits, vices, and addictions but all agree that they can be positive or negative. Most of what has been discussed by the members potentially falls into routines, rituals, habits and/or vices. Addiction involves deeper and complex psychological and physiological aspects. In terms of sex addiction, nymphomania and satyriasis this is now referred to as hypersexuality disorder.

Psychotherapists say the seven hardest addictions to break is cocaine, alcohol, heroine, nicotine, junk food, gambling and sex/pornography. The severity is determined by how destructive the effect of the addiction has on the well being ie things like health, lifestyle, finances, mental health, relationships, self-esteem etc

Either way if you think you have an addiction I suggest you seek help and recommend the following - Lifeline Australia, MensLine Australia, Beyond Blue, RuOk etc

[warwick1]

You may need a distraction.

I feel like picking up learning to play guitar again. Once I did a shoot for a band. I asked the vocalist why did he take up music? His replay was, "Music is good for the soul." I remembered it until today.

Is this in between cleaning the fish tank, not to mention your photo shoots, you are one busy little man....The "Walter Mitty"of this forum....

[footboy2012]

COVID lockdown was definitely what broke the addiction for me

It is a lot healthier for me now, I was spending around $1K a week on WLs pre covid

[Sibon]

COVID lockdown was definitely what broke the addiction for me

It is a lot healthier for me now, I was spending around $1K a week on WLs pre covid

YOU ARE OUR HERO.

[Labia Vortex]

Not an addiction....a 40 yr adventure

[schloong]

Not an addiction....a 40 yr adventure

Yeah - I'd agree with that... hehe

[daty2022]

Yeah - I'd agree with that... hehe
But for the fact you were logged on at 6:44am..

[Climax598]

COVID lockdown was definitely what broke the addiction for me

It is a lot healthier for me now, I was spending around $1K a week on WLs pre covid
That's mean some poor WL are earning less.

[BigPanda]

Addictions means you spend more time and money than your means allow so as long as you are not sacrificing yourself in order to get a punt then you are ok right?

[stapman]

Hmm, I'd say I was addicted to it but I don't let it control my life. I can stop when I want and restart when I feel the need although access to money means that it is less so but doesn't stop me obsessing over the next punt.

[Apha1401]

Used to be, then excitement of what could happy fizzled down, coupled with piss poor punts on the b/g of bs reviews, lead to my recovery. lol.
I occasionally feel the urge to go, especially after recreational chems, but I remind myself that talent has faded in the market and the money is best left in the pocket.
Wouldn't spend more than what I was comfortable spending, however, it hurts a little after post-nut clarity.

[Ziggurat]

I feel like picking up learning to play guitar again.

What is the chord sequence of one of your favourite pieces you used to play? :D

[Rogeryou]

I turned into a once a week punt lately, but I’m trying to keep busy, meet up with non punt friends hang out all night so there won’t be a chance for me to creep to a massage shop, good thing most closed at 8pm so once 8pm hits and I’m not in the shop than I’m cleared.

Right now I want to reduce to once a month. Yes even with once a week I do feel like I’m addicted, constantly looking at roaster throughout the week and plan my next trip. I mean I’m constantly looking at this forum for new ideas as well. Maybe reduce phone time on their WeChat and websites.

Agree I think if you punt once a week then you are addicted, I would say the overwhelming majority of ppl on this site are.

[Candy1234]

Agree I think if you punt once a week then you are addicted, I would say the overwhelming majority of ppl on this site are.

My last punt, she also agreed that once a week is a lot so yeh. Even told me to reduce it to once a month. I was surprise she didn’t say once a week is nothing, come see me every other day please.

[Oosuki]

Would it still be counted as an addiction if i go every week or fortnightly, but I was on top of financials? I always side some money every pay slip for "entertainment". I could obviously use that money for other things. I'm still relatively new to the punting scene so whos to say I've become an addict [emoji38]. Coming from a guy who has no commitments

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[StiFFFy]

Agree I think if you punt once a week then you are addicted, I would say the overwhelming majority of ppl on this site are.Eh, as long as they're not neglecting themselves or their dependants and live within their means, chase whatever hobby your heart desires.
If you're not eating enough during the week so you can see your favourite WL, then you have a problem.
My last punt, she also agreed that once a week is a lot so yeh. Even told me to reduce it to once a month. I was surprise she didn’t say once a week is nothing, come see me every other day please.Lol what? Did they say something along the lines of "No I don't want your money once a week Candy, even though I know what you like and am comfortable comforting you"? But then again she could be really caring for you even to her own detriment..
Would it still be counted as an addiction if i go every week or fortnightly, but I was on top of financials? I always side some money every pay slip for "entertainment". I could obviously use that money for other things. I'm still relatively new to the punting scene so whos to say I've become an addict [emoji38]. Coming from a guy who has no commitments

Sent from my SM-G985F using TapatalkExactly. Not like you're blowing our tax dollars. It's your own hard earned coin

[Candy1234]

Lol what? Did they say something along the lines of "No I don't want your money once a week Candy, even though I know what you like and am comfortable comforting you"? But then again she could be really caring for you even to her own detriment..

StiFFFy man, not exactly along those lines but in a way kinder lol. Surprise! I’m sure she’ll do ok with less of my coins anyway. I guess maybe I’m at that age where I supposed to settle down and make babies as society expect us to do. She probably thinks I should focus on that? Maybe?

[Rogeryou]

Eh, as long as they're not neglecting themselves or their dependants and live within their means, chase whatever hobby your heart desires.
If you're not eating enough during the week so you can see your favourite WL, then you have a problem. Lol what? Did they say something along the lines of "No I don't want your money once a week Candy, even though I know what you like and am comfortable comforting you"? But then again she could be really caring for you even to her own detriment.. Exactly. Not like you're blowing our tax dollars. It's your own hard earned coin

I am not approaching it from a monetary perspective I can easily afford 2-3 Punts a week. It’s more the time spent hunting it down lining it up, going through your wechat list pics websites what’s new etc etc. just because you can afford something it doesn’t mean you are not addicted, I wouldn’t classify it as a hobby either.

I love fucking tight young pussy, can’t see that changing

[punter00]

Not really an addiction unless you are thinking about it 24/7 and HAVE to get it done.

Otherwise just enjoy the process and opportunity you have... we're in one of the luckiest cities in the world!

[Sibon]

we're in one of the luckiest cities in the world!

Sydney is the massage parlour capital of the world. Every street corner you go is a massage parlour with huge posters or neon signs.

I use to visit Campsie where there are 2 aquarium shops. I have to walk past parlour after parlour along the main street to reach the shops.

But when I'm looking for tropical fish I don't look for naked bodies. :)

[warwick1]

Sydney is the massage parlour capital of the world. Every street corner you go is a massage parlour with huge posters or neon signs.

I use to visit Campsie where there are 2 aquarium shops. I have to walk past parlour after parlour along the main street to reach the shops.

But when I'm looking for tropical fish I don't look for naked bodies. :)

What sort of tropical fish have you Zoo, marine or freshwater??

[Azzkikr]

Sydney is the massage parlour capital of the world. Every street corner you go is a massage parlour with huge posters or neon signs.

I use to visit Campsie where there are 2 aquarium shops. I have to walk past parlour after parlour along the main street to reach the shops.

But when I'm looking for tropical fish I don't look for naked bodies. :)

You obviously haven’t been to Thailand lol

[mysteryman56]

Tropical fish and corals can be sexier than naked bodies tho

[GoldfishMan]

You obviously haven’t been to Thailand lol
Or any big/medium city in Asia, for that matter. Sydney is only good when you compare it to other Aussie cities or the goody 2 shoes USA.

[xboyx]

Stop it. You're telling everyone here my story.

[Jamit]

If you learn more about addiction you find that there is this neurotransmitter called Serotonin that feels really fantastic when it rushes through you. It is stimulated by positive anticipation. So rather than the punting episode generating the rush it is more about the lead up to it. If you get addicted to something you may not actually enjoy the thing you are anticipating. However you almost always have the glorious anticipation feeling beforehand.

You can try and nip the anticipation in the bud by reminiscing about a bad punt, being totally negative about it like the girls are nasty and have bad breath. Google some images of Syphilis or herpes sores you might get and then replace the punting event with something else. Other good neurotransmitters are generated by exercise, being in nature, going on a date, a great meal, speaking to a good friend or planning a great holiday

One thing that can work is always paying for things cashless as punting is usually cash and the act of withdrawing cash is a hassle and can be set as a red line. Harder of you are a cash in hand crook, too much temptation with all those avocados.

[StiFFFy]

If you learn more about addiction you find that there is this neurotransmitter called Serotonin that feels really fantastic when it rushes through you. It is stimulated by positive anticipation. So rather than the punting episode generating the rush it is more about the lead up to it. If you get addicted to something you may not actually enjoy the thing you are anticipating. However you almost always have the glorious anticipation feeling beforehand.

You can try and nip the anticipation in the bud by reminiscing about a bad punt, being totally negative about it like the girls are nasty and have bad breath. Google some images of Syphilis or herpes sores you might get and then replace the punting event with something else. Other good neurotransmitters are generated by exercise, being in nature, going on a date, a great meal, speaking to a good friend or planning a great holiday

One thing that can work is always paying for things cashless as punting is usually cash and the act of withdrawing cash is a hassle and can be set as a red line. Harder of you are a cash in hand crook, too much temptation with all those avocados.Wouldn't that be the same for anything? Eg, thinking about making a classy exquisite dinner. Or your Friday night out. Or hitting the bong. Etc

[GoldfishMan]

The way I see it, there are lots of other vices that you can easily get addicted too that would cost a lot more than punting. Gambling, drugs, even alcohol. You could easily use a lot more money doing those stuff than punting.

[Jamit]

Wouldn't that be the same for anything? Eg, thinking about making a classy exquisite dinner. Or your Friday night out. Or hitting the bong. Etc


It is hard to explain but self control seems to involve more addressing the anticipation rather than the event. We've all had that feeling; goimg for a coffee when don't feel like coffee, have a beer when don't feel like a drink, go for a punt when don't actually feel that horny. If you can focus on the potential disappointment, regret etc then it might get you toward better self management. Maybe addressing the conditional response.

[Jamit]

The way I see it, there are lots of other vices that you can easily get addicted too that would cost a lot more than punting. Gambling, drugs, even alcohol. You could easily use a lot more money doing those stuff than punting.

Punting is only a problem if you get a disease and stuff up a relationship or spend alot to the point where you don't do important things like invest in yourself or your future. Definitely better than drugs and alcohol addiction and probably easier to address

Escapism is a problem as it makes you delay addressing what you are trying to escape from, eg job you hate, unhappy relationship, lack of confidence with women.

[warwick1]

Another "Zoo" emerges.................

[vnflame]

Better seek help from doctor

[Mranderson6958]

This is very interesting to me - I feel like I’m addicticted to the anticipation - but it’s hard to think of the bad punts when there are so many good memories to choose from.

[StiFFFy]

Punting is only a problem if you get a disease and stuff up a relationship or spend alot to the point where you don't do important things like invest in yourself or your future. Definitely better than drugs and alcohol addiction and probably easier to address

Escapism is a problem as it makes you delay addressing what you are trying to escape from, eg job you hate, unhappy relationship, lack of confidence with women.That... Is a very valid point mate. Never thought of it that way.
It is hard to explain but self control seems to involve more addressing the anticipation rather than the event. We've all had that feeling; goimg for a coffee when don't feel like coffee, have a beer when don't feel like a drink, go for a punt when don't actually feel that horny. If you can focus on the potential disappointment, regret etc then it might get you toward better self management. Maybe addressing the conditional response.Escapism. Same shit as Facebook, Netflix, etc. Problems of the established world.

[Vader]

Sydney is the massage parlour capital of the world. Every street corner you go is a massage parlour with huge posters or neon signs.

I use to visit Campsie where there are 2 aquarium shops. I have to walk past parlour after parlour along the main street to reach the shops.

But when I'm looking for tropical fish I don't look for naked bodies. :)

You need to get your mum or dad to take you to Asia

[Mickeydrippen]

Yeah I’m either RnT or legit Thai once a week sometimes twice. Shit I want to go now.

[HardCore]

I'm addicted to tight young pussy and the key for me is variation. I like to punt at least 4 times a week so I could be considered addicted. I'm avoiding regulars these days and loving the variations, can't wait till all the students come back.

[Niceguy11]

Punting has always been an addiction just like gambling, drinking and drug use (over 10 years ago, not anymore).