Dating Thai girls

[Sher1888]

Has anyone got an experience dating thai girls and how was it like?

I just find it really hard

[yuikara3]

A lot of them want to get citizenship and sometimes they are in it for your money :/. It's pretty hard in general unless you're rich and accommodating to their "needs".

[Fred Flintstone]

Never dated one but have fucked heaps of them over the past 30 years. Also know a few old mugs who married them.

As a foreigner, you will always rank way behind her family. Her first loyalty will always be to her family - mom, dad, sisters and brothers. Then her own kids. Then nieces and nephews. You will be after them.

You will be treated like a walking ATM for her and her family. Thai girls think your only purpose is to provide money. Her family will expect you to fund their lifestyle.

The cultural gap will be too hard to close between the West and Thailand. Do you want to eat rice three times a day and wash your ass with a butt blaster and your left hand? Thai girls are hopeless at cultural integration and soon you will be part of the Thai tribe. You will be expected to join in.

Thai girls have no intellectual curiosity. Their knowledge is limited to what they see on Facebook and IG. What do you want to talk to a girl about who has no idea of how the world works? Economics? Greek classics? Newtonian Physics? Or just normal footy or house stuff? Education standards in Thailand are the lowest in the world.

Sex will stop once she has had a kid. No different to any other girl.

The other important thing to note is the unfortunate social stigma. If she is young and good looking, and you are non Asian, everyone will assume she is a hooker

[yuikara3]

A massive cultural difference and difference with what both sides really want

[Sher1888]

I found it to be a mind boggling experience. Where she likes me then back tracks until it got to a point where it was mentally exhausting.

[EYA06072021]

There is a lot of harsh reality in what you say Fred.

I do know a couple of people who have had successful relationships with Thai women over the years, but yes these are rare. I'd also suggest that the failure to integrate is on both sides.
Agreed with you. A bit one sided or narrow minded in that comment. Or maybe those are ppl surrounding him.

[dotcumdotinyou]

Fred's comments may be harsh but basically true.

And most (not all) of his comments can be attributed to most of the other Asian girls as well.

[ArcherPanda]

The stigma is real problem.

[DrBean]

I have a friend in Thailand who is married to a younger woman. I'd say there is genuine love and understanding and she is whip smart. Not fair to tar everyone with the same brush. Lots of very bright people of all cultures - some of the smartest rise above formal education.

[kingwally]

Never dated one but have fucked heaps of them over the past 30 years. Also know a few old mugs who married them.

As a foreigner, you will always rank way behind her family. Her first loyalty will always be to her family - mom, dad, sisters and brothers. Then her own kids. Then nieces and nephews. You will be after them.

You will be treated like a walking ATM for her and her family. Thai girls think your only purpose is to provide money. Her family will expect you to fund their lifestyle.

The cultural gap will be too hard to close between the West and Thailand. Do you want to eat rice three times a day and wash your ass with a butt blaster and your left hand? Thai girls are hopeless at cultural integration and soon you will be part of the Thai tribe. You will be expected to join in.

Thai girls have no intellectual curiosity. Their knowledge is limited to what they see on Facebook and IG. What do you want to talk to a girl about who has no idea of how the world works? Economics? Greek classics? Newtonian Physics? Or just normal footy or house stuff? Education standards in Thailand are the lowest in the world.

Sex will stop once she has had a kid. No different to any other girl.

The other important thing to note is the unfortunate social stigma. If she is young and good looking, and you are non Asian, everyone will assume she is a hooker

Wise words there Fred....we not only rank below all their family, extended family, but also the family dog, and the hairs on the family buffalo arse.

[Nelly69]

Thai Girls are wonderful, so many are so smart. I think the Thai girl exposure punters have are the WL and MLs. If you spent a bit of time in Bangkok in the non tourist or Adult playground. you will find a lot of amazing intelligent Thai girls...

You know the same could be said about Bogans living in say Logan who fits the same description. lol

[rooter]

This is just a dystopian future of Australia and probably wont happen but just imagine the world in 20 years time where nobody wants our coal (well that will happen, bad example :) ) but I will go on ... or our wool or iron ore or wheat or universities or whatever and we are a country that just relies on tourism to survive.
What happens then?
Well, our women sell their bodies to any Indian or Chinese or German or Korean tourist who arrives with hard currency to spend.
Our men drive taxis or pick pockets, or pimp their girlfriends, or run jet ski scams, or whatever to make money.
And how do our women feel about these rich tourists who arrive with hard currency to spend? Well they have contempt for them of course but they say so many nice things to them to get their money.
And how do our men feel about these foreign men who come to our country with their hard currency and fuck our sisters, mothers, wives, and daughters?
Well of course they hate these rich foreigners. They are nice to them of course because they have to be to get their money but they hate them.

[dotcumdotinyou]

I think Fred (and me in my response) is talking about MLs and WLs not in general about all Thai women.

[Lookha]

Of course it depends on the girl, but some people have had good luck. I have bailed when my priority dropped. Marrying a Thai girl is a completely different question. Thai girlfriends are great in bed and often are very good cooks. They enjoy holidays and eating at restaurants. They often want to learn and love to travel. I think they feel a responsibility to take good care of the boyfriend, otherwise they feel the boyfriend will go to someone else. Yes, their family (and possibly children) are very important but often the family supports the boyfriend because it is in their best interest. Those girls who have lots of close, important and influential friends are not good prospects. Of course there are lots of horror stories. There are also a few good stories. If you can meet the girl in respectable setting, (not a working girl) then prospects are probably better. As you know, some Thai girls are absolutely delightful. Some of my friends have attractive, younger, shapely, interesting Thai girlfriends with successful relationships and only occasionally look for variety.

[punter-pie]

In my experience Thai girls (WL and ML) are all 50% crazy, good crazy. If you date them then it turns to more than 50% and less good crazy, more bad crazy.

Fred knows his shit by the way.

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[OLD SNAKE]

There where some great points made in the comments, i believe in general Thai women are a combination of everything thrown in with a bucket load of hot chillies and firecrackers, that can explode at any time,
like any woman you date you shouldn't rush into things without knowing everything about her and her family, as there is more to dating than just sex,
and with Thai women you need to be a strong minded man who's not afraid to say no and stand your ground and not be a weak gay friend who she will walk all over. but don't forget to compromise and work together on your decisions,
i personally know a lot of corporate Thai women who live in Bangkok, who are smarter and earn more money than most western men, so if they fall in love with you it is for you and not for money.

[cumquat]

Has anyone got an experience dating thai girls and how was it like?

I just find it really hard

Yes , it is telling

[Fred Flintstone]

It doesn’t matter whether it’s Thailand, Indonesia or the Philippines. Educated, middle class women in those countries with good jobs or wealth prefer to marry men from their own social class. Dating and marrying foreigners is not really acceptable to their families. It is a source of shame. Those girls don’t need a white dick to fill out their visa forms. They can get PR or a green card on their own or through their middle class relatives who already live in the west.

Lonely old white men travel to Asia to meet desperately poor, uneducated women. They think they are leveraging their economic power, but really the girls are in control. These girls will do anything to secure their families’ future, including marrying a 64 year old, 250 pound, hairy white prick from Seven Hills. The MLs and WLs in this country are from the lower end of society and fit in that category.

Filipinas have another evil psychological torture trick up their sleeve. They will use “tampo” as a weapon. That’s giving the silent treatment to their husbands or bfs and sulking for days on end until they get their way. The poor guy has no chance.

[DrBean]

There where some great points made in the comments, i believe in general Thai women are a combination of everything thrown in with a bucket load of hot chillies and firecrackers, that can explode at any time,
like any woman you date you shouldn't rush into things without knowing everything about her and her family, as there is more to dating than just sex,
and with Thai women you need to be a strong minded man who's not afraid to say no and stand your ground and not be a weak gay friend who she will walk all over. but don't forget to compromise and work together on your decisions,
i personally know a lot of corporate Thai women who live in Bangkok, who are smarter and earn more money than most western men, so if they fall in love with you it is for you and not for money.

Such a great comment. I’ve been impressed with the educated corporate Vietnamese and Thai women I’ve met. Yes money is important in their culture but they are also ambitious for you and very supportive.

[OLD SNAKE]

100% spot on Fred Flinstone, yabadabado

[OLD SNAKE]

Thank you Dr Bean for your great response,

[rooter]

It’s all about economics.
A loser in the first world is a winner in the third world.

[Coco Paper]

I came back from a trip to Thailand in December (not sex tourism). Met a girl off Bumble - super super cute. She has an office job and is seemingly a normal girl.

We hit it off and keep chatting after I returned back. I'd be down to go back and meet her or hell, I'd buy her tickets over here and she can stay at mine - if we are talking punts, that's still cheaper than the equivalent.

I do feel suspicious that I don't know the full story. She speaks English, is really pretty, really fun and bubbly --- but she could be running game. Regardless, she isn't asking me for money and is acting genuinely nice to me so I'll enjoy the moment for as long as it lasts and move on eventually

[DrBean]

When you hit if off Coco did you just go out on dates or did you sleep together? Apologies if I am asking too personal a question. Just wondering how far it progressed.

[DrBean]

Thank you Dr Bean for your great response,


Thank you old Snake. I just think there are many facets of every culture. We are too quick to judge because we mainly see Thai women through the lens of sex workers, which makes sense because of the forum we are on. But there are more to them just as there are more to East European women. In my home country, the Czechs get a bad name as the women come over on visas to work as cleaners and moonlight as escorts. But that is just a small subset of the society.

[cumquat]

Such a great comment. I’ve been impressed with the educated corporate Vietnamese and Thai women I’ve met. Yes money is important in their culture but they are also ambitious for you and very supportive.

Wholly agree and it is not just corporate , but women from all socio-e backgrounds.

Had some longer term relationships with Thai /viet women some from the industry’ and some not .

When they ‘invest’ in you, it’s all in.

[DireStraits]

We are too quick to judge because we mainly see Thai women through the lens of sex workers, which makes sense because of the forum we are on.
This. .

[DireStraits]

Thai girls have no intellectual curiosity. Their knowledge is limited to what they see on Facebook and IG.
That is one heck of a sweeping generalisation you make. Not a good look.

[DireStraits]

This is just a dystopian future of Australia and probably wont happen but just imagine the world in 20 years time where nobody wants our coal (well that will happen, bad example :) ) but I will go on ... or our wool or iron ore or wheat or universities or whatever and we are a country that just relies on tourism to survive.
What happens then?
Well, our women sell their bodies to any Indian or Chinese or German or Korean tourist who arrives with hard currency to spend.
Our men drive taxis or pick pockets, or pimp their girlfriends, or run jet ski scams, or whatever to make money.
And how do our women feel about these rich tourists who arrive with hard currency to spend? Well they have contempt for them of course but they say so many nice things to them to get their money.
And how do our men feel about these foreign men who come to our country with their hard currency and fuck our sisters, mothers, wives, and daughters?
Well of course they hate these rich foreigners. They are nice to them of course because they have to be to get their money but they hate them.

Scary thought. What’s to say this won’t happen in 20 or 30 years time? I can certainly see less demand for our coal happening. Is it really just the rest of our exports that stand between where we are now and that dystopian future…

[colin.oscopy]

It doesn’t matter whether it’s Thailand, Indonesia or the Philippines. Educated, middle class women in those countries with good jobs or wealth prefer to marry men from their own social class. Dating and marrying foreigners is not really acceptable to their families. It is a source of shame. Those girls don’t need a white dick to fill out their visa forms. They can get PR or a green card on their own or through their middle class relatives who already live in the west.

Lonely old white men travel to Asia to meet desperately poor, uneducated women. They think they are leveraging their economic power, but really the girls are in control. These girls will do anything to secure their families’ future, including marrying a 64 year old, 250 pound, hairy white prick from Seven Hills. The MLs and WLs in this country are from the lower end of society and fit in that category.

Filipinas have another evil psychological torture trick up their sleeve. They will use “tampo” as a weapon. That’s giving the silent treatment to their husbands or bfs and sulking for days on end until they get their way. The poor guy has no chance.

Having worked in Thailand in corporate capacity I can assure you most thai girls would not date a whitey especially an older one. They would lose face being seen with a foreigner as some prostitute.

Thais are very proud of their culture and country especially now where they consider themselves a developing country (more of an opinion).
Prostitution and bar girls are less than 1% of the population yet tourists assume because they visit Pattaya and Phuket that the whole country survives on sex trade.
Most of the sad tales you here about thai girls and foreigners are probably true. But there are many successful unions that people don't need to post about. I do feel for 99% of thai women who get tarnished with the same brush.

[colin.oscopy]

This is just a dystopian future of Australia and probably wont happen but just imagine the world in 20 years time where nobody wants our coal (well that will happen, bad example :) ) but I will go on ... or our wool or iron ore or wheat or universities or whatever and we are a country that just relies on tourism to survive.
What happens then?
Well, our women sell their bodies to any Indian or Chinese or German or Korean tourist who arrives with hard currency to spend.
Our men drive taxis or pick pockets, or pimp their girlfriends, or run jet ski scams, or whatever to make money.
And how do our women feel about these rich tourists who arrive with hard currency to spend? Well they have contempt for them of course but they say so many nice things to them to get their money.
And how do our men feel about these foreign men who come to our country with their hard currency and fuck our sisters, mothers, wives, and daughters?
Well of course they hate these rich foreigners. They are nice to them of course because they have to be to get their money but they hate them.
haha.. Aussie women would never serve a man like a Thai woman.Sex tourism would fail here.

[Riff888]

Some advice on Thai women after being married to one and living with a few.

It would be best to find a Thai girl that already has PR or citizenship.

It's rare but even better to find a ABT or a girl that went to highschool and uni here. I met a Thai girl who was a qualified accountant working at a bank. She was amazing, from her looks, personality to attitude and financial assets. She was 24 at the time with 2 investment properties under her belt.

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[JohnJones]

Not sure why would people marry a girl based on her nationality...

I've always had "weeb" friends (aka "Weeaboo" or nerds obsessed over Japan) who dreams of marrying Japanese women. What I find after dating several Japanese women is that if you're not in tune with their culture and etiquette, your marriage will end up trashed. And most of these "weebs" know nothing about Japanese etiquette, they're basically fantasizing based on what they see in JAV and anime.

With Thai girls, not all of them are the same. You'll get ones who grew up in metro cities like Bangkok their whole lives and some who are from the countryside and settled in Bangkok later on in life. Both these categories will behave so much differently because of their initial upbringing. City life teaches people greed, therefore the reason why many city girls will treat you like an ATM and put you all the way down in the loyalty pyramid.

I've also met Asian ethnic minorities from Russia (Turkic & Mongol based). Their mannerism and loyalty is way beyond what I've encountered before, they usually have a dying loyalty for whoever they're married to and will definitely do housework without being told to, but they prefer marrying their own kind because it is their culture for the man to ask the bride's parents permission before marrying. If the parents aren't satisfied that you can uphold their culture then they will not allow the relationship or the marriage to happen.

In the end I would say that if you really want to find a good Thai wife, you need to stop thinking of them as live sex dolls. Talk to them and see what topic interests them. Of course if the only thing they talk about is money and luxury items, walk away. You want to find someone who is interested in you - your background, your life struggles etc. But you also need to work on your image otherwise no one would be interested in a slob who spends his free time trolling online.

[rooter]

Number one rule is obviously don't date a bar girl if you are after a serious relationship.
It's just not gonna work, and you are gonna get ripped off, and it will end in tears - mainly yours.
I know someone is gonna say "my mate Gary married a bar girl and they are happy and have 2 beautiful kids".
Yeah sure there are always exceptions, someone wins the Powerball but 10 million people don't.

[Rogeryou]

The morale of the story is you don’t date escorts and you certainly don’t marry them. You simply pay and enjoy them

[huytran]

The morale of the story is you don’t date escorts and you certainly don’t marry them. You simply pay and enjoy them
They are so lovable! I mean it's their job to make you love them...

[priapus1966]

haha.. Aussie women would never serve a man like a Thai woman.Sex tourism would fail here.

25/30 years ago during Keating's "Recession we had to have" a lot of guys - and their wives/girlfriends, lost their jobs. They had 16-17% mortgages and had to take whatever work they could get. A fair number of them became ML's/WL's and proved to be pretty quick learners. There were probably more married workers around at that time than any period since, and I for one have fond memories of them - and their skills!

Never underestimate an aussie gal!

[priapus1966]

I met a Thai girl who was a qualified accountant working at a bank. She was amazing, from her looks, personality to attitude and financial assets. She was 24 at the time with 2 investment properties under her belt.


And at this point your "Big Head" needs to ask yourself the right questions. Where at only 24 did she obtain the capital for two deposits? Banks have special lending schemes for staff, but to qualify: 1. you have to be an owner occupier, 2. you only get one loan on one property - any subsequent loans are at normal commercial rates. 3. you usually have to be employed for at least 2 years before you can apply for their special staff schemes. 4. A 24 year old qualified accountant is a little unusual, she would have to have an accounting degree and to have passed her professional exams, not impossible but unusual at that age perhaps. 5. Just what does a 24 year old accountant with about 2 years experience get paid?

So the question the "Big Head" needs an answer for is: How did she raise the capital?

[Coco Paper]

When you hit if off Coco did you just go out on dates or did you sleep together? Apologies if I am asking too personal a question. Just wondering how far it progressed.

We went on dates. Boned from the second date but kept going on dates. I was suspicious but also it was fun. I put it down to the pressure of me not being there long - but who knows.

[cuteguy]

And at this point your "Big Head" needs to ask yourself the right questions. Where at only 24 did she obtain the capital for two deposits? Banks have special lending schemes for staff, but to qualify: 1. you have to be an owner occupier, 2. you only get one loan on one property - any subsequent loans are at normal commercial rates. 3. you usually have to be employed for at least 2 years before you can apply for their special staff schemes. 4. A 24 year old qualified accountant is a little unusual, she would have to have an accounting degree and to have passed her professional exams, not impossible but unusual at that age perhaps. 5. Just what does a 24 year old accountant with about 2 years experience get paid?

So the question the "Big Head" needs an answer for is: How did she raise the capital?

Maybe her parents were wealthy and running a business here or in Thailand. However, I do find it difficult to believe that a 24 year old already had 2 properties if she wasn't from a wealthy family.

Did you ever meet her at the bank?

[Riff888]

Maybe her parents were wealthy and running a business here or in Thailand. However, I do find it difficult to believe that a 24 year old already had 2 properties if she wasn't from a wealthy family.

Did you ever meet her at the bank?Spot on.

Her family is wealthy there. Plus she has family here that opened I think the first Thai restaurant in Maitland. So they're loaded and live in Mosman.

Yes met her in the bank. At that time staff just needed a 5% deposit for a home loan on staff rates anyway.

She lives in one of her apartments now.

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[Candy1234]

Basically if the girl is close to half your age then chances are really high that she’s using you for something, definitely not sex… on the other hand, if the girl is similar age to you then there’s a chance the match can be legit. Some of my mates went back to Vietnam to get married, both the mates and their wives are in their early 30s, still happily together with kids now.

But I heard the girls there are now picky even the country ones, very trendy so they want a person that they can show off around town. I guess if you’re loaded for real as in millionaire then you can flash it and the girls will come running, again they probably end up using you for the money.

Marrying an older dude can lead to a burden especially when you get old and need assistance. Also If they want kids I’m sure they would want it with a person with similar age, not someone that kick the bucket when the kid just turn 10.

Anyway, that’s Vietnam for ya… I can imagine Thai would be more or less similar.

[Holdan]

Never dated one but have fucked heaps of them over the past 30 years. Also know a few old mugs who married them.

As a foreigner, you will always rank way behind her family. Her first loyalty will always be to her family - mom, dad, sisters and brothers. Then her own kids. Then nieces and nephews. You will be after them.

You will be treated like a walking ATM for her and her family. Thai girls think your only purpose is to provide money. Her family will expect you to fund their lifestyle.

The cultural gap will be too hard to close between the West and Thailand. Do you want to eat rice three times a day and wash your ass with a butt blaster and your left hand? Thai girls are hopeless at cultural integration and soon you will be part of the Thai tribe. You will be expected to join in.

Thai girls have no intellectual curiosity. Their knowledge is limited to what they see on Facebook and IG. What do you want to talk to a girl about who has no idea of how the world works? Economics? Greek classics? Newtonian Physics? Or just normal footy or house stuff? Education standards in Thailand are the lowest in the world.

Sex will stop once she has had a kid. No different to any other girl.

The other important thing to note is the unfortunate social stigma. If she is young and good looking, and you are non Asian, everyone will assume she is a hooker

That is 100% spot on. I married a Thai ML/WL - lasted 11 months. She told me she would stop FS when we were married. Lied. I found out plus other things. Then she tried to extort $200k from me. Had to get a court order to stop her. Worked illegally for three years, paid no tax and is still able to stay in Australia.