The “Are you married/do you have girlfriend?” question

[johndough]

For the bros that have wives or girlfriends, do you answer yes to this question? And if so, do you notice any difference in the ML/WL’s demeanour or quality of service? I’ve always been quite curious about this.

[andrewv]

There is no obligation on a customer of any business (be it a massage, hairdresser, or the like) to answer personal questions like "Are you married?" or "How many children do you have?"

But in any case, I always say "I was. A long time ago." It is better to be vague and give a non-committed answer, and it is more polite than to say "It's none of your business."

Never, ever, talk about your family or job or money. By all means, feel free to talk about hobbies, travel, views of politics or the weather.

[ThunderPunter]

For the bros that have wives or girlfriends, do you answer yes to this question? And if so, do you notice any difference in the ML/WL’s demeanour or quality of service? I’ve always been quite curious about this.

I just say yes, even if i dont. I have never had the demeanour change. But i do ask them straight back if they have a boyfriend. Do i care if they do or dont? Not really, for that next hour it doesnt even matter.

[GoldfishMan]

Good question, OP.
My answer is, it depends on the girl. If she's a one and done, I'd just tell a lie "I'm single" to extract the best level of chemistry I can from her for that session. I can do this without fear of having to own up to the lie later on cos I won't be seeing her again.

But there are some girls that I just click with and I get a feeling that something more might be on the cards. Not a proper relationship, but private meetups or NSA arrangements, etc. On those, I straight up tell them that I'm attached. The signal I'm giving to them is, whatever happens down the road has to work around these parameters or it ain't going to work. I reckon all of them get the message.

So far this approach has worked very well.

[Sibon]

First thing I'll tell the ML that I'm married and I'm an illegal migrant so to avoid any request for "sponsoring" them. :)

[gco0307]

If asked, I always tell them the truth ................. yes I am married.

As for reactions, I have never had a negative reaction where the girl appeared to think less of me for being there and I do feel that i have had a fair few positive reactions in as much as the lady seemed more at ease, perhaps even less 'threatened' of me trying things that made her uncomfortable. It seems to place them even more at ease when I tell them that my wife is comfortable with me being there and while it may take a few visits for the lady to fully accept that aspect, I have found that the tone of conversations change to a more comfortable level at times as I am not after a relationship.


I have had some ladies genuinely interested and we talk of things, being anything from the reason for my visit through to the type of work, what I have planned and so forth.

[BearOrigin]

Just be honest with them. If you reply you're married and they give you shit service cut the session short and go elsewhere.

[Funandfun]

My usual reponse is " yes I am married sometimes / have girlfriends like yourself for 1 hour" this normally makes them giggle and topic gets changed.

[Freelove1969]

For the bros that have wives or girlfriends, do you answer yes to this question? And if so, do you notice any difference in the ML/WL’s demeanour or quality of service? I’ve always been quite curious about this.



The bros that are getting serviced by ML/WL’s are breaking the trust that their wives or girlfriends had in them.therefore admitting that you are in such a relationship to a sexworker proves you cannot be trusted.they would not trust you and neither should you trust them.if there was no money changing hands do you think they would suck you, a random stranger, off?and your money is only good for the time allotted.after that it’s get dressed and see ya! See ya,don’t wanna be with ya.there is no demeanour, it’s all an act for the time allotted.they’re there to rent their body to you for no longer than you can afford.once the moneys gone so are they.

[speranza]

I once said yes then later admired her crucifix tattoo, after which she asked me if I believed in God

[GoldfishMan]

The bros that are getting serviced by ML/WL’s are breaking the trust that their wives or girlfriends had in them.therefore admitting that you are in such a relationship to a sexworker proves you cannot be trusted.they would not trust you and neither should you trust them.if there was no money changing hands do you think they would suck you, a random stranger, off?and your money is only good for the time allotted.after that it’s get dressed and see ya! See ya,don’t wanna be with ya.there is no demeanour, it’s all an act for the time allotted.they’re there to rent their body to you for no longer than you can afford.once the moneys gone so are they.

Oi Hayabi, have you checked the contraindications on your psycho meds? It says DO NOT TAKE WITH ALCOHOL.

[11Bravo]

The bros that are getting serviced by ML/WL’s are breaking the trust that their wives or girlfriends had in them.therefore admitting that you are in such a relationship to a sexworker proves you cannot be trusted.they would not trust you and neither should you trust them.if there was no money changing hands do you think they would suck you, a random stranger, off?and your money is only good for the time allotted.after that it’s get dressed and see ya! See ya,don’t wanna be with ya.there is no demeanour, it’s all an act for the time allotted.they’re there to rent their body to you for no longer than you can afford.once the moneys gone so are they.I rarely get the question, but when I do, I don't lie. Why should I? Never been asked on a "first time", but some regulars have asked. So?

Aren't you the one that was complaining of being "short changed" by not getting FS from certain MP's. With the above attitude, why should she bother? I can't blame her with wanting you out of the room as fast as possible. Yes, it is a business transaction, but NOT a hostile takeover. Geesh.

[Stubbies4Lyf]

Brush it off with a joke - tell them you have twelve wives and looking for a thirteenth, say of course not you're a virgin and you're still waiting for your first kiss, or even "Ofcourse I do - you!"

Can be tough with the language/culture barrier, of course - but basically you want to avoid answering without seeming evasive.

[ryanpumper]

Yes I always tell them I have a partner but I’m here for a secret orgasm. They often respond positively and say that I’m naughty or they like helping out…

[Freelove1969]

Oi Hayabi, have you checked the contraindications on your psycho meds? It says DO NOT TAKE WITH ALCOHOL.

First fleet background here. He looks like he flew in if that instagram link put up a month ago is correct.

Now this is the reason for your nastiness:

“This bro might say too much. Might write a review about a brothel or shop we don’t like, might go to places that don’t advertise on this forum and write about it.”

Can’t have a member writing reviews about a place that doesn’t spend here right! There would be no justification for them to pay then.

@GoldShillMan just whose pocket are you in?

It’s obvious one of the larger places isn’t it bro..

[11Bravo]

Oi Hayabi, have you checked the contraindications on your psycho meds? It says DO NOT TAKE WITH ALCOHOL.

Why do I feel we are just playing whack-a-mole?

But I always look on the bright side with these trolls. Better they are entertaining themselves HERE, alone in their room (well, Mom might be in the kitchen), rather than foisting themselves on WG's. I mean, enough of a nuisance HERE in these virtual rooms; can you imagine what they're like in a room with a poor girl? Babbling on and on about something. YIKES! "The horror, the horror..."

[Dukeduker222]

The bros that are getting serviced by ML/WL’s are breaking the trust that their wives or girlfriends had in them.therefore admitting that you are in such a relationship to a sexworker proves you cannot be trusted.they would not trust you and neither should you trust them.if there was no money changing hands do you think they would suck you, a random stranger, off?and your money is only good for the time allotted.after that it’s get dressed and see ya! See ya,don’t wanna be with ya.there is no demeanour, it’s all an act for the time allotted.they’re there to rent their body to you for no longer than you can afford.once the moneys gone so are they.

You think we’d be giving these girls our money if they weren’t sucking us off? Transaction goes both ways.

As far as the question, I’ve been asked a few times, I answer honestly if I enjoy the girl, otherwise it’s a diversion because she’s already making a bad service worse.

[Freelove1969]

You think we’d be giving these girls our money if they weren’t sucking us off? Transaction goes both ways.

Some old geriatric has, to quote @SimpleSibon, “$500 to each lady he only talked to.”



I rarely get the question, but when I do, I don't lie. Why should I? Never been asked on a "first time", but some regulars have asked. So?

Aren't you the one that was complaining of being "short changed" by not getting FS from certain MP's. With the above attitude, why should she bother? I can't blame her with wanting you out of the room as fast as possible. Yes, it is a business transaction, but NOT a hostile takeover. Geesh.

I went along with the flow. It was an opinion piece I constructed, not I per se. This is an adult forum (I think) and there’s plenty of thrust and parry I would hope. As long as other members can take better than they give I’ll make “their cup runneth over” and that includes @GoldShillMan.

[11Bravo]

I went along with the flow. It was an opinion piece I constructed, not I per se. This is an adult forum (I think) and there’s plenty of thrust and parry I would hope. As long as other members can take better than they give I’ll make “their cup runneth over” and that includes @GoldShillMan.

So imaginary, understand. You really should get out more. Weather is nice.

[Freelove1969]

Why do I feel we are just playing whack-a-mole?

This is not directed to @11Bravo as I know you’re not like the rest. It’s for those other forum losers who are still here jerking off about other members even after ten years!

That’s all most of “youse” can do. See how I have to lower my grammar standard just to get the vibe across.

I whack-a-mound and I do it far more often and way way way better that 99% of youse.

In the meantime you can bicker. Chase another member, enjoy your forum fantasy of non existent sex and if youse are lucky i may post an AR or two. After all youse need something to jerk off to, right?

[ScotPassingThrough]

Seems past time for the admin to whack this particular mole and his multiple “personalities” again

[Freelove1969]

I am not Hayabi

[ScotPassingThrough]

You woke soft cock. Ever had a bitch slap?

Sounds like you need one.

Go back to sucking your mother’s tit’s.

Your words have no more meaning to me than if they came from GPT. They’re just the random misfirings of a broken brain

[Freelove1969]

Yawn, this is getting monotonous.

[ScotPassingThrough]

y u mad tho hayabi?

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[11Bravo]

ScottPassingThrough, like a bad case of the runs… now run away and go cry in a corner.

Better still go cry to a moderator or admin.



That’s your style.

Need back up you chicken shit.

Another aus99 gutless coward.

Calling for admin backup.

Anymore gutless keyboard cowards want to bring it on? After all, you can go hide behind your screen and nothing will happen… right?

And 11Bravo raises his hand to volunteer. So long Zeke...

[Freelove1969]

I am not Hayabi.

[Freelove1969]

Everyone is Hayabi. Even if they are not.

[Freelove1969]

Hey @GoldShillMan how many real After Reviews have you written in your time here?

Big punter? No
Big player? No
Big tipper? Never
Big bullshitter? Yes

In 12 years how many After Reviews?

What’s the matter?

Got a soft cock or no money ?

Or both.

12 years and how many After Reviews?

Tell the forum.

[ScotPassingThrough]

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So very, very mad indeed

[Freelove1969]

So that’s you in the pic, mkay.

[ScotPassingThrough]

So that’s you in the pic, mkay.

Well get off the chair and away from screen and do some real work.

Slob.

“Get away from the screen”, says the “man” who simply cannot stop registering accounts. Lmao

[ryanpumper]

Fuck you cunts all bitch and argue like a pack of women in here

[11Bravo]

I am not Hayabi.It's really a binary question: either you are or you aren't. Why let it bother you? It doesn't bother me. Now if you're the punter who was late, delaying my start time, that IS a different question.

You know how many times I've been called Habibi? Or Darling? Or Baby? Yes, I remember HER name, or at least her working name, but here, I don't expect her to remember mine. Some do, just via our WeChat's (I'm too lazy to set up a separate ID). So whether she groups me with all her other clients by calling me by Habibi, Darling, Baby, or uses "11", I really don't care. Besides, at the end of the session, they all call me by MY name, "Bravo, Bravo, Bravo".

Just like I say "no thank you" to an out-of-bounds quote, I'd THINK a simple "that's not me" (PERIOD) would be sufficient. Why derail the conversation with name calling. It's just CHILDISH and serves no purpose. Similar ideology, yes, you might be correctly, or incorrectly, grouped in with someone else. So? Recognize quicksand - the more you struggle, the deeper you sink. "That's not me PERIOD" sets you free; continue with an insightful, thoughtful, intelligent comment (and for those who use y, u, r, etc., learn to touch type, or touch finger; geesh, dialup connections are long gone).


Fuck you cunts all bitch and argue like a pack of women in hereValid point, poorly made (IMHO).

[Freelove1969]

So imaginary, understand. You really should get out more. Weather is nice.

I’m outside working… oh hang on, I’m not allowed to work and post either. Surely I must be inside? Or I’m in a job where I can do both, yep that must be it.

It’s another presumption people have.

[Freelove1969]

I’m not Hayabi.

“That’s not me”, PERIOD.

Now let’s see how far that goes 11Bravo.

[Meng]

Can people just please post some ARs. General section getting more action than the WLs.

[ColesBag]

Fuck you cunts all bitch and argue like a pack of women in here

It's basically the same guy who has about 100 multi's. He is a woman all on his own.

[CarpetJam]

not necessarily the best qual but the new guy/s have posted a fair few ARs. nice change

[Budgyboy]

And you offer nothing but criticism so fuck off, watched your comments and your the biggest bitch Ryan.

[Blackmore898]

I’m married, but always tell them i’m single so can build a better chemistry. Guess what, it’s work most all the time.

[BearOrigin]

I’m married, but always tell them i’m single so can build a better chemistry. Guess what, it’s work most all the time.

The routine with most girls would be: they assume you're married but they pretend to think you're single. It would disgust them knowing they're pleasuring a married men unless they're one of those who just doesn't care or thinks that married men are hotter than single men.

Had a case of a WL asking me if I was single. When I said yes, the barrage of questions that followed was just super annoying I didn't enjoy the sex at all. She was asking all about my personal life as if I was there for an interview for a job. Zero flirting skills, she's the type who think that single guys would fall head over heels for her just because she does her nails, boob job, butt job and wears all kind of upper middle class branded clothes. Never went back. In one of my posts someone thought I seem like a punter who easily falls on love with a SW - sorry I'm not that kind of guy. I like some spice in communication but if they go overboard with harsh pranks or treat me like how HK girls treat their bfs I walk away.