Sex addiction. Lets talk about it.

[herecticx]

Now there has been a few threads popping up a bit lately

that i find with the a reoccuring theme, "sex addiction"

i am aware this is a forum for punters but the subject of addiction seems to be taboo or no one likes to talk about it.


ending up at WL/ML without realizing how we got there.
Feeling detached, numb, desensitized whilst having sex.
Feeling the never ending emptiness that no punt can fulfill
going broke barely getting by but can still justify spending on punting.
punting to escape
confusing sex with love

i am currently trying to change my ways to live a more fulfilling life. Ive fucked my way to the edge of the earth and realised theres nothing positive this self destructive behaviour could lead to. Its time to be a normal human being again. We all deserve love but are looking in the wrong places.

[Sextus]

Well, herecticx, I don't feel that at all. Our encounters with the girls may only be relatively brief, but I nearly always feel like I am touching something greater and more universal each time. I often gain sustenance beyond the sex, from a deeper philosophical feeling, and the sex is the way it is communicated. Here, for example, is a passage from my review of 64's Niko:

"I stopped only to tell Niko - her face inches away - how pretty she is, and she smiled sweetly and leant in to kiss me again.

I closed my eyes as a thousand pleasure receptors from my tongue and lips transmitted messages there and back again to her own tongue and lips. Once more - as can happen during sex - time was standing still and it was just one moment being replayed over and over, like the moment was being stretched out and it was holding we two within it.

Sometimes the feeling is so perfect, it feels like this is what you have been put on Earth to do. It is complete sharing, knowing what you are feeling is being felt exactly the same way by another in a suspended moment. A feeling of completeness that a solo person can’t experience. It isn’t lust, it isn’t even a mere orgasm we might have, it is the filling of a void we live with without really knowing it is there until we fill it.

And then we forget again. Or mostly forget. It isn’t the first time, entwined naked with a lovely young woman, I’ve felt the larger gift she brings."

[jellyshots]

She looks at me with those sultry eyes, a soft smile curling from the corner of her lips. She undresses slowly, biting her bottom lip as she wiggles out of her dress.

I smile, in anticipation of what is about to come. I step up to her, pull her to my lips and kiss her like it's the first time she's ever been kissed.

Yes, it's an addiction, one that both of us share. Yet both of us will have it no other way. Until we've explored each other completely, physically and emotionally, we go around in this dance, each step b becoming more refined until we meet in an exploding symphony.

[herecticx]

we pay for these fantasys, unfortunately mine is ending

i am missing payments on my home and close to losing everything

enjoy while you can nothing lasts forever, in most cases 30 mins..

[AHLUNGOR]

we pay for these fantasys, unfortunately mine is ending

i am missing payments on my home and close to losing everything

enjoy while you can nothing lasts forever, in most cases 30 mins..

Sorry to hear that you are doing it tough at the moment, just hang in there brother, watch every penny you spend and cut out anything non essential !

Hopefully with the lower interest rate, things will turn for the better for you!

Get a second job like waitering may help. I have done that for a year working two jobs when I had my first child! That was a long time ago and I wasn't punting back then!

There's always a way if you are willing to really deal with it and work hard.

Good luck

Cheers

[Blackfang19]

we pay for these fantasys, unfortunately mine is ending

i am missing payments on my home and close to losing everything

enjoy while you can nothing lasts forever, in most cases 30 mins..

Im glad to hear you have set your priorities straight. Just like gambling or drug addiction, we tend to lose control of our behaviour when it comes to our addiction. I dont think the topic is taboo, those who have lost everything due to this addiction would never disclose that information to a single soul.

I agree with you when it comes to this addiction to sex. I have probably spent more than I would liketo have on punting, but it wasn't all in vain. There have been times when i would finish fucking my girlfriend, then an hour later on the way home i would end up in the arms of a wl.

Set yor priorities straight, and remember that your hand is your best friend when it coms to sex addiction. Dnt make important dicisions without relieving yourself.

I wish you the best of luck in the future. The first step to recovery is accepting that you have a problem. (Mvie cliche)

Good luck

[Sextus]

I don't think Jellyshots and I knew that your problem with punting was a financial one. So we talked instead about the positive things in the experience.

I am sure that there will be many others with advice about this practical problem you have.

[altgourami]

Rules to not become addicted:

30 minutes only, always
Never tip
Never BB
Never kissing
Never ask the girl her name, how long she's been working, whether she has a BF - don't humanise her (you're just cash to her, she doesn't really care - get over it)
For every punt save the same amount of money in a shoebox in your wardrobe - and never touch it - count it after 6 months
Make a friend of a girl (I know you might have trouble connecting with the fairer sex) and never fuck her - help her get laid - be her wingman

[AHLUNGOR]

Rules to not become addicted:

30 minutes only, always
Never tip
Never BB
Never kissing
Never ask the girl her name, how long she's been working, whether she has a BF - don't humanise her (you're just cash to her, she doesn't really care - get over it)
For every punt save the same amount of money in a shoebox in your wardrobe - and never touch it - count it after 6 months
Make a friend of a girl (I know you might have trouble connecting with the fairer sex) and never fuck her - help her get laid - be her wingman

Hi there, I am in agreement with you up to the six month

But then I don't get it about the girl and the wingman thing though!

Please explain !

[Sextus]

Altgorami's list was a bit too cynical for my tastes. :( :question:

[Bracket]

As that great philosopher, the late George Best, once said, "I spent 90% of my money on women, drink and fast cars. The rest I wasted."

[sivivatu]

we pay for these fantasys, unfortunately mine is ending

i am missing payments on my home and close to losing everything

enjoy while you can nothing lasts forever, in most cases 30 mins..

im in a similar situation bro, were all gunna make it .I was missing payments on my house at the start of the year for a couple months and just got sick of the daily grind but i literally had an epiphany last week i realized i could have been mortgage free for a year if i just got my act together.

Thanks to shitty service and mediocre punts im confident i can control my addiction alot better. That feel 20 secs after u come and realize "why the fuk did i come here no woman is worth a ridiculous amount of money" happens oh so many times.

[asiafever]

Choice. It's all about choice.
Knowing you have a problem is step one. Doing something about it is step two. When the urge comes on its hard to think logically but that is exactly what you have to do. If bills aren't paid then punting is a no. Willpower is the key. Reading ar's on here doesn't help. Make it a reward. For me there is no punting if I haven't trained hard enough in the gym, and only if there's money left over after all obligations are met. The problem with addiction is it doesn't follow logical paths. It sounds to me that you are suffering a depressive type episode. Been there. May not be a bad idea speaking to your doc, I was on anti-d's for a while and it just stabilizes enough to be able to make logical rational decisions and when you've got your situation under control again go back off them.. (this is opinion based only and not medical advice etc etc..)
As was said, every time you DON'T punt save that money, you'll be amazed how quickly your balance will be positive again.

[rooter]

I don't care. I love it.
I don't care.
I love it. I love it. I love it.
I don't care. I love it.
I don't care.
I love it. I love it. I love it.

[Oneonone]

I am not addicted to sex but I sure am addicted to women I just love them!

[the wizard]

30 minutes only, always
Never tip
Never BB
Never kissing
Never ask the girl her name, how long she's been working, whether she has a BF - don't humanise her (you're just cash to her, she doesn't really care - get over it)

Very hard to do- i really hope that many of us are more than just wallets for some of our fav girls- but the sad reality is we could only be just that ...
The more we accept this, the better we will be able to handle it and get over it.


I am not addicted to sex but I sure am addicted to women I just love them!

I'm in line with Oneonone's thinking....

[HengDai]

Rules to not become addicted:

I almost completely disagree.

30 minutes only, always
Never tip
Never BB
Never kissing
Never ask the girl her name, how long she's been working, whether she has a BF - don't humanise her (you're just cash to her, she doesn't really care - get over it)
For every punt save the same amount of money in a shoebox in your wardrobe - and never touch it - count it after 6 months
Make a friend of a girl (I know you might have trouble connecting with the fairer sex) and never fuck her - help her get laid - be her wingman

I never have 30 minute sessions
I tip when the girl deserves it
BB comes with it's risks, so avoid.
I like getting the girls name if I feel I can, helps with the connection and better service follows :)
I treat her like a human being, I empathise, I listen, I care. This sometimes leads to a connection and I have to trust myself not to let that get out of control.
I save money and I am strict about my punting budget. It's about money management.
No idea where you are going with the wingman comment though :P

[HengDai]

I'm in line with Oneonone's thinking....

Me too actually. I have had sessions where I haven't had FS. It's definitely about the women, not just the sex.

[the wizard]

I never have 30 minute sessions
I tip when the girl deserves it
BB comes with it's risks, so avoid.
I like getting the girls name if I feel I can, helps with the connection and better service follows :)
I treat her like a human being, I empathise, I listen, I care. This sometimes leads to a connection and I have to trust myself not to let that get out of control.
I save money and I am strict about my punting budget. It's about money management.
No idea where you are going with the wingman comment though :P
100% with you mate.....on all points- not just the highlights

[Gucci2012]

we pay for these fantasys, unfortunately mine is ending

i am missing payments on my home and close to losing everything

enjoy while you can nothing lasts forever, in most cases 30 mins..

If you can afford to punt without it being a financial burden or affecting your life, is it still an addiction?

[Oneonone]

If you can afford to punt without it being a financial burden or affecting your life, is it still an addiction?

Yes of course it is but if you want a really great punt you need at least 60 minutes.

[HengDai]

100% with you mate.....on all points- not just the highlights

Great minds... :)


If you can afford to punt without it being a financial burden or affecting your life, is it still an addiction?

I think it's an addiction if it effects your everyday life, e.g. work, study, family, other commitments, etc.

[altgourami]

Some of you seem to be confused about my wingman comment.

Befriend a hot girl and never fuck her. See her as a friend, not as a GF or fuck. Be her wingman. Get used to the idea that some girls are off limits to you and are friends, not fuck buddies.

In other words, grow up.

Cynical? Me? Nah... actually I have retired from new punts. Only old regulars for me. Mostly freebies.

[Punter Poontang]

Some of you seem to be confused about my wingman comment.

Befriend a hot girl and never fuck her. See her as a friend, not as a GF or fuck. Be her wingman. Get used to the idea that some girls are off limits to you and are friends, not fuck buddies.

In other words, grow up.


I get it, but it's nowt to do with growing up. You know what attracts hot girls?? Other hot girls!!

Used to have a few hot female mates that I'd go out with, never tried it on with them, but didn't have to as just hitting the dance floor with them opened up a plethora of other options. ;-)

[HengDai]

I get it, but it's nowt to do with growing up. You know what attracts hot girls?? Other hot girls!!

Used to have a few hot female mates that I'd go out with, never tried it on with them, but didn't have to as just hitting the dance floor with them opened up a plethora of other options. ;-)

I know what you mean. It get's the other hot chicks intrigued. They are thinking, "Hang on, what's with that guy with the hot girls? What do these girls have that I don't have?" Girls are such mind f*cks sometimes :)

[Punter Poontang]

I know what you mean. It get's the other hot chicks intrigued. They are thinking, "Hang on, what's with that guy with the hot girls? What do these girls have that I don't have?" Girls are such mind f*cks sometimes :)

Maybe a bit simpler than that, it's just like you've been pre-approved by another hottie, so therefore you must be a decent catch and are worthy of her time.

Hit that same dance floor with boys, and you won't be given the time of day. :-P

[HengDai]

Build it and they will come :)

[puntbook]

Some of you seem to be confused about my wingman comment.

Befriend a hot girl and never fuck her. See her as a friend, not as a GF or fuck. Be her wingman. Get used to the idea that some girls are off limits to you and are friends, not fuck buddies.

In other words, grow up.

Cynical? Me? Nah... actually I have retired from new punts. Only old regulars for me. Mostly freebies.

The wingman comment actually seems very irrelevant to this topic. Seems like it was just included for some self serving purposes???

[jellyshots]

There are a lot of things you can do to get yourself financially stable again. You may be able to do into your super if the situation is dire. I'd say go and speak to a financial advisor first. Sure, they may try to sell you some rubbish products but just pay attention to your options and decide from there.

I'm addicted to that anticipatory rush that comes with seeing an ml. Wondering what she'll let me get away with.

As for punting budget... Set yourself up first before punting. It's about discipline, calculated risks... I set up my punting fund first then spend about 4 months spending it. I top it up pretty regularly from the casino. The point I'm making is, I'm only punting from winnings not savings. I had a dry spell but never really ran out.

With the wingman trick. Whether you are screwing them or not is irrelevant. Take a few average looking girls out, get hot girls to take photos with you and the average chicks. Thank the hot chick and tell her your like to buy her a drink to thank her since you're already buying your friends a round. Note, don't put any moves on the hot chick. Just get used to talking to hot women. If you are seen to be having a good time, other people will want to be a part of it.

[IExperiment]

Now there has been a few threads popping up a bit lately

that i find with the a reoccuring theme, "sex addiction"

i am aware this is a forum for punters but the subject of addiction seems to be taboo or no one likes to talk about it.


ending up at WL/ML without realizing how we got there.
Feeling detached, numb, desensitized whilst having sex.
Feeling the never ending emptiness that no punt can fulfill
going broke barely getting by but can still justify spending on punting.
punting to escape
confusing sex with love

i am currently trying to change my ways to live a more fulfilling life. Ive fucked my way to the edge of the earth and realised theres nothing positive this self destructive behaviour could lead to. Its time to be a normal human being again. We all deserve love but are looking in the wrong places.

A while back Mi Goreng was going through what you were going through now. You dont have to stop punting just do a little less and do something else as well.

If you have family The best thing to do is just go visit family member and spend some times with your mum and dad or sibling.

Sometimes family help bring back good memory from younger years. Now I am just an asshole and dont visit and waiting for them to past away cause I have so much other fun things to do, but giving them a little joy from spending time with me and my kids does not hurt.

Just times and wether I wanted to make the times so far not great for them as they are collecting dust.

They really love that and is priceless to them.

[AHLUNGOR]

Are you qualify for Centrrlink or Job Start stuff ??

[Sergaent Brody]

Rules to not become addicted:

30 minutes only, always
Never tip
Never BB
Never kissing
Never ask the girl her name, how long she's been working, whether she has a BF - don't humanise her (you're just cash to her, she doesn't really care - get over it)
For every punt save the same amount of money in a shoebox in your wardrobe - and never touch it - count it after 6 months
Make a friend of a girl (I know you might have trouble connecting with the fairer sex) and never fuck her - help her get laid - be her wingman

If this is the way you wish to punt, then may as well save your money for better use ... plenty of porn around to get off?

[wilisno]

If this is the way you wish to punt, then may as well save your money for better use ... plenty of porn around to get off?
I must agree with you on this !

[Licker]

If this is the way you wish to punt, then may as well save your money for better use ... plenty of porn around to get off?

I agree.
Without any connection to the girl, I'd rather spend the night with Ms Palmer.
And the shoebox gets full really quick.

[Licker]

Sex is the same as watching porn, now?

No it's not, but if on emotional level I'm totally disconnected from the girl (or vice versa) I usually have a much full-filling (or should I say palm filling?) half an hour with Ms Palmer and the girls on the screen.

At least when getting the electric zap from the screen I don't have to wonder why she turned her head away when I tried to kiss her :shout:

[jellyshots]

Ah, I found my old school response...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ydrtF45-y-g