Stamina and sensitivity

[gggi]

I know it's par for the course in places like these to act like we're all porn stars, but I'm encouraged when bros here talk about their misadventures.

The other day, I had a somewhat embarrassing incident: I was really trying to pace myself in cowgirl, doing the "edging" thing. But I lost control; I had one of those "half cums" — the WL was grinding a little too well, and I basically achieved an aborted climax. I hit the peak but didn't ejaculate, and since I'm not some tantric guru, that means not a full orgasm, but a little too much of one, on the other hand.

After this semi-climax we switched to missionary and I found that I could pound away forever. Unfortunately the post-climax loss of sensation also frustrated me — I knew that if I hung in there long enough, I'd start enjoying it more, but it was a case of diminishing returns in the remaining time I had, so I gave up and just sucked the girl's boobs for the rest of the engagement, which she at least enjoyed :)

I felt like I almost got to a great place, but fell off the edge and got lost. I'd be keen to hear your thoughts about "staying on target".

[timtam]

Practice makes perfect bro. Keep fucking, else use those blue pills and it will never embarrass you again!.

The quickest I cum was 22 seconds!!! That was when I was in Cambodia and that girl was so tight and as soon as I was in I felt every frictions and I lost control!

[rooter]

I am a bit unusual I guess .. let me explain ...
basically I can't come unexpectedly or prematurely, I am just not built that way, hasn't happened in over 20 years of fucking.
In order to come I have to make a decision to come.
Once I do that, then it's out of my control: I might come after 2 minutes or 20 minutes - but it has to be vigorous non stop stimulation - could be fucking, bbbj or hj.
but until make that psychological decision to come, then I will go for hours or days even.
With a gf or fuck buddy what prompts the decision to come is I want to sleep, or the footy kicks off soon, or I am regretting I brought her home and want it over with ASAP or whatever.
With a WL its all about the clock. Sometimes I will get in one shot or if I am feeling confident 2 shots.
but more than 2 shots in an hour is not an option anymore ... sigh ...

[foleyes]

Go to places where you can have 2 or more shots. Come too soon & enjoy it. Second round you continue from your first round before you came.

[kobe7]

Do Cardio like jog 30min a day and practice?

[DragonHead]

I am a bit unusual I guess .. let me explain ...
basically I can't come unexpectedly or prematurely, I am just not built that way, hasn't happened in over 20 years of fucking.
In order to come I have to make a decision to come.
Once I do that, then it's out of my control: I might come after 2 minutes or 20 minutes - but it has to be vigorous non stop stimulation - could be fucking, bbbj or hj.
but until make that psychological decision to come, then I will go for hours or days even.
With a gf or fuck buddy what prompts the decision to come is I want to sleep, or the footy kicks off soon, or I am regretting I brought her home and want it over with ASAP or whatever.
With a WL its all about the clock. Sometimes I will get in one shot or if I am feeling confident 2 shots.
but more than 2 shots in an hour is not an option anymore ... sigh ...

Agree, ejaculation premature or not is more psychological than physical. Most guys are not as blessed as you.

What I find most annoying is my little bro is a total rebel. This more I want to cum, the harder it is to cum. On the other hand, on occasions where I want to last, it's over as quickly as anything.

[B-man]

I used to do this regularly so I changed it up. Exercise allot more, eat better and get more sex in 2-3 times a day. Did the trick.

Before I learnt that I took a mild dose of an anti depression tab, zoloft which works also in reducing premature e.

[ivies555]

2 shots is what I go for.
The first one is in a few minutes, some rest & then i can go long before the second.
This also helps me control the second & I actually can decide when i cum.

[markrmau2]

Just cumming back to the OP's original topic, I agree - nothing to be ashamed of and you can always learn something new.

I've had 3 failures out of about 40 punts I guess.

Girl 1 was a slightly fat english chick in geelong who shaved her pussy but left some hair between her ring and her cunt. Saw that and just lost my boner. Walked out in disgust.

Girl 2 was an aussie chick who was really into wild unconstrained fucking. Now I am a bit quiet and reserved, and I just aren't into such wild exhibitionist behaviour (is that gasps of disbelief from the audience? But each to his own).

The 3rd was to a lovely korean who I love dearly, but I had only just decided to try some cialis as a bit of a party drug, and I had been fucking and beating my poor little bro all weekend. He couldn't quite get over the line without a more vigorous hj from the poor girl.

So particularly for us gents who are over 40, things become a little more hit and miss....

Key is to accept the odd miss and move on to the next punt...

[Sextus]

But I lost control; I had one of those "half cums" — the WL was grinding a little too well, and I basically achieved an aborted climax. I hit the peak but didn't ejaculate, and since I'm not some tantric guru, that means not a full orgasm, but a little too much of one, on the other hand.

After this semi-climax we switched to missionary and I found that I could pound away forever. Unfortunately the post-climax loss of sensation also frustrated me — I knew that if I hung in there long enough, I'd start enjoying it more, but it was a case of diminishing returns in the remaining time I had

I've been in that situation, and it can become hot and sweaty work when you have lost sensation because of the mechanical disadvantage of moving an entire 78kg body around to move a mere 300 gram cock around .

The secret is that you need a fresh mental image to re-invigorate your sensitivity / orgasm train. Mere friction on your cock head and movement isn't going to do it, especially if you are getting to the upper reaches of the 40s.

This mental image may come from your memory banks, but they have diminishing returns if individual memories are accessed too regularly. I have, therefore, in this situation when that isn't working, benefited from pornography playing on the room's screen to provide a fresh mental image and get me back on track and over the line.

If there is no pornography playing, it is a bummer when that option is closed off for no reason.

[yjl11]

I take a long long time to cum, often 30 minutes or longer of fucking. also, I probably only cum 80% of the time. I sometimes get to a point where I know I wont cum no matter what, when this happens I can literally fuck for an hour or more without losing wood (stop when I get friction burns or am physically exhausted)

wow you lucky man, i cum after like 6-7 min of penetration (im sensitive). I sex and masterbate a lot but I just blow cause it feels so good lol

[shinigami12]

look at the plus side dude, if you cum fast, book like 10 mins and it costs less at least LOL

seriously though, just try to pace yourself and you'll last longer with practice anyway. If you feel like you're about to cum and don't want to yet you can always pull out, or signal the WL to stop riding hard for a sec. think about something else briefly.

it's def more psychological than physical i think, for me anyway. it prob means you're enjoying the hell out of it and good for you if that's the case. usually for me it happens when i'm mentally focused and the penetration is feeling good at the same time, can be 10 minutes in, can be 20, sometimes won't happen at all LOL.

[markrmau2]

Tell you what, I'd be much happier knowing I would definitely blow in 6-7 minutes rather than it being a bit more hit and miss.

If you're with a WL, she really won't care if you blow in 6-7min. If your with a GF, just give her DATY while fingering her (rub about 3-5cm in side her pussy, putting pressure towards the front of her) until she cums. And then stick it in... she will be as happy as larry too.

If you really want to last longer, try this:

Wank until your erect and 75% towards coming. Then stop. Make a cup of tea & read the paper. Then repeat a few times, and then allow yourself to cum.

Do this at least once per day.

But be careful - Ive been abusing my todger for the last 35yrs or so, and it does de-sensitize with time. You may end up wishing for the old reliable 6-7 min!