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illidanstormrage
05-11-2015, 03:30 PM
http://krauserpua.com/2015/10/12/steve-jabbas-purple-pill/


Let me tell you the story of losing my virginity. I was sixteen years old and met a girl at a Sepultura concert in Newcastle one night. She was the friend of a girl who was dating my best friend and those two had met a couple of weeks earlier at a Metallica concert. The girls lived about 150 miles away and were here for the weekend, just for the gig. The concert finished and my girl agreed to come home with me (parent’s house) so we were waiting in the centre of Newcastle at 2am for my dad to collect us in the car. One thing led to another and I ended up fucking her in a back alley behind Fenwick’s department store.

It was horrendous sex, because I had no idea what I was doing. I remember my biggest surprise was how hot, wet and tight she was. My previous “experience” with naked women had been entirely from looking at soft-porn magazines (this was 1991). I knew how they looked but it had never once occured to me how they feel. It never crossed my mind that the vagina isn’t really a hole but is actually a pulsating group of muscles and thus when you stick your dick in it doesn’t feel empty.

Why do I tell you something so vulgar? Because life is full of many situations where being on the outside does not prepare you for what’s on the inside. Another example is when I went to live in Okinawa for a year when I was 24. I’d only ever seen tropical countries on TV and in magazines where they look beautiful. It never occured to me how it feels to be there. The first thing I noticed is they are very itchy places because of the mosquitos and beetles. It’s also very tiring being out in the sun without a bottle of water. Those things surprised me.

So it goes with hot girls.

Most men are intimidated by hot girls. We see them as unattainable treasure troves of hotness value and our hormones compell us to pine after them. Even when you get inside some pretty girls, you’re an outsider for the hotter girls. Being on the outside prevents you feeling the reality of being an insider. The best way to feel an insider is to actually fuck and date a hot young girl. Preferably over an extended period of time. Then you get a window into the girl’s life, and how she feels. The first thing that surprised me was she has her own problems.

I’d always thought of women as a problem for me to solve. It was a shift in reality to realise women also have men problems they must solve. It’s like sitting in your WWI trench shitting yourself at how organised the German lines looked, and then suddenly being allowed to sit in those trenches and realise they are shitting themselves at how strong the English lines look. Once you’re inside you get past the fronting and see the real chaos and held-together-with-spit-and-glue nature of people’s lives. Those of you who worked in shops will know the staff experience differs somewhat from the customer experience.

Steve has fucked a lot of hot women so he’s an insider. He’s seen how fragile they can be the next morning as they try to correct their makeup before taking the walk of shame to work. He knows they are often scared (or excitable) little girls in a hot woman’s body, trying to understand and marshall their value while under assault from hundreds of predators trying to relieve them of that value. Often those girls look at men and their insecurities surface, wondering “how can he be so confident? why can’t I be as creative and impressive as him?” Even now it surprises me when I’m on a date with a hottie and she does something that lets slip that she feels like she’s the lucky one to be there.

I think this empathy – which is commonly deeply felt by players with 100+ notch counts of hot young women – is mistaken as pedestalisation by the men who are on the outside. No, we don’t think women are better than men, or special snowflakes. No, we don’t think they lack agency or should receive a “pussy pass” for bad behaviour. No, we don’t think the family court system or job market is fair on men.

We just have a very initimate experience of seeing how these girls live and how they too have problems. You can’t help but get a bit of empathy for them. That empathy is much harder if you’re still at the stage of getting “bitch face” in your nightclub opens.

Are you an outsider? Serious question!

I know a lot of punters here are still happily married or are in a long term relationship but I know there a lot of guys who are younger (early 20's) that wouldn't have had that much or any experience dating high quality women and do see ML/WL's because it's easier.

For me I haven't dated that much in general but especially any girl that looks as good as some of the girls I've seen in these shops.

cisco
05-11-2015, 07:28 PM
I m an alien and vulnerable :)

Junior6502001
06-11-2015, 04:15 PM
Interesting post and question...
Somehow we are all insider and outsider in various life scenarios. The boundaries sometimes blur... PUA certainly have a perspective of their own.
On the other hand many of the guys here have the insider view of the world of ML, WL, CBJ etc that would be totally foreign to most of the population.

rooter
06-11-2015, 06:36 PM
A while ago I decided I was just gonna pay for sex.
I quit the swinging scene, I quit the orgy scene, I quit the gang bang scene, I quit the BDSM scene, I deleted all my fuck buddy contacts and never returned their calls, I quit the casual sex scene.
It's the best decision I ever made; now pay/fuck/leave is my unholy trinity of perpetual indulgence and eternal happiness ... well alcohol and the occasional spliff or line of coke helps too - all part of the ecstatic chemistry of being ...

Mr Bastard
06-11-2015, 07:11 PM
A while ago I decided I was just gonna pay for sex.
I quit the swinging scene, I quit the orgy scene, I quit the gang bang scene, I quit the BDSM scene, I deleted all my fuck buddy contacts and never returned their calls, I quit the casual sex scene.
It's the best decision I ever made; now pay/fuck/leave is my unholy trinity of perpetual indulgence and eternal happiness ... well alcohol and the occasional spliff or line of coke helps too - all part of the ecstatic chemistry of being ...

I concur..........

Junkyard
07-11-2015, 07:26 AM
Mr Bastard: Words of a sage.

That should be on a t shirt: The unholy trinity, Pay Fuck Leave