My experience..

[takasitau]

Hello brothers,

I'm long time quiet reader and this is my first real post here.. I've been to many places around sydney, rnt, fs, privates, and seen too many girls to remember.

Recently I've been seeing this same girl exclusively at rnt shop for 8 months, we started to go out outside the shop and you could guess, as I know her better as a person we somehow develop a mutual feeling and I fell in love with her.

I started to see her once a week, then twice, thrice and so on, in the shop or outside, and this soon becomes a pattern, everytime i see her i would give her financial help even when we dont do anything.

She is very intellectual girl and have clear mindset of what she wanted to achieve in life. I can see that although shes popular, she is struggling emotionally and doing it only to survive until this year. I can communicate with her and talked about anything, even porn and dick pics that always circulate on my guys only whatsapp group. This is what made me to fall in love with her, other than physical reason of course.

I am married, its going downhill however, and i've told her about it, and my marriage issues once i felt i have a feeling for her.. She was fine with it. I have now reached the point where I would leave it for her.

But couple weeks ago when i went to her place she cried and told me she is seeing another guy. He doesnt know what she does for living. Part of the reason is when she look at me, she always remember that we met at the shop and it brings her memories that she doesnt want to remember. She started to make distance to me, and although i said i wanted to support her financially, she disagrees.

She agrees to still see me outside, as a friend, I'm still madly in love with her and i still want to win her back but I feel I'm losing the battle here.. I should have known better.

One thing that could help me to step back is perhaps going back to seeing other girls, but at this point i feel its hurting more as i know i still love her and have no interest in punting.

I dont regret falling in love with her, I need to share and vent before I'm getting mad

[quackm2002]

You can’t win her back. She’s not interested in you
Go and punt like crazy and get her out of your system

[Hurstyronny]

Tough situation, but you really need to move on and go to another shop.

[rooter]

Quit now. Cut your losses. Move on.
In a week's time you will be over her. She is already over you.
Sounds like you had a great experience. Don't spoil it now. Let it rest.
Your next amazing experience is just around the corner.

[paddington244]

Just enjoy the memories and move on

[Babycat]

Try to love your wife again

[The Speechwriter]

The people before me have given you some great advice, IMHO -- Babycat especially.

Here's a little bit more: The best way to forget one is in the arms of another.

Good luck mate, you'll work it out.

[mikemekong]

Consider yourself lucky that she is seeing another guy , I’m telling you from my own experience , it’s always end badly !!! Spend more time with your wife , and also go punting like crazy with other girls !! Don’t waste your emotion and money on her anymore ,

[Tram]

Enjoy the good memories! Maybe there would have been too many issues for the relationship to go further

[takasitau]

Thanks bros for the advice, i sort of know i need to get over her. At this point i'm still in deep shit but. Im going to see her out next friday - as friend, i shouldn't but i still not able to resist.

Still not in the mood but i started to look around the rosters and see if theres anything interesting..

As for my wife, i feel theres nothing i can do more, we sort of still stay together but there is no respecr or feeling anymore between us.

[Skippy tasman]

Best way to get over a girl is get a new one !

[aussiegaigin]

There have been numerous threads on this subject in the past.

The overwhelming consensus was DON'T DO IT.

[curious36]

Nearly had a nervous breakdown. Divorce messy and drains your money. You would want the best for her so do you both a favour and let her go. It took me 2 years to work this out.

[AHLUNGOR]

Hello brothers,

I'm long time quiet reader and this is my first real post here.. I've been to many places around sydney, rnt, fs, privates, and seen too many girls to remember.

Recently I've been seeing this same girl exclusively at rnt shop for 8 months, we started to go out outside the shop and you could guess, as I know her better as a person we somehow develop a mutual feeling and I fell in love with her.

I started to see her once a week, then twice, thrice and so on, in the shop or outside, and this soon becomes a pattern, everytime i see her i would give her financial help even when we dont do anything.

She is very intellectual girl and have clear mindset of what she wanted to achieve in life. I can see that although shes popular, she is struggling emotionally and doing it only to survive until this year. I can communicate with her and talked about anything, even porn and dick pics that always circulate on my guys only whatsapp group. This is what made me to fall in love with her, other than physical reason of course.

I am married, its going downhill however, and i've told her about it, and my marriage issues once i felt i have a feeling for her.. She was fine with it. I have now reached the point where I would leave it for her.

But couple weeks ago when i went to her place she cried and told me she is seeing another guy. He doesnt know what she does for living. Part of the reason is when she look at me, she always remember that we met at the shop and it brings her memories that she doesnt want to remember. She started to make distance to me, and although i said i wanted to support her financially, she disagrees.

She agrees to still see me outside, as a friend, I'm still madly in love with her and i still want to win her back but I feel I'm losing the battle here.. I should have known better.

One thing that could help me to step back is perhaps going back to seeing other girls, but at this point i feel its hurting more as i know i still love her and have no interest in punting.

I dont regret falling in love with her, I need to share and vent before I'm getting mad

Mr T, do you have children with your wife?

Assuming you could some how win your ML back, would you really divorce your wife and be with her happily ever after, sure you can live with her past career ? Mate , having a ML/WL on the side or as a gf could be very much different than having a long term relationship or marrying one.

As most people here have suggested, go back to your wife and move on.

Good luck.

[des888]

Stop punting hang out with your mates get a hobby. It’s hard to get over totally understand that some people love differently to others.

[Babycat]

Thanks bros for the advice, i sort of know i need to get over her. At this point i'm still in deep shit but. Im going to see her out next friday - as friend, i shouldn't but i still not able to resist.

Still not in the mood but i started to look around the rosters and see if theres anything interesting..

As for my wife, i feel theres nothing i can do more, we sort of still stay together but there is no respecr or feeling anymore between us.
Oh I see. No feeling might be able to fix but no respect or no trust is the worst.

Nearly had a nervous breakdown. Divorce messy and drains your money. You would want the best for her so do you both a favour and let her go. It took me 2 years to work this out.
Agreed. If you try your best already but still not work, then don't be afraid of breakdown, just like you got wounded and it's rotten so it's hurt but you need to cut it off. Otherwise, whole life will be suffered.

[takasitau]

Mr T, do you have children with your wife?

Assuming you could some how win your ML back, would you really divorce your wife and be with her happily ever after, sure you can live with her past career ? Mate , having a ML/WL on the side or as a gf could be very much different than having a long term relationship or marrying one.

As most people here have suggested, go back to your wife and move on.

Good luck.

Thanks bro ahlungor.. i wouldn't mind with what shes done to got the money, she needed it to survive, not collectiong wealth, and its only temporary.

Now the thing that would get me over her is if i have another girl to talk with me rather than just ml/wl-client relationship, but this could be another disaster.. sigh

[takasitau]

Stop punting hang out with your mates get a hobby. It’s hard to get over totally understand that some people love differently to others.

At my age its hard to find mates that are not busy with their gf/family/kids, thats why i vent out here.. i sort of have a sports hobby but in this situatuon, i lost interest for everything generally, bad for work too

[takasitau]

Ok brothers, ive made few punting arrangements next week, hopefully i could get over it sooner.. one is girl that i havent seen for a while, hoping when i see her i can vent out

[scooper]

Am I the only one who noticed that the OP mentioned he’s in a guys only group in which people are sharing dick pics ??

[Dak2000]

Yes, don’t be afraid of a breakdown, but think.... What do you really think if you no longer have your ML girl in the picture? Do you need her around so you can move on to her? Is it just new and exciting versus the now mundane? Do you pick arguments to validate your marriage is broken? You should be happier being out of a broken marriage without the third party. Two individual issues, and seeing it’s not primary school solve them one after the other.

[garfield]

Looks like she has another guy now so moving on and keeping distance with you. You need to accept and move on. If you love her you should let her go. If you guys are meant for each other, then you two will meet up again eventually in different circumstances.

[Brothelcreeper]

Having relationships with ML and WL's only fucks you up and will normally end badly. Been there several times and no "happy endings". Just pain.

As Rooter always says. Go, have fun, leave. Don't be a white knight. Fuck, enjoy, move onto the next one. Sounds harsh but being emotionally involved with a girl that fucks 7 guys a day for a living is hell.

[takasitau]

The way I see it, she exchanged erotic service to you and other punters for money, and is using what she earned to pursue another guy whom she truly loves (or she thinks she truly loves).

Although she might look innocent, she's not. Deep down, she resents and despises all punters and is ashamed of what she does for a living. My experience is that out of 10 MLs 7 or 8 think this way. So it's quite common. What's less common is that she started seeing you outside shops and gave signs that she had feelings for you too. It might appear that the initial spark was genuine and she had he best of intentions, but if you think more about it, the girl probably knew exactly what she was after right from the beginning, and it was not you. She said you two can remain as "friends", but what's the point of being friend with a girl whom you love deeply but can't touch, yet knowing full well some other dude will be exploring her bodies every night. It's a recipe for making you mad.

I've had my share of mistakes in the past: met a few such girls and shelled out quite a bit of money on them, but as soon as I realized what's going on in their minds, whatever "feeling" i had for them evaporated instantly, and I'd stop seeing them right away. Some other bros say they like to see the girl one last time, but to me even this is a pure waste of time and money. Life is too short, cut loss and move on and you'll feel better sooner.

All the best with your next punting adventure mate!

Thanks mate, thats what got me, she was caring towards me, even rejecting my money at times, offered to pay for meals when we were out, buying gifts for me, so it got me thinking the feeling was mutual, and i was over the moon, at least until she met this guy. I did not see this coming at all, I was shocked that day.

As of being friends, i agree with you, we couldnt be friends when i have feelings for her, and next friday will be the last time i'll be out with her. I truly appeciate she being honest with me rather than keeping it under the table.

[Pussyhands]

Mmmm the boundaries when punting...

Gota respect the feelings bro! Seems like u were also seeking the loving feeling ontop of the sexual service. You had a good run! Better luck next time :)

I think a lot of people give advice on how to handle the situation and perhaps they only there for the sexual service. I am for the no string attached GFE and am on the same boat. You gota do what works for u bro ;)

[Brothelcreeper]

The way I see it, she exchanged erotic service to you and other punters for money, and is using what she earned to pursue another guy whom she truly loves (or she thinks she truly loves).

Although she might look innocent, she's not. Deep down, she resents and despises all punters and is ashamed of what she does for a living. My experience is that out of 10 MLs 7 or 8 think this way. So it's quite common. What's less common is that she started seeing you outside shops and gave signs that she had feelings for you too. It might appear that the initial spark was genuine and she had he best of intentions, but if you think more about it, the girl probably knew exactly what she was after right from the beginning, and it was not you. She said you two can remain as "friends", but what's the point of being friend with a girl whom you love deeply but can't touch, yet knowing full well some other dude will be exploring her bodies every night. It's a recipe for making you mad.

I've had my share of mistakes in the past: met a few such girls and shelled out quite a bit of money on them, but as soon as I realized what's going on in their minds, whatever "feeling" i had for them evaporated instantly, and I'd stop seeing them right away. Some other bros say they like to see the girl one last time, but to me even this is a pure waste of time and money. Life is too short, cut loss and move on and you'll feel better sooner.

All the best with your next punting adventure mate!

You hit the nail right on the head here mate. Especially the bit about being friends with the girl. You can't fuck her when you are just friends but she goes to work and fucks 7 dudes each day. Will drive you insane.

[Nekman]

Lots of good advice from the Bros and sounds like you had a great time with the ML and great memories from that. Hope that wasn’t the cause of the breakdown with your marriage or a factor that escalated it. Best way to cut your feelings is to move on. If you fall in love with another ML, keep it in the shop. Better that way. It is hard but better for you emotionally and financially.

Enjoy your punts that you have lined up. But I don’t think it is a good idea to vent to the ML. Just enjoy your time and forget the bad memories.

[sukeong]

WTF man. But Surely she knows you are already married, if you are doing this to your wife, the ML will be thinking, he could go behind my back when we are together too. And now that she met a non punter BF, she feels safer with him. At least she knows less chance of him punting behind her back.

Sorry man, usually I'm sympathetic when the girls flake out on guys all of a sudden like that other poster that was seeing the Jap ML. But punting and pursuing a MLrelationship behind your wife is no go zone. I'm all on the side of the ML in this case. You should just forget about this and go back to your wife or at least give her a settlement.

[takasitau]

Lots of good advice from the Bros and sounds like you had a great time with the ML and great memories from that. Hope that wasn’t the cause of the breakdown with your marriage or a factor that escalated it. Best way to cut your feelings is to move on. If you fall in love with another ML, keep it in the shop. Better that way. It is hard but better for you emotionally and financially.

Enjoy your punts that you have lined up. But I don’t think it is a good idea to vent to the ML. Just enjoy your time and forget the bad memories.

No it wasnt, marriage is already going downhill before i met her, but i havent gone into a seperation as i know it cost money.. meeting her is like a confirmation on my issue there.

I'll try to not vent out but needed maybe gfe service to take my minds out of her. Thanks bro.

[takasitau]

WTF man. But Surely she knows you are already married, if you are doing this to your wife, the ML will be thinking, he could go behind my back when we are together too. And now that she met a non punter BF, she feels safer with him. At least she knows less chance of him punting behind her back.

Sorry man, usually I'm sympathetic when the girls flake out on guys all of a sudden like that other poster that was seeing the Jap ML. But punting and pursuing a MLrelationship behind your wife is no go zone. I'm all on the side of the ML in this case. You should just forget about this and go back to your wife or at least give her a settlement.

Yes she knows, she actually tried to talk me out of it, telling me to keep trying fix things up at home. I have tried, long before i met her, its up to the point where nothing can fix it anymore. Meeting her is a kick for me to go through it and i'm in the process of it now.

[xboyx]

The way I see it, she exchanged erotic service to you and other punters for money, and is using what she earned to pursue another guy whom she truly loves (or she thinks she truly loves).

Although she might look innocent, she's not. Deep down, she resents and despises all punters and is ashamed of what she does for a living. My experience is that out of 10 MLs 7 or 8 think this way. So it's quite common. What's less common is that she started seeing you outside shops and gave signs that she had feelings for you too. It might appear that the initial spark was genuine and she had he best of intentions, but if you think more about it, the girl probably knew exactly what she was after right from the beginning, and it was not you. She said you two can remain as "friends", but what's the point of being friend with a girl whom you love deeply but can't touch, yet knowing full well some other dude will be exploring her bodies every night. It's a recipe for making you mad.

I've had my share of mistakes in the past: met a few such girls and shelled out quite a bit of money on them, but as soon as I realized what's going on in their minds, whatever "feeling" i had for them evaporated instantly, and I'd stop seeing them right away. Some other bros say they like to see the girl one last time, but to me even this is a pure waste of time and money. Life is too short, cut loss and move on and you'll feel better sooner.

All the best with your next punting adventure mate!

SPOT ON!
The ML sure was dating a few guys at once and the OP was just one of those. She got free meals, some fun, some financial help and now she found a guy who she likes more than the OP so she distant herself from the OP.

Many punters in this forum are 40+ years old with lifetime of experience, they're all telling you it's a no go so move on.

takasitau, you should move on, keep it as fond memories. Love doesn't last forever and you will soon find another girl.

[Hurstyronny]

Top advice. All you see is advice here to let her go and move on. Have never done it and never will. Punters need variety the ML needs more guys like you

[holi_day]

it will never work out due to the circumstances you both met.

A women will not stay in a normal relationship with someone knows her past life as a sex worker, never.

I have fallen in love years ago with a girl that we met at hotel sauna club back in China. I was so madly in love with her. Although I clearly knew that it won't work out, It took myself 5~6 months to recover after I separated from her.

Not all sex workers are bad. There are many girls that I met in brothels, massage polars etc. I can tell could be a perfect partner for me if we met in normal life. But because they knew I went to brother and I knew they work there, it will not work out as a normal relationship.

I have seen a Japanese girl for many times. She worked at one of the most famous shop. After we met 13 times, we started dating outside. But we have been keeping the boundary very clear. We never have sex outside. She never asked for any financial gifts. She insisted to pay some of the bills so that she didn't owe me anything. We just spent some time. She was alone in Australia. I wanted some dating fun outside of sex. We got what we needed. If I wanted sex, I went back to the shop to meet her. That's been our happy relationship until she went back to Tokyo. I am sure if I travel to Tokyo, she wouldn't mind go out for a dinner or something with me.

Although you may say you don't mind what she did before, but she does, definitely. You can't fix that. So just keep the good memory and move on.

[MansNotHot]

DW bro she will always cherish those dick pic conversation for the rest of her life ....

could be the other way round .... maybe she think she is the obstacle between you and your wife's relationship and thats why shes distancing from you ... could be a test lol ... if you really love her keep seeing her and this time give her a bigger donation ... she'll be crawling back in no time :)

[Brothelcreeper]

I do know somebody who has married an ex WL. He is Aussie, she is Chinese.

They are happy together and have been together for a number of years so that is the first "happy ending" I have heard of, so it is possible. She has not worked for several years.

[cassius]

I know one where it worked too. But many do not. It’s not so much about looking back to the past. People can often put the past behind them. But people who are used to pretending feelings for money can be dangerous because they are simply dishonest, or even if they are not, dangerous because their feelings are unclear, and because they may suddenly change course when they think they see a better opportunity in a world where they are desperate for money through financial stress or simply desire. many are wonderful girls. Just not easy to work out and work with towards a happy life together.

[Brothelcreeper]

I often wonder if you ended up married to a WL what your sex life would be like. She would have seen and experienced so many sexual highs in her life, would a monthly mish session with her husband cut it ?

[cassius]

Most likely inhibited.

[BongKong]

I do know somebody who has married an ex WL. He is Aussie, she is Chinese.

They are happy together and have been together for a number of years so that is the first "happy ending" I have heard of, so it is possible. She has not worked for several years.

Are you talking about yourself here?

[BongKong]

Yes she knows, she actually tried to talk me out of it, telling me to keep trying fix things up at home. I have tried, long before i met her, its up to the point where nothing can fix it anymore. Meeting her is a kick for me to go through it and i'm in the process of it now.

If it is all over with your wife and you are definitely leaving any chance of an intro?

[takasitau]

it will never work out due to the circumstances you both met.

A women will not stay in a normal relationship with someone knows her past life as a sex worker, never.

I have fallen in love years ago with a girl that we met at hotel sauna club back in China. I was so madly in love with her. Although I clearly knew that it won't work out, It took myself 5~6 months to recover after I separated from her.

Not all sex workers are bad. There are many girls that I met in brothels, massage polars etc. I can tell could be a perfect partner for me if we met in normal life. But because they knew I went to brother and I knew they work there, it will not work out as a normal relationship.

I have seen a Japanese girl for many times. She worked at one of the most famous shop. After we met 13 times, we started dating outside. But we have been keeping the boundary very clear. We never have sex outside. She never asked for any financial gifts. She insisted to pay some of the bills so that she didn't owe me anything. We just spent some time. She was alone in Australia. I wanted some dating fun outside of sex. We got what we needed. If I wanted sex, I went back to the shop to meet her. That's been our happy relationship until she went back to Tokyo. I am sure if I travel to Tokyo, she wouldn't mind go out for a dinner or something with me.

Although you may say you don't mind what she did before, but she does, definitely. You can't fix that. So just keep the good memory and move on.

I suppose it is going to take me few months at least to recover too.. thanks for your words