Targayayuka
23-05-2018, 12:52 AM
...from a tabloid article:- https://nypost.com/2017/12/11/having-50-orgasms-a-day-is-pure-torture/?utm_content=inf_10_2731_2&utm_source=tsefacebook&utm_medium=tsefb&utm_campaign=tse&tse_id=INF_6bcf30e05ad311e88c6755ba5ad8238c
‘Thousands of dollars a year on paid sex’
Aaron* is a 42-year-old married man who visits escorts two or three times a week and cruises for sex with men or women at parks or public toilets once or twice a month.
The father-of-one said he is “habituated to casual or anonymous sex” and would “choose prostitutes randomly and have casual sex with men, even though I have no romantic or physical attraction” towards them.
He said he frequently “pursued sex without real thought,” and while he knew cheating was wrong and regretted it afterward, an attempt to stop for three months was followed by “intense binges that involved more than 30 partners in a month.”
Aaron said his anonymous encounters had only increased his “sexual energy” with his wife, and the negative consequences of his hypersexuality were “largely financial,” since he had spent “thousands of dollars a year on paid sex.”
Aaron said that he felt “almost no emotion” about his sexual activities although he knew that his sexual behavior was “far outside the boundaries and expectations of his marriage.” He said he thrived on the “freedom” of transgressive sex where there were “no expectations” on his behavior.
He did not report any mental health issues, but his score on a validated test found he had “extremely severe” levels of depression and anxiety.
Around 80 percent of self-identified sex addicts are male and many suffer from low self-esteem or report being sexually abused as children. Other recurring factors were that individuals were Christian and their behavior was incongruent with their beliefs, or there was some confusion around their sexual orientation. Researchers raised questions around sex education.
Walton said: “Researchers and clinicians are yet to agree upon diagnostic boundaries of what is hypersexuality — when is it a sexual disorder, psychosexual behavioral problem, or symptom of an existing psychological disorder or medical condition — and decide upon criteria that is non-pejorative and non-judgemental.”
His research with associate professors Amy Lykins and Najot Bhullar from UNE and Dr. James Cantor from the Toronto addiction center concludes that “it is time” hypersexuality was at least recognized as “a psychosexual behavioral problem.”
Previous research has found that hypersexual individuals (particularly men) have a higher propensity for sexual excitement or arousal compared to the general population. “A lot of people had no recognition of what their emotions or feelings were when aroused,” said Walton.
While much of the research so far relies on perceptions, and the matter is complicated by celebrities going to “very expensive clinics,” Walton said what we know is that some people display problematic sexual behavior.
“Hypersexuality can become a sexual health problem, particularly when sexual risk-taking is combined with significant drug and alcohol use,” he said. “The combination of unsafe sex, risky sexual behavior, and high sexual excitation can increase the risk of sexually transmitted infections, including HIV.”
He said people often self-manage psychological issues including relationship problems and that although high states of sexual arousal may adversely impact cognitive processing, the researchers do not consider that typically an individual’s sexual behavior is substantively beyond one’s self-control.
That’s important in a legal sense. Walton said: “One of the problems with sex addiction model is, how is the court going to interpret that?”
“What is the level of control? These disorders have potentially very serious implications in court.”
Some of it's trifle or generalisations, but it reminded me of some of you (married) punters.
Personally, I don't punt when I'm in a relationship. Hell, I think twice even when it's in the early stages of dating. But that's just me.
At the end of the day, lets all just celebrate that we just had (paid) sex......because I'm sure it still counts.......
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o
‘Thousands of dollars a year on paid sex’
Aaron* is a 42-year-old married man who visits escorts two or three times a week and cruises for sex with men or women at parks or public toilets once or twice a month.
The father-of-one said he is “habituated to casual or anonymous sex” and would “choose prostitutes randomly and have casual sex with men, even though I have no romantic or physical attraction” towards them.
He said he frequently “pursued sex without real thought,” and while he knew cheating was wrong and regretted it afterward, an attempt to stop for three months was followed by “intense binges that involved more than 30 partners in a month.”
Aaron said his anonymous encounters had only increased his “sexual energy” with his wife, and the negative consequences of his hypersexuality were “largely financial,” since he had spent “thousands of dollars a year on paid sex.”
Aaron said that he felt “almost no emotion” about his sexual activities although he knew that his sexual behavior was “far outside the boundaries and expectations of his marriage.” He said he thrived on the “freedom” of transgressive sex where there were “no expectations” on his behavior.
He did not report any mental health issues, but his score on a validated test found he had “extremely severe” levels of depression and anxiety.
Around 80 percent of self-identified sex addicts are male and many suffer from low self-esteem or report being sexually abused as children. Other recurring factors were that individuals were Christian and their behavior was incongruent with their beliefs, or there was some confusion around their sexual orientation. Researchers raised questions around sex education.
Walton said: “Researchers and clinicians are yet to agree upon diagnostic boundaries of what is hypersexuality — when is it a sexual disorder, psychosexual behavioral problem, or symptom of an existing psychological disorder or medical condition — and decide upon criteria that is non-pejorative and non-judgemental.”
His research with associate professors Amy Lykins and Najot Bhullar from UNE and Dr. James Cantor from the Toronto addiction center concludes that “it is time” hypersexuality was at least recognized as “a psychosexual behavioral problem.”
Previous research has found that hypersexual individuals (particularly men) have a higher propensity for sexual excitement or arousal compared to the general population. “A lot of people had no recognition of what their emotions or feelings were when aroused,” said Walton.
While much of the research so far relies on perceptions, and the matter is complicated by celebrities going to “very expensive clinics,” Walton said what we know is that some people display problematic sexual behavior.
“Hypersexuality can become a sexual health problem, particularly when sexual risk-taking is combined with significant drug and alcohol use,” he said. “The combination of unsafe sex, risky sexual behavior, and high sexual excitation can increase the risk of sexually transmitted infections, including HIV.”
He said people often self-manage psychological issues including relationship problems and that although high states of sexual arousal may adversely impact cognitive processing, the researchers do not consider that typically an individual’s sexual behavior is substantively beyond one’s self-control.
That’s important in a legal sense. Walton said: “One of the problems with sex addiction model is, how is the court going to interpret that?”
“What is the level of control? These disorders have potentially very serious implications in court.”
Some of it's trifle or generalisations, but it reminded me of some of you (married) punters.
Personally, I don't punt when I'm in a relationship. Hell, I think twice even when it's in the early stages of dating. But that's just me.
At the end of the day, lets all just celebrate that we just had (paid) sex......because I'm sure it still counts.......
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lQlIhraqL7o