Originally Posted by
Chinchin
Some people do need a reality check. I remember being at university when the last big wave came through, man, it was just non-stop, in your face, shit. Nothing wrong with equality…equality of opportunity, general fairness, etc.
But I started to realise some peoples idea of feminism/equality is about power and control, disguised as equality.
Some workplace policies of having 50% women in senior positions is an example (like at my workplace). For most jobs, gender is irrelevant, shouldn’t even be a factor in the job criteria but here we are. If the senior positions have been mostly men, just means a lot of the new opportunities go to women in order to adhere to the policy and right this so-called wrong. And companies (including mine) make big PR noise about it too, and people seem to love it. I don’t get it.
Imagine a doctor (doesn’t matter man or woman) telling you they got there because of some arbitrary 50/50 gender quota policy right before they operated on you, I’m sure you couldn’t help but be a little worried. Anyway, I’d rather not think too much about it and I’m glad I’m older and already up the proverbial ladder, can’t imagine starting my career now.
Sticking to the topic of the thread, my friend married a ML, he’s not into punting, met her through a friend. It’s been going relatively strong but I’d say that’s a small minority, she stopped immediately after they got engaged and has been working an admin office job ever since, and it used to bother my friend she was still a ML when they were dating. I reckon the odds are stacked against you. If you think “nah, it’ll be different for me” then good luck to you!
As some have mentioned already, thinking of it as a simple business transaction is probably for the best, but love is strange.