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QUOTE=Niceguy11;2108334]I know this topic has been doing the rounds so I'm going to give my insight into a relationship with a WL either romantic relationship or friendship. Here it goes.
Friendship:
1.) You are not the only one she hangs out with outside the shop. If she wants to hang out with you, ultimately it is her decision so don't push it.
2.) Being open and listening to her day to day problems which can be a wide range of things. Be there for her if you truly care about her and want to be friends.
3.) It's not always about sex. Most WL's don't want to have sex outside the shop unless they genuinely wants to.
4.) See her for the person she is and not as a WL. Treat her the same way you would with any other friend.
5.) If you identify that she is a materialistic person outside the shop and expects the princess treatment, don't proceed with being friends with her. Cut her off and just forget about it.
6.) It's always a case by case basis as to how she is outside the shop. If she is not materialistic, is not a princess and doesn't expect you to pay for everything, then you should be fine. If she is materialistic, princess and expects you to do everything, then cut her off. It will only bring you pain and heartache.
7.) Treating her with respect and courtesy ! I can't stress this enough.
Relationship:
1.) Even though you are in a relationship, most likely she will remain in the industry so be open minded that even though she is with you, she is having sex with other men and working as a WL.
2.) Working hours. Most likely she will be working late evenings / early mornings maybe 5 - 6 days per week so if you a non shift worker, you won't see her that often. So don't expect to have dinner with her after work as she will probably be working.
3.) If she has left the industry and working in another industry, don't bring up the past. Most WL's are tying to escape the previous life. Even though myself I honestly don't have a problem if my girlfriend / wife was a WL, they see it as bad history and want to totally disconnect. They will change their WeChat, change their mobiles and in some cases move house because they want to erase the past. They want to disconnect from their old customers and regulars. Focus on moving forward.
4.) Being there for moral and emotional support. These girls have seen a lot of men some are good and some bad. They can have their good days and bad days so be there for her.
5.) Determining if it is true love. If she is in a relationship for the pure goal of getting PR then forget it. A WL I knew who still works has been with her boyfriend for over 8 years. They are both open minded so her working as WL is not a problem.
6.) Financial support. In some cases you may need to be there for financial support if she in the transition of moving from being a WL to a normal industry. Some will leave the fancy lifestyle behind and live the normal life. If she does leave the industry and still wants the fancy life in terms of latest bags, expensive dinners etc then I highly suggest not getting involved with her.
7.) At the end of the day, she was a WL. Later on in the relationship, there is always the possibility of her returning to the industry. I have seen this happen before so just be mindful.
As with any relationship, its about give and take. Don't expect everything. Go with the flow and hopefully it will work out for you. Hope this has been helpful.[/QUOTE]
Originally Posted by dotcumdotinyou
