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    I take too long to finish.

    Hi brothers,

    I've been punting weekly since Dec 2020.

    However, I'm having a massive issue that's been
    taking a toll on my sex life.

    I take too long to finish. For example, I would book a girl at a shop and ask for 90mins. I'm not too sure if it's the consistency or maybe because I've been seeing different girls on the regular. But for a couple of sessions, after intercourse for a couple of positions my WL and I would get tired and she or I would finish me off with a HJ.

    I've tried using Okamoto 0.02 condoms but for a couple of times, I would never finish through intercourse. The last session I've finished inside a WL was when she gave me a HJ and gave me a few pumps inside her.

    I'd like to have a normal sex life but it is a journey and maybe you guys have some tips! Thank you!

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    Are you actually comfortable and relaxed when you are doing the act? Or are you all wrapped up thinking about it? Are you generally a stressed and anxious person?

    My advice would be for your next punt don't even worry about finishing, just have a nice time and enjoy the journey and let the destination take care of itself. It might take a few punts to really get into that mindset, but worrying about finishing can, ironically, impede you from finishing.

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    Now I think about it, I do overthink about whether or not I'm going to be finishing inside her. I guess maybe it comes during intercourse that my mind says "hey mmm its alright but doesnt kinda feel good".

    Though thank you for that advice, I do have a booking this evening. You know what, I'll think more about having a good time while I'm there.

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    Agree that it sounds like it could be overthinking. Just try and concentrate on how it feels. Iím usually fine except when the WL suddenly asks ďso are you gonna come?Ē Especially if itís like the last 5-10mins the booking so theyíre trying to get it finished up. Puts too much pressure on me

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    The other day when I had a massage from a regular. I took me longer than usual to come. Not sure if it was me but her HJ technique was boring and do anything else to get me over the edge. Wasnt exciting anymore. So I'm gonna go somewhere else

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    Hopefully it is not emotional intimacy that you are after to climax cuz it will a regular to build the type of intimacy to go further.
    But like everyone said. If itís in the mind.. then change your mindset. Donít focus on cumming.. and just relax and enjoy the session and that might change the outcome. And donít forget to try position you are most comfortable with.
    Enjoy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jenlai29 View Post
    Hi brothers,

    I've been punting weekly since Dec 2020.

    However, I'm having a massive issue that's been
    taking a toll on my sex life.

    I take too long to finish. For example, I would book a girl at a shop and ask for 90mins. I'm not too sure if it's the consistency or maybe because I've been seeing different girls on the regular. But for a couple of sessions, after intercourse for a couple of positions my WL and I would get tired and she or I would finish me off with a HJ.

    I've tried using Okamoto 0.02 condoms but for a couple of times, I would never finish through intercourse. The last session I've finished inside a WL was when she gave me a HJ and gave me a few pumps inside her.

    I'd like to have a normal sex life but it is a journey and maybe you guys have some tips! Thank you!
    Can you cum within a reasonable time if BBBJ ?

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    Quote Originally Posted by jenlai29 View Post
    Now I think about it, I do overthink about whether or not I'm going to be finishing inside her. I guess maybe it comes during intercourse that my mind says "hey mmm its alright but doesnt kinda feel good".

    Though thank you for that advice, I do have a booking this evening. You know what, I'll think more about having a good time while I'm there.
    Could be a mental thing. I've had it before when after a particularly bad sex experience (not necessarily punting), it plays on my mind in my next sex sessions. I start to second guess myself if I can truly enjoy myself, whether I can get over the line, etc. Then that seed of doubt becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, it causes the sex to be bad simply because of the doubt.
    One way I found that can fix it is a "circuit breaker". Just abstain (including self-help) for an extended period of time. How long this is depends on how frequently you usually have sex. If you normally do it once a week, maybe take a month or 2 off sex. Just to give your head the time to forget the bad experience.

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    A few things. Do you masturbate alot? If so try and stop masturbating for maybe 1-2 days before punting your dick will be sensitive as fuck. The other thing to try is that when you're ready to cum pick a position where you can control the tempo of the pumps easily without getting tired.

    Again most of us masturbate and are use to a certain tempo/stroke speed to get off so again being able to control the speed is great.

    It's actually one of the reasons why CIM is so hard for me. The tempo of the bbbj usually don't match my preferred speed which is quicker.

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    Same here : )
    For me it is good in the beginning but when they start fake moaning I find it hard to get turned on
    Note(im mid 20's)
    That is why I like quick short session, pump and go

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    Another low post count, no account, accountÖcould be that the OP has a really long cock so it takes quite a while to travel from the inner workings of the testicle along his large mastiff quivering rod, Where it may finally work its way free,

    Along with your long time and long length you should be anything but sorrowful.. have you thought to try intense anal prostate stimulation , while looking at a picture of your favourite primary school teacher?

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    Hello OP,

    Donít worry, this is a common problem and it is very easy to fix,
    Try to not touch yourself for 14 days, donít even touch porn.
    This alone can fix your problem but you have to have self control and will power.
    Socialise with friends of both sexes, go and have a holiday for your mind.
    I confident when you come back you be cumming like Pete North.

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    Quote Originally Posted by jenlai29 View Post
    Hi brothers,

    I've been punting weekly since Dec 2020.

    However, I'm having a massive issue that's been
    taking a toll on my sex life.

    I take too long to finish. For example, I would book a girl at a shop and ask for 90mins. I'm not too sure if it's the consistency or maybe because I've been seeing different girls on the regular. But for a couple of sessions, after intercourse for a couple of positions my WL and I would get tired and she or I would finish me off with a HJ.

    I've tried using Okamoto 0.02 condoms but for a couple of times, I would never finish through intercourse. The last session I've finished inside a WL was when she gave me a HJ and gave me a few pumps inside her.

    I'd like to have a normal sex life but it is a journey and maybe you guys have some tips! Thank you!
    How old are you?

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    Why try a few massages (ML) first and get your 'Eye In" (so to speak) and perhaps you become more relaxed. You might be building the whole event up to much.

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    Sounds, good I'll defs concentrate on how it feels.

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    Quote Originally Posted by 1inchguy View Post
    The other day when I had a massage from a regular. I took me longer than usual to come. Not sure if it was me but her HJ technique was boring and do anything else to get me over the edge. Wasnt exciting anymore. So I'm gonna go somewhere else
    I thoroughly enjoy this WL atm. But I will take that into consideration.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DoMoSan View Post
    Hopefully it is not emotional intimacy that you are after to climax cuz it will a regular to build the type of intimacy to go further.
    But like everyone said. If itís in the mind.. then change your mindset. Donít focus on cumming.. and just relax and enjoy the session and that might change the outcome. And donít forget to try position you are most comfortable with.
    Enjoy.
    Maybe I didn't realise that I was after emotional initmacy this whole time. Now I think about it I'm really craving to see her mainly for the attention she gives me during a session.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AHLUNGOR View Post
    Can you cum within a reasonable time if BBBJ ?
    BBBJ feels good but I haven't felt a need to cum.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoldfishMan View Post
    Could be a mental thing. I've had it before when after a particularly bad sex experience (not necessarily punting), it plays on my mind in my next sex sessions. I start to second guess myself if I can truly enjoy myself, whether I can get over the line, etc. Then that seed of doubt becomes a self fulfilling prophecy, it causes the sex to be bad simply because of the doubt.
    One way I found that can fix it is a "circuit breaker". Just abstain (including self-help) for an extended period of time. How long this is depends on how frequently you usually have sex. If you normally do it once a week, maybe take a month or 2 off sex. Just to give your head the time to forget the bad experience.
    To be honest, I agree with your reply. One of the WL mentioned maybe you're having too much sex. You should take time off. I'll take some time off even from masturbating.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Meng View Post
    A few things. Do you masturbate alot? If so try and stop masturbating for maybe 1-2 days before punting your dick will be sensitive as fuck. The other thing to try is that when you're ready to cum pick a position where you can control the tempo of the pumps easily without getting tired.

    Again most of us masturbate and are use to a certain tempo/stroke speed to get off so again being able to control the speed is great.

    It's actually one of the reasons why CIM is so hard for me. The tempo of the bbbj usually don't match my preferred speed which is quicker.
    Thank you for your reply Meng, I'm a big fan of your ARs.

    I masturbate 1-2 times a week. I agree with that, I'll try to abstain for a bit then get back into it. That's a good way to put it Meng. Setting yourself up into a position so that you can control the tempo should work.

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