Reply With QuoteHave you tried praying?
Being near holiness and sanctity would dispel any dirty thought.
Hi,
I have done several punts with both WL and ML and all have been disappointing since they couldn't take me to the finish line unless I took over. I am a regular masturbator so it might be the problem.
I want to ask what are your advice on what is wrong with me or any secret that may get me that satisfaction from someone other than my left hand.
Cheers.
Have you tried praying?
Being near holiness and sanctity would dispel any dirty thought.
You're probably over thinking it. And then you're becoming your own worst enemy by making it a self-fulfilling prophecy that it hasn't worked and you've had to do it yourself, and so that's what will happen again.
Just a guess without knowing details.
Be less focussed on the destination and just enjoy the experience. Know what turns you on and works for you from a partner. That's a couple of suggestions to try and run with.
17 more posts … does anyone else call you a wanker ?Originally Posted by 00Eibwen
Stop wanking too much then.
Stop wanking so much, you've desensitised your dick, and you're too reliant on your own rhythm
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Switch to your right hand
Go for a girl that really turns you on, don't go with someone just for the hell of it.
Dammit I have the opposite problem but with the same habit of regular wanking. I thought the desensitization would kick in but it’s not the case at all.
Tbh I don’t know which of us is worse off!
Can you share more details?
Thanks for the reply.
Firstly, each punt was a good experience and I do enjoy the process. I pick the ladies recommended from this forum and ladies of my type. I thought it was a nervous thing but after a couple more time has made me question myself or I thought my imagination exceed reality.
To another response, you would be the first one to call me a wanker.
How would the right hand help?
How long does it take to desensitizes?
Lastly, what is the opposite to my problem?
I was only joking about the right hand, bro. It ain't gonna help your situation!
Seriously, what others have said about rhythm is spot on. Everyone looks down on masturbation like it's a humiliating thing to do, but in reality it is a thing of beauty. It's a spectacular display of hand-eye-and-brain coordination. If you've been doing it for a long time very frequently, no real life sex can ever compare to the feeling you can get from doing it yourself. You just know what your dick wants, when he wants it, and at what level of pressure, etc.
And don't be ashamed about it, all of us have the same problem to a certain degree, you just have it much worse than us.
So I think your problem is you focus on the dick feels too much and don't allow yourself to enjoy the other aspects of fucking. Take in the girls' reactions. Feel her warm body against your body. Use your eyes, enjoy the sight of that sexy real-life body being skewered by your cock. Use your mouth and nose to lick, kiss, breath in her womanly scent. Take it all in and enjoy all of it bro!
Or you might be addicted to porn. You can try playing some porn on your phone during the session, I'm sure they wouldn't mind.
Thanks for the advice. Look like I will need to put more attention to the lady on my next punt.
The reason I am asking because like most guys, FFM is a bucket list thing. No point doing the bucket list if I haven't master the normal ones.
I agree there is no shame with the left or right hand. When it is for free and ready when you are, it is shameful to complain. But also like you said, it can't replace the touch of an attractive woman skin or their voluptuous breast jiggly or their captivating smell.
I don't do kissing though. I was told to avoid it for STI purposes which I don't get why there is so much DFK in the forum.
May take this chance to desensitise myself since lockdown is gonna take a while. Any tips or secret with the desensitizing? And how long will it take?
Shame that you don't do kissing. It does add a lot of mood to the punt, really amplifies the physical attraction if there was any. But you are right, you can catch a lot of stuff from kissing, not just STIs.
Tbh, now is the worst possible time for you to try to "desensitize". We're in lockdown, you can't go anywhere, you left hand is now your only source of relief. Put it off for after the lockdown, bro.
Kissing for me is a sure fire way to get me over the line. Get me involved with passionate kissing and it will absolutely turn me up a gear.
What can you also catch from kissing other than STI??
The flu, COVID, stomach bug, etc. You're exchanging body fluids, of course there are risks when you do that.
Any number of viral or bacterial infections. If they've got a cold it's yours now. Tonsilitis, glandular fever, tooth decay and gum disease, meningitis, hpv, flu, respiratory viruses etc. Of course some of these are extremely rare.
But it also has benefits of metabolic boost, stress reduction and of course emotional bonding.
If you're not sure of their hygiene don't partake. It helps to make sure your own oral hygiene is on point as well. Flossing regularly is key. I also dip a pikster in Listerine and use it, really gets in those gaps and kills germs.
Oh yeah if there's a gastro going around be careful for sure.
Oh right. I forget about those. Most is curable or manageable. Nothing that make you feel shame for catching it.
I have never kissed before and there is no self help method so don't know it's important in the process. Probably I should break my rule or ask if they have taken an STI test to reduce my worry.
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