So when I read papasan the first time I had envisaged someone more around the age of the university lecturer. I've seen the term boysan thrown around a little. Sounds like a better fit in this scenario.
In any case, good luck to OP.
So when I read papasan the first time I had envisaged someone more around the age of the university lecturer. I've seen the term boysan thrown around a little. Sounds like a better fit in this scenario.
In any case, good luck to OP.
Yes, correct. I thought the term Papasan here referred to the male owner of the shop or the owner’s trusted manager. In any case, it means trusted male elder. If it was a real papasan, there would be issues with the power and wealth imbalance and of course him trying to conceal a homo relationship from Big Boss. If he’s only a uni kid who sits on reception part time, then there’s no risk, so just go for it. Jeez, the kid might as well work in shoe shop.
Thanks for your comments.
There’s a theory that states in order to determine the age of Asian women, you first guess their age and then add 15 years. Does the same apply to Asian men?
Anyway Ive concluded that either the sugar daddy is an insecure individual or the papasan/boysan is a player and therefore the sugar daddy has a reason to be suspicious.
Though this makes me think about the number of stories where the script is flipped.
A common theme I’ve noticed from the “Dating a WL/ML” threads is that obsessive behaviour, infatuation, clinginess and neediness, and passive stalking (whether intended or unintended) is rampant amongst some punters eg some people know the full history of their WLs, their rosters, all the shops they work in and were they’ve previously worked, the various names and aliases they go by, where they live, who they live with, their life etc etc…….just saying.
I just don’t get it, what makes people behave that way?
Did they have a controlled and possessive upbringing?
Are they insecure about their sexuality and ability to find new relationships?
Have they always struggled to find partners so the first attractive WL that treats them well they become infatuated and obsessed?
I’ll be keen to hear the thoughts of the seasoned and experienced members or those that have walked this path.
I'm far from a seasoned vet, but this is my opinion.
People are weird man, and there is a bunch of oxytocin being released during sex that makes you feel amazing, that not everyone has a great deal of experience with that in a "casual" sense.
Some people see sex as a very intimate affair reserved only for a lover, others are able to compartmentalise it as "just fucking" and not develop an emotion bond from the experience.
I fell it's the former of the two that display the behaviours you described. Their way of thinking isn't a healthy approach to this hobby, and I feel you might be right regarding their ability to developing new relationships in general.
Most of the blame is to be held with the 'Jon' who lacks experience with such interactions, but also some of the blame must be attributed to the WL/ML who may lay it on a little too thick during the booking in an attempt to secure return business.
Overall, I feel like inexperience is the answer to your question. Mainly not being able to differentiate between "love" and "fucking".
Additionally, the relationship these guys have with the WL/ML is never equal, he might only see her, but she will see many, so the infatuation will mostly be stronger in one direction.