Originally Posted by
BennyB
There are a few questions around why Sugarbabes? Why not just pick a GF or a professional SW?
For those who are interested, I’ll give you my take on it from the perspective of 3 years of pretty much full time Sugarbabe punting.
Firstly, I am not exclusive with anyone and I will never aim to be. I do currently have more than one Sugarbabe I see and prefer to keep it that way.
Before I came across Sugarbabes, I spent much of my hard earned cash on Locanto, Frontpage, E&B and Scarlet Blue. I experienced the highs and the lows of these platforms and while I did have some good experiences, my punts were largely hit and miss. "Thats why it's punting" I would be told with a knowing shrug. But what if it did not have to be?
What led me down the path of Sugarbabes was an experience I had in Canada back in 2018. It with an Agency girl who had been in the game for all of a week. We spent a raunchy, sex fueled long-weekend for comparatively very little money. It wasn't a one hour escort hook-up and it wasn't an affair. It was like a hybrid of the two and I frankly wanted more experiences like it. As I’m married, I don’t want the risks of an affair, but I like 4+ hour sessions and it’s too expensive to do that with Caucasian privates. So what other options were out there?
After my trip abroad, I jumped back into the world of private escorts and brothels as that was all I knew in Australia. I found myself bumping up against three nagging disappointments:
Time clock and rate card - Sex with a private or in a brothel is all about the rate card and the clock. You cannot escape them. I personally prefer longer experiences where two people are immersed in their fun and the pricing is not dependent on time. Call me old fashioned, but I like a little wine, seduction and foreplay before multiple rounds of sex. I also like to shower and cuddle together with a gorgeous, interesting woman afterwards.
The bait and switch - its happened so many times with escorts for me to go back. I find it's not just in the Asian market anymore as anyone can photoshop their images, or post a photo of themselves from an old photo shoot. I like to meet a woman for a coffee, or a drink before deciding if we are both attracted to each other enough to want to go ahead and sleep with each other.
The sex worker routine - being in a queue of guys a WL is servicing that day, the wet shower doormat from the previous guy, health checks, taking my money before the service is provided, setting the clock by the bedside table, upselling me in the middle of it, the half hearted kissing (DFK anyone?), trying to get me to cum as quick as she can. These are all passion killers for me.
If you ask "Why bother with Sugarbabes - I could just have an affair?" or, “I could go onto Tinder for that and get it for free?”, well those are good questions and these are my responses:
1. Competition - There is more male competition in a bar than on a Sugarbabe platform. When you are over 40, picking up a 20-something hot woman in a bar is no longer as easy as it used to be. Even if you are under 40, you are up against a lot of competition. On the Sugarbabe platforms its 4:1 (girls to guys) and that's worth thinking about.
2. It's not a relationship - Dating Sugarbabes is not like having an affair and I’m thankful for that. Having an affair would be disastrous for me - I would probably fall in love, or get caught. I’m a romantic and like to play that role in my arrangements. Most Sugarbabes, if properly vetted, are not looking to be your mistress or your next relationship. You set the consensual boundaries that work for you and that forms the basis of your arrangement. How many 20-something girls have you met in a bar who are looking for a no-strings, no-risk affair with a 40+ guy?
3. Tinder and other dating sites are too risky - I’ve found too many friends and co-workers on these sites. If you are married or partnered, you can’t run the risk of showing your face. It’s counterproductive as, if you don’t show your face, then its assumed you are just looking for a hook-up or an affair. On Sugarbabe platforms, the women don’t expect you to show your face as they know the deal and they understand your need for discretion.
In summary I see that the Sugarbabe platforms offer me this:
1. discretion;
2. a regular stream of new, hot young women that I can authenticate in person before I spend;
3. A fun, lighthearted and potentially ongoing connection without a relationship; and
4. Great value for money when I’m spending 4-6 hours with them (and sometimes away on business trips for days at a time)
It may not be for everyone, but for me I have had a lot of fun over the years and still am. I just wish I had figured this out earlier in my life.
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