Have you guys ever gone through periods where you've gone for punts several times a week but you feel like you're doing it out of habit rather than enjoyment? That you're addicted to the process rather than the punt itself?
In the last 7 days, I have gone punting 7 times. On two of those days, I went twice. While I'm sure there are others who do a lot more than I do, for me this is a lot. In the past, I might have gone once every couple of months, or every couple of weeks if there was a girl I was into.
My usual routine is that I browse this forum, I see a good review or something that piques my interest enough in a shop to give it a try, I book and then I go. That's the usual process for a lot of guys I imagine, but recently I feel like it's become some sort of rote thing for me.
Don't get me wrong - I still enjoy the sexual aspect of it. In the moment, I feel the thrill meeting a new girl and seeing what she can do. But before and after I see the girl, I just kind of feel hollow about the whole thing and meanwhile I'm burning through cash that I should be using otherwise responsibly.
Just interested in other people's experiences.
Hey Friend,
Life is too busy to punt at the moment personally, but wanted to say the symptoms you described I have seen with some of my vices that turned into addictions, in particular the hollow feeling after the event.
I'm happy to point you in the direction to road of recovery, just send us a PM/DM.
Cheers
Yep had exactly the same experience, self discipline has curbed my habit. A
Maybe try finding a real girlfriend? Or any passion/sport? See your friends, keep busy with work etc...? Read books?
Basically try to keep your mind busy.
I know it's hard these days as we are nit meant to socialise.
On the other hand if you get hard and horny that often it means you are healthy! It's good to realise that too: health is important!
Having said all these basics stuff if you really feel addicted ask a professional starting with your GP. They won't judge you and if they do who cares?
Good luck mate!
Wouldn’t say addicted to the process, but certainly am to the outcome. Mind you I’m a once a week punter you are operating in a different league to me
I turned into a once a week punt lately, but I’m trying to keep busy, meet up with non punt friends hang out all night so there won’t be a chance for me to creep to a massage shop, good thing most closed at 8pm so once 8pm hits and I’m not in the shop than I’m cleared.
Right now I want to reduce to once a month. Yes even with once a week I do feel like I’m addicted, constantly looking at roaster throughout the week and plan my next trip. I mean I’m constantly looking at this forum for new ideas as well. Maybe reduce phone time on their WeChat and websites.
I only really started this during covid, which I feel I was doing out of boredom more than anything, the restrictions also made dating near impossible.
But once the gyms, and the rest of society, opened back up my normal afternoon hobbies resumed and I found the time to partake in this hobby severely reduced, and so did my urge to continue with it.
For a while I was doing it quite often, but I think this will just be left as my “Covid hobby”.
So, pretty much to parrot one of the replies above, get a hobby that occupies your free time and you might feel the urge, or compulsion, will subside.
Good luck bro.
Hi mate, as others have said, try to occupy your mind/time with other things. I think it would be good if you don't browse this forum for a while to snap out of your usual routine.
Me too, I'm a once a week guy. Been RnT (been to VC Broadway this morning) mostly but only recently started FS. Find myself looking at the roster most days. Turning into a bit of an obsession.Originally Posted by Candy1234
Is it just me or does anyone else go on this forum and check the rosters first thing in the morning even if they have no intention of punting that day?
Like others it was something I picked up during COVID times, but I'm by no means addicted. I go once every month or two but I can see how people can become addicted and let it spiral. Probably helps for me that I don't earn enough to make it a more common thing! Wish you the best in getting more control over things.
I've never had a girlfriend, hooked up or even dated a girl before and have a pretty dead social life so I would consider myself to be institutionalised by the institution of prostitution (that's what it is at the end of the day) for a variety of reasons. So I can definitely relate to what the OP said about being addicted to the process rather than the punt itself out of boredom and just making a "hobby" out of it.
In saying that, I do have it under control in the spending department.
Yes, agreed. I don’t punt on week days as I get really tired from work and some times it’s harder for me to stay solid down there so weekend punting is for me. Week days is when I plan, check roasters, this forum, advanced Googling the girl I want to see lol if I apply that amount of effort in improving life I may come up with a million dollar idea.
I’ve deleted WeChat a few times during this month but downloaded it again lol yes obsession indeed.
Get yourself a tropical fish tank. Every time I feel like going to a parlour I just give my fish tank a good clean which often takes up 2-3 hours.
It has saved me $500 a week.
You need to try and limit yourself, try once a week for starters and extend from there. And as others have pointed out stop checking the forum and delete wechat, keep your mind busy...work more put in some overtime it'll keep you away from brothels and make you money.
My level of sarcasm depends on your level of stupidity.
Ah the old fish tank of yours, how many times have you cleaned it in the 3 months you've been an active "punter', or is the "fish tank" a metaphor for a blow up doll....
Thanks for your responses so far guys.
Yeah, this is me. Or worse, I don't intend to go punting, see something on the forum and then end up going punting.
I think I need to buckle down and just not visit the forum for a couple of days and distract myself with other hobbies. Thanks again for the feedback, everyone.
My approach to punting is the same as my approach to everything in life.
If I do something I do it full on and enjoy it, but if I decide not to do it then I just don't.
Maybe I just don't have an addictive personality. I don't know what craving or withdrawal or whatever is or feels like.
They say it's all in your genes and brain chemistry.
Some peoples DNA, biochemistry, neurons, whatever it is just makes them easily susceptible to getting addicted to whatever and some peoples doesn't.
I hear ya. I don't know how many times I tell myself in the morning "going for a punt straight after work today" but at days end am mentally exhausted and no longer in the mood. I go Monday mornings as it is my day off and no rush. Wechat is so tempting. The pics of the girls. I find myself scrolling everyday when I get a break.
You may need a distraction.
I feel like picking up learning to play guitar again. Once I did a shoot for a band. I asked the vocalist why did he take up music? His replay was, "Music is good for the soul." I remembered it until today.
Cool story bro.
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