Reply With Quotecheating or not cheating...who cares? Life is not so black and white.
Strike a nerve? I guess ya not single with no hasslesOriginally Posted by verbatim2
Chill out dude
cheating or not cheating...who cares? Life is not so black and white.
I'm sure this subject has been brought up a few times in the past. Speaking as a married person, I consider it cheating only if you keep it a secret from your partner, as I do. Do I feel guilty! A little I do. But for me punting is completely a sexual thing. Go in, do my business and want to get out as quick as possible. I virtually hate that moment after coming when an ML/WL feels they need to make up the time left with conversation. I don't need to pay a person to talk to me. 30 mins sessions with WLs is all im doing from now on. As I don't wank any more, I consider punting the same as masturbating. Is it considered cheating if you masturbate to porn without your partner knowing?
Cheating means not honest. If you go brothel and tell your partner "i will go brothel have a relax", that is not cheating. To tell any other excuse, then it is cheating.
My situation is similar to that. I hooked up with my current partner at a time in my life when I was being completely reckless about my love life. All I wanted to do was fuck as many young girls I could get. I divorced my ex-wife and one of the things I did was I told her all about my punting activities in an effort to make her see what a monster I was (didn't work, she wanted to continue). After that marriage ended, every GF I had I just let them know I punt because I didn't want to get hitched. It was a stretch of a few years when I went absolutely bonkers.
Then I partnered up with my current partner. She's had the same treatment as all the others, she knew I punt from almost the beginning of our relationship, but even so, would I just let it all hang out like I did back then?
I'm older and much more lazy now. I wouldn't do what I did back then unless I wanted my relationships to be just for fun and to end quickly. Then what? SBs? Nah... Too much work, and it's probably not going to be better sex than with my partner.
Nicely put V2 but i would suggest "using a WL while in a relationship" is not necessarily" sad" but often necessary for the mental health of the punter......
As woodland said .. life is not black & white ... the question is does your partner prefer your keep your punting secret from her ?? often the answer is yes.
Many Asian wives are realistic and understand men have needs! Especially if the husband is half wealthy and can provide her and the family a comfortable life. They won’t tolerate an affairs with the secretary or having a mistress but casual sex on the side or a massage with HE is something they might considering acceptable at least their man is getting a release , stop them from having an affairs or breaking up the marriage .
So many Chinese and Hong Kong soaps opera movie and TV series have got that covered.
I guess we have to define what cheating is. For me itÂ’s theres 2 parts, emotional (texting, on going chat) and physical (sex, bbbj, Hj).
Emotion is a bit worse in my opinion. ThatÂ’s the type of people that divorces their wife out of the blue. The physical is just as bad for some women, although some may be concerned about more people knowing, rather than the sex aspect.
At the end of the day you have to live to your decisions. If you are cheating and donÂ’t feel like thatÂ’s a problem, be sure to treat your partner better then that hooker.
I think it's cheating, but just make sure you go home and be that good husband
Agree with Ahlungor 100%. As the OP noted, his ex was ok as long as it was just sex. Emotional cheating vs the physical. It's safe to say that even in open relationships, when emotions get in the way, there's no coming back.
But diff people, diff thresholds. I don't think it's true that all Chinese wives are accepting of punting but then not all Caucasian wives wont accept their husband getting a ML handjob once in a while.
Most importantly is how we all feel about our partners - if we always come back to them no matter how great the punt was then awesome. If we using punting to replace the black hole of a relationship at home (no pun intended) then maybe have a think about whether it's time to call time on it.
when i was younger i would have said yes straight away, as i get older and being divorced now, my answer is its not so clear anymore.
We punt because we have needs and life sometimes isn't what it should be.
You need to make the decision what you want to do and whether it affects your situation.
My partner, like myself, has had many sexual partners before we met each other. She never considers those she had sex with previously a great partner like myself because I push all the right emotional buttons in her. Also she doesn't seem to question if I am dipping my dick in other girl's pussies when we're not together, and I don't question her physical loyalty either.
Not sure what will happen when we tie the knot later on. I feel the closer we eventually get she might get super jealous if she knows that I'm rooting behind her back. I guess I have to pick a second "wife" that she'll approve for whenever she's unavailable for bedroom fun. Would be better if the second wife would be able to join us for a threesome.
I'm not Muslim but one side of my family had practiced polygamy up until 100 years ago when it is finally made illegal worldwide (except for Muslim countries). My partner makes jokes that if my ancestors were able to have more than one wife then she should also be able to have more than one boyfriend - myself, and her vibrator collection LOL
Kind of hard to pass on the STI when you never have sex to begin withCatching an STI and passing to your partner is a bit of a give away if anyone has a doubt.
The oldest profession is such for good reasons, but religions have been trying to put rules on what men have been needing to do for millennia. Monogamy avoided the risk of infecting the tribe. Thank you Mr Flemming and the advancement in medicine.
Of course it’s cheating. The question is, whether the relationship circumstance justifies it, everyone’s situation is different.
Who invented the concept of "cheating"? Religion? Because way back there existed communities who would share their bodies sexually to sexually matured members of the community as long as it is consented and done in a safe manner, and it doesn't matter if they're already married or not. Call them the swinger community. Even in ancient Rome there was a point in time where sex was easily accessible that no one wants to get married, and the Roman government had to ban adultery so that people would get married and grow the already dwindling population of Rome.
Cool, but we aren’t in Ancient Rome so for the purposes of this threads context, I would say it constitutes as modern day cheating.
Cheating is a sin. In ancient time you'll be hang by your balls and stoned to death.
Never do it or repent and confess to a priest and redeem your sin.
Amen.
I'm beginning to feel like this lol. I've had friends inviting me to go clubbing at The Argyle just so that they can learn from me how to pick up chicks. These days I'm too lazy to try and impress a girl although I do want to get naked with them and shoot ropes of cum, but my current partner does it way better than any girl or WL I've ever met that I don't feel the need to find more short term partners. Unless it's to find me a second wife...
Modern day cheating is too complicated. Even just talking to another girl without having sex can be considered cheating if done intimately. If that's the case then I've actually cheated more than I thought because I've had intimate conversations with colleagues and third party clients more than the amount of girls or WLs I've had sex with.
What is intimate conversations? Sometimes it involves a bit of sex talk, sometimes we share some feelings, talk about things only shared between husbands and wives, the only thing we didn't do is say "Do you want to start a relationship with me and have sex later?"
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