Profiling My ML, Her BF & Her Sister...

[RLC]

Can I please clarify if you were born in 1976 or you are 76 CMK? If the latter there are some rather inevitable nearer term consequences to consider?

Do you have family and a will drawn up out of curiosity? I would think asset protection for your family and your choice of new partner would be relevant and early in the thought process, so much so it may render you preferring to remain single?

If he’s 76 then just go for it. Put all your assets in a trust so they cannot be touched and go out in style.

[tpol]

Can I please clarify if you were born in 1976 or you are 76 CMK? If the latter there are some rather inevitable nearer term consequences to consider?

Do you have family and a will drawn up out of curiosity? I would think asset protection for your family and your choice of new partner would be relevant and early in the thought process, so much so it may render you preferring to remain single?

He probably created his login 10 years ago. He's 86 now

[GoldfishMan]

He probably created his login 10 years ago. He's 86 now

Hahaha… I was thinking of a funny way to put it but you’ve done it beautifully!

[cmk76]

There's a common saying and it is best not to get involved with single mums. If you have been with one you will know what you will encounter and why intelligent or sensible men tend to avoid them.

Before anyone jumps on the high horse to defend single mums let me say there are many single mums who are great women who work hard and care about their kids. They can be very caring and loveable. Yes the sex with single mums may be amazing when they are really horny at times but there are more matters to be aware of that may cloud your judgement about getting involved with single mums.

Firstly, you need to consider where you will be in a relationship with a single mum down the track. Her kids will always come first and you will be second. There will be baggage issues with the previous ex partner if he is still around and the in-laws who want to protect their kids from strangers. Sometimes when there is a mixed relationship, in-laws can be very critical and scathing of people who are not the same ethnicity as them. These are some points you need to be aware of before entering into a relationship with a single mum.

Yes. I have thought about the relationship with the mother as one. And potentially having one with the son should the day comes...

I've had another relationship in the past with a single mum, who had a son under 5. This was roughly 5 odd years ago. I wasn't interested in the son that much but she was talking alot about him. When he spends time with his dad, I would spend time with her...

In hindsight, she may have been looking for a replacement dad, just remembering the things she would indirectly suggest. But, she would never say it outright. I think she was happy with having a boyfriend and sharing her son with the ex. It worked, and I was just going with the flow. This lasted a year until we called it quits...

I can't say I'm experienced in dating single mums, but I seem to attract them, or are attracted to them! Daisy is a day by day case at the moment...

[cmk76]

The other problem he may have is after going through all the effort of getting accepted by the mother he's then got to go through the same or more of an effort to get accepted by the son who (by working through his profile) would be a young teen by now.
Having had his mother's undivided love and attention for all these years he suddenly finds that he may have to share her with someone, and depending how old he was when his father left (and how bitter the divorce was) he may resent any new man in his mother's life.

Weren't you the one who suggested that I was over thinking it and just go with the flow?! Lol! Now, should I profile the son and add him in the equation too?!

[cmk76]

Can I please clarify if you were born in 1976 or you are 76 CMK? If the latter there are some rather inevitable nearer term consequences to consider?

Do you have family and a will drawn up out of curiosity? I would think asset protection for your family and your choice of new partner would be relevant and early in the thought process, so much so it may render you preferring to remain single?

I was born in 76. I'm not 76. I have my assets and will in order. It's early days to think about this factor in the relationship. But, I get it. It might creep up on me before I know it...

[cmk76]

It's a trap bro. Run. You male instinct is right. Don't get involved. Single life is best life. I wouldn't trade anything for that freedom.

I've fallen into traps time and time again. I never learn, so you could say I'm a glutton for punishment. I like the complexity of relationships. I'm always attracted to complicated and uncertainty...

My previous traps include, fathering a kid at 13, dating a single mum ML, dating an ice addict WL, dating a high class uni escort, dating two non working best friends from Thailand, at separate times of course...

There will be a day when I have to stop running, because I'm getting tired. Things might be coming full circle for me. Maybe, I'm craving a little normality in my life? Plus, memoirs make good writing and reading for the next generation about cmk76's secret punting life?

[cmk76]

And to add to that, from personal experience.
So the kid accepts you, forms a bond with you, and then you break up and the kid is affected as well, it's like a break up for them too...
But we're getting ahead of ourselves here, there are many bridges for cmk to cross before these conversations need to be had. I have a friend who is divorced with kids, met a guy who'd never been married nor had kids, they are incredibly happy and he has taken those kids on as his own and loves them dearly, and they him. He never tries to replace their real dad, but is just a real stand up father figure type for them, it can work, it just depends on the circumstances.

This gives me hope. It sounds ideal. I'm most often than not a half glass full kind of guy. Even when all the warning signs are in front of me. I always try to make best of every situation that I find myself in...

[asiafever]

This gives me hope. It sounds ideal. I'm most often than not a half glass full kind of guy. Even when all the warning signs are in front of me. I always try to make best of every situation that I find myself in...

It's a good attitude to have. Keep moving forwards.

[dotcumdotinyou]

Sorry cmk but to add another profile to the list...

What about her ex, how close is he to his son? How would he react to another male in his son's life? How would he react to another male disciplining his son? How would he react if you went to a father son function?

Now I'm overthinking it for you!

[inoverdrive]

Mickey, has to be the most patient man on earth, if he's ok with minnie still doing what she does...

AS for dating Daisey, no harm in seeing how it goes.. but everyone here has some pretty sound advice on the subject already or some experiences...

Good luck

[cmk76]

http://www.aus99forum.com/showthread...Younger-Sister