Can't Cum

[FatStache]

To second Goldfish man, absence makes the heart grow fonder and the dick grow stronger.

I can almost guarantee you felt bored and lost your boner partly due to your porn use. The other part was probably nerves and unmet expectations. Your thoughts on the blowjob and pussy are normal when you're new to sex. Think of it like alcohol: the first few times you try it, you don't get what the fuss is about; after a while though, you acquire the taste and there's no turning back.

[PKING2]

To second Goldfish man, absence makes the heart grow fonder and the dick grow stronger.

I can almost guarantee you felt bored and lost your boner partly due to your porn use. The other part was probably nerves and unmet expectations. Your thoughts on the blowjob and pussy are normal when you're new to sex. Think of it like alcohol: the first few times you try it, you don't get what the fuss is about; after a while though, you acquire the taste and there's no turning back.

Yeah I agree with that.
When I read his story, remind me my first punt years ago.

Not enough sleep and can't get hard enough while inside the wl, and end up not finnish. And feels meh, but as I keep going. It become more enjoyable,and now become addictition. Lol

@op
Like I said before, don't feels down, plenty of the bros here had been there before.
Maybe you need to have longer session.
Or maybe you need some new experience , like after you pounding and feels your knee hurst or tired, try pulled of and ask for cim, and you wanking your self until you almost blow the load and tell her almost the time and ask her to bj you. Maybe with the new sensation like this you have something to chase as a target. But in time for hopefully you can get the deed done under 1 hour.

But same suggestion, abstain from wanking and porn. If you want jerk off, use a lot of lube and do it slow, because in reality vagina muscle and mouth muscle cannot keep to hand muscle. You need to adjust your body back to normal.

Good luck

[CharlieM]

I'm sorry to tell you this Gimmesome but I really think you should get a massage from a male. Maybe tell the massage dude straight up what's been happening...if you get the guts to get to part 2 and you cum...then maybe pussy isn't for you.
Don't mean to be harsh but it sounds unusual to me that a healthy young guy can't cum. Even if you wanked 3 times the day before.

[FatStache]

Hey @gimmesome, can't PM you because you haven't posted enough. I think you need 10 posts to be able to send/receive PMs.

[GoldfishMan]

I'm sorry to tell you this Gimmesome but I really think you should get a massage from a male. Maybe tell the massage dude straight up what's been happening...if you get the guts to get to part 2 and you cum...then maybe pussy isn't for you.
Don't mean to be harsh but it sounds unusual to me that a healthy young guy can't cum. Even if you wanked 3 times the day before.

Pretty sure he’s straight or at least can go both ways. He wanks to straight porn. If you’re gay, there’s no way you can be aroused by any female, regardless if it’s animated or RL.

[CharlieM]

Pretty sure he’s straight or at least can go both ways. He wanks to straight porn. If you’re gay, there’s no way you can be aroused by any female, regardless if it’s animated or RL.

Some guys who wank to straight porn are gay or bi but just don't know it yet. You could be looking at the cock whilst watching porn and getting turned on but don't notice it. The other thing he mentioned is that he is attracted to the tomboy look. This strikes me as unusual. Also he has stated that he is not excited leading up to going to do the deed and neither excited whilst doing the deed. Im in my late 50s, and get excited. I've cum everytime I've paid a visit to a ML/WL regardless if sometimes I've been semi hard to soft as the girl is not really pushing all the right buttons or im not feeling it. And yes I still get nervous everytime.
I'm not saying that he's 100% gay, But it just doesn't sound right to me.

[PKING2]

Pretty sure he is not a gay, if you read slowly, he get aroused playing with the pussy.

[cuteguy]

In fairness to the guy, it can happen that you just lose your mojjo with someone. It could be the case that the girl is not pretty or when she removes her clothes her body is not appealing or a turn on for you such as C scar or large tattoos. Sometimes you need some stimulation or touching of a girl's body to turn you on and when the girl refuses you access then you lose interest.

[dotcumdotinyou]

In fairness to OP even he admits to nerves, he probably just needs to relax a bit

[gimmesome]

Thanks again for the support and advice. Though it seems I have manged to make some brothers upset or maybe they just think they're comedians

Less porn and wanking. More Punting Experience
I'm hearing it loud n clear. Less porn and less wanking, especially leading up to the punt is going to help as is getting some more experience under the belt.

Try a prostate massage and see if that will get you to climax, its a different sensation and orgasm type all together in my experience.
There are a few MLs who can do it quite good as well.

Thanks of the tip Sampler. I'll be sure to try it some time when I'm feeling adventurous or if all else fails lol.

A couple of things you could’ve done better there, bro OP. For one thing, quit with the wanking for a while especially at least 2 days before the punt. Be the king of your castle, stay thy hand. Think of your dick like it’s a hungry Python. Once you’ve fed it, it’ll go to sleep. Simple no?

Secondly, you were ogling at one girl, found out that she was off, then made an on-the-fly decision to pick another as a replacement. No bro, that’s a recipe for disaster. Even if the girl was hot, at the back of your mind you’ll be kicking yourself for missing out on the other girl. You will be moping about “this is not my choice!”. Do not force yourself to pick another, go back to the drawing board if you have to. It’ll only add to your orgasm when you have it.

Thanks again for the advice GoldfishMan. I did feel a little disappointed and I probably rush the decision a bit but it wasn't like a case of bait n switch or the agent pushing me to another girl. I knew the first one wasn't available and I chose the second one later on i.e. a few days after finding out the original choice had disappeared. Have you got any more tips or wisdom you could share on making a good pick?

Hey @gimmesome, can't PM you because you haven't posted enough. I think you need 10 posts to be able to send/receive PMs.

Yeah all my posts are showing up really delayed too (usually the morning after I post) because it seems mods need to approve them all. Might try numerous smaller post instead of making mega posts to help hit the quota faster. Will probably make it easier to read my responses too.

[gimmesome]

Pretty sure he’s straight or at least can go both ways. He wanks to straight porn. If you’re gay, there’s no way you can be aroused by any female, regardless if it’s animated or RL.

If I was gay or could go both ways I think I'd have a much easier time getting casual fun ha! That being said, my gay friends didn't seem very promiscuous, they've only had monogamous relationships AFAIK.

Some guys who wank to straight porn are gay or bi but just don't know it yet. You could be looking at the cock whilst watching porn and getting turned on but don't notice it. The other thing he mentioned is that he is attracted to the tomboy look. This strikes me as unusual. Also he has stated that he is not excited leading up to going to do the deed and neither excited whilst doing the deed. Im in my late 50s, and get excited. I've cum everytime I've paid a visit to a ML/WL regardless if sometimes I've been semi hard to soft as the girl is not really pushing all the right buttons or im not feeling it. And yes I still get nervous everytime.
I'm not saying that he's 100% gay, But it just doesn't sound right to me.

Well tranny, trap, futanari etc. porn doesn't excite me and IRL I've never been able to feel any excitement from men. For tomboys I think it's more a dislike of people that are overly emotional and needy, and like to act dumb (or actually are dumb) and other typically "feminine" behaviours. [Edit: For me tomboy is a personality primarily, not a look] I'd prefer someone I can have fun together with, not a brain dead pet. Also, why do lesbians have to be so fucking hot T-T

Anyone with a genuine concern about my sexual orientation, rest assured. I'm quite comfortable with myself and don't require assistance.

[gimmesome]

It's all in his mind and how he sees himself. 172 cm is not short, don't know why he has made an issue about it. I think what has happened is he had self esteem issues when he was younger growing up in Australia being "short" and Asian. Then compounded it by not losing his V plates when he should have. He has gotten to a point where the longer he waits the more the issue has grown in his mind.

Now is he thinks too much. Stop thinking!

Also don't go to a private booking as your first time, that's way more nerve wrecking than just going to a high traffic shop like n5m, 278, Ginza etc. Go see Sia at 278 Club, she has a really lovely personality and a gentle girl. I reckon she would be a good girl to lose your virginity to.

Thanks for the thoughts Johnny. Overthinking is definitely a lifelong character trait for me. Unfortunately a bit late for the advice on my first time but maybe helpful for others in a similar situation. Definitely considering a popular shop for the next punt, thanks for the recommendation.

Sometimes you need some stimulation or touching of a girl's body to turn you on and when the girl refuses you access then you lose interest.

Yeah, I think I felt a bit of that with the first lady.

[GoldfishMan]

Thanks again for the support and advice. Though it seems I have manged to make some brothers upset or maybe they just think they're comedians

Less porn and wanking. More Punting Experience
I'm hearing it loud n clear. Less porn and less wanking, especially leading up to the punt is going to help as is getting some more experience under the belt.


Thanks of the tip Sampler. I'll be sure to try it some time when I'm feeling adventurous or if all else fails lol.


Thanks again for the advice GoldfishMan. I did feel a little disappointed and I probably rush the decision a bit but it wasn't like a case of bait n switch or the agent pushing me to another girl. I knew the first one wasn't available and I chose the second one later on i.e. a few days after finding out the original choice had disappeared. Have you got any more tips or wisdom you could share on making a good pick?


Yeah all my posts are showing up really delayed too (usually the morning after I post) because it seems mods need to approve them all. Might try numerous smaller post instead of making mega posts to help hit the quota faster. Will probably make it easier to read my responses too.

My tip to you about choosing the WL is the same as before. Go for physical attraction over service level. Make sure you know what type of girl you like physically (tall and leggy, petite, a bit chubby, younger or a bit more mature, etc), and don't worry about the service level yet. Service is appreciated more once you're done exploring the female body and just want to kick back and relax.

[PKING2]

My tip to you about choosing the WL is the same as before. Go for physical attraction over service level. Make sure you know what type of girl you like physically (tall and leggy, petite, a bit chubby, younger or a bit more mature, etc), and don't worry about the service level yet. Service is appreciated more once you're done exploring the female body and just want to kick back and relax.

True, for first experience better young hot face, hot body, better than service.

@gimmesome
I think you leaning to jap girl right, because oh those hentai things. Maybe try J rey from ginza, she is one of" the hot face hot body" and not expensive. Best bang for the buck if you want jap.

[GoldfishMan]

True, for first experience better young hot face, hot body, better than service.

@gimmesome
I think you leaning to jap girl right, because oh those hentai things. Maybe try J rey from ginza, she is one of" the hot face hot body" and not expensive. Best bang for the buck if you want jap.

That’s a great tip, pking2.

[bevis90]

Stop wanking and watching porn

[warwick1]

Stop wanking and watching porn

Best advice so far , he is a fraud.........

[cumquat]

LMFAO ….. Sadly it’s too short…

[FatStache]

Agree with GoldfishMan re: knowing what kind of girl you like physically.


J Rey is the sexy bombshell type. In hentai, she's the tanned gym babe with a yakuza boyfriend and she loves the stares of other dudes. The kind who makes sexy eye contact with you while sitting at a table with you and her boyfriend.
She's got tomboy vibes, very independent.
Rey will definitely let you explore her bod. Fake tits though.
If you go for her, I recommend showering beforehand and skipping the shower at the session start - she'll be cool with it.

I agree Japanese will be your best bet. Try finding one with good enough English so you can communicate what you wanna do (Rey has flawless English).

[Meng]

I've actually written ARs where I lost boners from nerves. I think my review on Indian Jane was one where I couldn't get it up cause of nerves. First time with an Indian chick and just couldn't get my little brother up.

Ended up writing a AR and sharing minute by minute details of that embarrassment on this forum lol.