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    Un-healthy Relationship

    Now I’m sure we can all admit to have fallen (even for the 30 minutes during a session) for a ML or WL.

    It must be the ego stroking they do so well, or just how overly friendly and “caring” they are.

    Sometimes you catch yourself thinking about them at work or at home, the drive home or on the train… a very unhealthy relationship (if you can call it that) as it can be very one-sided and you never know the true intent from the other side $$$.

    Please share your experiences and maybe some advise for getting out of this head space, I feel like many in this community are living this right now.

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    Advice for getting out of this head space, see another Wl/ML and you'll find yourself forgetting the previous girl.

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    A new WL told me her boyfriend was one of her clients. And a few of her former BFs were her clients too. Wow!

    And she told me her friend who was another WL married one of her clients. And he let her continue to work in the parlour. Another Wow!

    I guess if you want to have a relationship with a WL it's possible but many brothers here would tell you not advisable.

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    The main reason I don't let myself have a "regular" ML

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    This has been covered a few times.

    You are clinically insane to think there is a chance in hell of a sustainable relationship with a sex worker. Not because of them (although they are undoubtedly genuinely interested in you for you, not your $$ or visa status), but because of you. You won't get the 10 dicks she's already serviced that day out of your head. You can't make up the $$ she earns. You won't get the insecurities out of your head.

    Do not get into a relationship with an ML.

    They are like a physio for your dick, once your done, thank her and let her get on with the next client. Just like a physio for your back. And just like a physio for your back doesn't need a love struck client, nor does your ML.

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    This has been covered a few times.

    You are clinically insane to think there is a chance in hell of a sustainable relationship with a sex worker. Not because of them (although they are undoubtedly genuinely interested in you for you, not your $$ or visa status), but because of you. You won't get the 10 dicks she's already serviced that day out of your head. You can't make up the $$ she earns. You won't get the insecurities out of your head.

    Do not get into a relationship with an ML.

    They are like a physio for your dick, once your done, thank her and let her get on with the next client. Just like a physio for your back. And just like a physio for your back doesn't need a love struck client, nor does your ML.

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    Hey Fellas,
    I should have prefaced my OP, it was supposed to be a light-hearted convo.
    Nothing to be taken so seriously 😂 Just sharing some funny experiences or stories
    A lot of times threads get too real in the community. 🫶🏻

    R.I.P Takeoff 🕊

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    …………. Double posted

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    Quote Originally Posted by DayMan69 View Post
    This has been covered a few times.

    You are clinically insane to think there is a chance in hell of a sustainable relationship with a sex worker. Not because of them (although they are undoubtedly genuinely interested in you for you, not your $$ or visa status), but because of you. You won't get the 10 dicks she's already serviced that day out of your head. You can't make up the $$ she earns. You won't get the insecurities out of your head.

    Do not get into a relationship with an ML.

    They are like a physio for your dick, once your done, thank her and let her get on with the next client. Just like a physio for your back. And just like a physio for your back doesn't need a love struck client, nor does your ML.

    Prudent advises. But far from the day to day reality .

    If you spend enough time with the people in the RnT industry (mamasans and MLs), you will know that the majority of them have husbands, partners or boyfriends, whom may or may not know of their profession, and many of them could well be their former clients).

    So while the general opinions have usually been a resounding NO, Don’t do it. The fact is differ and many people are in it and whether they are happy or not, that’s the million dollar question?


    Ps. I have talking about the RnT section of the industry here, not the FS brothels as I don’t know anyone or anything from that sector.


    Cheers

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    Whenever this topic comes up I remember the old Greek mythology story of Icarus.

    Daedalus, father of Icarus and a master craftsman, fashioned two pairs of wings out of wax and feathers for himself and his son, so they coukd escape Crete. Before trying to escape the island, Daedalus warned Icarus not to fly too close to the sun, as the wax may melt, nor too close to the sea, as the salt water would dampen the feathers, but to follow his path of flight. Whether it was hubris, complacency, or just being lost in the excitement while flying, Icarus disobeyed his father and soared into the sky. He flew too close to the sun, and the heat melted the wax holding his feathers together. One by one, Icarus's feathers fell out, until he fell into the sea and drowned.

    Don't fly too close to the sun, nor to the sea...

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    Quote Originally Posted by asiafever View Post
    Whenever this topic comes up I remember the old Greek mythology story of Icarus.

    Daedalus, father of Icarus and a master craftsman, fashioned two pairs of wings out of wax and feathers for himself and his son, so they coukd escape Crete. Before trying to escape the island, Daedalus warned Icarus not to fly too close to the sun, as the wax may melt, nor too close to the sea, as the salt water would dampen the feathers, but to follow his path of flight. Whether it was hubris, complacency, or just being lost in the excitement while flying, Icarus disobeyed his father and soared into the sky. He flew too close to the sun, and the heat melted the wax holding his feathers together. One by one, Icarus's feathers fell out, until he fell into the sea and drowned.

    Don't fly too close to the sun, nor to the sea...
    That is some fucking deep shit you're preaching Mr Asiafever....unfortunately most simps here wont fucking understand the message. So I will summarise it for them - Never ever trust anything that bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die....that includes all MLs, WLs, sugar babies, wives, mistresses, girlfriends, partners, ex-wives, FWBs et al!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Somebeardyfella View Post
    The main reason I don't let myself have a "regular" ML
    I have a regular for more than 1 year.

    She is for sex.

    It's a transaction. There is no emotional attachment to it.

    Regular or not. It's how you handle it.

    We don't see each other outside the parlour cubicle. And never go out shopping or having a meal together. And very rarely exchange SMS or Wechat messages. We think that's a waste of time.

    I don't need to fantasize about her. Anytime I want her body I know where she works.

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    Quote Originally Posted by AHLUNGOR View Post
    If you spend enough time with the people in the RnT industry (mamasans and MLs), you will know that the majority of them have husbands, partners or boyfriends, whom may or may not know of their profession, and many of them could well be their former clients).
    And those MLs we have Part 2 or Part 3 with most likely have 2 or 3 kids too. They could be in secondary schools.

    Working in a massage parlour is just a profession. Saw a ML's boyfriend drove to the shop to give her a lift home. A ML told me her BF still visits her in the parlour. Many men have lived to get used to it.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shinraman View Post
    Now I’m sure we can all admit to have fallen (even for the 30 minutes during a session) for a ML or WL.

    It must be the ego stroking they do so well, or just how overly friendly and “caring” they are.

    Sometimes you catch yourself thinking about them at work or at home, the drive home or on the train… a very unhealthy relationship (if you can call it that) as it can be very one-sided and you never know the true intent from the other side $$$.

    Please share your experiences and maybe some advise for getting out of this head space, I feel like many in this community are living this right now.
    It’s in the girls best interest financially to have you wanting to come back and see her. More than likely they act/say/do the exact same things with most of the 5-10 other punters they saw that day.
    The good ones make men feel special as well as getting rid of their blue balls.

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    There have been many, a ml and I clicked after 1 session and we exchanged numbers she had an amazing porn star body. We went out on 1 date and all she did was gossip about her friends. I got bored quickly and didn't seek a second date or another session. A few months after, my second brain wanted a release. Suffice to say, going back to her wasn't an option.

    Another time I was absolutely smitten with a ML that was quite popular, we hung out for weeks until I got too attached and ruined everything. I still feel like she was the one that got away. I would have bent alot of rules for her. Funny thing was I was kind of dating this ML and a WL at the same time and I broke it off with the WL because I wanted to get serious with the ML, so I ended up losing both, although I still am friends and still meet up with the WL to this day.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Jamez11 View Post
    It’s in the girls best interest financially to have you wanting to come back and see her. More than likely they act/say/do the exact same things with most of the 5-10 other punters they saw that day.
    The good ones make men feel special as well as getting rid of their blue balls.
    Don't think too much or read too many ARs.

    It would be a shock to read in ARs that a ML we have kissed have sucked many a cocks and balls.

    But it's their jobs and a way to earn a living. We have to learn to respect that.

    One ML told me some of her clients especially white males had told her, "No kissing."

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    Quote Originally Posted by Shinraman View Post
    Now I’m sure we can all admit to have fallen (even for the 30 minutes during a session) for a ML or WL.

    It must be the ego stroking they do so well, or just how overly friendly and “caring” they are.

    Sometimes you catch yourself thinking about them at work or at home, the drive home or on the train… a very unhealthy relationship (if you can call it that) as it can be very one-sided and you never know the true intent from the other side $$$.

    Please share your experiences and maybe some advise for getting out of this head space, I feel like many in this community are living this right now.
    I am facing that exact problem right now. Kept thinking about these 2 WL’s (one definitely thinking about her all the time, and the other one yeah from time to time).

    What got me hooked is that despite getting her stuff (nothing fancy; purse, shoes, dress, those sort of things), but every time I message her, what does she want me to get her on next session, she kept saying she doesnt want anything. Coming to see her is already enough of a gift. That sort of behaviour/speak (regardless sincere or fake) gets into my brain, argh!!!

    I even use our photo for my WhatsApp profile picture . Very unhealthy. What do I do gents???!!!

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    I believe it may have been dotcumdotinyou who introduced the forum to this poem. It's worth repeating , and should probably be a sticky for all of us to read from time to time, especially when someone catches feels for a ml..

    The Spider and the Fly
    “Will you walk into my parlour?” said the Spider to the Fly,
    “‘Tis the prettiest little parlour that ever you did spy;
    The way into my parlour is up a winding stair,
    And I have many curious things to shew when you are there.”
    “Oh no, no,” said the little Fly, “to ask me is in vain,
    For who goes up your winding stair can ne’er come down again.”

    “I’m sure you must be weary, dear, with soaring up so high;
    Will you rest upon my little bed?” said the Spider to the Fly.
    “There are pretty curtains drawn around; the sheets are fine and thin,
    And if you like to rest awhile, I’ll snugly tuck you in!”
    “Oh no, no,” said the little Fly, “for I’ve often heard it said,
    They never, never wake again, who sleep upon your bed!”

    Said the cunning Spider to the Fly, “Dear friend what can I do,
    To prove the warm affection I’ve always felt for you?
    I have within my pantry, good store of all that’s nice;
    I’m sure you’re very welcome–will you please to take a slice?”
    “Oh no, no,” said the little Fly, “kind sir, that cannot be,
    I’ve heard what’s in your pantry, and I do not wish to see!”

    “Sweet creature!” said the Spider, “you’re witty and you’re wise,
    How handsome are your gauzy wings, how brilliant are your eyes!
    I’ve a little looking-glass upon my parlour shelf,
    If you’ll step in one moment, dear, you shall behold yourself.”
    “I thank you, gentle sir,” she said, “for what you’re pleased to say,
    And bidding you good morning now, I’ll call another day.”

    The Spider turned him round about, and went into his den,
    For well he knew the silly Fly would soon come back again:
    So he wove a subtle web, in a little corner sly,
    And set his table ready, to dine upon the Fly.
    Then he came out to his door again, and merrily did sing,
    “Come hither, hither, pretty Fly, with the pearl and silver wing;
    Your robes are green and purple–there’s a crest upon your head;
    Your eyes are like the diamond bright, but mine are dull as lead!”

    Alas, alas! how very soon this silly little Fly,
    Hearing his wily, flattering words, came slowly flitting by;
    With buzzing wings she hung aloft, then near and nearer drew,
    Thinking only of her brilliant eyes, and green and purple hue–
    Thinking only of her crested head–poor foolish thing! At last,
    Up jumped the cunning Spider, and fiercely held her fast.
    He dragged her up his winding stair, into his dismal den,
    Within his little parlour–but she ne’er came out again!

    And now dear little children, who may this story read,
    To idle, silly flattering words, I pray you ne’er give heed:
    Unto an evil counsellor, close heart and ear and eye,
    And take a lesson from this tale, of the Spider and the Fly...

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sibon View Post
    I have a regular for more than 1 year.

    She is for sex.

    It's a transaction. There is no emotional attachment to it.

    Regular or not. It's how you handle it.

    We don't see each other outside the parlour cubicle. And never go out shopping or having a meal together. And very rarely exchange SMS or Wechat messages. We think that's a waste of time.

    I don't need to fantasize about her. Anytime I want her body I know where she works.
    In other words, you’re a Customer.

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    ML ladies are very lovely, young, friendly, sexy and available. Some years ago I had a relationship with a beautiful, young (then ) Thai ML. We had regular dinners and I did some favours for her. She is still working and I see her occasionally. Now she is looking for an Australian partner so she can stay here. She will continue to work. She has been in Australia for nearly seven years. Seven years (times) 48 weeks working per year (times) 2 or more days a week (times) five (or more) customers a day. That’s at least 3,360 paying customers. She is very attractive. In the past, she has had boyfriends but all they wanted was sex. So therefore there has been a lot of water under the bridge and a lot of ins and outs and a lot of comings and goings. Probably not serious long term relationship material. Buyer beware.

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