Quote Originally Posted by Blueshirtguy View Post
I have had a long relationship with a WL who was a very good girl and got into it for the exact reasons above. Came over as a student, and was working hard in low-skill jobs for years while having friends who had money and time that she did not. Not to mention the responsibility of sending money home to the family. One day she found out what they were doing. She was such a good girl, that she got into the industry as a virgin, in her late twenties, and hated her first shift only to leave saying she would never return. 2 months of struggling back in the low skill job again, and with the memory of the first experience fading in her mind and she decided to go back and give it another go. Took a very strategic approach to the job. Spent 5 years working as a WL in various shops. Never ML and Never private. Never took STI or STD risks. It was very much a job. She focused on what sort of things got her picked over other girls, and then what sort of things brought repeat clients. She basically got good at pretending to be what she knew the clients wanted. I think this eventually becomes a very blurred line, but thats for another time. Never had dates outside the shop, and never mixed business with pleasure. Very mechanical in her approach, but just like an actor practises at being realistic, so she worked on being able to mimic the feelings that we all look for in an "amazingly connected experience". She said she could make people think she was into them but she really wasn't. In 5 years, she bought her mom a house, bought herself land and built herself a house. Has a nice nest egg waiting for her. Just like we strive at our workplace, so do ML and WL at theirs.

So what does this tell us about ML/WL. Its just a job. The longer you do your job, assuming you are at least partly interested and motivated to improve, you will get better at what you do. This is what they do. Be very careful if you think a certain word, or a body language, or a smile, is you detecting that an ML is into you. There is always the slimmest of chances that they are, but the overwhelmingly greater chance is that they are doing what they do best.

So what does this mean for the market place. She was in a competitive environment. She had to compete against other girls. She had to way up the risks of asking for more money, vs getting repeat business. She did this on very straight forward principles. Is the punter solid or dodgy. The better presented the punter, the more likely she was to treat him as a prospect as a repeat client. ie. don't overcharge, because the repeat work is far better than an extra pineapple here or there. Equally, the more solid the punter, the more likely she was to give her best performance. She wanted to win the repeat work over her competition.

So while there will always be the exceptions, my experience tells me that there is a market place out there that is being influenced by all the same factors of any other market place. Performance (quality), reliability and cost underpinned by supply and demand factors will dictate the state of play. There is very little we can do to change this side of things. As a punter, however, there is plenty you can do to ensure that the gems out there take notice of you and give you that experience that is reliable, VFM and regular so long as you know the rules of the game.
Absolutely correct....