Reply With QuoteCould be psychological. If you watch a lot of porn and you jack off every time, then when you're in the moment, you don't get hard.Originally Posted by Ender Kekilli
Maybe look up for "Voyeurism".
I need advice please. My penis works well when I do it myself on my own. But when I’m with a night lady I can’t get it hard and so can’t she. After a lots of trying to make me hard she puts on the condom with her mouth and it get half hard, we try to just stuff it in her but I’m still very floppy. After a few thrusts of my hips I feel the blood starting to flow into my penis but then as soon as it gets half hard I feel the orgasm rising and I come. It happen now FIVE times in a row with five different ladies. Do I need viagra from the internet? Why is this happening?
Could be psychological. If you watch a lot of porn and you jack off every time, then when you're in the moment, you don't get hard.
Maybe look up for "Voyeurism".
Need to relax, and take it slowly. Agree it might be psychological.
Stop watching porn and jack off for couple of weeks and try again.
I know sometimes it frustrating when you hold off like that and you continue wondering in blind.
So maybe just get viagra for next time you punt, but make sure you check with your gp in case there is complication with your health. After you know you can do that without problem, stop watching porn and jack off for around 2 weeks, and try again.
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I just saw your other post in other thread. You posted you have wife, so if intercourse with wife has no problem, then for sure 100% psychological and guilty feeling.
Defo not "needed" if you can get hard watching porn, but it'll help.
Maybe you been seeing the wrong type of girls. Body shape or looks not your cup of tea, etc.
I had exactly the same problem mostly with MLs. It all changed with WLs especially with the service orientated ones. I like the build up, DFK, DATY, BBBJ and all the passion involved. And have no problems now.
It's interesting how we all react differently. I have the same issues when going for FS. Put a cover on me and things just don't happen. These days I prefer R&T and when I find a ML who will kiss, enjoy DATY and give BBBJ, I'm in heaven.
These are complex issues. For example I am having trouble cumming even when well serviced and dedication by the ML to deliver the HE. If they don’t they feel the failure - did not deliver.
If you overthink the problem it becomes the problem.
I’m on the higher end of 65+. I get good hard erections early morning and at the start of a session. I use Cialis like an insurance policy before engaging with an ML. So even though I don’t cum the sessions are still sexually enjoyable.
Everything depends on the outcome you have in mind.
Unfortunately most MLS have a mindset that faster and oilier is better.
Our my last several visits I have not made it. Is it a problem - no I am researching to understand and fix it. Last session no go but next day watched some porn and blew a big load. That was an emotional release. I have been trying some fixes to free up the nerves associated with orgasmic.
So Cialis may be your go rather than Viagra.
I am planning a visit to an ML who on my last visit just did a fantastic job at EDGING. I was edged four or five times before succumbing to an intense orgasm. Should make her my permanent. Other MLS don’t have this skill and the understanding particularly the very young we meet.
If you are having trouble (do you have early morning erections - I do and rock hard) also evaluate your fitness level methods to get fit - bicycle riding can be a problem (due to damage to the nerves around the base of your own is) look at your diet etc etc
Don’t get paranoid but consider how to implement changes and work it and improve your mindset. I am using vibration to release the nerves around my pen is and lower back as was using a stationary bike to lose weight and frequently if not every session had or penile numbness which is indicative of nerve compression.
YouTube has some good instructional videos that show how the penis functions and the forces behind ejaculation.?
Most of life is in our minds and that is where sexual response resides.
Hope the above is of some use - I am a self manager - and hopefully will get a solution to my current dilemma.
Good luck -
Yes, exactly...if I could find a ML who did all those things I would be in heaven too.
Also this can happen to me once the dom goes on, not always, but lately have been doing bareback only with my regulars and staying hard.
Also might be a good idea to see the same WL more than once so you feel comfortable with her especially if you got on well the first time you saw her.
First, there is no difference between Viagra and Cialis other than Cialis has a much longer half-life (stays in your system longer). You can take Cialis, and get a window of up to 48 days to get an erection. Both work on the body in the same way.
If you get erections in other contexts, like watching porn or having sex with your wife/partner, but not with WL/ML, then you do not have an Erectile Dysfunction (ED) problem. It is psychological. This can be due to shyness, feeling of guilt (e.g. paying for sex, or cheating on a partner), or not having an emotional connection with the working girl. Yes, some men and women get aroused because they "feel" affection for their partner and it's not just a visual and tactile performance.
Viagra and Cialis will help in the sense that genital touching of any form will trigger physical arousal easier, but ejaculation might not be guaranteed because in most cases ejaculation happens first in the brain.
Using condoms will reduce sensation.
Hit the nail on the head andrewv.
I definitely fall into the category of the "emotional connection" and need to "feel" that affection.
Some of the best punts have been with so so looking WLs, but there was a strong attraction on both sides. Im not saying I always pick the ugliest girl in a line up, but definitely the one I choose I feel good vibes with instantly. The best scenario is when they look hot and you have a good vibe with. It has happened.
I am in 40s and don't seems to have big issue down there. Having said that when I go for a punt I want to make sure he is "enabled", so I take a quarter of a pill to help the little fellow. So far ok for me .
We don't agree on everything but I'm in squarely in this boat too.
GFE over PSE for me any day of the week.
As for OP, I get the impression you could be the same.
One of the reasons I think I went from WL to ML, the WL I met were really more about a pure sex experience. They get dicked multiple times a day, it's hard to be "affectionate" I assume when you're pressured to be "affectionate" to every client.
ML are technically only there to give you a massage they are not legally bound to do anything else for you. Sure they don't make any good money otherwise but realistically speaking, if they hated your guts they have no obligation to touch you for anything else but a massage.
So this might be a better route for you. Let the ML do her thing and you might find you have a much better experience.
Several years ago I came across the concept of "no fap" and my ED troubles began to vanish. Easier said than done but you will notice the amazing differences that come about from joining the no fap train -- increased confidence etc.
At 50 I started dieting and exercise after having a heart attack, I gave up all the good things that are bad for you, including watching porn and wanking too much, now due to greater health and fitness my little fella works a lot better, but because of age it just takes a little longer for my ball sacks to fill up, so I found having sex once a week is efficient enough for me without any needs for any type of pills,
So like others have mentioned, maybe a change in life style will help instead of looking for a pill to fix the problem
Have to agree with all of the above. Stop jacking off, avoid porn and get fitter. These work for me.
Viagra is insurance to stop deflation right at the wrong time and 1/4 of pill does help in that way. Oddly, peanut butter also can give me raging boner
Agreed, no real problems but a Cialis before punting has my cock jumping out of its skin and ready to perform the entire session.
Just wondering, does Horny Goat Weed have any effect or is it just a marketing exercise?
Did absolutely nothing for me except give me a headache.
The Thai red bull was designed to help bedroom performance, maybe drink a small bottle 1 hour before performing and see how it goes,
It's all psychological buddy...trust me, if you can get hard while watching porn/jerking off, you have no issues down there, there could be many things: nerve, porn/masturbation, desensitisation, stress, anxiety...
Do you NEED V? Probably not...
Would V help? Definitely 100%, it will help you maintain stronger erection throughout the session.
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