As a novice punter and isnt the pinnacle of confidence. I do think its better to start off at massage since it gives you time to get use to each others presence. For me I typically book for the hour, gives me time to make small talk with the ML and relaxes my body. Then the build up and generally by that point I would have some confidence to ask for more(extras aside from NHJ).
I just find FS/brothels more intimidating, mainly since I'm not able to relax myself enough and develop much of a relationship with the girl to the point where its enjoyable.
Most times its just silent fucking . Which leaves an awkward feeling.
As you can see a degree of intimacy gets me going for the other punters it could be anything. Just my 2c
Good luck tho!
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