A person free from certain karmas will not experience it. For example, the friendzoned guy is going through the karma of friendzoning another person in his life, or the karma of promising a woman he will marry her but dumped her after having sex.
Sometimes we may have to endure being friendzoned, but at the same time be equally friendly to her. There's no guarantee that she'll change and become the girl you expect her to be but at the same time there's no need to have a grudge on her for rejecting your advances.
Once you have exhausted the karma of being "friendzoned", you will realise that many women will suddenly have an interest in you. When you suddenly have this power over many women you will start to think, "I can either play with all of them or choose the best out of all of them and stick with that one."
When you stick with the one you like the most, you are no longer in a one way relationship as you are creating or expanding your affinity for each other. Even if she doesn't show it openly or directly, she will show you signs that she is reciprocating your affection.
JJ Have you had any signs of progression?
You, sir, are my sprit animal! Much appreciate your words of wisdom, loved - LOVED - reading this, especially the naggy chick and librarian bit. GOLD!
Women are like cats. Make them sniff around you. Change the game.
I've had a Viet WL rim me before I even had a chance to hop in the shower...
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Yes, in the form of obstacles getting stronger and stronger. Obstacles are signs that your wishes are coming true, but normally people would quit halfway if they don't have an unwavering faith.
For advanced meditators, normally I would meditate on the worst case scenario - either I visualise dying before my wish is fulfilled or my wish taken away from me in this life time. This helps to invalidate the ego and clinging to results, however it is dangerous for beginners as they might get too absorbed into the negative feeling and commit suicide.
They would've had something more potent than Viagra. In fact, if I had seventeen wives I would've been able to impregnate every single one of them in the same year and have a kid with each of them.
I could have that many lovers quite easily.
Not into wives or commitment.
I’m sure marriage is a recent construct.
Not needed by everyone.
Just dating and casual sex.
YMMV
Marriage back in the days were either from family pressure, arranged by noble families or convenience. My great-great grandparents were married due to an arrangement by a certain powerful person, however stories from my deceased great-granduncle seems to point that his mother wasn't complaining about it, and was grateful for the marriage anyways. My great-grandmother however married for love. She was the only sibling that gave birth to so many kids (7 in total), her other sibling only had 2 kids and it was done mainly to continue the family line.
I think these days there's more marriages for love happening compared to a century ago. If I ever remarry again it'll definitely be for that. The waiting game can be cruel to some, but maybe because selfishness causes ordinary people to think that, and that's why marriages based on selfish needs tend to break. My last marriage ended because my ex squandered money from me - that was my last straw after 2 years. She was fat and not so attractive, but that wasn't a deal-breaker at all for me. We married only because I thought making her happy would change her, but it made her worse.
And if I do remarry, I do have someone in mind that I would definitely propose to, and die trying.
Update with my relationship with ML:
Day 5: I saw her again. As soon as I went into her apartment, she starting kissing me and taking my clothes off. I wanted to talk, but whatever - we fucked like we haven't seen each other in ages. We decided to go have dinner, had a nice chat about life then went for a walk along the river while holding hands. We talked more and both agreed that this will be the last time we'll see each other. She kept saying this wont need to end because it never started, she had a "strong mind" so she's able to control her emotions, but asked me if I could. Because it was my first time having a relationship with an ML, I told her I don't know. We returned to the apartment and fucked again. I leave after and we say our good byes. She texts me as I drive home "are you ready to leave me?" lol this girl is crazy. She calls me while driving and tells me we'll be friends from now on, no sex.
Day 10: She calls me while out partying with a friend and asks me to come out. I tell her I was busy with family commitments, she got sad in a cutezy way. I kept saying Im sorry. We talked more and she asks me if I was sure i wasnt busy. I explained to her how busy I am and she got mad saying "I wont call you again". Hung up on me.
Day 11: Curious today, I checked her FB. She video'd herself partying, probably drunk, singing karaoke with her friends. Looked hot, but it felt like the post was for me.
It's been 2 weeks since the last phone call. I follow her on FB but i've unfollowed her. Seems like it's over. I'm happy. I got to meet a hottie, fucked her so many times within a week, felt like a 21yo again, friends with her on FB (nice to wank over her photos in the future if i wanted), my confidence around beautiful woman grew, learnt a lot from this thread (thanks guys), probably won't visit MLs in a while, but J Coco looks pretty good lol, this encounter was memorable, back to reality and loving myself.
By the sound of it she still felt a connection.
The first meet up was good. I honestly talked to her as if we're friends and she made all the moves during the paid session. Subsequent meetups got even better - treated how a naught girl should be treated and she loved it. It felt like we met after being overseas for a long time. It's great to have an emotional connect when fucking, the experience is on another level. I honestly dont think this will ever happen again. I'm maintaining my distance and I'm glad the air has cleared. Might be time to try J Coco so i can get my mind off lol
A thought that you may not be able to unread:
When the person says they'll never see you again, they're gambling on the odds that you might be okay with actually leaving them for good.
When the person makes you wait, they're the ones making themselves wait so long it hurts them back.
What you give out, you will always get back.
Instead of hurting others, treat them as precious gems. Once you truly believe they are precious, the favours will be returned in a limitless amount.
When someone tests me, it is not me that gets hurt. But I do try to make them avoid from hurting myself or anyone further as it can be harmful for them when the karma manifests. That is the whole point for my advices and replies to many of the forum threads. I can play the game, it doesn't hurt me at all but I want to stop people from feeling hurt.
If there is anything else I can do to help, let me know. Just be careful for what you're asking for, even if the intention is indirect the words said can manifest in a direct manner.
Ignorance will not make things go away. Your thoughts have a way to ruminate, reverberate and multiply the pain that it creates an experience similar to psychosis.
By solving your real life problems you can make it all go away eventually. And it helps to heal past traumas. We don't need to live in a cycle of pain, only liberation.
JJ who ruminates?
A cow or a human?