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Are you troubled by the fact that visiting a brothel or visiting a massage parlour is viewed with stigma by a lot of people?
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Sorry what I meant was :
Are you troubled by the fact that visiting a brothel or visiting a massage parlour is viewed with stigma by a lot of people?
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One possible answer is to ask, “are you OK telling your work colleagues, family members, your own wife/partner and friends that you are spending $$$ going to RnT and brothels?”
I’m on board with you are saying.Originally Posted by andrewv
Funny story is when I was much younger and was working in a medium sized firm and sometimes I had to stay back late and work with a couple of the firms partners. One day one of the partners suggested if we would like to blow of some steam after a late night. I was young and single and had nothing much to do so I just tagged along. Little did I know blowing off some steam was visiting a higher end brothel. Was told to choose anyone I wanted and have a good time. Went out at least 5 times for these blow off steam sessions. Couldn’t really believe my luck. But back to your point, during work hours nothing was ever mentioned or discussed and it got weirder when the partners missus or kids dropped in for a visit. To be young again.
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If you were you wouldn't go.
Personally I'm not bothered. Among society I would never admittedly say I visit such establishments and deny as most punters would do.
Now a select few individuals in my circle are aware of my habits and also are into the activities. I don't loose sleep knowing that church goers, committed fathers, uncles and grandfather's are as much committed to their faith and their families. Yet still go to release their stress, escape reality, or just downright enjoy. That's just human
It's a modern world they are just selling something, just like the rest of us.
I think they're separate questions. The OP is basically asking if you can justify a punt to yourself despite the stigma attached. Sometimes you can, sometimes you can't.
Your question relates more to the stigma attached. No one in the right mind openly tells colleaguea and family about their punting.
In some moments and some situations I feel as though I'm a little (lot) pathetic. Does it stop me though. NOPE. I can live with that.
Troubled, No
Perturbed, No
Disturbed, No
Having a 'don't give a fuck' attitude does help.
When you start thinking and fretting about what others will say or think, then you become a slave to your conscience and to those fuckers - you can fuck that stigma and mindset!
It's better to be a warrior in a garden, than a gardener in a war.
So if you can't walk in to a brothel or RnT shop like you fucken own the joint then you shouldn't be in this game.
Nah mate, don't feel pathetic, your paying for a service.
It's your own business, if anyone asks, just deny and if they have concrete proof either deny more or just own it. It's not illegal, you've done nothing wrong (assuming your single).
And when you do go out on a date with someone it's more about the person rather than trying to score some action.
It's more about the times when I'm in an act with somebody that I really couldn't imagine myself being with any other time. The times when I really haven't wanted to go to a brothel but did anyway, Im sure that rings a bell with some others here too. Fortunately for me I've learnt to separate fact from fiction n derive a lot from punting.
As in with a WL/ML, that was not quite what you wanted?
Bad luck I guess, if you buy a coffee which turns out like shit, chances are you just drink it and move on, maybe not go back to the same coffee shop.
Punting is nothing to brag about and nothing to be ashamed about.
It's just what we do.
Didn’t discover punting until my early 30s. I wished I had done it in my 20s when I was going through significant dry spells (12 months and more) and it materially impacted my self esteem and ability to even just converse or approach women. It’s a great avenue to get the monkey off your back.
Having said that, the amount I think about punting now id probably be in debt had I picked this up in my earlier years lol
Massage parlours not many would actually know what's going inside. They would think it's just a massage
Whereas brothels the general thinking is would be unsafe and std etc.
However I once had a friend who acts high and mighty that paying girls for sex are losers.
Even walking out of legit massage shops I’ve been given the evil eye by some women in the street. I’m thinking “fuck you, I bet your husband/lover/partner doesn’t give you good sex” so mind your own business. It’s not even a RnT shop.
I look them right back in the eye and return their vibe. I’m the type of guy who says what I think. Next time they’ll hear it.
Spot on Bro! I'm well & truely in the "don't give a fuck" camp...
I think the only person that you can be 100% sure views it with stigma is yourself. Everybody else, you're just projecting what you think on them and assuming they would feel the same. You didn't go ask them what they thought about punting, did you?
It's one of those things that you can never be sure of, and because of that you just don't let it all hang out.
I thought it was a private matter of choice - like everything in life you have to there ie it’s your life - if you share it jealousy from the guys that don’t do it kick in - and any women resents you because you have the guts to pay someone for services you probably won’t get anywhere else for a very cheaper price that a permanent relationship regardless of status partner or spouse etc
If it had “stigma” then that is very much a guilt complex associated with Freuds on the anal - hahahsh
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