I have a favourite WL and have visited her a few times.
A few days ago, she asked me if I had ever come to the shop and then left without meeting her. Recently, I found it a bit challenging to make an appointment by phone, so I visited the shop when I had some time. However, when I saw that she seemed busy, I simply decided to leave. I explained the situation to her. She thought for a moment and then told me that it might be best for me to stop looking for her. When I asked why, she replied that it could be a misunderstanding on her part, but she felt that I might think of her in a special way, which had started to make her uncomfortable.
She went on to say that every customer who visits has a purpose, but she didn’t think she could fulfill any purpose I might have. She also said it didn’t sit well with her to see me wasting my time and money and suggested that it would be better if I stopped coming to the shop.
She also told me that although she knows I’m a good person, it would be best if we stopped seeing each other. When I asked her why she thought that, she said it was because of the way I looked at her.
Maybe that’s how my feelings were, but honestly, I’m not even sure what my own feelings are. I’ve never expressed anything outwardly through my actions. I’m not sure if I should stop visiting as she wishes, or if I should continue visiting as I feel, since I haven’t asked anything of her.
Part of me thinks I shouldn’t go there if she’s uncomfortable, but at the same time, I feel frustrated. After thinking it over, I told her that I would visit once more to share my thoughts with her, though I haven’t decided yet.
What would you all do in my situation? I would appreciate any advice.
If you keep visiting you'll make it awkward and her uncomfortable. Its not to say you've done anything wrong. She's just changed her mind.
I would recommend finding another shop and getting under a new WL to empty your balls ASAP. You'll feel better.
You will be banned if you return. Don't.
It never works well when you hand control over to these girls. Walk away cause getting one more session in even if ass to mouth happens will seal you in as either a simp or a creepy stalker dude. And as Mae West said. It's better to get over somebody by getting under someone else .
Your money, your ego, your disappointment
Clearly not hers
I think she’s told you pretty clearly don’t come back
She's playing hard to get, bring her flowers and explain your feelings.
Don't forget the box of chocolatesOriginally Posted by nosytt
Respect her wishes mate. It's very clear from the tone of your post that your're emotionally invested. It wont have been easy for her to pluck up the courage to say that to you so she must feel strongly about it, especially given its her job and by doing so she is turning down the money.
Do the right thing and leave her be.
And a card saying sorry. That will always work.
Seriously though, walk away. Its her loss. She sounds like a entitled WL that has major issues mentally.
plenty of fish in the ocean, you will find better ones, don't waste your time and money on this one, just move on
100% you're both misinterpreting each other and continuing will just make it messy. Take her hint that she doesn't want to see you any more and move on. Most of these girls have partners and attachments in the shop just makes everything weird.
She’s thought about it, now you are too so I’d stick to her request. She’s the service provider and in charge of who she sees. Just drop the woman and move on. Think of it as a brush off at a club, she’s rejected you and you have to respect her wishes.
There are so many out there it’s ridiculous and unfortunately for them there’s always a better one just around the corner.
Actually, partially respect her request.
Obviously for whatever reason she does not want to see you. DO NOT QUESTION THAT !!
Just choose another WL and screw her WITHOUT mentioning the 1st WL.
Alternatively, Rub some salt into her wound by saying to the new WL what a great fuck she is compared to the 1st wl.
She says she doesn't want to see you so don't see her. Simple.
Try not to overthink it.
Most girls love a regular customer as its guaranteed easy income for them and you're a known quantity. If she does not want to see you, you must've done something that she is willing to lose income over it.
Sounds like you're becoming the emotionally attached creepy guy.
Come on bro, don't you have other women in your personal life that you socialise with.
I would respect her wishes. Her service standards will invariably drop if she feels uncomfortable seeing you. But that shouldn't stop you from seeing other WLs in the shop. It's not her call. It maybe a wake-up call to her if she sees with other girls in the shop , she is not special as she thinks she is.
Learn to Read the Room
The providers are VERY astute, they have to be for their own physical safety. She has obviously read you (even though you claim you don't know yourself) and decided to do YOU a favor by asking you not to return. So why would you ever consider returning? To win her over? To change her mind? She's obviously more to you than just a provider, and you are just a puppy dog client to her.
For me, this lady isn't entitled but rather CLASS. If she wasn't, she would have milked you dry, and I'm not talking about your sack but your wallet. Little hints that if only you'd do more... Rather, she's accepted the loss of income from a nice safe guy out of respect for you. So return her respect by respecting her choice.
And for Christ's sake, show some class yourself. Just walk away from her AND the shop. Don't visit the shop to pull another WL from there in a FUTILE attempt to spite her. She doesn't care. And believe me, the girls talk, share intel, and bad mouthing her to another from the same shop will just make you look even more childish. Worst case, the one you pull might not have so much class.
Take my advice, stop punting and go get a REAL GF. Go have these feelings, these heartbreaks, these breakups in the real world. Having them in the punting world is just a waste of your time and emotions. When you punt, enjoy the lady, she's a person too. But remember, it's transactional, and she's WORKING.
You DON'T need to have the last word as the last words have already been spoken. A great friend once told me, "Taking the high road will always make YOU feel better in the long run." Wise words.
“I’m not sure if I should stop visiting as she wishes“
Don’t be a weird cunt. Nothing good to come from doing this.
It might be a misunderstanding on her part and you might feel like the victim here, but in the long run it's just going to be a lot better for your self respect to move on. Maybe she had a stalker in the past or some other negative interaction with a punter, but she's acting on her feelings and you won't change them by trying to circumvent her wishes.
These girls can come across lots of creepy guys and also guys who are over attached. That means that sometimes they don’t recognise a guy who falls within what he sees as the sweet spot and simply likes her and wants to see her on that basis. An understandable misunderstanding. And yep, she may be overthinking it but Im told that some women might do that sometimes and as others have said she is in a vulnerable position. You can’t do anything about it unfortunately. I can understand the frustration, but you need to move on and get her out of your head.
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