How fast can you run?
I started seeing a single mom from different state I met on a dating site. We had a good weekend together where I visited her place and met her kids.
after I went home to my state, she then suggested that when I visit her again, I should stay with her instead of booking a hotel, and the money I'd save could help with her kids' expenses. I expected this type of conversation with money or something because seems desperate aka relationship.
She seems financially stretched, and i thought of edging towards transaction relation with her or like a sugar baby/sugar daddy dynamic, though it's not explicitly stated. I don't know, but it feels like she's into the relationship for financial reasons.
I'm attracted to her for the fun factor, not looking for a relationship. However, she keeps bringing up relationship stuff, as i feels she's very desperate and seemed a bit fishy. today she bring up the deal, the cost of the hotel would cover whatever days I'd sleep with her, but I'm not sure if I should ask her about this directly or tell her straight out.
I'm not interested in spending money aimlessly, but if it means more time with her in a fun context, I'm willing to consider it. Still, I'm cautious about setting expectations where my financial help is seen as a transaction for intimacy or time together.
I'm looking for advice from those who have experience with these scenarios or dating single moms under potentially transactional circumstances...should i run, hang around for fun or ask/tell her straight out?
How fast can you run?
It's not money for sex, you're paying them to leave. Besides, do you really want to take advantage of someone who's obviously desperate? Up to you. But for me, I've (and she) always left kids out of it. Just not fair to them.
My advice: tell her straight out. I learned a long time ago to never promise or imply a future I couldn't/wouldn't deliver. But personally, I'd extract myself as soon as possible, if for no other reason than the kids.
This is a trap, you might as well use that money with a ML/WL is 100% NSA vs this which has a big chance of backfiring spectacularly.
just spoke to her..she saying help her daughter with school fees like 150-200 per month for a year....i got no clue about school fees thing right now. be like taking care of her kids and saying with me she get another job work 7 days...thought of asking about sugarbaby or exchange for sex but not appropriate or bad.
Is she a hot MILF?
Forget the easy pick up and set your sights on someone without any baggage.
she seems like desperately wanting a new husband or feels alone wanted to be accompany but then again you have to think about the kids. She is building the trust and care in you seeing if you have deep connections feelings. Nothing wrong if you serious about it, go for it but if you looking for fun i’d stay away unless it is comprised and consent.
Meeting the kids straight away is doing my head in. I know a handful of single moms (platonic and otherwise) and meeting kids is something that's usually only done when they're pretty sure you're going to be around a bit. Not at all first date kind of thing.
It may not be a vote, but if it is, I vote it's a run
Just my 2 cents worth: this topic has been covered by quite a few members here several times over the years.
Some very good advice above (thanks @11Bravo & others) but please remember: it's a TRANSACTION, nothing more, nothing less. As soon as you get chucked in the deep end (eg. meeting the kids first up, etc) is a major red flag.
Move on mate as this will most likely end in tears on both sides...
She lives in a different state, she's single and horny AF, I say go for it - this is an ideal setup.
Punting rule No1: Never ever leave pussy on the table.
Punting rule No2: Don't catch the feels for this chick, all parties must agree it's strictly NSA with a pay-4-sex arrangement, also make sure she's squeaky clean and/or get yourself some doxy before you raw dog the chick.
Caveat emptor: If her kids are under age (and for their sake) it's probably best to keep it moving bro, it never ends well for the little buggers.
I've dabbled with a few urban civvies, and know a few pumas, cougars and jaguars (divorced and single) that use vabbing to get the dumb ass sugar daddies. PYT chicks don't need to go to these extremes - their beauty, age, body and pussy is a strong enough magnet to pull any cunt in (regardless of age or status).
Are you sure this single mum didn't pull a vab on you bro, it seems she's got you hook line and sinker?
Just pump and dump. Enjoy her while you can. No relationship, especially single mother's.
Otherwise you could be up for spending money supporting kids who ain't even yours.
thanks guy..just thought of her as casual sex or stress release needed when I'm in Melbourne...but seems not into sex part and keep saying she's need to work 7 days and need support her kids...so i just drop it and lesson learnt next time how to deal these chick for sex.
One last hump, it can't hurt