PRC dating show : - D

[rooter]

e) Westerners tend to be alot more faithful and committed to a relationship

I think it's more accurate to say that there is a perception or belief among many Chinese (and other Asian) women that Western men are more faithful, more committed to a relationship, more homely, and have less bad habits like drinking, smoking, gambling, womanizing etc than their Eastern brothers
Whether that's in fact the case is different story - certainly not so in my case

[CunningLinguist]

It takes all types to make a race, obviously genetics is irrelevant, but cultural attitudes can vary.
In some cultures the man is expected to take a mistress, and others have polygamy.
Polygamy is probably a pragmatic way to rationalise mans innate behaviour.
I wonder if a polygamist still cheats on his wives...

[Sextus]

I wonder if a polygamist still cheats on his wives...

You are a funny guy Lady Cunninglinguist!

[AHLUNGOR]

It takes all types to make a race, obviously genetics is irrelevant, but cultural attitudes can vary.
In some cultures the man is expected to take a mistress, and others have polygamy.
Polygamy is probably a pragmatic way to rationalise mans innate behaviour.
I wonder if a polygamist still cheats on his wives...

Any brother knows the reason why Muslims are allowed to have 4 wives ??

[AHLUNGOR]

Any brother knows the reason why Muslims are allowed to have 4 wives ??

I think I just found the answer:

Why does the Qur'an allow Muslim men to have four wives?



There are some situations in which it is advantageous to society to have men marry multiple wives, and for this reason polygyny is practiced by many religions and cultures. As we have already seen in answer to question 2, polygyny is permitted in the Bible too. Here we will see that the Qur'an permits only a restricted and limited form of that practice. Only 2% of Muslim marriages are of this nature.

Notice that the Qur'an permits but does not command a man to have four wives. Furthermore, the Qur'an stipulates that a man is responsible for the maintenance of his wife or wives. If a man has more than one wife, he has to provide separate living accommodation for each of his wives. Multiple marriages are a heavy responsibility on the male. It is not a pleasure trip as some people may assume. Some even imagine all kinds of sexual exploits involving a man and his wives altogether. However, such activity is not permissible in Islam. A man must divide his time equally among his wives. He may, for example, spend one night with each wife on a rotating schedule. If a man cannot maintain justice in the treatment of his wives, the Qur'an stipulates that he is to have no more than one wife.

Polygyny provides a solution to some of life's problems. When there is a shortage of men, for example after a devastating war, many women will be unable to find husbands. Most women in that situation, given the option, would rather be a co-wife than no wife. If one maintains a strict monogamy in such a situation, moral depravity is bound to result.

It may be useful at this point to see what some non- Muslim writers are now saying on this much misunderstood subject. John Esposito says:
Although it is found in many religious and cultural traditions, polygamy (or more precisely, polygyny) is most often identified with Islam in the minds of Westerners. In fact, the Qur'an and Islamic Law sought to control and regulate the number of spouses rather than give free license. (John Esposito, Islam: The Straight Path, Oxford University, 1988, p.97).

Esposito then goes on to explain that in a society which allowed men an unlimited number of wives, Islam limited the number of wives to four. Then he continued to say:
The Qur'an permits a man to marry up to four wives, provided he can support and treat them all equally. Muslims regard this Qur'anic command as strengthening the status of women and the family for it sought to ensure the welfare of single women and widows in a society whose male population was diminished by warfare, and to curb unrestricted polygamy (John Esposito: Islam the Straight Path, p.97).

Karen Armstrong explains much the same in her book entitled Muhammad: A Western Attempt to Understand Islam. She says:
We have to see the ruling about polygamy in context. In seventh-century Arabia, when a man could have as many wives as he chose, to prescribe only four was a limitation, not a license to new oppression (Karen Armstrong, Muhammad: A Western Attempt to Understand Islam, Victor Gollancz Ltd., 1991, p.191).

It is unfortunate that the Western media often gives the wrong impression of what Islam is all about. Karen Armstrong writes:

Popular films like Harem give an absurd and inflated picture of the sexual life of the Muslim sheikh which reveals more about Western fantasy than it does about the reality (p.190).

Some people incorrectly assume that because of this ruling most Muslim men would have four wives. However, as Huston Smith points out, "multiple wives are seldom found in Islam today" (The World's Religions, p. 252). Ira Zep p, Jr. says that "less than 2% of Muslim marriages are polygamous" (A Muslim Primer, p.180).

About this being a solution for the problem of surplus women, Ira Zepp, Jr. comments on page 181 of his book:
The Roman Catholic Church is facing the same problem today in parts of Africa. Social and economic reasons are forcing the Church to reconsider polygamy as a Christian option. (See Polygamy Recon,isidered by Eugene Hillman, New York: Orbis Press, 1973).

[Sextus]

By the way, speaking of cultures and their differences, I saw this film on my big screen the other day. I haven't seen it since I was a teenager, and I remembered this scene was pretty hot, but now I've just realised how much! This beautiful tahitian girl Tarita is as innocent and inexperienced as her face shows - she was no professional actress, just a local girl, almost unaware of her sexual power. Her innocent magic.

(full screen.)

Cowgirl anyone?

http://www.tcm.com/mediaroom/video/3...sy-To-Eat.html

Marlon Brando fell in love with her during the filming and married her.

[AHLUNGOR]

By the way, speaking of cultures and their differences, I saw this film on my big screen the other day. I haven't seen it since I was a teenager, and I remembered this scene was pretty hot, but now I've just realised how much! This beautiful tahitian girl Tarita is as innocent and inexperienced as her face shows - she was no professional actress, just a local girl, almost unaware of her sexual power. Her innocent magic.

(full screen.)

Cowgirl anyone?

http://www.tcm.com/mediaroom/video/3...sy-To-Eat.html

Marlon Brando fell in love with her during the filming and married her.

Yeap, pretty hot, and some nice view on the side boob too!








But I must say, Brando wasn't looking too badly himself back then !!

[CunningLinguist]

You are a funny guy Lady Cunninglinguist!

Hahaha, so are you Man Sex ... tus

[CunningLinguist]

But I must say, Brando wasn't looking too badly himself back then !!

You aint kiddin, compare to this:

[CunningLinguist]

Another young Brando

[Sextus]

With daylight saving the PRC dating show is on too early at 7.30pm so I always miss seeing it.

I caught the last 15 minutes last night. It really is different to what a western dating show would be like. It can be so honest. There was a three minute interlude while one of the girls tearfully told of how her previous boyfriend had bashed her for three years. It came up because she had asked a question in a related vein to the prospective date. The announcers were offering her pretty obvious advice, but she was getting more and more upset. She was such a slight slip of a girl too, such a gentle girl, and it tore your heart to imagine it happening to her.

Finally the announcer had the girl next to her comfort her so they could move on, but three minutes later in a background shot you could see that she was still quite upset holding a damp hankie to her face.

[yjl11]

I also find the girls on the show to be very shallow, they tend to reject a guy if he is unattractive or average looks despite having a good education, family and career. But when it is a guy that is handsome and has a similar family and career background to the others guy that got rejected, the girls still leave their lights on simply because he is good looking.

I once saw this episode where this ex model guy came on, nothing spectacular about his career or family, yet 17/24 girls had their lights on till the end. Another guy who wore a suit and is quite tall and good looking, also had similar number of lights left on.

[Sextus]

I suppose that is true yjl11, but the girls are so very cute as well as being so easy on the eye, it is VERY EASY to forgive them for sometimes being a bit shallow!

[rooter]

I also find the girls on the show to be very shallow,

And us guys are never shallow of course
A girls age, looks, tits, arse, body etc are of no concern to us
We are only interested on her personality, intelligence, sense of humour etc

[CunningLinguist]

And us guys are never shallow of course
A girls age, looks, tits, arse, body etc are of no concern to us
We are only interested on her personality, intelligence, sense of humour etc

I think we are shallow when we wear our punters hats, but at other times I think we can be normal .... can't we .... ???

[AHLUNGOR]

I also find the girls on the show to be very shallow, they tend to reject a guy if he is unattractive or average looks despite having a good education, family and career. But when it is a guy that is handsome and has a similar family and career background to the others guy that got rejected, the girls still leave their lights on simply because he is good looking.

I once saw this episode where this ex model guy came on, nothing spectacular about his career or family, yet 17/24 girls had their lights on till the end. Another guy who wore a suit and is quite tall and good looking, also had similar number of lights left on.

Haha, tall dark and handsome, a lady's killer,

17/24 lights still on at the end, no problem, he still has to walk down there and turn OFF 15 lights himself and if the girl of his choice still has her lights on, then he will still only have two choices or three if the girl he likes already switched off.

But as a matter of facts, because a lot of the girls have already been on the show for a long time, so some of the guys actually already knows some of the girls quite well by watching the show.

Like that girl who owns a Hotel or the retired rower from the national team !!

For me, from the camera angle, very hard to tell who has got big tits until they walk out onto the cat walk..............lol

I am just a very shallow man !!

[woods23]

No 11 is extremely beautiful. (I think she's k-girl) She is my type. And I guess is every one type to