Could you seriously marry a WL?

[Milhouse]

I'm not talking about meeting a girl and finding out she used to be a WL/ML in her past, I'm talking about a girl who was working as a WL/ML when you met her.

A long time ago I came pretty close to marrying a WL, but when it boiled down to it, my main concern was, could I look into my children's eyes and not think of the job their mother used to work as? That was what ultimately stopped me from marrying her. It caused a lot of heart break and even regret, but I just could not pull the trigger on that, knowing I would have to lie to my children for their entire lives.

Would you be able to do it? Do you know any guys who have been able to do it?

[wilisno]

I'm not talking about meeting a girl and finding out she used to be a WL/ML in her past, I'm talking about a girl who was working as a WL/ML when you met her.

A long time ago I came pretty close to marrying a WL, but when it boiled down to it, my main concern was, could I look into my children's eyes and not think of the job their mother used to work as? That was what ultimately stopped me from marrying her. It caused a lot of heart break and even regret, but I just could not pull the trigger on that, knowing I would have to lie to my children for their entire lives.

Would you be able to do it? Do you know any guys who have been able to do it?

How many times you have posted this question ? Under different usernames ?

[grant]

I'm not talking about meeting a girl and finding out she used to be a WL/ML in her past, I'm talking about a girl who was working as a WL/ML when you met her.

A long time ago I came pretty close to marrying a WL, but when it boiled down to it, my main concern was, could I look into my children's eyes and not think of the job their mother used to work as? That was what ultimately stopped me from marrying her. It caused a lot of heart break and even regret, but I just could not pull the trigger on that, knowing I would have to lie to my children for their entire lives.

Would you be able to do it? Do you know any guys who have been able to do it?

You clearly regard the sex industry and the people working in it a shame, but why? You say that you couldn't possibly tell your children that their mother was a sex worker, but I assume you'd have no issues with hiding your punting habits from them. You're judging her the way you're socialised into judging her: some dirty rag we should all be publicly ashamed of.

You regard her as less than a person and I'm glad for her that you didn't end up marrying her.

[Milhouse]

You clearly regard the sex industry and the people working in it a shame, but why? You say that you couldn't possibly tell your children that their mother was a sex worker, but I assume you'd have no issues with hiding your punting habits from them. You're judging her the way you're socialised into judging her: some dirty rag we should all be publicly ashamed of.

You regard her as less than a person and I'm glad for her that you didn't end up marrying her.

Let me ask you this in answer to your question: would you want your daughter working as a ML/WL?

[Midnight_Prowl]

To me WL/ML is no different to any other women.

I would defintely marry a WL or ml anyway anytime. Doesn't make any difference.

My former ML married billionaire couple of weeks ago actually.

[Miyamoto]

I would take a ml/wl a date, if the date went well, I would start dating regularly. If that went well, I would move in together, if that went well I could marry her. Having said that, somewhere along the line I would want her to quit being ml/wl, just because I wouldn't want to share.

[AHLUNGOR]

I'm not talking about meeting a girl and finding out she used to be a WL/ML in her past, I'm talking about a girl who was working as a WL/ML when you met her.

A long time ago I came pretty close to marrying a WL, but when it boiled down to it, my main concern was, could I look into my children's eyes and not think of the job their mother used to work as? That was what ultimately stopped me from marrying her. It caused a lot of heart break and even regret, but I just could not pull the trigger on that, knowing I would have to lie to my children for their entire lives.

Would you be able to do it? Do you know any guys who have been able to do it?

Many older Aussie guys either widowers or divorced who has adult children had married MLs or WLs and lived happily ever after !

I personally know a few real life examples !

But if you are a young man in your twenty and marrying a WL or ml for the first time , it could be quite a different ball game !

Each to his own

Cheers

[Miyamoto]

Let me ask you this in answer to your question: would you want your daughter working as a ML/WL?

Would you want your daughter working as a cleaner? A waitress? The answer for me is no, I would want them to have more ambition, get a secure, high paying job with career opportunities.

[Miyamoto]

Brilliant response and one that I have used myself on numerous occasions as a social experiment on people - both male and female - who try to argue that there is nothing wrong in selling sex. So far, every single one of them bar none has simply shut up and gone back to the drawing board when asked if they'd be fine with their daughter someday working as a prostitute. 'Nuff said!

I think this is a silly argument, I could point out a guy in the street and ask do you want your daughter to have sex with that guy, the answer will probably be no, but she just might bring that guy home to meet you. I think the question is, could you accept your daughters choice (whether it's job, partner whatever)

[garfield]

Brilliant response and one that I have used myself on numerous occasions as a social experiment on people - both male and female - who try to argue that there is nothing wrong in selling sex. So far, every single one of them bar none has simply shut up and gone back to the drawing board when asked if they'd be fine with their daughter someday working as a prostitute. 'Nuff said!

Unfortunately people are a bit double standard when it comes to their daughters. Theres many older people who married a WL/ML due to a few factors, but to them they wouldn't mind someone younger, pretty and sexy and can give them a nice blow every night. For them, life is too short to give this a miss.

[Anaheim]

How many times you have posted this question ? Under different usernames ?

lol He has hasn't he? He must be waiting for an answer from the RIGHT person, whoever that is.
at least he gets the discussion going...and going...and going...

[grant]

Let me ask you this in answer to your question: would you want your daughter working as a ML/WL?

You miss the point. What I'm saying is that it's not the line of work this woman has chosen that bothers you, it's the public attitudes towards it that does. What you don't realise is that you submit to these attitudes and make them your own without thinking about it, which reinforces the shitty perceptions of the industry and those that work within it. If you yearn for the day that you can marry a woman you love, who happens to have a history of working in the sex industry without judgement directed at either your wife or yourself, you would do what you can at a small scale to improve the situation. Be honest about the fact that you want to marry a woman because you love her and that what she does or has done for a living should not be reason for anyone to regard her as less than human.

I'm surprised that some of us still submit ourselves to these public perceptions considering the what might happen to some of us if we were publicly exposed as punters. I'm not referring to what might happen to those in committed relationships but more generally about how those who visit sex workers are perceived. You wouldn't want your family and colleagues to know because they'll never look at you the same. You've done nothing wrong, they've just been convinced that punters deserve low social standing. If you feel this is unjust, why insist on regarding sex workers in a similar manner to how the public regards you as a punter?

I was almost going to not reply, being worried that I might be pissing in the wind but some of these replies made me think otherwise.

[Working Lady]

could I look into my children's eyes and not think of the job their mother used to work as? That was what ultimately stopped me from marrying her. It caused a lot of heart break and even regret, but I just could not pull the trigger on that, knowing I would have to lie to my children for their entire lives.

Shame on you.
Same as you judged working girls by their job, you can be judged by your saying.
You will never be welcomed.

Hope you get married with a woman to be a good mother of your children as you wish, instead of getting married with a love of your lifetime.
Then you may keep punting until your children know about your double-sidedness.

[AHLUNGOR]

Shame on you.
Same as you judged working girls by their job, you can be judged by your saying.
You will never be welcomed.

Hope you get married with a woman to be a good mother of your children as you wish, instead of getting married with a love of your lifetime.
Then you may keep punting until your children know about your double-sidedness.

Don't worry about him sister !

He obviously has been burnt once or twice pretty bad by WLs, so his point of view and opinions towards WLs can be understandable - each to his own, and there is no right or wrong answers or rules.

Peace and be respectful to all :

Ok boys, an update. I ended up "lending" her that $5000, as I felt partly sorry for her situation. I had a suspicion it wasn't for her studies, but I could see she was in dire financial situation. Anyway, we continued dating and I'd sleep over at her place at times, then one day she asked me for $3000 more for her studies (remember the initial cost was $8700).

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[wilisno]

There are lots of professions we wouldn't want our sons and daughters to be in too, at least we wouldn't look down upon those we found pleasure in ! That's what I call double standard !

[illidanstormrage]

You need a heavy dose of the red pill brother Milhouse. Look up 'Hypergamy'.

http://therationalmale.com/

https://heartiste.wordpress.com/

You can trust a woman to be a woman just as sure you can trust a man will be a man.

I wouldn't advocate marrying any woman unless you want her to be the mother of your children and have thoroughly vetted her and her family. Also have been with her at least 2 to 3+ years or longer.

By that time if you have actually been living together for a while you would be in de facto relationship/marriage from a legal standpoint anyway.

Marriage isn't much of a commitment on the girls part as they can get a divorce any time they want and really fuck you over. I did learn something from a wise person on youtube of all places. There is a price to pay for everything...

Sometimes the price of having a kid can be very high. You could end up losing everything in a divorce possibly even your kid and that's what happened to the guy, he lost his house, etc but kept custody of his kid which he was grateful for. Hopefully that won't happen to you. I'm not even being cynical but just the reality that should be acknowledged first and respected.

Blame it all on yourself 'cause she's always a woman to me.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kI3MwwWYC3Q

[whoiam]

Whatever who are u with, All marriage need to be serious. That's responsible for that girl and Uself. If you r ready to lead her step out of the four wall world. Forget abt her history, I know it's difficult but u have to overcome it. Throw ur double standard into the bin. Whatever who she was, once she married wiz u, she is ur wife, just a normally married woman. Plz treat her Nicely she will appreciate u in the future life! Wish u r going well.

[bfe]

No Milhouse, I will never knowingly marry a former or current whore.

The problem is not so much the profession, but the fact that they are wl suggests that they have loose morals and are prone to manipulating men.

Alot of politically correct men will tell you not to judge and they are right. Personally I hate to judge but fact of the matter is, there are plenty of women in this world. Only men who really dont care, or men who do not have the ability to find a normal woman would marry a whore.

Yes we are punters, in a sense we are no different from whores. But still you do not have to punish yourself and marry a whore. Live the double standard the way these whores do. Keep punting but find yourself a normal woman. Just because you punt, it does not mean you have to turn a hoe into a housewife. Let one of the bros on here who dont mind wifing a whore do that.

[wilisno]

No Milhouse, I will never knowingly marry a former or current whore.

The problem is not so much the profession, but the fact that they are wl suggests that they have loose morals and are prone to manipulating men.

Alot of politically correct men will tell you not to judge and they are right. Personally I hate to judge but fact of the matter is, there are plenty of women in this world. Only men who really dont care, or men who do not have the ability to find a normal woman would marry a whore.

Yes we are punters, in a sense we are no different from whores. But still you do not have to punish yourself and marry a whore. Live the double standard the way these whores do. Keep punting but find yourself a normal woman. Just because you punt, it does not mean you have to turn a hoe into a housewife. Let one of the bros on here who dont mind wifing a whore do that.

So it's ok to punish your wife by not letting her know you're a frequent punter ? So you can live a double standard live of being a good husband at home ?

[ouch]

Yep surely could