Well it affects both of them. We have a closed relationship and the lady and I are bisexual while the boyf is newer to this and far more into men. Hard to juggle before my injury - now it's just trash :/. Care more about the missus, boyfriend bitches more about it. Who I'm actually doing it for depends on the mood of each of them!
*claps* It wasn't as hard as BongKong made it out
Well, price is a concern in terms of 'you get what you pay for'. The 2nd last is advertised on some places, not so much others, and the last one is probably just termed 'edging would be amazing'. Last time I went for a punt the girl was almost painful in terms of how fast she was trying to get me off and fine with the physical issues (I'm not unattractive per se and I don't look 'disabled', minus the chair at least - i'm just damaged in places). The one before I gave up and walked out after paying with comments of 'men like u need your legs to work" "how would you keep a woman if you can't protect her?", "no, that's for other men" (touching breasts) etc. The place before that directed me away saying "we're full sorry" with 5 girls waiting out the front, and the only place I called to ask about wheelchair access doubled their rates on the phone when I asked what services were available.
I'm shy. I'm going to turn up somewhere and take what I get, and be grateful. I know two disabled guys who punt in the South and East way outside anywhere I could get to, and they've found regulars who meet the first two. Have to be young was probably a mis-statement - don't have to be young. 18 going on 40 is fine or 30 going on 20 is fine, 35 going on 60 isn't so appealing to me - and I was looking for information to guide me rather than feedback. Likewise, no spare tyre I literally meant 'matches pics' preferably rather than the angles you see where you get there and have a completely different physical experience, of the negative kind. Some of you will know where those shops are - I don't. I know there are a number of guys on here for whom price isn't a concern, and that's wonderful for you - and for others you choose to punt at a certain 'level' based on your set of needs/wants and how they balance against what you receive and where. I'd rather spend an hour travelling to somewhere good value in your eyes and accessible than risk a rare and (to me hugely expensive) experience to chance and cracker! I get that as a newbie it came across full on demanding.
As someone else said, think I need to go for 45 minute punt or an hour to get what I need in terms of shots, which is fine - and I know I'll be paying it - but thus the last one comes into play. I may be better off going for a private incall - but then I can't afford the people who charge $500/hour, and $250 once off is probably my absolute limit - at which point information usually comes from fellow punters too, by the look of it, I've spent hours and hours sorting through experience reviews, but they've not helped much, and I don't have a 2nd phone I can use to contact people directly - missus is okay with it but boyf is not, even though he's said that if my control doesn't improve then we probably won't have anything relevant to improve it for.
So there's the lay folks. Hopefully it explains more. I get that punting at the low end is not an ideal way of doing this - but sadly contact-based sexual therapists are for people who can afford $600/hour, and that's not me. I don't reckon my NDIS funds will pay for em!