Hey guys, I'm new to the forum and this is my first time posting; if I am in the wrong place let me know. Still learning the ins and outs of this site!
I've just discovered this forum about 1 week ago, but have been punting for a little over 2 years now. I didn't even know that was the word for it
I want to say that its really heart warming to find this group, with so many like minded individuals. The majority of people posting are respectful and supportive and its just so great to find that. I don't talk about this with anyone else in my life. Apart from one guy at my last job who I somewhat introduced this world to. But we've lost contact over the last year.
Anyway, you'll no doubt learn more about me over time, but I thought I would just share a little about my story, especially in light of the threads regarding romance with WLs/MLs. FYI I'm an ML guy, have always found the connection to be stronger, with exceptions in both cases however. I have always gone with the private ads on escortsandbabes or locanto, for some reason I've always stayed away from the brothels. Guess I feel classier or more discreet that way? But now that I've discovered this forum I am ready to give them a go!!
Haha, anyway, I had my first RnT around 2 years ago, after tossing up the idea for a good 2 years prior. As with many things in life, especially the more socially unaccceptable, it is simply about crossing a line, and then once its crossed the rest is inevitable.
I visited a shop in Bondi Junction (Ebley St I believe) and was met by a 30 something Chinese woman. I sensed at the time that it probably wasn't the greatest experience to be had in one of these shops, but I will never forget the feeling as I left that day. Truly liberating!
The next time I visited, around 3 weeks later, I asked for a petit girl (my preference). I was met by Yumi, who proceeded to give me, still to this day, one of the best GFE I ever had. She undressed me slowly, kissed me everywhere and was so unbelievably skilled with her hands, they were like magic. I ended up cumming all over her perfect chest and that was me hooked.
I was in a long term relationship at the time, 6 years, and was planning on asking her to marry me, although I probably (definitely!) wasn't ready and there were issues in the relationship. But we were a very solid couple. I continued seeing Yumi and our relationship together developed over the following months. Cut a VERY long story short, I ended up leaving my relationship for her. Before this point, we had started meeting up once a week in the city of a Friday night, eating nice food, talking for hours and going dancing. Kissing on the dancefloor, completely into eachother, it was like being a teenager again, totally intoxicating. Over the course of these evenings she started giving more away about her home life. She was actually married to a 40something Aussie who she absolutely hated. They had never once had sex (you will have to trust me when I tell you this is true, I know 90% of you will strike that comment off immediately but there is such a long version to all of this and there are a myriad of reasons for how I know this but just give me the benefit of the doubt until you know me a bit better, lol).
Anyway, the connection between us was 100% real. Although I later found out that in the beginning in the room she was just playing her part, which completely blew me away. In her own words, "How could I fall for a customer?". She was so convincing, and me being so new to the industry, went in all balls blazing and completely vulnerable.
Again cutting this history very short, I broke it off after 8 months for a few reasons. One, my ex GF had never given up hope and was always wanting to rekindle. She had told me at the time all this went down "just go and do what you need to do, I'm going to go back to Europe for 6 months (was going to be summer over there) and let's see if we can pick it up after." Mental that she actually was willing to do that, but she knows me better than I know myself. My ex came back and over those 8 months I had realised a few important things. One, that once you strip away the excitement of the room, and shit becomes real with one of these girls, it's never an easy road ahead. We had genuine connection, but everything was conditional. She needed a knight in shining armour to get her out of her depressing situation, and when it was clear that I couldn't be all that she wanted, things started to fray somewhat. The timing just wasn't right for me, and I couldn't go from being almost married to breaking it off for a ML and getting into just as intense a relationship. I also had some moments with her when I thought to myself, if we stripped away the romance, what would be left? So much of our infatuation with these women is physical, and although we develop mental connection too, I think it's safe to say that the majority is thinking with our dicks. I started to realise that our values didn't meet on certain things, and I wasn't sure if she would ever truly understand or support me (more on that another day). Whereas in my previous relationship we felt like a team, in this one I felt like the one pulling it, and I wasn't prepared to do that. So I realised that it wasn't actually true love.
It made me realise so much about my previous relationship and we are now getting married next year. I still punt and it kills me a little because if my partner knew she would be so hurt. But at the same time, although she could never accept it, meeting Yumi (not real name obv) actually saved our relationship. And continues to keep me a little more sane.
And the beautiful thing is that Yumi left the industry and finally found a job in finance here, although she still lives with her husband who she hates. It's a funny world but I know you guys of all people understand that nothing is simple and everyone has different motivations or reasons for finding themselves in the situation they do. I think she may have found someone now too, judging by her insta photos, and I am truly happy for her. Although it was an unforgettable and amazing 8 months and I would have loved to keep going with her, I just had a feeling it would end in tears one day, whether in 2 months or 2 years. It was genuinely hard for both of us to break off such a strong romance, but I still feel it was for the best and don't regret my decision. And despite my decision to break it off, I still think she is a wonderful human and wish only the best for her in life (although still feel pangs of sadness and a little jealousy of the new guy because I know how much fun he is having)
Anyway its a truly amazing story and this is probably only the 2% of it (my therapist at the time told me I should write a book LOL) .
But I just want to clarify in case I didn't make it clear above, I don't believe a relationship with a ML/WL can ever really work. I came probably the closest to real love with one as any I've read on this forum probably, but even then it became clear it wasn't sustainable. I might be wrong, but I think because it starts with a power imbalance, it's quite hard to level it out again, and it's always about supporting them. If you're into that, cool, but if you're a young guy like me just getting started in business and moving forward with life, then things might be a little challenging. Also because the relationship is literally built on sex from the beginning, it can be really hard to deal with once it moves on to more serious stages. And even harder to not think about how many guys they've been with before, whether they will return to the industry, plus how many guys still message them all the time etc etc. There may be those stronger than me, but I chose long term stability over short term passion.
Anyway, sorry for the essay, but I thought some people might be interested in reading. I'm pretty busy and it's hard to find the time alone to write, but I'll try my best to be active here. Not sure how it works with replies etc, will I get a notification? Can I disable email alerts?
Thanks for reading and happy punting
That's an awesome post / experience / life story.
In my years of punting. One realises that when you take the physical attraction & hormones out of the process. You come to truly appreciate your partner as your dick has been satisfied, thus your big brain is working now.
Good outcome for you !
How Old are you Basil 22...?
Thanks for the really informative story Basil22. Look forward to hearing more of your thoughts now you have joined. Welcome
Thanks for sharing your story mate, and welcome.
Great read Basil and thanks for sharing. I feel like you have hit the nail on the head on numerous points. It can be very easy to get carried away with all and think that the physical connection is something more, but when you dissect and check yourself you can see what it really is.
great words of wisdom... speaking as though you're in your 40's or 50's not in your 20's or 30's....
welcome and punt judiciously!
awesome story, good to hear a closest-to-the-real-thing romance story between a punter and a ML/WL and see how it laid out at the end. Don't we punters ever wonder the "What if" situation with ML/WLs? This story really relate to many punters.
Welcome to the forum brother Basil!
You certainly can write !
Thanks for sharing .
See you around and don’t go missing in action after one post ok !
Cheers
Lovely narrative and welcome
So this lovely yumi did have more than just massage skills and sex magic and is now plying her considerable talents in the Sydney finance sector
Great to see that you both moved on to other alternates..bigger and better
So out of curiosity and as she seemed to offer a whole lot more .. knowing what you now know . That is Yumi could support herself and is, would you have called it off?
Was she studying at the time or already qualified/degreed.
Haha I’ll try not to! To those asking about my age, I’m 32Originally Posted by AHLUNGOR
I’ve got lots more thoughts on the subject and no doubt will spit them out as time goes on!
One last thing though, even through this experience, I do still find it a challenge to compartmentalise sometimes...
You can’t get complacent!
Another way this game keeps you on your toes 🤣
Very well said!
She was already qualified. But due to a string of bad decisions and bad luck couldn’t work legally here. She is also a massive scatterbrain in a lot of ways! It’s actually her best and worst quality. Best because it means she is in the moment and really easy to have fun with, worst as she tends to get herself into disastrous situations (one of the things that was difficult about being with her)
I’m still happy with the decision I made, I really don’t think it would’ve worked long term. But I wouldn’t change a moment, not even for all the pain, anxiety and sleepless nights ! Learnt a lot about life and love that year.
Great story and good advice
Always best to pursue a proper relationship rather than a plastic one initiated in a brothel or massage parlour.
Is it a bird, is it a plane, no its Punterman. Always seeking out good value bbbj, DFK, DATY for $150 hr in the Western Sydney brothels.
How Old are you Basil 22...?
32! Trying to reply to peoples comments but nothing is appearing 🧐
I tried to reply to 3 other people’s posts, but nothing came up??
Any idea why? It was on the mobile site not full site
I’m 32 by the way!
Very well written Basil. I think so many guys out there could identify with your experiences. Good luck and best wishes to you.
@Basil22
This is easily the best post I've read this year.
Can relate to most of what you said, esp. the part about dating the ML helped to strengthen relationship with your long term partner.
While the fact Yumi was a parlor worker made things harder, my impression is that it's not restricted to ML/WL. Let's say Yumi was simply a hottie (working in Finance or whatever) you met in the bar or at a party, and you fell for her. It's going to be the same thing. Once the initial excitement has worn off after a few months, reality sets in and major differences surface. I learned this lesson the hard way and wish I'd read posts like yours when I was in my 20s.
Alot of wisdom. Alot of insights for other punters.
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