I'm glad I found this forum. People outside tend to judge fairly harshly of the behaviours that I ( and you partake.)
I've been in a committed relationship for over 25 years. I started using telephone sex services over 24 years ago when I was travelling on business, then evolved to massage parlours and then eventually a regular massage girl suggested we try FS. Fast forward to now and I'm visiting joints two times a week for entertainment and FS.
A couple of my personal rules for success.
Always use a burner phone
Always have a cover story
Always pay cash, plausible deniability
If it all turns to shit I'm prepared to lose everything and will go live on a beach in Thailand, Indo or Crunulla until the boarders reopen.