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    Falling in love with WL 2

    Hi all, just wanted to share a personal experience. Iíve been punting on and off for few years now. Couple months ago I saw a WL and after seeing her 4-5 times I felt we had some chemistry. At the last session she tells me she will quit this industry (sheís been working for around a year) and asked me if I wanted to visit her at her place to help her with her rent, I agreed and we exchanged contact.

    Visiting her at her place turns out to be a much better experience than in the shop. She lives in a studio by herself and she would set the mood with candles and dressed in sexy lingerie waiting for my arrival. Sex is good and then we would cuddle and chat. I pay her twice I pay when I visit the shop. And then we would clean up and head out for dinner and drinks.
    Spending time with her was great and I think we really got along. We did this for couple Friday nights and then one Friday afternoon she texted me saying she canít have sex with me tonight but if I still would like to meet up with her and I said sure, I have developed feelings for her and itís not only about the sex anymore. So we went out to dinner and everything was going well and I give her a Christmas present (Tiffany Necklace cost just under 2K), as usual we were having a good time and then she suddenly tells me she is also seeing someone else, another customer, and itís like a competition for her. I was taken a back because I was not expecting that, how foolish of me. I not used to competing for the same girl with another person. Anyways the night ended well with many kisses and hugs. The next Monday she texted me wanting to see me, thatís pleasant surprise for me but in the back of my mind I felt thereís a chance that something was up. So after work I go meet her at her place and we went to a restaurant near by. After a couple drinks she opens her hand bag and takes out the Tiffany box I gave her on Friday, that was the moment I feared and thereís no mystery whatís coming next, She tells me sheís been seeing some other guy for six months now and she has caught him lying to her about many things, but since knowing that she might want to start seeing me exclusively, he has decided to fully commit to her now and start a family with her very soon, and thatís more than I can promise and commit to her at the moment (even though I am single and living along, I donít feel I know her long enough to promise her that) so during dinner I pretty much didnít eat anything but kept on drinking. After dinner we went for a walk in a park and more long passionate kissing, and then at her door steps I wish her well and hope she finds what she is looking for and Iím sad Iím not her first choice. She then tells me the other guy is currently married with young daughter living together but he has since promised her he will divorce her and be with her. So thereís my story falling for a WL but I would do it again but maybe try keeping my feeling aside so I wouldnít feel so sad.

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    Thanks for your personal story, it hurts to feel betrayed by her two timing. At least, she told you now rather than later when you both were in a committed relationship.

    Well it is her loss by treating you like this.

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    Can you tell us her name and where she worked, a lot of us might also be her private clients, not just the two of you🤔

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    Firstly thanks for the story bro. I haven't been in the situation you are in but have been in but can understand how it feels when you aren't the ladies first choice. At the moment, I'm heading down that path with my regular. I'm just going to keep an open mind and see how it goes as we are just friends outside the shop, nothing more. Sure we can have sex but just hanging out ( dinner, walking the dog).

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    I have a feeling the other guy would never really divorce and have a family with her.

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    Bro you got a lucky break getting out of this while you still have a shirt on your back and your sanity.
    You will get a call from this girl at some stage saying things didn't work out with this other guy and she wants to see you again.
    When this happens be strong and say NO, and get on with your life.

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    No chance old mate divorces

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    Itís the girl who needs to read this and come to her senses. Mr Right - first choice is no way going to divorce just to be with her. Your dreaming luv... heís just telling you what you want to hear to keep the sex dream alive for him!
    As for you brother ĎSmallí run fast and run far, while it disappoints you and hurts now and itís only going to get way worse if you stick around and persevere with this girl. Surely you donít want to be in a relationship with her now knowing that you will always be number 2 in her mind.
    Good on her for being up front with you now about the situation this is incredibly honest and will save you so much more heartache. So please ĎSmallí take the hit and donít look back, you canít ever buy her love as number 2.

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    Bro,
    I agree with everyone here.
    You are lucky to come out of this unscathed.

    Firstly, I'm sorry this has happened to you. Rejection always feels shit. Especially when you thought things were going so well.

    Secondly, try not to dwell on too much about the girl now. And don't try to blame her. She's probably been burnt a few times too. Maybe explains why she was seeing another person. Try to remember all the fun that you had, boy it must have been exciting. She played you, but at least it was fun, and you're out of it before it got too deep.

    Thirdly, dating WLs are always tricky. Never mind the fact that they see multiple guys intimately during the day. But almost all the time they want to get out of that profession. Never want to date a guy who is a client, because they think deep down clients aren't upstanding people and maybe we would remind them of a part of their life that they aren't proud of. So they end up with someone who they think doesn't punt.

    Finally, you will learn from this. Maybe get burnt again or more. But eventually build some resilience and things will hurt less. Probably means you won't fall head over heels for them as hard as you did in the beginning. Which is a good thing, or not.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rooter View Post
    Bro you got a lucky break getting out of this while you still have a shirt on your back and your sanity.
    You will get a call from this girl at some stage saying things didn't work out with this other guy and she wants to see you again.
    When this happens be strong and say NO, and get on with your life.
    Amen, they have bullshit embedded in their DNA...good luck

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    While this thread is about a WL, it should be remembered that the same thing can happen with any girl.

    I have, and I'm sure many others have, been two-timed by unstable girls just out looking for a good time with guys.

    And guys do it with girls too.

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    Quote Originally Posted by CFM001 View Post
    Bro,
    I agree with everyone here.
    You are lucky to come out of this unscathed.

    Firstly, I'm sorry this has happened to you. Rejection always feels shit. Especially when you thought things were going so well.

    Secondly, try not to dwell on too much about the girl now. And don't try to blame her. She's probably been burnt a few times too. Maybe explains why she was seeing another person. Try to remember all the fun that you had, boy it must have been exciting. She played you, but at least it was fun, and you're out of it before it got too deep.

    Thirdly, dating WLs are always tricky. Never mind the fact that they see multiple guys intimately during the day. But almost all the time they want to get out of that profession. Never want to date a guy who is a client, because they think deep down clients aren't upstanding people and maybe we would remind them of a part of their life that they aren't proud of. So they end up with someone who they think doesn't punt.

    Finally, you will learn from this. Maybe get burnt again or more. But eventually build some resilience and things will hurt less. Probably means you won't fall head over heels for them as hard as you did in the beginning. Which is a good thing, or not.
    I had this exact discussion with my regular the other week. She was worried that she was going to be single forever because of her choice of profession and that she wouldn't lie to any future boyfriend about her past. I basically said to her that if any guy she is with judges her for doing what she had to do to further her life for the future, then fuck those guys. Sometimes all these girls want is reassurance that they're not stigmatized and that they deserve what everyone else deserves - a healthy, loving relationship, respect and stability. If anything, I think someone who does punt is more so in a position to not judge but it's different strokes for different folks. There are genuine souls in all walks of life, who are we to judge them?

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    It's all basically been said, it is good that she was honest with you about what was going on, but yeah it still feels like a pile of steamy turds right now. Take the hit, walk away with the good memories of a fun time and the knowledge you've potentially dodged a bullet and a far greater heartache down the track.
    My strong advice is delete her number and social media if you can. Not out of spite or anything, just to go cold turkey and speed up the healing process and to remove the temptation. (Easier said than done, and I am being a tad hypocritical as I have failed with the above challenges, and thus still stuck in a vicious cycle incapable of fully moving on, learn from the errors of my ways!!) Some will advise going out and fucking anything with a pulse. Have tried that. It works for some, not for others. No harm in trying if you feel like it.
    It's harder to move on when you've got nowhere to move on to, but just keep walking.

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    Dodged the bullet with this one. Sorry to hear but at the end of the day, there are plenty of girls out there you can have great chemistry with. Good luck

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    I canít help but feel you are the kind of guy who will repeat this mistake over and over again. Do you look at WLs as a key source of finding a relationship? I think I suggested over three years ago to you to understand the boundaries.

    It is crazy the way some of you guys throw money at the girls in a forlorn hope that it will make them love you. All it does is create a mindset in some of what else they can milk from you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by small View Post
    Hi all, just wanted to share a personal experience. I’ve been punting on and off for few years now. Couple months ago I saw a WL and after seeing her 4-5 times I felt we had some chemistry. At the last session she tells me she will quit this industry (she’s been working for around a year) and asked me if I wanted to visit her at her place to help her with her rent, I agreed and we exchanged contact.

    Visiting her at her place turns out to be a much better experience than in the shop. She lives in a studio by herself and she would set the mood with candles and dressed in sexy lingerie waiting for my arrival. Sex is good and then we would cuddle and chat. I pay her twice I pay when I visit the shop. And then we would clean up and head out for dinner and drinks.
    Spending time with her was great and I think we really got along. We did this for couple Friday nights and then one Friday afternoon she texted me saying she can’t have sex with me tonight but if I still would like to meet up with her and I said sure, I have developed feelings for her and it’s not only about the sex anymore. So we went out to dinner and everything was going well and I give her a Christmas present (Tiffany Necklace cost just under 2K), as usual we were having a good time and then she suddenly tells me she is also seeing someone else, another customer, and it’s like a competition for her. I was taken a back because I was not expecting that, how foolish of me. I not used to competing for the same girl with another person. Anyways the night ended well with many kisses and hugs. The next Monday she texted me wanting to see me, that’s pleasant surprise for me but in the back of my mind I felt there’s a chance that something was up. So after work I go meet her at her place and we went to a restaurant near by. After a couple drinks she opens her hand bag and takes out the Tiffany box I gave her on Friday, that was the moment I feared and there’s no mystery what’s coming next, She tells me she’s been seeing some other guy for six months now and she has caught him lying to her about many things, but since knowing that she might want to start seeing me exclusively, he has decided to fully commit to her now and start a family with her very soon, and that’s more than I can promise and commit to her at the moment (even though I am single and living along, I don’t feel I know her long enough to promise her that) so during dinner I pretty much didn’t eat anything but kept on drinking. After dinner we went for a walk in a park and more long passionate kissing, and then at her door steps I wish her well and hope she finds what she is looking for and I’m sad I’m not her first choice. She then tells me the other guy is currently married with young daughter living together but he has since promised her he will divorce her and be with her. So there’s my story falling for a WL but I would do it again but maybe try keeping my feeling aside so I wouldn’t feel so sad.
    So did she at least hand you back the Tiffany necklace?

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    Quote Originally Posted by quackm2002 View Post
    I canít help but feel you are the kind of guy who will repeat this mistake over and over again. Do you look at WLs as a key source of finding a relationship? I think I suggested over three years ago to you to understand the boundaries.

    It is crazy the way some of you guys throw money at the girls in a forlorn hope that it will make them love you. All it does is create a mindset in some of what else they can milk from you.
    It's no wonder men are the weaker sex because of what is found in between a woman's legs. Men throw money and give expensive gifts to these girls hoping they will love them. Wake up guys. Go to the shop pay for the service drop your load and move on with your lives. If you really want a girlfriend or wife don't go looking for one in a brothel. They have many guys chasing and banging them. Why would she settle for one guy when there are many stupid fish in the sea waiting for her?

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    Small, I totally feel for you, went through similar experience lately. I thought I was in love but it was the sex that rationalized my brain to think its love. We hung out and go out for dinners and stuff but when I asked for commitment, the money question started flowing. It also messed with my head on what she does during the day and seeing AR reviews popping up. Long story short, I stopped seeing the girl and have got into full Whoremonger mode which quickly filled in the void I try to fill with her.

    There is no chance of the guy leaving his family, I bet she will come back when she falls behind on rent... Be strong my friend, plenty of fish in the sea. I've been fishing in a lake and didn't realize there is a whole ocean out there.

    Often my mind still wonders what if?.... but same can be said about my ex-wife and ex-girlfriend.

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    You've got a mind, a heart, a stomach, and a cock and they are all constantly fighting for control.
    But the mind always has to be the boss.
    You can let your stomach, heart, or cock take over for while and experience, pleasure, intimacy, passion, indulgence, love etc. You don't want to be a miserable old sod.
    But the mind has to be able to rein them back in and take over and take control.
    You have to master this basic life skill.
    It's not always easy but it has to be done.
    If you let your heart, stomach, or cock take control of your life you are doomed.

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    Quote Originally Posted by rooter View Post
    You've got a mind, a heart, a stomach, and a cock and they are all constantly fighting for control.
    But the mind always has to be the boss.
    You can let your stomach, heart, or cock take over for while and experience, pleasure, intimacy, passion, indulgence, love etc. You don't want to be a miserable old sod.
    But the mind has to be able to rein them back in and take over and take control.
    You have to master this basic life skill.
    It's not always easy but it has to be done.
    Amen Rooter. very elegant way of putting it.

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