@Small, sounds like you have done the right thing walking away. Must have been hard, but good for you. Plenty more tail to chase so just go for it. Try and find a regular outside the brothel.
It takes a strong man to date or marry a WL while they're still working, I know I couldn't do it.
Much better if she leaves the industry, as long as you have the funds to support her and maybe her family, kids or project overseas.
As you can imagine it's much easier if they have less responsibility, so go for Japanese girls. They tend to have no need to send money overseas and are genuinely amorous.
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Maybe there are some guys who love the fact that this girl they're chasing is also being chased and banged by plenty of other guys. They want to be the one that comes out in front. Sounds stupid, but hey, that's just how some people are. Funnily enough, once they get what they want, they'll lose the rush and dump the girl for something else. Such is life.Originally Posted by cuteguy
I think if he prepares for the fact that one day she may come back to him. Hopefully he would have rationalised all his emotions by then. Should be fine.
Totally agree with you man. It's a timely reminder to not get too involved with WL's which is what I'm strongly trying to avoid at the moment and just keep to being friends with my regular.
No feelings of love or anything but more of caring for a friend if that makes sense.
This is perfect advice man. I agree with you 100% and it's so true. The girls deserve a healthy loving relationship.
Better not to get too involved with an WL. But if it happens I think you have to be prepared to get burnt. It's not too different to dating a normal girl, things just never work out sometimes. But you have to go into it knowing all the pros and the cons. And most importantly, enjoy the whole process.
Was just about to say that unless $2k is small change for, er, small (the OP), declining to accept the return of the gift just might mean that at some level, he hopes she will see what a nice guy he is and come back to him eventually, or at the very least make her think she should have gone with him instead of the other (married) guy...
In my experience WL's think different, they do not consider having sex with multiple guys as cheating even though they have BF/husband/partner, I have met lots of WL's who are in serious relationship but once in a while pop into brothels to fulfill their fantasies or to get away from their reality as they miss having sex with multiple guys, most of them do it to make some extra money to buy either LV/Gucci/Prada crap and some do it because they like being WL once in a while.
If you are single it is easy to fall in love with WL's or ML's as they give you intimate sensual feeling and you would fantasise being with them once you are back home.
Learn to master on and off switch between your life and punting life or you will always end up breaking you heart.
That’s exactly what’s needed
It seems like the guys who fall in love with Wl's are the perpetual nice guys with zero back bone and useless at setting boundaries.
For the OP maybe you should ask for the $2000 neck lace that I'm assuming you worked hard for and in no way does she deserve just because she put on some lacey nickers and allowed you to pay for her dinners.
A girl who does what she does for a living, leads you on, in a relationship with a married man with a young daughter is not the type of girl any "man would be lucky to have," she is the exact type of girl every man should avoid.
I'm not trying to put you down or belittle you, maybe you should read the book No More Mr Nice Guy by Robert Glover or something.
You weren't dating her . So no loss to you. you got more than you pay for. You got to fuck her in her place then went out for dinners walks . If this was an escort it would cost you thousands. She never lead you on. it's was you who decided to buy her the necklace. Then she did the right thing by telling you that she was actually dating another Guy 6 month already. She didn't like him because he lies. She wanted a family but you're not up for it.
Hold on is she hot? And what nationality is her. I think she's thai.
didn't your book tells you that this happens with normal girls as well, especially with the hot pretty girls because they got lots of options. Stick with the girls that nobody wants then I'm sure you can have it all to yourself.
Anything good in life is always hard to get.
I personally haven't read it as I don't need to, but have heard it is a good read and may be helpful assuming he wants help which he probably doesn't.
The book is not really the point of my post anyway, he could read tea leaves for all I care.
Hot pretty girls do normally have more options, but they're not anymore open and approachable as others.
Hey @small
Thanks for sharing your story and I too have been a similar position, however I would have been the one leaving the family for the girl. It did not go ahead because once you realise the financial, emotional and social realities of a divorce then you start to question if it is really worth it. Especially when kids are involved! I would daresay this will happen with the other man your girl has chosen. Divorces are not that easy.
Just like us punters, these girls can also have their judgement clouded by this world and she’s become sucked in by the prospect of stability and very likely visa options. Not sure if you’ve ever had those type of discussions with your girl.
I’d say you certainly have dodged a bullet here
Ps I’m glad to hear more stories coming out and I will share mine eventually, just never have for fear of getting flamed, it’s not something that we can easily discuss with family or friends ‘on the outside’ so its great that we can all support each other here.
Yeah man I am hearing you. Currently I am on the border of a relationship or just being friends. I think in the best interest of myself, its best to remain friends. I mean sure there is always that option to get into a relationship but after the past few days of reading and getting to know her, I think its just way better to be friends. There is no connection in terms of love but being friends is awesome ! We actually act like friends when we hangout and doing stupid shit like laugh at each others jokes and give ourselves high 5's when we are talking, all that friendship type of stuff.
Deep down, I don't think I am even prepared to have a girlfriend. I would like to have a girlfriend, but I have come to the realisation of what you said CFM001 and have taken all of your advice on board. I am involved with my regular but not to much if that makes sense.
lol you can be friend with your WL because you don't have any feeling for her. I can't see you want to be friends with the one that you having feelings for.
Totally agree. If she was only with you then let her keep the necklace if she decided to move on. However, she had another guy and you both at the same time and basically, she was weighing up her options as to who would deliver more. When she was not committed to you then such girl should be avoided for any relationships. You should have taken the necklace back when she agreed to return it.
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