Originally Posted by
boater
Mmmm,
You can show up, get 'serviced', 'blow' and go. Been there, done that, not something I enjoy any more.
I prefer to have fun with the person I am meeting, to take the hour or so that we have and see if we can create something special, where the two of us can relax and enjoy each other.
Not your cup of tea? That is fine, but it is what I like.
In my experience every woman is different in what they enjoy, but at the same time every woman can relax and enjoy herself if she is in right mood.
The first thing I look for are ladies I think may be able to relax, and here it is often the case that experience is the enemy of connection. Many experienced women in this profession develop a routine, a way of looking after the guy they are with, so tend to be drawn to ladies who are either too inexperienced to have developed such a routine or who are comfortable enough with what they are doing to let the routine go.
Having an orgasm can be pretty tiring and when a lady is seeing guy after guy - an endless parade of dicks if you will -so its pretty unlikely a woman in a brothel will be throwing herself into orgasm after orgasm. The first objective therefore is to disrupt that routine, to say "this guy is different", to invite her to relax, to play, to have some fun.
I will start by telling her my 3 requests
1) Tell me if I do anything you DON'T like so we can stop
2) Tell me if I do anything you DO like so we can do some more
3) Feel free to make
From here on its time to play it by ear, what I am looking for is a reaction, something I can work with and develop. If she hasn't taken the initiative I will set to work with hands, tongue, nose, lips, fingers and hair to tease and explore her, listening, feeling for a reaction. When I get something positive I may continue there for a while to note to come back to that. I will mix things up, moving suddenly to different parts of her body. I will mix in gentle and firm, fast and slow, always listening to her body for a reaction, and adjusting what I am doing in response.
I want her responding, playing, relaxing before we move down to her sex.
Transitioning to oral on her is something we work up to, move around, tease a bit. Before moving into the centre I will normally lick, suck and nibble on the inner thighs, esp the area of the tendons, often being quite forcefully with my tongue before moving over to the clit.
By now she should be interested and involved and I will explore how she likes to be licked, often starting with a light flick and then maybe a probing tongue as far into her as I can. But again mixing it up to see what this individual woman responds to, what she enjoys.
My preferred way of operating is to but a finger with a well filed (and tested on my had to make sure there are no sharp bits left) finger tip inside the pussy to get feedback on how she is responding, I find I get far batter data from there than from anywhere else. Few women have much voluntary control down there, esp when they are being eaten out properly.
Broadly speaking I find there are two main groups for ladies. One enjoys the clit itself flicked with the tongue, rapidly but lightly, the other enjoys longer, harder, deeper strokes starting around then vaginal opening and moving up over the clit. The important thing is to keep it up, vary it a bit, but keep it up. You are essentially masturbating the woman and to get her over the line it will take time and persistence. I will get tired, my neck will sometimes hurt, but is she is responding then you just keep going and going and going until you get her there.
The key thing again is listening to what her body is tell you, feeling her response (her real response - ignore the fake moaning - if your doing it right that will stop) , adapting to what her body is telling you works.
Is it a fair bit of work? Sure it is, but when you are a balding middle aged slightly chubby guy there is something rather special in taking a 20 something beauty and reducing her to a gasping, shaking, quivering wreck, covered in sweat and twitching uncontrollably for minutes at a time, looking down at her "out-of-it" smile and saying in your head - "I did that". Special to me anyway. And make no mistake about it, if you listen to what the lady's body is telling you and put the work in you can give even a working girl something both of you will remember.
If we have had a good time, I will often ask if she would like me to come back - regularly she will say yes, and then the questions is "early in the shift" (so she is fresh) or "late" (so she doesn't need to keep energy in reserve for the next guy). Quite a few will say "early" but some will ask for me to make sure I am her last customer for the day.
Boater