The best safe word is Stiffy. But nor stylised with 3 CAP Fs, that's too weird.
G'day Punters,
Anyone ever tried using a safe word while you punt? Howd you go about agreeing to it?
For some context, spent 15 min of first ever punt explaining the concept to a WL with poor English due to being a greedy StiFFF (mainly biting/too rough) and don't want to waste time and money again doing it, but at the same time don't want to be accused of rape.
Cheers
The best safe word is Stiffy. But nor stylised with 3 CAP Fs, that's too weird.
Best safe word is ‘harder’
Safe word can be anything. Just gotta be in their language
I'm not into BDSM (never tried). But in that world no can mean yes.
Vanilla sex and BDSM are two different worlds.
In the normal/vanilla world which includes dating, casual sex, relationships, marriage, punting etc then its very simple No means No and you don't need a safe word.
But the BDSM world is different. Saying "No", "Stop", etc can be part of the game/play, so you need a safe word like "Red" "Mercy" etc to know you really want to stop.
Just to repeat the obvious, in punting no really does mean no, stop really does mean stop. Don't be an arsehole and don't be a rapist. You will do 10 years in prison.
I am not saying this is how things should have or could have. I am just calling the world as it is. Where in my last statement did I disagree 'no means no'? Read it again and tell me mate. And where exactly in my statement did I 'argue'? Do not put words in my mouth floppydick.
You can denounce the practice of using safe word in the context of BSDM because <fill in your reason> and I will respect your view. I may even agree with you. But there was nothing wrong with my last statement. It is factually correct.
How about just using the word STOP?
Why would you need a safe word for normal sex
Interesting thread but I think some of the lads are missing the point of Mr Stiffy’s post. He’s simply asking how do you bring up the subject or explain the concept to a woman.
When it comes to sex play the spectrum is wide ranging from teasing and withholding, to soft, sensual, passionate sex, to hot, steamy, intense, rough sex to more aggressive forms of play in BDSM. Even in BDSM there are varying levels of intensity.
A visual indicator as to whether the woman might engage in more intense and rougher sex is to look for bruising around ankles, wrists, arms, arse, breasts, neck, hickeys or love bites etc etc Some women do like dirty talk, being pinned down, dominated, grabbed, spanked, arse slapped, hair pulled, light choking, blind folded, soft biting etc as it increases the release of dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins - which can be quite addictive.
As Mr Rooter correctly pointed out if there’s no consent to the act then legally it’s deemed a criminal offence ranging from sexual assault, aggravated sexual assault to rape etc. The caveat might be actus reus and mens rea. Either way always ask for consent even if it was provided previously.
A great topic for discussion gents.