Quote Originally Posted by bradpitt View Post
I have met a good girl while I was overseas and she is wife material. Whether I am husband material, I am clearly not, however I am interested in pursuing a relationship with this lady. Because it is a long distance relationship there is also that extra level of trust that is needed. Being an information professional I like collecting publicly available data. Would collecting data like this constitute stalking or some other offence?

Date, First Whatsapp Message, Last Whatsapp Message

BTW, my assumption is that she and I will both be continuing to see other people, I'm just interested to see if I can predict it. In a previous LDR I was able to pinpoint to the girl the exact days on which she had been seeing another guy, just based on changes of first login habits. And if I can do this, just imagine what facebook already knows.

i just think all these talk is silly.

seemingly, you've found someone whom you think is wife material. you think she is good for you, but yet you do not see yourself being good for her. so this is going to be one-sided, right from the start. to what end ? you are happy for her to be seeing someone else, and you want her to accept that you will also be seeing others. so what is the actual relationship between you two ? or what type of relationship would you call it ?

in my opinion, you just want someone to call your own. you want to be able to say you have someone, someone who is wife material, good etc etc but you don't really want any strings attached. it all seems confusing to me, i mean, you might be confused with what you want. it is possible that you are a much older man, and in your younger days, you might have been cheated on, or been gravely disappointed by someone or simply had a failed relationship which you actually had high hopes of maintaining. the fear of failure again is causing you to have such feelings for this person. you want this person, but yet you don't want to give up everything for this person, just in case it fails and you would have given up things or other pleasures in vain. you want to follow her around, or seek to find information about her, maybe on a daily basis, just so you could feel a closeness to her. of course, this being long distance, you are unable to oppose to her seeing someone else, so you say you don't mind her seeing someone else, condition being you also can see others.

now, on to this word 'stalking' This is one word that i dislike very much. it has all sorts of negative connotations, yet the person doing it might not have any ill intentions. when you are younger and you found out that a member of the opposite sex is stalking you, you might even be flattered. if for example you found out Jennifer Lawrence is stalking you, would you be offended ? would you report her to the police ?

when the police follow you around or tail you, on a daily basis, asking people around you for info about you, monitoring your every movement, is that considered stalking you ? how is it that it is okay for them to do it, but not you ? all this sounds like a load of bull, if you asked me.

but anyways ......