Another stupid falling for a girl story - advice?

[keebab]

Thanks lol. Yeah I've given up on the thread. Some great advice early on which has helped me.

I'm doing well to manage my feelings, keeping it a business transaction as much as possible. There's nothing there unfortunately.

And please take all the advice with the respect its given. We've all collectively fucked up in a similar way to some degree. Some guys much more than others and you can see the trainwreck situations they find themselves in.

If you're keeping it all business, you'll be golden and most likely be laughing about this situation in 6 months time.

[HamishAM]

Update on this if anyone cares.

I've stopped seeing her this week.

I found myself getting the feels still. We saw each other a few more times but she kept coming late to our sessions, and leaving early. She kept me on "read" without responding for days at a time which is painful. It was an enjoyable time with her, a 10/10 in my books from a look perspective. The sex was good. But my attachment and her lack of care for me ultimately forced me to end it.

I'm now trying not to keep watching her stories and get over her, but it's a hard journey.

[Soccerfan]

Sounds like you made the right decision. It also sounds like she was trying to help you make it. It’ll get better with time and don’t forget we’ve all been there. Good luck.

[Footballpunter]

Update on this if anyone cares.

I've stopped seeing her this week.

I found myself getting the feels still. We saw each other a few more times but she kept coming late to our sessions, and leaving early. She kept me on "read" without responding for days at a time which is painful. It was an enjoyable time with her, a 10/10 in my books from a look perspective. The sex was good. But my attachment and her lack of care for me ultimately forced me to end it.

I'm now trying not to keep watching her stories and get over her, but it's a hard journey.

I think this is better this way than to have her stringing you along. Hope you feel better soon.

[c1teh9]

So many hot women in the world man.

Use this time and extra $ to work on yourself, smash the gym, work on a business, work on your pick up game etc.

Then when you feel confident maybe book a trip overseas and you'll see what else is out there and you won't miss a thing about this chick.

[JSteel96]

Update on this if anyone cares.

I've stopped seeing her this week.

I found myself getting the feels still. We saw each other a few more times but she kept coming late to our sessions, and leaving early. She kept me on "read" without responding for days at a time which is painful. It was an enjoyable time with her, a 10/10 in my books from a look perspective. The sex was good. But my attachment and her lack of care for me ultimately forced me to end it.

I'm now trying not to keep watching her stories and get over her, but it's a hard journey.

Definitely hard to break it off with a girl when the sex is good but with the arriving late and leaving early it was wise of you to end it. Its got to be one of the hardest things to do its like breaking up with a real girlfriend. Your best bet is to see some other wls. And try not to fall in love with them.

[DayMan69]

OP you've spent the last few months receiving a crash course in love and women. And like any good education, it's cost you a shit tonne of money and mental stress. You've had the express elevator of joy and the toilet plunger of despair.

Go forth young padawan, stronger and wiser.

[Double_Adapter]

I think this chick is really into you bro and is now playing hard to get. She's pushing you away to test your resolve and authenticity and wants to know how far you are willing to fight for her love. Don't give up the struggle, shower her with lots of compliments and expensive gifts; and if need be turn it up a notch and go into needy/clingy/thirsty/desperate mode. All chicks dig that mode and generally fall for it (at least they do in every romcom)

[peripel]

I think this chick is really into you bro and is now playing hard to get. She's pushing you away to test your resolve and authenticity and wants to know how far you are willing to fight for her love. Don't give up the struggle, shower her with lots of compliments and expensive gifts; and if need be turn it up a notch and go into needy/clingy/thirsty/desperate mode. All chicks dig that mode and generally fall for it (at least they do in every romcom)

Some chicks are good at inventing a whole new story. If this chick finally settles down with kids she should start writing a brand new romcom book.

[HamishAM]

Thanks everyone, appreciate the comments. On to the next.

[Spanky69]

Now I know why this thread was started. And I know now who started it other than the obvious username (some people are really good at digging up the past).

I have to admit, I had wrong views in the past. I had no father figure to teach me how to look for a wife - I was told to "figure it out myself". Every relationship I realised that I was easily duped, only because I was trying to avoid becoming like my own father. I didn't want to go through a life of multiple marriages and divorces myself like my father did. Unfortunately I went through my first divorce in early 2019 and luckily no kids involved.

The time I posted the quoted comment I was actually dating a WL, one who was previously quite popular. She accepted my proposal to be her gf almost immediately - I was so happy at that time. She even asked me if I wanted kids. I kept seeing her for more than a year. The dealbreaker was that she purposely forgotten about my birthday which was a traumatic event for me. She didn't even offer any apologies or try to calm me down. I walk out on her.

Weeks after that I saw an opportunity to see M on a regular basis which I couldn't before that because she tends to get booked out in the afternoons. M also announced that she might be quitting by year end. I didn't react to it at first only because I was conflicted between going back to the WL I broke off with or starting anew with M, someone I've been yearning for years. Honestly when M rejected me for the second time I had thoughts of going back to the ex and probably just accepting that I might have to endure the trauma of having my birthday forgotten - I haven't actually celebrated my birthday properly for more than a decade because of a family issue.

Being able to see M regularly and having her convince me to keep seeing her was something that made my connection to her very strong. Something that my 3 other WL exes just didn't have. With the one I saw before M, honestly she's been tormenting me after our sixth month together. I had the strong devotion to stay with her regardless of what was about to happen - I thought that if I had to endure an unhappy marriage and divorce for the second time, so be it. But I felt that something was protecting me - our breakup was purposely caused through that traumatic event. Remembering that traumatic event I didn't even tell M my birthday, hoping that she doesn't do the same to me if we were to continue seeing each other long enough.

So yeah, what I wrote in that old comment was real. The one that I went out with on a shopping date outside was the first ever WL I've dated. That was before I met M.

All I can say now is this - the forum hasn't changed much since then but I wrote that real life experiences just to have a go at the person who "doxxed" me once upon a time ago. I admit that I was still pissed off at her at the time. I wanted to focus on my ex at that time and be the person to make her happy but unfortunately her karma ran out. Right now I don't mind having to experience any karma of leaving my ex. Even if M decides to play me and not come back, I'll accept and move on. All I want is for M to be happy. No point in her making my wish come true if she's going to suffer with thoughts that I might leave her one day, but my dealbreaker is simple - either not celebrate my birthday at all or make the effort to celebrate it even if you can't buy a tiny gift. The ML I dated before my ex also did the same thing by pretending to forget about my birthday after we exchanged our birthdates (and I bought a present for her birthday) but I forgave her at the time. With M, if we were to meet again I don't mind her not celebrating my birthday as long as she doesn't ask for my birthdate. The reason is because it is the issue that causes a rift between myself and my dad before his passing.

So Ive been living through a similar thing but with a sum total of three WLs and two MLs plus my GF. Still have two on the go maybe three plus the GF.

Difference is I drop them after I’ve burnt them.

That way you come out the winner.

Begov94 I read you as a big loser.

Copy what I do and you’ll be a better person for it. You won’t need any happy pills or feel a need to put your real life out in the forum.

I know you’ve been banned but no doubt you’re still around somewhere…

[Spanky69]

There is a lot of sage advice here mate. She's keeping you at arms length, which is exactly what she should do as long as its a business relationship. What started as fun is now painful and won't be good for your headspace in the long term.

Cliche but there are hundreds of hot 20y/o Jap girls walking around Sydney. You can always find another.

A similar age J girl… Yep that was the first WL I dumped December last year. 38 years younger than myself. She wanted to move in straight away! Every guys dream but when they want to move in instantly… it’s not happening. We only ever spoke via google translate, plus she was another who fucked me around with slow text response. She was a big online gamer and I understand that occupied her time but when I click my fingers you’d better come running or it’s bye bye.

Quite a few good reviews about her on here too.

[Spanky69]

This thread reminds me of that ML I split up with a week ago. Interesting comments and good advice. When you’re in the drivers seat you tend to not listen to anyone’s input though.