Its all good bro.
You had a good time for 8 months: fucking, eating, drinking, sucking, kissing, licking ... beautiful ...
And now it's all over.
Relax.
She can go and see other people and you can go and see other people.
You've still got your health, your money, and your sanity ... you may not see this right now but you are the King of the World ... Enjoy!
In 2 years time you will be in a totally different space and mindset, and she will be a girl you fondly remember
Thank you. Yeah this makes a lot of sense. We had fun times, singing, massaging each other, sex, talking about future together etc. I was very serious but she wasn't. This was my mistake. Overall it was a good experience and a learning experience in regards to trust, lying, cheating and so on for me..Originally Posted by rooter
I can probably relate as I've been in a shorter but much more turbulent relationship with an engaged woman (which I wasn't aware of until near the end). She was quite unstable too, but love is blind and all the red flags that you never realised before goes out the window so to speak. It was a mills&bons romance, she was pregnant with my baby but she didn't want it so she had an abortion. Me being anti-abortion didn't take it very well. Fair to say I was in shock and has depression & anxiety attacks, it got even worse when I found out the truth of her fiancée in France.
I had a dream about the birth of my son in the hospital maybe in an alternate reality of the Marvel Universe.
It's been 10 months since I last saw her and besides going to brothels I haven't being wanting to get intimate with anyone in my real life until recently where I met a girl who looks like a model but is a country girl at heart. Still getting to know her.
Life has its ups and downs but it does get better. Like Ronan Keating sings "Life is a rollercoaster just gotta ride it!". You should think of yourself lucky that you've dodged a bullet in such an unstable and crazy person.
If you're interested in my original article just copy and paste
http://forum.aus99.com/showthread.php?68615-First-time-dating-a-single-mum
All the best!
Hmmm, just wanted to ask, if per chance, this ML is a Japanese?
Yep. She is. If you want you can PM me your questions if they are more private related.
Hamish I feel sorry for you, you sound like a nice guy, best not to fall for a ML/WL next time...
Hamish, store the nice scenes in your memory, delete the bullshit and look in a new direction. Not so easy. And keep the distance like already suggested ...
Thank you. I read some of your story and it is very full on. I hope everything is okay with your life now. Lets look forward together.
Thank you. Yeah I'm not sure where the future will lead me but I think dating industry girls is very tough even with thick skin.
Yeah there were many good memories which I enjoyed and won't forget. There was a lot more shit and lies which overcome the good. I'm already keeping my distance - I can't help her anymore, I deleted a lot of our stuff and contact numbers/information. Her current boyfriend force blocked me on everything on her phones so its very difficult for her to contact me. But i've decided I don't want to speak to her again.
I be waiting for part 3 update in few months time ...u are too weak . Good luck Any way !
Buddy, your story is a strong reinforcement for us all. Easy to fall for these ML/WLs.
Thankyou for sharing.
That is what she need while she was working, she is already becoming unable to commit to anything and anyone, otherwise she would have get hurt or maybe she was once a person like you but after what she been through with someone like you to chase her and have a relationship, and the other person might treat her shit, she become this to protect herself.
Anyway, enough with my nonsense, you live well brother. there is always someone out there.
No problem. That's why I want to share my story. Also everyone's comments helps me move on and understand.
This does make alot of sense. With me she was happy, but she even said to me too much happiness to scary and she doesn't deserve it because of what she did to us (lie, cheat, use). She may have been innocent before but she has worked in this industry for 10 years. It has changed her.
I see. Just excuses. She always wanted to stay friends and kept saying you help me etc. Of course she was using me and using pretty words to cover up everything.
Ultimately, you were "trained" or "groomed". But, the good thing was that you've managed to escape it. Sure it hurts, just as PTSD gave me the shits from my last viet ex and the ex-fiance before her did, but time does male it somewhat better. I ended up fucking other girls regardless. Only problem was that it isn't easy to open up for real. It isn't easy to trust again. It isn't easy to remember your true face. You'd naturally be suspicious of the next girl you would start seeing. More than the girl you see you get suspicious of, you only end up being suspicious of yourself. Rememeber that to heart and mind, then you would remember to look from the bigger picture of everything between and around yourself and the girl you next see.
.... this is just simply one little tiny point of view, basically. Not one to take seriously at all.
Bro,your ex is a ML too? Sounds like you do go through a lot of pain as well
No, the reference was in regards to the potential similarity of suffering incurred.
Sorry, putting my words in layman's terms would make it even more confusing as to what I would be talking about.
But, yes, I refer to suffering.
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Yeah I agree with your points. I do think I was groomed in a sense. I'm happy it's over now and even when I took her back I was thinking of breaking it off because I knew I could never trust her and she would never love me. I think I can't bring these negative feelings to my next relationship but it's very difficult now with the damage that's been done.
This is a great lesson but it's also a blessing because you got out of it. Do not keep contact. Consider her dead and don't do it again.
These kind of girls prey on insecure guys. I mean, good that you got some benefits, but it's not really worth getting burned over.
As soon as you get to this quote, its clear this was always about her getting a visa.
In this scenario its impossible to know who else is involved in this womans life:
boyfriend, husband, kids (in Australia or overseas) all could be involved on her side
Thats the only red flag you need to mention to stop reading right there...
You have to realise that ML probably see 6-7 guys a day. There will be a few guys in her life already if she is attractive - she can pick and choose, including which guys she hangs on to that she can get help from
An attractive lady will always have a few guys in her life she is NOT attracted to, but she strings along because those guys bend over backwards to make her happy. They dont pick up the obvious clues that the woman is NOT interested in him
The advice here is right, move on and forget her. You have wasted enough time and money already
Now you have reflected on it, you now can see exactly what happened
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