The thrill is gone (BB King)

[harry444]

I remember the excitement when I first started visiting massage shops. Being scared to walk in the door, heart beating 180, being fronted by a girl I knew I was going to have sex with. But now it's all a bit oh hum and mechanical. No thrill. Any suggestions. Some things are missing these days. Massages used to be 20 minutes back, 20 minutes front. Standing at the top of the table, stretching forward with tits in my face. It was all very erotic. Lost all that. Any suggestions to get out of the rut.

[Ken Tuckyfriedchicken]

You need to change the game.
Chase a different type of lady
See a private
Use a different routine
Experiment with methodology
Do a runner
Offer low sums and see if you get a bite or tempt the untemptable with a higher sum
Try a ladyboy
Try a guy

If you are looking for an adrenaline rush and this isnt doing it for you anymore and you need excitement you have to make the event unpredictable. If its not in the ml/sex world
Try these new synthetic death drugs
Pick a fight with a 20 year old
Put a sum larger than you are comfortable with on a wager, casino, tab...has to be in person, not online.

Of course this is not without danger or risk, even your mortality is on the line with some of these suggestions. But as we get older the need to feel alive can wither. Look at how many walking corpses you see out there. These suggestions are probably way beyond your comfort zone, but you either want a thrill or you dont.

[bradpitt]

Of course this is not without danger or risk, even your mortality is on the line with some of these suggestions. But as we get older the need to feel alive can wither. Look at how many walking corpses you see out there. These suggestions are probably way beyond your comfort zone, but you either want a thrill or you dont.

You really make me smile with this reply.

I think I'm a bit the same as the OP in that I recall being so nervous going to see privates then graduating to shops. This Forum means we are optimisng ourselves to the predictable well known shops.

BUT there are so many unknown shops to try, maybe it's time to try somewhere new.

Which in turn means the regular shops get less business and need to notch up again.

[The Professor]

I don't think the poster is really after the extreme thrill stated by some on here - try a guy, try drugs, pick a fight, wager a large sum at the casino.
There comes a time in every mans life when the excitement of sex wains - yes it will happen to you at some time so make hay when the sun shines.
Some choose to become "walking corpse" other choose a more positive strategy. Later in life its more what gives you pleasure, happiness and contentment.
Its more the state of mind rather than doing actions to rekindle that thrill.
Acknowledging where you are in life, coming to terms with it and putting in place strategies to deal with it are the positive ways to deal with the loss of excitement.
Specifically with punting, write down what would get you going, how do I achieve this. If its sessions like you had in the past maybe you might have to spend some more money and save up for these - absence makes the dick grow hornier you know.
In the meantime there is Pornhub, etc

To me its more about attitude than action, if you change the attitude the action will cum.

Puff Puff Prof

[rojerramjet]

I don't think the poster is really after the extreme thrill stated by some on here - try a guy, try drugs, pick a fight, wager a large sum at the casino.
There comes a time in every mans life when the excitement of sex wains - yes it will happen to you at some time so make hay when the sun shines.
Some choose to become "walking corpse" other choose a more positive strategy. Later in life its more what gives you pleasure, happiness and contentment.
Its more the state of mind rather than doing actions to rekindle that thrill.
Acknowledging where you are in life, coming to terms with it and putting in place strategies to deal with it are the positive ways to deal with the loss of excitement.
Specifically with punting, write down what would get you going, how do I achieve this. If its sessions like you had in the past maybe you might have to spend some more money and save up for these - absence makes the dick grow hornier you know.
In the meantime there is Pornhub, etc

To me its more about attitude than action, if you change the attitude the action will cum.

Puff Puff Prof
Excellent concepts .......

[harry444]

I have regular girls that I really like, but lack the excitement mentioned earlier. And yes I agree, going to a random, no name shop is risking disappointment, but is so exciting, stepping into the unknown. Even the fantasy of getting to the extras, reaching down and finding a dick!!!!!

[gpeck80]

I remember the excitement when I first started visiting massage shops. Being scared to walk in the door, heart beating 180, being fronted by a girl I knew I was going to have sex with. But now it's all a bit oh hum and mechanical. No thrill. Any suggestions. Some things are missing these days. Massages used to be 20 minutes back, 20 minutes front. Standing at the top of the table, stretching forward with tits in my face. It was all very erotic. Lost all that. Any suggestions to get out of the rut.

Stop going for a month. Stop sex in real life. Stop wanking. Dont lookat porn online.

[gpeck80]

Understand that you as your experience increases, your tolerance also increases. Caffeine, alcohol works the same way. The more caffeine you drink, the more you need to satisfy the high. Same with drugs. Same with sex. The only solution is to STOP and let your dopamine registers reset.

[Jamesyouare]

I maybe see your point - while I agree you get too used to it don’t buy into the crap but do mix it up with private’s - even ask for a massage from fs girl - had one actually get pissed I would not fuck her - ended up though ha ha
Try doing less, not more (including the services) and things you think you may not like like brothels or privates or other way

I’m trying to replicate pre covid girls and it’s messed up - expensive and really mechanical

[4FoW2]

I tend to agree and support the Professors ideas. I used to go water skiing and loved the thrill of it. Zooming along at high speeds, jumping the wake and ocassionally crashing in a heap - certainly was an adrenaline rush. But now due to dodgy knees and old age I have had to rule that out. I've gone karting a few times which gives me a fairly similar excitement although the speed restrictions are annoying. With water skiing I just got to the point of being wise and saying ok you were young once but that doesn't mean now you have to wrap yourself up in cotton wool and be bored for the rest of your life.

A thing I have started doing lately is making a bucket list, this motivates you and often takes your attention away from a "sex based" excitement or enjoyment to a more, for want of a better word, "holistic based" excitement or enjoyment. Of course threesomes and other sex based adventures can be part of your bucket list.

Apparently it is good for your mental state to look forward to something coming in the future that you will know you will enjoy - when you were younger you loooked forward to Christmas, during adolescence it was getting a pash or a finger, later it was getting a root or driving a car, maybe in mid life it was sneaking off to a MS. Later in life ? As I grow older and older I realize dur life is short - I should have enjoyed myself more. Its true youth is wasted on the young. Our society is so materialistic and its not until you get older you realize what "life" is all about. Many people criticize Filipina girls who live for the now, could they actually have the right idea?

Good luck with your punting endevours.
4FoW2

[jaccky]

I think seasoned crack addicts report the same phenomenon.

[harry444]

Ok, so I took the advise of the forum and decided to try something new. A friend suggested phone sex. Not my thing, but eh, try anything once. Just a word of advice to anyone else that wants to try it, I suggest using lots of lube.

[bradpitt]

Ok, so I took the advise of the forum and decided to try something new. A friend suggested phone sex. Not my thing, but eh, try anything once. Just a word of advice to anyone else that wants to try it, I suggest using lots of lube.

the old 0055 then 1900 numbers were my gateway into punting.

when i was staying in hotels on business I always had to get the itemised phone bills on a separate account so they didn't go to head office.

there is a reason hotels always have moisturiser in the rooms which is to promote sale of the in-room porn.

[bradpitt]

meanwhile, speaking of spicing things up on business trips:

https://www.abc.net.au/news/2022-09-05/madeleine-joan-lewin-manslaughter-trial-begins/101405274


A brisbane auditor was found dead in a Cairns hotel room, bound to the bed by his ankles and wrists, with a rope around his neck, a gag ball in his mouth, and a spandex hood covering his face, a trial has heard.

At the start of her manslaughter trial in the Cairns Supreme Court on Monday, sex worker Madeleine Joan Lewin, 34, pleaded not guilty to the unlawful killing of Brisbane service station auditor Anthony Michael Brady, 52.

Ms Lewin is representing herself in the trial, which is expected to run into next week.

Crown prosecutor Nathan Crane during his opening address, said Mr Brady was a client of Ms Lewin and that his likely cause of death was mechanical asphyxiation.

He alleged that Mr Brady being adorned with those items and being tied in such a way that he could not move, and the number of mechanisms that restricted his breath, including being face down, meant the sex act Mr Brady and Ms Lewin were engaged in was “inherently dangerous”.

“In those circumstances, there just wasn’t the reasonable care and skill by Ms Lewin when having the oversight of that bondage arrangement,” Mr Crane said.

“This is, members of the jury, a clinical legal and community test. It’s not one about morality.”

Mr Crane said there must have been some naivety on the behalf of Mr Brady when being subjected to what were consensual acts.

“He was going to have to go back to his wife the next day with abrasions around his neck and wrists,” Mr Crane told the jury.

The court heard there was also a whip on the bed, lubricant, and a used glass dildo between Mr Brady’s legs.

Mr Crane said Mr Brady was in Cairns auditing service stations and had arrived on the Monday, August 10, 2020.

[Tales]

I feel sorry for the lady delivering the service. He obviously liked being cocked out but sometimes these things go wrong! A bit hard to tap out when your tied up

[Tales]

Agree, they'd have to change the family name and move cities. I've heard of guys that died in massage joints in Asia and they get a phone call from the Federal Police, but at least you can keep that quiet. In this case it's terrible for anyone who knows him

[4FoW2]

Call me silly but aren't pleasure and pain on either end of the spectrum?
I know Chrissy said there's a fine line ......but
How you can get turned on by someone else hurting or humiliating you is beyond my comprehension.

As for the original post Harry444 have you gleamed any knowledge or come to any resolution about what to do after the thrill is gone.
have you decided to a) Go on take your money and run b) Sit by the dock of the Bay or c) Get your motor runnin'?
4FoW2

[cutepom77]

Call me silly but aren't pleasure and pain on either end of the spectrum?
I know Chrissy said there's a fine line ......but
How you can get turned on by someone else hurting or humiliating you is beyond my comprehension.

Plenty of people are turned on by pain, humiliation, and being degraded. I think most people have some kinks, and that tends to increase with age as vanilla sex becomes more boring.

A WL swallowing your load or having a facial could be deemed a vanilla example of (her) humiliation and being degraded.

[VFlowers]

For those who travel to the Philippines......this could be a decent new thrill....in particular if you are into 'Herpetology'... ;)
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-1gBg29eFzM

[Fungus the Bogeyman]

Thrill still gone?

[Frank Walker]

Go overseas. Brisbane scene would drive anyone to depression.

Bet you if you go somewhere that isn't a boring nanny state you'll get your groove back.

[funinqld]

Sydney is great value and really easy. Look out for a cheap flight. Get a cheap hotel and go in the city or out west to a few of the brothels. BBBJ standard and 120-150 hr depending on quality. Lots of extras for not much extra.