Hanging up the boots

[Johnny Apples]

Greetings comrades, I’ve been missing in action for a bit. Thought I’d share just in case I can help someone as we are a community of like minded units. Like many on here I live a double life of wife and kids at home and throwing my dick around at our favourite establishments. Well fuck me I ended up with what I was certain was a genital wart after some BBBJ action from what you could describe as a walking talking petrie dish. What followed was a month of torture, panic, 2 courses of anti biotics, numerous excuses to not fuck the wife in case it was HPV. Turns out I got the all clear yesterday that it was just an infected pimple or something thank fuck. In that month though I did a lot of reflecting and the last thing I could think about was getting back on the punt, it made me feel sick. Now that I got the all clear I’ve got that strong urge again to get back out there but I keep reminding myself how bad it felt when I thought I caught something and all the ramifications that come with it. Anyway I’m trying hard to stay away from the Neon lights, don’t know how long I will last but I got one big scare. If I do eventually get back on the punt I will definitely keep it safe and will try lower the risk of catching anything. The only reason I’m telling you all is that there might be a few of you in the same boat, my advice is keep playing but play safe, you don’t want to bring anything home. One day I’m sure I’ll get divorced or something and then I’ll be the first in line at the Glory holes but until then I’m gonna try and do the right thing. All the best brothers and keep safe until I get back on here eventually to help you all deal with the demand out there. Peace out!

[Pdaddy]

Greetings comrades, I’ve been missing in action for a bit. Thought I’d share just in case I can help someone as we are a community of like minded units. Like many on here I live a double life of wife and kids at home and throwing my dick around at our favourite establishments. Well fuck me I ended up with what I was certain was a genital wart after some BBBJ action from what you could describe as a walking talking petrie dish. What followed was a month of torture, panic, 2 courses of anti biotics, numerous excuses to not fuck the wife in case it was HPV. Turns out I got the all clear yesterday that it was just an infected pimple or something thank fuck. In that month though I did a lot of reflecting and the last thing I could think about was getting back on the punt, it made me feel sick. Now that I got the all clear I’ve got that strong urge again to get back out there but I keep reminding myself how bad it felt when I thought I caught something and all the ramifications that come with it. Anyway I’m trying hard to stay away from the Neon lights, don’t know how long I will last but I got one big scare. If I do eventually get back on the punt I will definitely keep it safe and will try lower the risk of catching anything. The only reason I’m telling you all is that there might be a few of you in the same boat, my advice is keep playing but play safe, you don’t want to bring anything home. One day I’m sure I’ll get divorced or something and then I’ll be the first in line at the Glory holes but until then I’m gonna try and do the right thing. All the best brothers and keep safe until I get back on here eventually to help you all deal with the demand out there. Peace out!

Good post mate. I’ve been there a few times. Not with a serious scare, but while doing health checks every now and then I’d reflect on some of the choices I’ve made and then go a few months with all safe sex etc. After a while the special blowjobs kind of creep in and I lose myself for a few months before the next check up 🤷*♂️
Thankfully been all clear so far but it’s worth remembering that these punts can have serious consequences for some.

All the best to you mate!

[BrisbaneMassageLover]

Interesting. Just looking through the forums and your comment in general Johnny there is a serious lack of knowledge.
Most men and women will never show signs of HPV. And up to 80% of people in Aus would have had it at some point with the chance of getting high risk hpv at around 30%.

High risk HPV doesn't give you warts. Gives women cervical cancer and symptoms don't show up until it's too late. Herpes as well. Most people won't show symptoms and it's quite common.

You better hope your wife's doctor doesn't prompt a cervical screen and it pops up with a positive test. You might have already given it to her. Most people will clear it within two years by themselves. But the older the women the less likely she will clear it.

It would be good if you read up and get the knowledge.

[CumShot]

Dear Mr Johnny Apples, have been in a very similar situation.

What are you going to do to fill in your time now? Why were you straying in the first place? What change have you made in your life that will remove the urge/interest in partaking in shop visits?

For me I have had to fill my life with exciting adventures outside of girls and sex. Expanded my hobbies, took on challenging projects, rebuilt my relationships at home and spent a fortune on a local psychologist to help me understand why I do the things I do.

My situation is kind of complex and how I wish I can change. It's a hard road to change a 30 year habit.

[punk_]

Good for you mate. If I were you I'd do a full panel STD test. Go see a GP and tell them the truth. Maybe not your usual doctor. I'm not certain but I have heard some things were if you test positive for some stuff the GP contact your partner if they know you have one on file?. Not sure if true or not. Especially if it's something like HIV.

Anyway back to the post at hand. I understand how you feel. I was so lost and unforgiven sexually and was unable to work it out with SO. She basicly went a sexual a few years ago and is not interested in the sex I want to have if sex at all. I "accidentally" got a HJ from a shop when i really just wanted a massage one day. I hadn't been felt up like that in years and I couldn't resist. I felt so fucking ashamed then the weeks go on and on. I wanted it again. Before you know it it's a double life like you say. I had a scare similar to you where I had the odd sting and went to RAPID in the city. Got everything tested came back all negative. I said to myself that day I'm fucking done what am I doing. And got on the straight and narrow. For a while then I was back into my old tricks again. All be it always using protection for everything including oral.

After a few visits to different things I realised I'm finished. Each visit to anything I realised was just chasing a high like a junkee. Went from ML to WL to fucking LB chasing something new exciting. Post every visit I hated myself and didn't even enjoy it much. But that feeling wanting always crept back. I had a bad experience with a punt recently and that was the final nail. I fucking hated it wanted it to be over and went back to therapy. Have some treatment plans and habits to kick it. I think I am truly am done this time as I the diminishing returns surley can't get lower.

If you coping any hardtime from people here or around. Don't listen your doing the right thing by yourself. It's an addiction like any other. Work on your relationship and if the sexuality truly doesn't work it's ultimatum time. If you can't work something out you have to break up. I've always had partners that matched my libido but marriage is hard. People change you change. End of the day nearly every married bloke here fucking loves their partner to death. There's just a dead bedroom and sometimes that can be the other parties fault but at the end of the day they are entitled to their feelings.

[kamas]

Hey Johnny, rather than being all or nothing, why not stick to RnT? No need to worry about picking something up. Good luck anyway.

[Waterjob]

First of all sorry to hear brother! I know how it must feel and it will be hard not to think about it and punt again. You must remember to always be play safe no matter the cost, you must resist the temptation of any unprotected play, and yes it does take the fun out of it but not all. That is the only way to lead a healthy double life. Good luck.

[Johnny Apples]

Thanks for the encouragement guys. I could play safe but there is always that risk that some fucker sees you leaving a shop and then you’re fucked for good. I think I’ll hit the Gym again and focus on the family and less on my selfish urges. Every now and then we get a punt that excites us but most of the time we leave feeling empty. For you guys doing the double life, I know that we are all deep down good guys but just addicted to chasing new pussy. Why we do it I actually don’t know, it’s like any vice, you need to keep it in check. Thanks again for the support, keep safe.

[Selecta]

Completely understandable, I think most of us have been through something similar. Im guessing everyone has at least 1 vice and this is ours, so trying to find a replacement vice, like gym, is probably the best way to quit!

[kamas]

The problem with replacing it with the gym is that there are nubile young maidens wandering around which is likely to undo the good intentions :-)

[ococpunt]

Interesting. Just looking through the forums and your comment in general Johnny there is a serious lack of knowledge.
Most men and women will never show signs of HPV. And up to 80% of people in Aus would have had it at some point with the chance of getting high risk hpv at around 30%.

High risk HPV doesn't give you warts. Gives women cervical cancer and symptoms don't show up until it's too late. Herpes as well. Most people won't show symptoms and it's quite common.

You better hope your wife's doctor doesn't prompt a cervical screen and it pops up with a positive test. You might have already given it to her. Most people will clear it within two years by themselves. But the older the women the less likely she will clear it.

It would be good if you read up and get the knowledge.

There is no check ups for men for HPVs in Australia even if you ask your GP for a full STD check, so he might already got HPV and does not know about it until his wife shows up with a HPV positive test...

[VFlowers]

I know this forum is mainly about who gives the best BJ, how to find a shop when you're too dumb to use Google and Google maps, or how to add a shop to your WeChat....
but...
if you're openminded enough to consider the possibility that most of what you've been taught at school and uni, or programmed with by the mainstream media, could be bollocks, and if you prefer to live a life without irrational fears,
maybe look up names like Dr. Andy Kaufman, Dr. Thomas Cowan, Drs Sam and Mark Bailey, Dr Stefan Lanka, and many more you will find once you start exploring this rabbit hole...

I'm all for giving up habits, vices, addictions that might have a negative impact on one's life, but one should do it for the right reasons.

[Phaser74]

I know this forum is mainly about who gives the best BJ, how to find a shop when you're too dumb to use Google and Google maps, or how to add a shop to your WeChat....
but...
if you're openminded enough to consider the possibility that most of what you've been taught at school and uni, or programmed with by the mainstream media, could be bollocks, and if you prefer to live a life without irrational fears,
maybe look up names like Dr. Andy Kaufman, Dr. Thomas Cowan, Drs Sam and Mark Bailey, Dr Stefan Lanka, and many more you will find once you start exploring this rabbit hole...

I'm all for giving up habits, vices, addictions that might have a negative impact on one's life, but one should do it for the right reasons.
Hint?
This isnt down a covid rabbit hole is it?

[VFlowers]

Hint?
This isnt down a covid rabbit hole is it?

Happy to answer PMs.
The rabbit hole is much wider than just COVID.

[CumShot]

There is no check ups for men for HPVs in Australia even if you ask your GP for a full STD check, so he might already got HPV and does not know about it until his wife shows up with a HPV positive test...

It's an older woman problem. The HPV vaccine has been available since 2007. 17 years. So let's say the majority of girls at 12 in 2007 got the vax, that makes them minimum 29.It is offered to women up to 25, so if the 25 year olds got them in 2007 that makes them 42 years old.

So some nice modelling as at July 2024 would show all girls under 29 are protected and that protection drops off up to 42 years of age where it probable stops.

No need to correct my data. It's for vague modelling.

Moral of the story, if you think you have HPV, stick to WGs under 29 for BBFS..

[Ace01]

If you are in a loving relationship and wish to protect it, much better in investing broadening your sexual horizon within that - maybe work her up into watching some porn at the same time to spice things up and resist going out to joints -

The more you go, the more dangerous stuff you seek to satisfy your desire - just not good, almost a matter of time before you get something. It may not be terminal and you can get fixed, but once the trust is gone, it will never be the same.

If you are in a asexual relationship, whether a phase or not, enjoy your fun. When she is ready or you are ready to resume, perhaps you can do a full tests and resume after 3 months.

[Phaser74]

Happy to answer PMs.
The rabbit hole is much wider than just COVID.
Great. Time for my head to be in the sand.

[Oz246]

From the Cancer Council:

HPV can affect men. The virus causes 90 percent of anal cancer, about 60% of oropharyngeal (tonsils, throat, base of tongue) cancers, and rarer cancers, such as 50 percent of penile cancers.
There is currently no approved screening test for HPV in men. If you are concerned or have any questions, you should speak to your doctor or medical practitioner.

If you like DATY, then you are at risk for oropharyngeal cancers in particular. Also don't assume that Australia's very robust immunisation system is reflected overseas, where many of the women in the trade come from.

[Fitch]

This made me have a chuckle 😃

[Puntersclub]

Hmmmm I dont have a partner nor any reason to be discrete. But earlier this year got an STI, with three candidates, one of which was a ML who would rub herself on me during body slides. Low risk I know. The other two were SBs, the main suspect was tested and said she was clear. So that left the ML in the mix. Anyway a shot and a course of pills sorted me out but I’m at a loss as to where it came from. I’ve given up the ML and Kept the SBs and not had a reoccurrence. Th moral of the story is that its out there and if you are not free to play be careful…

[Burndog]

I have been punting for the last 15 years and finally I caught gonorrhea back in April, I went for a cheap BBBJ somewhere off Locanto. Passed it to the partner awhile ago and she had to do the required meds and injection to get rid of it, I had to do the same as well.

She blamed me, where I'm in the wrong. She punched me in the face a number of times. Seeing her face literally destroyed me. We are slowly on a working on our marriage/relationship, currently taking on a day to day basis which is good for the sake of our kids.

I have been long wanting to quit the punting scene for the last few years, and I finally can. Yes it's been hard trying to not scroll for escort sites but I have been keep busy at the gym and other adventures to steer my mind away from it. I have no desire to go back to punting as the cost of seeing one is hella expensive. If you are willing take whatever fix the relationship and sacrifice what is needed then do it. It's a wake up call for me not to fuck around again.

I wish you all the best Johnny!

[No Pay]

i wonder why no one has said who they might have caught the STI's from ??? i would have named the person so no one else catches anything from her. but i guess there will be some idiots in here who would smear someone out of spite rather than fact.

[CumShot]

i wonder why no one has said who they might have caught the STI's from ??? i would have named the person so no one else catches anything from her. but i guess there will be some idiots in here who would smear someone out of spite rather than fact.

problem is we are never really sure. Over a 30 year history of fucking around I've had two events but have never been truly exclusive, use condoms always with WGs but not always with fuck buddies.

Event 1.
Returned from overseas, got tested and had an infection. Could have been 3 of about 10 freelancers I saw on the trip.

Event 2.
2023, sugar babe I (sept), one fuck buddy (October) and sugarbabe II (November). I did a precautionary test in December and was positive for chlamydia. I used the free online service to notify them. no idea if they followed up.

It's a murky world out there. these days condoms are a must.

[NathanA]

so far that i have heard, WG's seem to be the safest. they get tested regularly. they are more afraid of us than we them.

[Fitch]

Completely understandable, I think most of us have been through something similar. Im guessing everyone has at least 1 vice and this is ours, so trying to find a replacement vice, like gym, is probably the best way to quit!

Gym will increase his testosterone which in turn will increase his sex drive in turn triggering his male mating strategy which is to fuck as many women as possible. Solid advice.

[Navigator]

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