Stopping the addiction

[nosha]

Wondering if any of you guys have had a successful break of punting and how you did it? I've been punting for over 12+ years and have those times I leave after a punt and say never again... Adding up the money spent for the 30 minutes of pleasure just doesn't make sense. Then I have a trigger moment when I see a hot girl and want to get a massage, constantly chasing those pleasure signals to get a release, then regretting the spend.

[Peter08]

Can relate. Been punting for over 25 years and know exactly how you feel.

[thunderdome]

When I started punting players in Springhill was open. Use to have to trawl the paper or pick up a street walker. Had a few breaks over the years. I would say stay off the forum, find a gf U like or try the dating scene. U could always go overseas and find a hot girl and start up a relationship if U wanted.

[Sirlunchalot]

I think about giving up sometimes and occasionally do for a couple of months. During that time i will go talk to a mate who got divorced. Or sometimes I have someone fix me up on date. Then I come back to this lifestyle and am happy with my choice. Note - this is not intended to be a criticism of marriage.

Reminds of that saying about the grass may well be greener on the other side but it is just as hard to cut.

[4FoW2]

Long term punting gets into your DNA and becomes a part of who and what you are, a little bit like porn. The trouble with both porn & punting is they target the innate drive in men to find partners and have sex.
I tell myself that if my Asian partner came to me and said no more I would and could give up but I think I would be fooling myself. 40+ years of a pleasurable ( well some of the time) habit is not something you can shake overnight.
Luckily the light at the end of the tunnel is the lowering of your testosterone as you age and associated issues.

Nosha I would suggest you look at your relationship with punting- as with most addictions don't let it control you, you control it.
I have fairly strict rules for myself about quality, payment and whether I walk or not so I try to get the best outcome from my spend. I lapse and sometimes don't follow my instincts but I don't beat myself up about it.
Remember punting is not essential like food or oxygen, its a choice and you can and should control that choice.
And one last thing to contemplate - punting is not wrong - its an outlet, a release, a pursuit that gives us pleasure - just like a good glass of wine, a good steak or winning State of Origin. (ok bad choice)
Don't get the guilts about punting - I love my GF, the girls are just a bit of fun. In many places in the world and through out history having a mistress is seen as quite normal.
BYVMD

4FoW2

[Puntersclub]

Each to their own morals, but a R & T is a harmless endeavor. No more a luxury than a facial or a day spa for a female partner. Just a relief of tension, not a relationship or a danger to any existing relationship. Any suggestion that it is is born out of outdated religious concepts that nearly hold sway in today’s society. As for an addiction, more harmless than alcohol or tobacco.

[Phaser74]

Been addicted to gambling, drugs and massage shops. Among other things
Gambling has the best highs, massage shops…much fewer lows

[CumShot]

you cannot simple 'stop' an addiction, the clue is in the name "addiction - the fact or condition of being addicted to a particular substance or activity."

so now that you know you are addicted, you will have to find something stronger to replace than yearning for a punt and reinforce that every day.

For a while I was happily using the AA method and I'd remind myself each morning 21 days without a punt, 22 days without a punt. That was great but eventually my self control weakened.

The best thing for me has been getting busy with work.

[Pdaddy]

Staying off forums like this would be a good place to start 😁

[funinqld]

I stopped my addiction by moving to QLD lol.....very easy to slow down here. I stop here and there when I am in a gooooood relationship casual or otherwise. If I am with an AMM girl or what ever and the sex is good and of course its free then I stop