Should we see MLs regularly or not?

[Wineglass985]

As part of my personality, I enjoy stability and do not expect uncertainties and surprises. So when I find a ML to be my type, I try to make her my regular and visit her regularly every week. But recently I have been dumped by my regular ML like garbage. I made some unintentional mistakes which made her uncomfortable during my last visit despite the fact that I was kind and gentle to her in all my previous visits. As you know, the whole thing is physical. Such mistakes can happen during intense physical contact. She complained to me at the end and I apologised. But that’s not the end. When I tried to book her again, the shop told me she didn’t want to offer me service again. I offered to apologise to her in person. The shop told me she didn’t want to see me again and ask me to forget her. It’s just such an easy decision for her to make. Just think about it: MLs see at least 30 to 50 men every week and we see 3 to 5 ML at the most. The significant 10x imbalance means we probably are just a number in their eyes, even when we visit them every week and have so many times of intimate physical contact with them. When they lose us, they lose little to nothing because we just represent 1/50 to 1/30 of their income. Moreover, because of the nature of their work, they are probably immune to any emotional attachment, which means their attachment to us will not grow as we visit them more. On the contrary, we become more and more emotionally attached to them when we visit them more as a normal human being. Once the attachment is suddenly broken, we feel painful. Yet they probably feel little or nothing. It’s a really risky business to seek stability in ML. To find new girls all the time and not to look for a regular is against my nature. I am really struggling about it. You have any experiences to share or any advice you can give? Thank you!

[harry444]

I'm not sure if the OP is serious or having a go. If serious, I do feel sorry for the girl and I'm sure Wineglass is not the only problem punter. I, for one, am not qualified to help.

[Wineglass985]

I'm not sure if the OP is serious or having a go. If serious, I do feel sorry for the girl and I'm sure Wineglass is not the only problem punter. I, for one, am not qualified to help.

What is OP? Why am I a problem punter?

[Bobby Little]

What is OP? Why am I a problem punter?
OP-Original poster ( In this case is you)
Your situation is quite common for punters but normal ��. You must be a sentimental person easily engaging with emotions. No doubt will get us fall into when someone reflected. You are right we probably her 1/50 or 1/30. Don’t be to attach, back to your enjoyment as many fish around.
Hopefully helps

[Angkorwhere]

For what it's worth, emotional attachment when money is being exchanged for services is a no-go.

You are giving money and emotion, they are accepting money and you, providing a service and turning the knob for the next inline.

It is a lose/win situation.

[Scotty from Marketing]

You talk like this ml is your girlfriend. She is not.
She is a sex worker. Imagine the guy after you is a 75 year old fat man doing the same thing you just did.

If you are punting 3-5 times a week, thats a lot of money. Do you have an endless supply?
How old are you?
Why not date real ladies?

Back to your post. You feel an emotional attachment. Why?
She is earning money for whatever reason doing sex work.
Have you seen her out of the shop? If not, you are living a fantasy and she is/was obliging it. For money. Like the guy before you and after you.

Fact is, mls can handle a whole day doing sex work, but the customers that make their day hardest are the ones that sap their emotional well being. Like you.
The problem is you, not her.
You have to fix you so that this doesnt happen again. And it will repeatedly. These people arent social workers, psychiatrists or counsellors. At least not qualified anyway. They have their routines to get through the day and you mess that up with your carry on.
Every half decent and popular ml will do the same with you once they tire of your attitude. The others suck it up, they need the money.

[thunder545454]

As part of my personality, I enjoy stability and do not expect uncertainties and surprises. So when I find a ML to be my type, I try to make her my regular and visit her regularly every week. But recently I have been dumped by my regular ML like garbage. I made some unintentional mistakes which made her uncomfortable during my last visit despite the fact that I was kind and gentle to her in all my previous visits. As you know, the whole thing is physical. Such mistakes can happen during intense physical contact. She complained to me at the end and I apologised. But that’s not the end. When I tried to book her again, the shop told me she didn’t want to offer me service again. I offered to apologise to her in person. The shop told me she didn’t want to see me again and ask me to forget her. It’s just such an easy decision for her to make. Just think about it: MLs see at least 30 to 50 men every week and we see 3 to 5 ML at the most. The significant 10x imbalance means we probably are just a number in their eyes, even when we visit them every week and have so many times of intimate physical contact with them. When they lose us, they lose little to nothing because we just represent 1/50 to 1/30 of their income. Moreover, because of the nature of their work, they are probably immune to any emotional attachment, which means their attachment to us will not grow as we visit them more. On the contrary, we become more and more emotionally attached to them when we visit them more as a normal human being. Once the attachment is suddenly broken, we feel painful. Yet they probably feel little or nothing. It’s a really risky business to seek stability in ML. To find new girls all the time and not to look for a regular is against my nature. I am really struggling about it. You have any experiences to share or any advice you can give? Thank you!

The only time I felt like I was being shunned after seeing a ML regular was at sunshine went every week for a couple months, I tried to book got told fully booked two times, she wasn't that popular and it was 10am, I never not been able to book her before, who knows her reason frankly who gives a shit.

I booked one of the other chinese girls who was there rainbow banged her doggie while she blew kisses to me in the mirror, that was that the old girl was quickly forgotten just like that, tipped her an extra pine for being a sweet heart and went along my way.

Moral of the story there is always another hot ML out there to rail just keep it moving.

[Wineglass985]

I am not sure if this is more emotional or physical attachment. She is one of my 3 regulars. But this one really hurts me as each time my physical contact with her was really intense, which gave me immense sexual pleasure. I really have trouble finding another girl who can give me the same level of pleasure after I lost her. The 2nd one is very charming but very wisely keep a distance from me while making me feel comfortable at the same time. She said to me, “I don’t want you to fall in love with me “. So I never have any kind of attachment to her. I can stop seeing her for 2 months and feel nothing. The 3rd one is interesting. Each time when I went for the next visit a little longer than expected, she would ask me” I know you are seeing other girls, right?” What an irony! She, as a ML, is seeing 30 to 50 men each week and cares about me seeing other girls? I have recently decided not seeing her again as I feel pressure because of this. I really wish the first girl can ask me this as she is my favorite. Unfortunately I lost her forever.

[Wineglass985]

You talk like this ml is your girlfriend. She is not.
She is a sex worker. Imagine the guy after you is a 75 year old fat man doing the same thing you just did.

If you are punting 3-5 times a week, thats a lot of money. Do you have an endless supply?
How old are you?
Why not date real ladies?

Back to your post. You feel an emotional attachment. Why?
She is earning money for whatever reason doing sex work.
Have you seen her out of the shop? If not, you are living a fantasy and she is/was obliging it. For money. Like the guy before you and after you.

Fact is, mls can handle a whole day doing sex work, but the customers that make their day hardest are the ones that sap their emotional well being. Like you.
The problem is you, not her.
You have to fix you so that this doesnt happen again. And it will repeatedly. These people arent social workers, psychiatrists or counsellors. At least not qualified anyway. They have their routines to get through the day and you mess that up with your carry on.
Every half decent and popular ml will do the same with you once they tire of your attitude. The others suck it up, they need the money.

I am newly divorced. Never was a punter before. I am seeing MLs more frequently because I am trying to find some regular ML to engage with. I am a little picky in my taste, so not easy to find. Once I am settled in, I will reduce the visits. Thank you for the advice. I am not treating her as my girl friend. My attachment to her is still more of a physical one. I should get over it once I find such ML who can offer me the same or more pleasure. I am just struggling with the idea of visiting ML regularly.

[Wineglass985]

The only time I felt like I was being shunned after seeing a ML regular was at sunshine went every week for a couple months, I tried to book got told fully booked two times, she wasn't that popular and it was 10am, I never not been able to book her before, who knows her reason frankly who gives a shit.

I booked one of the other chinese girls who was there rainbow banged her doggie while she blew kisses to me in the mirror, that was that the old girl was quickly forgotten just like that, tipped her an extra pine for being a sweet heart and went along my way.

Moral of the story there is always another hot ML out there to rail just keep it moving.

Agreed. Problem will be solved if the new favorite is found. But it takes time and luck

[Scotty from Marketing]

I am newly divorced. Never was a punter before. I am seeing MLs more frequently because I am trying to find some regular ML to engage with. I am a little picky in my taste, so not easy to find. Once I am settled in, I will reduce the visits. Thank you for the advice. I am not treating her as my girl friend. My attachment to her is still more of a physical one. I should get over it once I find such ML who can offer me the same or more pleasure. I am just struggling with the idea of visiting ML regularly.
Thank you for your background.
The key phrase from your opening post is “ I made some unintentional mistakes which made her uncomfortable during my last visit despite the fact that I was kind and gentle to her in all my previous visits.”
These girls have to put up with a lot. From guys who get services and do a runner (hello Indians), to guys who dont think No should be in an mls vocabulary to the guys who fall in love at the drop of a hat.
If you make her uncomfortable and do things she clearly doesnt want to do, you are gonna be shown the door.

Lessons.
As you transition from post divorce, figure yourself out. What do you want from life? Do you need a therapist?
If you arent careful trips to massage shops are gonna be on your agenda for too long and you will be unable to relate to normal women.
Are you on the spectrum? No shame in it, lots of people are. Dealing with intimate relationships if so, requires different advice.

Finding a new ml is easy, but hard as you havent explained your exact requirements and predicament. PM if you dont want the world to know.

Learn to have the ability to enter a shop and find out what you need without paying a cent. Some shops also specialise in dealing with unusual requests.

[RLC]

While you like stability and routine, you don’t know what you don’t know. I see this as a great opportunity for you to try a whole range of cuisines to see what your palate likes and who knows, you may find some favourite new dishes along the way. The beaut thing about punting is you can go, try and if it is not for you then tick it off the list and move on. Be daring mate- generally go the conservative looking girls with a natural look? Go for a blonde Asian with big fakies and heavily tatted instead and see what it’s like. What have you got to lose aside from a load in/on her and $200.

[Wineglass985]

Thank you for your background.
The key phrase from your opening post is “ I made some unintentional mistakes which made her uncomfortable during my last visit despite the fact that I was kind and gentle to her in all my previous visits.”
These girls have to put up with a lot. From guys who get services and do a runner (hello Indians), to guys who dont think No should be in an mls vocabulary to the guys who fall in love at the drop of a hat.
If you make her uncomfortable and do things she clearly doesnt want to do, you are gonna be shown the door.

Lessons.
As you transition from post divorce, figure yourself out. What do you want from life? Do you need a therapist?
If you arent careful trips to massage shops are gonna be on your agenda for too long and you will be unable to relate to normal women.
Are you on the spectrum? No shame in it, lots of people are. Dealing with intimate relationships if so, requires different advice.

Finding a new ml is easy, but hard as you havent explained your exact requirements and predicament. PM if you dont want the world to know.

Learn to have the ability to enter a shop and find out what you need without paying a cent. Some shops also specialise in dealing with unusual requests.

Thanks for your advice. The failed marriage made me suffer significantly both financially and emotionally. I don’t think I will ever be engaged in a relationship again. The sole purpose of punting and looking for ML ladies is to satisfy sexual desires as a man. I have been severely sexually suppressed for a long time during separation years before divorce. This is a primary reason why I sometimes lost control in intense physical contact with favourite MLs. I’ll learn to control myself even with MLs. Otherwise I will lose them one after another. I will never fall in love with MLs. I don’t care about how many men they see every day, as long as they make me happy when they serve me.

[Wineglass985]

Thank you for your background.
The key phrase from your opening post is “ I made some unintentional mistakes which made her uncomfortable during my last visit despite the fact that I was kind and gentle to her in all my previous visits.”
These girls have to put up with a lot. From guys who get services and do a runner (hello Indians), to guys who dont think No should be in an mls vocabulary to the guys who fall in love at the drop of a hat.
If you make her uncomfortable and do things she clearly doesnt want to do, you are gonna be shown the door.

Lessons.
As you transition from post divorce, figure yourself out. What do you want from life? Do you need a therapist?
If you arent careful trips to massage shops are gonna be on your agenda for too long and you will be unable to relate to normal women.
Are you on the spectrum? No shame in it, lots of people are. Dealing with intimate relationships if so, requires different advice.

Finding a new ml is easy, but hard as you havent explained your exact requirements and predicament. PM if you dont want the world to know.

Learn to have the ability to enter a shop and find out what you need without paying a cent. Some shops also specialise in dealing with unusual requests.


While you like stability and routine, you don’t know what you don’t know. I see this as a great opportunity for you to try a whole range of cuisines to see what your palate likes and who knows, you may find some favourite new dishes along the way. The beaut thing about punting is you can go, try and if it is not for you then tick it off the list and move on. Be daring mate- generally go the conservative looking girls with a natural look? Go for a blonde Asian with big fakies and heavily tatted instead and see what it’s like. What have you got to lose aside from a load in/on her and $200.

Hi mate, thanks for the advice. I do like natural looking MLs without fake faces and boobs. Girls with many tattoos won’t turn me on. Unfortunately this basic preference won’t change. I agree with you that we have little to lose too. Just try to taste more dishes instead of fixating on one or two.

[Moonwalker]

Thank you for your background.
The key phrase from your opening post is “ I made some unintentional mistakes which made her uncomfortable during my last visit despite the fact that I was kind and gentle to her in all my previous visits.”
These girls have to put up with a lot. From guys who get services and do a runner (hello Indians), to guys who dont think No should be in an mls vocabulary to the guys who fall in love at the drop of a hat.
If you make her uncomfortable and do things she clearly doesnt want to do, you are gonna be shown the door.

Lessons.
As you transition from post divorce, figure yourself out. What do you want from life? Do you need a therapist?
If you arent careful trips to massage shops are gonna be on your agenda for too long and you will be unable to relate to normal women.
Are you on the spectrum? No shame in it, lots of people are. Dealing with intimate relationships if so, requires different advice.

Finding a new ml is easy, but hard as you havent explained your exact requirements and predicament. PM if you dont want the world to know.

Learn to have the ability to enter a shop and find out what you need without paying a cent. Some shops also specialise in dealing with unusual requests.

What an appropriate advice, I totally agreed what you are trying to say. The most of punters here should read and read and read his comments and reminds what is right.


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[Scotty from Marketing]

Thanks for your advice. The failed marriage made me suffer significantly both financially and emotionally. I don’t think I will ever be engaged in a relationship again. The sole purpose of punting and looking for ML ladies is to satisfy sexual desires as a man. I have been severely sexually suppressed for a long time during separation years before divorce. This is a primary reason why I sometimes lost control in intense physical contact with favourite MLs. I’ll learn to control myself even with MLs. Otherwise I will lose them one after another. I will never fall in love with MLs. I don’t care about how many men they see every day, as long as they make me happy when they serve me.
Your age is important here.
If you have time to rebuild and start again, great do that without going to whores in massage shops.
There are a plethora of ladies looking for a stable and decent guy.
Why did you pick the wrong woman in the first place? Figuring that out makes your future easier.
Find a woman who will be what you need. Be fussy. Very fussy.

If you are older, then its harder. Most guys here are on the dead or dying side of a relationship and older.
Whores cannot be your answer to anything except as cum dumpsters. Loads of real women are dirtier and nastier than you realise. And free. Just dont marry them.

If you are stuck in this world. Be smart. The quicker the better.
You can develop a relationship with an ml. A business relationship. These do not happen overnight. Trust is still vital.

You got some soul searching to do brother. Fix your flaws. You will have many.
Making the same mistakes repeatedly is a sign of stupidity. Be smart.

There are many women working in this industry that fit your broad criteria.
Learn to assess before you pay a cent.
Many a punter does a 30 minute feeler session with either just a hj or just the massage thanks to get a greater feel for a suitable ml. You dont have to throw wads of cash to assess. Be smart.

Remember your ex wife may have controlled and ruined your past. The future is yours. Fuck her.

[weaknet]

Don't take it too seriously.

If you want to test further, just offer to pay double for the extra service and see what happens. If the lady still refuses, then I'd be even more interested to hear ML's new version of the story.

[Tales]

If you've just come out of a loveless marriage and obviously your X burned you, (which isn't uncommon) take this opportunity to have fun and try some new experiences. You seem like a guy who needs a high level of commitment from a female. You're not going to get that from a ML or in most cases in a new relationship, especially if you're middle aged. The ladies are out to achieve their own goals in life and it's not to commitment emotionally to a new guy. Have fun, try new experiences and learn to live with yourself, and don't rely on a new relationship or ML to deliver what you've been denied in your failed marriage.

[Wineglass985]

Thank you for your background.
The key phrase from your opening post is “ I made some unintentional mistakes which made her uncomfortable during my last visit despite the fact that I was kind and gentle to her in all my previous visits.”
These girls have to put up with a lot. From guys who get services and do a runner (hello Indians), to guys who dont think No should be in an mls vocabulary to the guys who fall in love at the drop of a hat.
If you make her uncomfortable and do things she clearly doesnt want to do, you are gonna be shown the door.

Lessons.
As you transition from post divorce, figure yourself out. What do you want from life? Do you need a therapist?
If you arent careful trips to massage shops are gonna be on your agenda for too long and you will be unable to relate to normal women.
Are you on the spectrum? No shame in it, lots of people are. Dealing with intimate relationships if so, requires different advice.

Finding a new ml is easy, but hard as you havent explained your exact requirements and predicament. PM if you dont want the world to know.

Learn to have the ability to enter a shop and find out what you need without paying a cent. Some shops also specialise in dealing with unusual requests.


Your age is important here.
If you have time to rebuild and start again, great do that without going to whores in massage shops.
There are a plethora of ladies looking for a stable and decent guy.
Why did you pick the wrong woman in the first place? Figuring that out makes your future easier.
Find a woman who will be what you need. Be fussy. Very fussy.

If you are older, then its harder. Most guys here are on the dead or dying side of a relationship and older.
Whores cannot be your answer to anything except as cum dumpsters. Loads of real women are dirtier and nastier than you realise. And free. Just dont marry them.

If you are stuck in this world. Be smart. The quicker the better.
You can develop a relationship with an ml. A business relationship. These do not happen overnight. Trust is still vital.

You got some soul searching to do brother. Fix your flaws. You will have many.
Making the same mistakes repeatedly is a sign of stupidity. Be smart.

There are many women working in this industry that fit your broad criteria.
Learn to assess before you pay a cent.
Many a punter does a 30 minute feeler session with either just a hj or just the massage thanks to get a greater feel for a suitable ml. You dont have to throw wads of cash to assess. Be smart.

Remember your ex wife may have controlled and ruined your past. The future is yours. Fuck her.

Hi Mate, thanks for the advice. Very useful! I belong to the older age group. I have totally lost interest in developing any emotional or marital relationship. Actually I feel some so called the significant other half or “wives” are far more nasty than ML. I had no sex for nearly 2 years and was totally ripped off financially upon divorce. At least MLs provide service to please me when they get paid. I agree with you it’s important to assess and not to waste money. Anyway, our relationship with ML is a business one- nothing emotional or personal.

[Wineglass985]

Thank you for your background.
The key phrase from your opening post is “ I made some unintentional mistakes which made her uncomfortable during my last visit despite the fact that I was kind and gentle to her in all my previous visits.”
These girls have to put up with a lot. From guys who get services and do a runner (hello Indians), to guys who dont think No should be in an mls vocabulary to the guys who fall in love at the drop of a hat.
If you make her uncomfortable and do things she clearly doesnt want to do, you are gonna be shown the door.

Lessons.
As you transition from post divorce, figure yourself out. What do you want from life? Do you need a therapist?
If you arent careful trips to massage shops are gonna be on your agenda for too long and you will be unable to relate to normal women.
Are you on the spectrum? No shame in it, lots of people are. Dealing with intimate relationships if so, requires different advice.

Finding a new ml is easy, but hard as you havent explained your exact requirements and predicament. PM if you dont want the world to know.

Learn to have the ability to enter a shop and find out what you need without paying a cent. Some shops also specialise in dealing with unusual requests.


If you've just come out of a loveless marriage and obviously your X burned you, (which isn't uncommon) take this opportunity to have fun and try some new experiences. You seem like a guy who needs a high level of commitment from a female. You're not going to get that from a ML or in most cases in a new relationship, especially if you're middle aged. The ladies are out to achieve their own goals in life and it's not to commitment emotionally to a new guy. Have fun, try new experiences and learn to live with yourself, and don't rely on a new relationship or ML to deliver what you've been denied in your failed marriage.

Thanks mate for the suggestion. I am trying to be sexually active again with 2 years no sex and a financial disaster upon divorce. Not seeking any emotional attachment to a ML. Just in need some girls who can satisfy my desires, just lost one and will be looking for a new one again.

[harry444]

I divorced early in life. Had many girlfriends. Now I'm old and single and loving it. Marriage is an archaic tradition and more expensive than ML's. A HAB beats a 50 year old heffy anytime. Enjoy your freedom but don't get attached.

[Wineglass985]

I did the calculation. Even if I punt for 5 times a week until I am 70, it will cost much less than the potential damage from marrying a woman, which is actually the money I lost from the previous failed marriage. What a crazy world! And I have got to see pretty girls at 20s all the time. No need to stick to a single woman, no ethical burden at all as I am single. And I am able to do whatever I want in my daily life. I believe this is the reason why so many dudes remain single for the rest of their lives. Marriage is way too risky a business for men.

[Wineglass985]

I divorced early in life. Had many girlfriends. Now I'm old and single and loving it. Marriage is an archaic tradition and more expensive than ML's. A HAB beats a 50 year old heffy anytime. Enjoy your freedom but don't get attached.

That’s exactly what I am thinking right now! Thanks for sharing your experiences.

[Moonwalker]

In my case, mate, try ML with an unattractive face but a decent body and limited options.
Keep trying with her and show her affection—eventually, she’ll provide more service as you build a strong rapport. Somehow, you’ll reach your final goal.

In the meantime, never fall in love with her; let her fall in love with you. That’s the key. You might lose your appetite, but your only focus should be on sex.

Just have fun without thinking about the future.


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[Tales]

Some very good advice. The main thing to remember is- never go back to your previous life. Where you weren't getting looked after, providing for her needs and compromising on what was important for you. As with most divorces the ladies plan it in advance to maximise their return. I know I've been there. This is your time to shine, don't get hung up on a ML there's plenty around. This is your time to achieve your goals, it'll be a different life as to where you come from but embrace it.

[Wineglass985]

In my case, mate, try ML with an unattractive face but a decent body and limited options.
Keep trying with her and show her affection—eventually, she’ll provide more service as you build a strong rapport. Somehow, you’ll reach your final goal.

In the meantime, never fall in love with her; let her fall in love with you. That’s the key. You might lose your appetite, but your only focus should be on sex.

Just have fun without thinking about the future.


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Hi mate, thanks for your advice. Actually I don’t believe ML will ever fall in love with a punter. They are not normal women, sadly mostly damaged goods with no soul already .

[Scotty from Marketing]

Hi mate, thanks for your advice. Actually I don’t believe ML will ever fall in love with a punter. They are not normal women, sadly mostly damaged goods with no soul already .
As much as people would like to believe that, its simply not true.
They are human beings with feelings and emotions. And souls
Like most jobs, most transactions are non eventful.
They all have favourite customers or customers that ring their bell. Some more than others

There are numerous examples of:
Mls falling in love with punters and having money stolen or promises of visas expunged
Mls marrying or having relationships with customers out the shop with happily ever after. Or at least a visa lol.

But its a statistical anomaly. Its a job. A dirty job for most of them.
Make it pleasant, make it fun and just have some decency.
Don't be the guy that makes them cry at night and give them long term nightmares.

[Angkorwhere]

As much as people would like to believe that, its simply not true.
They are human beings with feelings and emotions. And souls
Like most jobs, most transactions are non eventful.
They all have favourite customers or customers that ring their bell. Some more than others

There are numerous examples of:
Mls falling in love with punters and having money stolen or promises of visas expunged
Mls marrying or having relationships with customers out the shop with happily ever after. Or at least a visa lol.

But its a statistical anomaly. Its a job. A dirty job for most of them.
Make it pleasant, make it fun and just have some decency.
Don't be the guy that makes them cry at night and give them long term nightmares.

This thread has been reminding me of a Dr Phil episode.. we probably all need a therapy session or two ;)

Plenty of advice given for a newbie there Wineglass985, time to act smart

[Wineglass985]

As much as people would like to believe that, its simply not true.
They are human beings with feelings and emotions. And souls
Like most jobs, most transactions are non eventful.
They all have favourite customers or customers that ring their bell. Some more than others

There are numerous examples of:
Mls falling in love with punters and having money stolen or promises of visas expunged
Mls marrying or having relationships with customers out the shop with happily ever after. Or at least a visa lol.

But its a statistical anomaly. Its a job. A dirty job for most of them.
Make it pleasant, make it fun and just have some decency.
Don't be the guy that makes them cry at night and give them long term nightmares.

Thanks Scotty. Your comments brightened up my day. After being dumped by my favorite, I was really desperate. She knows I like her very much much and I was visiting her only for the past weeks. Yet she’s still so merciless to me, making me feel MLs having no soul. Yesterday I visited another regular of mine ( I cancelled my regular visits to her for the past few weeks to visit the girl who just dumped me). She gave me the best service I have ever enjoyed. She’s absolutely caring and heartwarming. She said she is not doing this to every of her customer. She makes believe that MLs did have a soul and some of them are really good in nature.

[Wineglass985]

Some very good advice. The main thing to remember is- never go back to your previous life. Where you weren't getting looked after, providing for her needs and compromising on what was important for you. As with most divorces the ladies plan it in advance to maximise their return. I know I've been there. This is your time to shine, don't get hung up on a ML there's plenty around. This is your time to achieve your goals, it'll be a different life as to where you come from but embrace it.

Your words”ladies plan in advance to maximise their return” this really struck me as I experienced the same, feeling like being set up when my ex filed for separation and divorce. What a sad reality. So now I start to enjoy life. Enjoy all the beauties for being a free and single man. No need to hide, no need to lie, freedom is so good.

[harry444]

Dear Wineglass
After all our advise, I fear you may be heading down the same path. You now appear to be besotted by a new girl, "she's absolutely caring and heatwarming......shes not doing this to everyone of her customers", etc, etc, etc, etc. Wake up!
Which again makes the cynical me think we are being baited. No disrespect WG.

[Wineglass985]

Dear Wineglass
After all our advise, I fear you may be heading down the same path. You now appear to be besotted by a new girl, "she's absolutely caring and heatwarming......shes not doing this to everyone of her customers", etc, etc, etc, etc. Wake up!

Hi mate, thanks for the warning. No worries. I am not attached to her in any shape or form. But her words are really nice ( won’t necessary to true though). She’s not a new girl either. I visited her a lot of times already before. She’s one of my regulars. I wrote this just to echo what Scotty has said “MLs are human beings, they have feelings too”， which I agree now.

[Wineglass985]

Dear Wineglass
After all our advise, I fear you may be heading down the same path. You now appear to be besotted by a new girl, "she's absolutely caring and heatwarming......shes not doing this to everyone of her customers", etc, etc, etc, etc. Wake up!
Which again makes the cynical me think we are being baited. No disrespect WG.

No baiting here mate. I am divorced like you do and your words are truly inspiring

[Up2me]

Hey Wineglass, of course you should treat them with the respect that you obviously do, but never lose sight of the FACT that they are not your girl, it's just your turn.

[jedibear]

Why do you blokes get attached? Go in, blow your load, get out. Simple as that

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[AUlysses]

. She said she is not doing this to every of her customer.

Yeah man, I bet she's not.

[Wineglass985]

Hey Wineglass, of course you should treat them with the respect that you obviously do, but never lose sight of the FACT that they are not your girl, it's just your turn.

Sure. I am just one of their customers. But need to be a good customer so that I don’t get rejected all the time.

[Ahamisch]

Thanks Scotty. Your comments brightened up my day. After being dumped by my favorite, I was really desperate. She knows I like her very much much and I was visiting her only for the past weeks. Yet she’s still so merciless to me, making me feel MLs having no soul. Yesterday I visited another regular of mine ( I cancelled my regular visits to her for the past few weeks to visit the girl who just dumped me). She gave me the best service I have ever enjoyed. She’s absolutely caring and heartwarming. She said she is not doing this to every of her customer. She makes believe that MLs did have a soul and some of them are really good in nature.

Is this your regular one at Touch? Wonder what is the service you received. It is good to hear you are getting OK again.

[JohnRoscoe]

As much as people would like to believe that, its simply not true.
They are human beings with feelings and emotions. And souls
Like most jobs, most transactions are non eventful.
They all have favourite customers or customers that ring their bell. Some more than others

There are numerous examples of:
Mls falling in love with punters and having money stolen or promises of visas expunged
Mls marrying or having relationships with customers out the shop with happily ever after. Or at least a visa lol.

But its a statistical anomaly. Its a job. A dirty job for most of them.
Make it pleasant, make it fun and just have some decency.
Don't be the guy that makes them cry at night and give them long term nightmares.


Well said Scotty

[Duco23]

Never read a thread that i related so much too, glad I'm not the only one.

[Cmnothingelse]

Well this was kind of unexpected. I read the initial one where you went wild and thought 'great, another fuckwit who is abusing the ML's, no wonder when you're the last customer of the day they just curl up on your chest and close their eyes'...

But the background makes sense. And there's a lot of solid advice. Find a ML/escort that you can get your freak on with. Be nice and respectful to the others. Don't be a cunt.

First ML I went to ever, was an awesome experience. Older woman, great tits, awesome TT, great conversation. When I went to book back in, she said no. I was a bit taken aback, so asked why. She said she wasn't comfortable with the conversation we had (had no indication at the time, whatsoever). Was bummed because it was so damned good. But moved on, found better (and a whole lot more that were worse!!!). I like to chat to some of them, they all have a story and some of them like to share it. It's nice. But like others have said, you're there for half an hour, an hour. But don't confuse physical with intimacy. If you want intimacy, get a girlfriend. Then you're back to square one. If you just want physical touch and a different hand on your cock, punt away.

Above all else... Have fun sampling the very large menu out there!

[Fitch]

Err growing attached to MLs? Ahh no. That's why we pic who we fuck with our money. Ive only repeated visits once in my long career of punting. I'm not there to be their friend.

[Wineglass985]

Well this was kind of unexpected. I read the initial one where you went wild and thought 'great, another fuckwit who is abusing the ML's, no wonder when you're the last customer of the day they just curl up on your chest and close their eyes'...

But the background makes sense. And there's a lot of solid advice. Find a ML/escort that you can get your freak on with. Be nice and respectful to the others. Don't be a cunt.

First ML I went to ever, was an awesome experience. Older woman, great tits, awesome TT, great conversation. When I went to book back in, she said no. I was a bit taken aback, so asked why. She said she wasn't comfortable with the conversation we had (had no indication at the time, whatsoever). Was bummed because it was so damned good. But moved on, found better (and a whole lot more that were worse!!!). I like to chat to some of them, they all have a story and some of them like to share it. It's nice. But like others have said, you're there for half an hour, an hour. But don't confuse physical with intimacy. If you want intimacy, get a girlfriend. Then you're back to square one. If you just want physical touch and a different hand on your cock, punt away.

Above all else... Have fun sampling the very large menu out there!

Thanks for sharing the experience. The ML I lost is a total gem in my eyes. Not sure how long it will take to find another ML that matches her as I am quite picky in my taste. Will keep trial and error…

[jaccky]

I did the calculation. Even if I punt for 5 times a week until I am 70, it will cost much less than the potential damage from marrying a woman, which is actually the money I lost from the previous failed marriage. What a crazy world! And I have got to see pretty girls at 20s all the time. No need to stick to a single woman, no ethical burden at all as I am single. And I am able to do whatever I want in my daily life. I believe this is the reason why so many dudes remain single for the rest of their lives. Marriage is way too risky a business for men.

It seems like you've got over your little brain attack already. That all makes perfect sense– unless you're lying and are really inescapably emotionally tethered to this ML. No shame in that though. Happens all the time. Why wouldn't it? A certain stoicism might register further on down the line. Or maybe you're just an eternal softy. Everything is temporary. She'll probably end up leaving sooner or later anyway (at least I'd hope so). Just be happy that you're free of her– though it looks like you've already concluded this. Because let's be honest, regulars are kind of burdens. Happy sampling!

[A Nice Guy]

Thanks for sharing the experience. The ML I lost is a total gem in my eyes. Not sure how long it will take to find another ML that matches her as I am quite picky in my taste. Will keep trial and error…



I know what you are going through mate. I've been there.

How long was she was your "regular"?

Best advice I can offer along with everything else already suggested is to avoid the urge of going back to that shop where you will hold onto the memories and times you had with that ML.

Keep in mind the longer these girls work in this industry the harder they become. They may start out sweet and can stay that way but with a harder edge where all they care about is the next dick through the door and the $$$

It's a service industry where they are paid by the hour. There can be some exceptions that do care about you as a person but very few.

Biggest thing to remember is always treat the girls with respect and before doing anything different check that they are ok with it or you get any sense they are incompatible stop.

Don't restrict yourself to one lady either. Lots out there with different quirks and fun to be had.

After my own experience I was determined to never get too attached to a ML again.

You know what? I'm having more fun, relaxed and girls notice and the service I get is awesome. Also get to see some outside which never would have happened when I had a false sense of loyalty to one ML.

Good luck mate

[Wineglass985]

I know what you are going through mate. I've been there.

How long was she was your "regular"?

Best advice I can offer along with everything else already suggested is to avoid the urge of going back to that shop where you will hold onto the memories and times you had with that ML.

Keep in mind the longer these girls work in this industry the harder they become. They may start out sweet and can stay that way but with a harder edge where all they care about is the next dick through the door and the $$$

It's a service industry where they are paid by the hour. There can be some exceptions that do care about you as a person but very few.

Biggest thing to remember is always treat the girls with respect and before doing anything different check that they are ok with it or you get any sense they are incompatible stop.

Don't restrict yourself to one lady either. Lots out there with different quirks and fun to be had.

After my own experience I was determined to never get too attached to a ML again.

You know what? I'm having more fun, relaxed and girls notice and the service I get is awesome. Also get to see some outside which never would have happened when I had a false sense of loyalty to one ML.

Good luck mate

Thanks mate for the good advice. She’s a new regular and I just visited her for a couple of weeks. I was visiting another girl regularly previously, who’s also very attractive. I cancelled my regular visits to her to see the new one because I felt she can offer and satisfy me more. And this is the hardest part because I lost her suddenly when my feelings towards her were still very fresh and intense, which is totally different from the experience of losing a regular ML after seeing her for a long time.

It’s actually my doctor’s advice to visit one or two MLs regularly to keep up a relatively normal sex life. It really felt this way when nothing happened. But when it broke, it’s a totally different feeling. Maybe a much better way is to keep seeing 2 to 3 ML regularly, so when anything happens to one, there are still others to turn to. However, even when there are 2 to 3 regulars, there will only be 1 favorite among them. This is an unfortunate truth.

[South_Brisbane]

I know what you are going through mate. I've been there.

How long was she was your "regular"?

Best advice I can offer along with everything else already suggested is to avoid the urge of going back to that shop where you will hold onto the memories and times you had with that ML.

Keep in mind the longer these girls work in this industry the harder they become. They may start out sweet and can stay that way but with a harder edge where all they care about is the next dick through the door and the $$$

It's a service industry where they are paid by the hour. There can be some exceptions that do care about you as a person but very few.

Biggest thing to remember is always treat the girls with respect and before doing anything different check that they are ok with it or you get any sense they are incompatible stop.

Don't restrict yourself to one lady either. Lots out there with different quirks and fun to be had.

After my own experience I was determined to never get too attached to a ML again.

You know what? I'm having more fun, relaxed and girls notice and the service I get is awesome. Also get to see some outside which never would have happened when I had a false sense of loyalty to one ML.

Good luck mate

Great advice. It's a shame but so true with regards to "Keep in mind the longer these girls work in this industry the harder they become. They may start out sweet and can stay that way but with a harder edge where all they care about is the next dick through the door and the $$$"

[drunkassprickass]

Just like doctors and nurses they become hardened to illness and death. Same with MLs with sex and love

[A Nice Guy]

"Maybe a much better way is to keep seeing 2 to 3 ML regularly, so when anything happens to one, there are still others to turn to. However, even when there are 2 to 3 regulars, there will only be 1 favorite among them. This is an unfortunate truth."



There you go mate
Exactly right, have 3 or even 4 regulars all with different styles or service levels.

Of course we have our favourite but as you say if it doesn't work with one you aren't starting all over again

[Pusspuss]

You do get favourites because after a few visits they trust you more and might allow more action. But don’t get too attached!

[Wineglass985]

Thanks mate. I feel I have found a new regular now. But still need time to build rapport.