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Mr Nice
02-07-2025, 09:43 PM
What do you gentlemen do when your regular girl leaves the industry?

I lost two of my favourite girls this week. I figure I have 2 options:

1. Buy a black dress and matching hat and mourn them, or
2. Go find a new regular, hopefully younger and hotter.

Tbh I will miss them. They were regulars on my rotation for good reasons. I am not sure I could be fucked scoping the rosters and forums then trialing girls to find one that will let me do all the extras I like. Actually, that does sound kinda fun.

Hope springs eternal.....

Any recommended remedies for losing your regular?

booty_duty
02-07-2025, 10:05 PM
I've lost a few regulars over the years, the last one only recently as she's simply vanished so my commiserations as I know the feeling.

There's always a gap period until you find that next one so sadly you need to wade through all the dogs to find another God.




Any recommended remedies for losing your regular?

My go-to remedy for overcoming the loss is to book yourself a nice trip away, somewhere that has pussy on tap and is cheap (SE Asia) and just plow through as much pussy as you can until your dick falls off or you die of a heart attack.

Surprisingly Singapore is cheap as chips with good quality birds so your family and friends don't really bat an eyelash that you're visiting there, even though it's for a sexpedition since SG doesn't have that stigma of say Thailand or Philippines as a sex tourist destination.

In Geylang district, you can basically pay $50 for Thai, $60-70 for Viet, $100 for Chinese for short time (30mins), there's plenty to choose from and you'll be fucking your brains out in between eating delicious and cheap hawker meals.

Best way to get over a bird is to get under another one (or two or three)

fixatedperson
02-07-2025, 11:11 PM
Who were the regulars who left?

Mr Nice
03-07-2025, 08:10 AM
Thanks booty_duty. Solid advice and delivered with a bit of humour. Just what I need to hear. I have never been to Singapore when single. Added to the list!

Fixated: just a couple of ML who asked me not to write AR on them. I will respect their wishes in retirement (and just in case they come back!)

Veets
03-07-2025, 09:41 AM
I have a tendency to get board having said that there is one who I took a break from and she left the industry 6 months later
I still think about her

putsputs
03-07-2025, 10:06 AM
What do you gentlemen do when your regular girl leaves the industry?

I lost two of my favourite girls this week. I figure I have 2 options:

1. Buy a black dress and matching hat and mourn them, or
2. Go find a new regular, hopefully younger and hotter.

Tbh I will miss them. They were regulars on my rotation for good reasons. I am not sure I could be fucked scoping the rosters and forums then trialing girls to find one that will let me do all the extras I like. Actually, that does sound kinda fun.

Hope springs eternal.....

Any recommended remedies for losing your regular?

Option 1. And then do option 2.

mindboggler
03-07-2025, 10:38 AM
What do you gentlemen do when your regular girl leaves the industry?

I lost two of my favourite girls this week. I figure I have 2 options:

1. Buy a black dress and matching hat and mourn them, or
2. Go find a new regular, hopefully younger and hotter.

Tbh I will miss them. They were regulars on my rotation for good reasons. I am not sure I could be fucked scoping the rosters and forums then trialing girls to find one that will let me do all the extras I like. Actually, that does sound kinda fun.

Hope springs eternal.....

Any recommended remedies for losing your regular?

I lost my regular recently too. Lovely young Japanese girl who I had probably seen more than a hundred times over the last couple of years. So much so that I haven’t punted since, and she left the country about a month ago. Has happened to me once before and my reaction usually is withdrawal for a period of time. Probably to get through the various stages of grief haha. Usually bounce back in a few months and get back on the saddle.

But as others have pointed out, there’s several other fish in the sea and it might just take a bit of patience and time to find the next regular(s). Might be an idea to have a group of semi-regulars, rather than the one or two regulars, so the disconnection is easier when they do move on?

Rustyman1980
03-07-2025, 10:55 AM
You guys sound like losers, apologies but I'm being brutal honestly to help you

Sounds like you're in love with a transactional relationship, when she left did she give you her contact details?

How many other guys did she have feeling or same service with, maybe even better service and close with other punters

The facts are she was good at her job getting you to feel enough to repeat visit but I guarantee you, you were just money honey yeh maybe a little bit of a connection but I take my hat off to these girls who roped you in, they're skillful but the sad truth is she's going to never think about you again probably try hard to forget you if you're indian like mindboggler hahaha and move in with her life.

Once you accept this you'll minimise your feelings and find a replacement, or better yet stop being lazy fucking slobs and try meet a woman normally who you can develop true genuine feeling with mutually that when she dumps you , you feel proper true remorse lol

You're paying to fuck or cum or whatever extras agreed but these girls are giving similar or better services to another 50 men every week.

Mr Nice
03-07-2025, 12:39 PM
Who the fuck said anything about being in love? It's great sex with a beautiful girl and a few laughs. Who wouldn't miss that?

booty_duty
03-07-2025, 12:58 PM
You guys sound like losers, apologies but I'm being brutal honestly to help you

Yes, we all sound like losers.

But then again, I think in the eyes of the overwhelming majority of society, all guys on here are losers since we're not just paying for sex, we're also discussing the various aspects of it.

Just like anything in life, there's varying degrees, so perhaps those that are lamenting the loss of a regular can be seen as greater losers than those don't have regulars?

The point is that we're all losers to some degree so there's really no need to have a superiority complex over others when we're really all in the same boat as far as society is concerned.

For those that think they're "winners", it may be best not to participate in this forum at all in fear of being tarnished with the same brush.

HiredGoon
03-07-2025, 03:08 PM
You guys sound like losers,

Hence the title of the thread?

Rustyman1980
03-07-2025, 03:22 PM
Testy guys
I mean loser as in lost some thing you owned.

Not a loser in life, hell I agree with bootylicious bro, we're all losers that's why we can chat even disagree.

But don't confuse the transfer of money for intimacy for genuine feelings, it'll help you get over your loss.

Honestly there's been a few guys on here who thought they fell in love and it never sounds positive or ended well.

So yeah guys, losers because you lost a nice root or BJ, move on cause she has.

Rustyman1980
03-07-2025, 03:22 PM
@hiredgoon
Touche my man !

11Bravo
03-07-2025, 05:11 PM
What do you gentlemen do when your regular girl leaves the industry?

I lost two of my favourite girls this week.

I've never met a girl who enjoyed the job. In every case, it was a means to an end. Typical: one girl who'd I pull occasionally, sometimes ST, sometimes LT, she disappeared. A year later, bumped into her at the airport. Nodded, as each of us was solo, had a chance to talk. Asked where she'd been. She said she'd gotten a job as a cashier in a supermarket. "LOT less money, but it's a job I can be proud of, tell my family..."

You simply need to change your perspective, so let me help reorient you.

Over the decades, I've lost any number of regulars, and the vast majority of these were LT regulars, and by LT, I mean over night, from early evening to the next morning, next afternoon... Every week, for months... We had fun, hanging out. Dinner, breakfast, dinner parties, pool parties, clubbing, cinema... It was BUSINESS, without a doubt, but she could "play house", be a person... Sure, it was an illusion, but we BOTH enjoyed it.

Thing is, they're expats. And when it's time, an expat goes HOME. Hopefully, it's because they've reached their goal. I've been an expat, and I know that feeling well. So rather than feeling sorry for yourself (which I did), I looked at it with her in mind: she went HOME, back to REAL LIFE, back to HER LIFE, HER FAMILY. And for that, I was happy for HER.

Works even for those cases where she's moved up-market, her floor higher than your ceiling. Or she got a better offer... From the correct perspective, GOOD for her. Because, assuming you weren't planning a life with her, offering her a chance to get out, then... she's improved her life, so how can you be sad about that?

Same for a ST regular; I've lost a few here. I just think, good for them.

You feeling sad? Nothing wrong with that. Just means that you see her as a person, not just an orifice. So see her as a person now, with a better life, her life, the one she was working for...

Solution? Be happy with the memories you had together. Go out, not with the intent of finding a replacement, but just enjoying tryouts, scouting... Like they say, "Hey, I was looking for work when I found this job..."

Cheers.


Sounds like you're in love with a transactional relationship, when she left did she give you her contact details?
Some have. And like with civilian contacts, they last for awhile, months, a couple of years, but eventually, everyone just gets on with their own life.

cplurt2
03-07-2025, 05:37 PM
I don't know if it's falling in love with the girl as much as falling in love with the experience or service. I get on the same level of upset as you would losing a good doctor or hair stylist or even chef

Mr Nice
03-07-2025, 06:02 PM
That's a good way to look at it 11Bravo. I think my OP might have come across a bit strong. My point was that it's hard to find a great regular. In 20 years I think I have come across a dozen or so that were as fun in the sack as these two. Plus they were nice girls and super hot. Some great memories!

mindboggler
03-07-2025, 06:02 PM
You guys sound like losers, apologies but I'm being brutal honestly to help you

Sounds like you're in love with a transactional relationship, when she left did she give you her contact details?

How many other guys did she have feeling or same service with, maybe even better service and close with other punters

The facts are she was good at her job getting you to feel enough to repeat visit but I guarantee you, you were just money honey yeh maybe a little bit of a connection but I take my hat off to these girls who roped you in, they're skillful but the sad truth is she's going to never think about you again probably try hard to forget you if you're indian like mindboggler hahaha and move in with her life.

Once you accept this you'll minimise your feelings and find a replacement, or better yet stop being lazy fucking slobs and try meet a woman normally who you can develop true genuine feeling with mutually that when she dumps you , you feel proper true remorse lol

You're paying to fuck or cum or whatever extras agreed but these girls are giving similar or better services to another 50 men every week.

Was only a matter of time before this Arab-cocksucking “skid mark” would come in with his bigoted bullshit.

Mate, if you have nothing useful to add to a discussion, then maybe refrain from posting. Don’t feel obliged to leave your stinky dna everywhere.

No one is fucking taking about being in love here. It’s about the loss of a regular WL or ML, and how punters react to and get over it. And not that I need to prove anything to you but yes, both my ex regulars gave me their social media contacts and we continue to talk.

Don’t come acting all wise and priesty. It’s been well demonstrated that you have the intelligence level of an amoeba at best. Now piss off off this thread and go back to your race-bashing threads, you’ve got multitudes of those available to shit in.

HiredGoon
03-07-2025, 08:30 PM
Was only a matter of time before this Arab-cocksucking “skid mark” would come in with his bigoted bullshit.


I can't tell if you're saying he's Arab and sucks cocks, or he sucks Arab cocks.

ChadThunderrcock
03-07-2025, 09:00 PM
Only a Very Low-Value Man would get emotionally tied up & catch feelings for a Sex Worker and their transactional financial relationship.

It means you don't have enough normal civilian women in your real life who you interact with and have normal relationships with.

HiredGoon
04-07-2025, 10:06 AM
Only a Very Low-Value Man would get emotionally tied up & catch feelings for a Sex Worker and their transactional financial relationship.

It means you don't have enough normal civilian women in your real life who you interact with and have normal relationships with.

Lol, I'm pretty sure the only "normal civilian woman" you know is your mum. And you probably look down on her as well!

1inchguy
04-07-2025, 01:30 PM
I've lost regulars over the years. So I just look for another one.
If theyre good I'll continue seeing them. If they're not then that's it one and done.
No need to overthink.


That said i'll sacrifice a small lamb in their honour.

Mr Nice
04-07-2025, 09:23 PM
"just plow through as much pussy as you can until your dick falls off or you die of a heart attack."

I decided this was the way forward and just finished a cracking double session at 107 Chill.

koreanfox
05-07-2025, 03:20 AM
Always hard to get over someone you develop feels for i think especially when random things remind you of her. In this instance i guess you can do things the old fashion way and go to a park or a bar or stroll down chinatown for the eye candy or just rock up to a shop and hope to find someone that looks similar to your ex/regular

Double_Adapter
05-07-2025, 08:59 AM
Only a Very Low-Value Man would get emotionally tied up & catch feelings for a Sex Worker and their transactional financial relationship.

It means you don't have enough normal civilian women in your real life who you interact with and have normal relationships with.

It’s easy for you to preach about 'normal' relationships when you look like Brad Pitt or Chris Hemsworth but when you’re an old bald (or balding) fat farang, it’s a fucken uphill battle; which is why RnTs and brothels become the pick-up joints of choice for many.

booty_duty
05-07-2025, 01:49 PM
"just plow through as much pussy as you can until your dick falls off or you die of a heart attack."

I decided this was the way forward and just finished a cracking double session at 107 Chill.


Love it! Awesome job man

turanhusqvarn
07-07-2025, 04:34 PM
What do you gentlemen do when your regular girl leaves the industry?

I lost two of my favourite girls this week. I figure I have 2 options:

1. Buy a black dress and matching hat and mourn them, or
2. Go find a new regular, hopefully younger and hotter.

Tbh I will miss them. They were regulars on my rotation for good reasons. I am not sure I could be fucked scoping the rosters and forums then trialing girls to find one that will let me do all the extras I like. Actually, that does sound kinda fun.

Hope springs eternal.....

Any recommended remedies for losing your regular?

It was an amazing experience with Sabrina, and I definitely plan to return next Thursday.