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shaneOppa896
30-07-2025, 04:39 PM
Just wondering what others think.

If you end up in a relationship with a massage girl, how do you handle it?

Things like the nature of the job, trust, and future complications a— do they become hidden sources of stress?

Anyone been in this situation or thought about it seriously? Would love to hear your take.

JR_punter
30-07-2025, 05:48 PM
I had a casual relationship with a ML a while ago.

Was never going to be long term, but I liked to hear the stories of what she got up to, and some of the customers she encounted.
Lot of weird people out there, including me. hahaha.

Anyway yeah you wouldnt want to be too serious about it.

Keep'n'itgoing
30-07-2025, 09:26 PM
It takes a certain type of person to handle it. I don't think many could do it but a surprising number of MLs have boyfriends or husbands.

You need to set the boundaries and have a certain amount of trust but it is still hard to do.

The stories they have are out there and you hear about the types of customers that frankly need to be educated on how to be a member of society.

You do get to hear the inside scoop on shop owners and girls.

Keep'n

CumShot
30-07-2025, 10:18 PM
I'm not so interested in fellow punters.

What I found with my massage girl experiences is about priority. There is something that happens to her by being exposed to 7-8 cocks per day and what that does to their mind.

L3xLuthor
31-07-2025, 12:36 AM
Why would you want to put yourself through that type of hell?! Unless you are ok with having the knowledge that your missus is fondling (like cumshot mentioned) possibly 7-8 cocks a day and thats a watered down image

Amazoneddy
31-07-2025, 08:45 AM
Just wondering what others think.

If you end up in a relationship with a massage girl, how do you handle it?

Things like the nature of the job, trust, and future complications a— do they become hidden sources of stress?

Anyone been in this situation or thought about it seriously? Would love to hear your take.

I live with a girl reviewed in these pages. It’s fantastic seeing here everyday. In the shower, in bed. Yes guys pay to see her. I know what she does with cocks. At times I get jealous about full service customers. But it’s just a money transaction. I see the girl over dinner, hear her thoughts and dreams. I met her as a customer. I wanted more. She tells me what happens, so I trust her. Some days I get stressed about the sex. But I see her undress at home. Go out with her. The sex is great.

Cmnothingelse
31-07-2025, 09:28 AM
I live with a girl reviewed in these pages. It’s fantastic seeing here everyday. In the shower, in bed. Yes guys pay to see her. I know what she does with cocks. At times I get jealous about full service customers. But it’s just a money transaction. I see the girl over dinner, hear her thoughts and dreams. I met her as a customer. I wanted more. She tells me what happens, so I trust her. Some days I get stressed about the sex. But I see her undress at home. Go out with her. The sex is great.

Genuinely curious, is there still sex that isn't 'dutiful' or 'reluctant'? ML I see a bit, she has a boyfriend. I always wonder that, like others have said above, she's having sex several times a day, then goes home to her BF who probably wants to have sex too. Kind of like a tradie who works all day then goes home and has to do that trade at home.

shugienyc
31-07-2025, 09:36 AM
Takes a special bond and trust. Been through it in reverse where I dated girls and then found out later they were WL, or a WL has asked me out, hmm.

All were liars and rather despicable except 1. One ruined my life so completely that I am still working out WTF happened to me 21 years later

Went out with a pornstar, lovely lady but fucked up, a truly lovely gal who got put on the drip (as it were).

Dated strippers = worst of the lot, truly awful girls in the main.

Trust, communication and integrity are key, don't read the forums, make sure there are boundaries but I would guess the odds of success are extremely low
like 1 in 1000......I've been hit on by a few much younger WL recently so I test them out... see if they respond to texts when there is zero $ for them... most just ghost you but 1, 2, or 3 special girls respond... then do I believe there is a chance with 1... maybe...

I am trying this again with a very special lady and my heart is involved for once.... we will see....... I know...... and I am friendly with WL that have coffee with me and drinks etc, so I hear all the stories.... all the fake stuff some do to impress clients, other WL jealousy etc.

The true pros understand it is just a job... the real REAL pros will not be fake at any time with any client but many WL and ML are happy and phoney with all, so horses for courses.

The challenge is working out who is who in the zoo... and don't believe a lot of shit you hear otherwise.

Its a tangled web indeed !

AMAZON Eddy has the right idea and knows.... trust yourself and let go of the jealousies as Eddy does and it can work.... TRUST

shugienyc
31-07-2025, 09:40 AM
And several WL I have seen in the last year are married, have BF, have horrible drug habits, gambling, a grandma (very young) and yada yada yada.
So let the lady reveal to you over time who she is before you leap...... I think it takes a full year to see a person's full self

Good Luck

BrisbaneSwede
31-07-2025, 12:35 PM
If you have even the smallest of jealous bones in your body, dont do it.

I went out with someone who did nude modelling, suicidegirls, stripping.

It was great until I went to a function for the girls and fans could also buy tickets. Seeing the fans and her interaction with them I changed and couldnt handle it.

Pdaddy
02-08-2025, 01:17 PM
I live with a girl reviewed in these pages. It’s fantastic seeing here everyday. In the shower, in bed. Yes guys pay to see her. I know what she does with cocks. At times I get jealous about full service customers. But it’s just a money transaction. I see the girl over dinner, hear her thoughts and dreams. I met her as a customer. I wanted more. She tells me what happens, so I trust her. Some days I get stressed about the sex. But I see her undress at home. Go out with her. The sex is great.

The jealousy part is one thing, but are you not worried about STD’s?

Wineglass985
02-08-2025, 11:08 PM
I had a similar experience back when I was in my 20s, before I got married. I once visited a massage shop and met a stunningly beautiful ML who looked like a twin sister of the famous AV actress Akira Watase but with much larger breasts ( natural E cups). She’s also in her early 20s and looked like an absolute goddess. I was instantly attracted to her and started to visit her regularly.

After visiting her for a couple of months, I found her attitude to me gradually evolved to a truly intimate one. For example, when having sex, she kissed me more than I kissed her. Sometimes she would not allow me to cum when I said I was ready to cum. The reason was she hasn’t cum yet. She even complained to me for cum too early sometimes. You would assume things like this would never occur to a sex worker because they normally would like their customers to finish off asap. She even offered natural sex to me with no extra fees and cut her extra fees so that I could visit her more frequently. Finally, she said she liked me and would like me to take her out for a meal together. I agreed because I liked her too but not in a romantic way. We went out to have dinner together and had sex together in a booked hotel room. I had some of greatest sex ever with her during this period.

Finally, after a couple of more months, she said to me she wanted me to marry her. I thought it was a a joke because I loved to have sex with her but I didn’t love her. Yes. She’s truly stunning but she’s a ML. How the hell would I marry a ML when I got so many other options at the time? My relationship with her ended as a result although I truly missed the great sex with her.

Now, after a failed marriage and over 2 years of life without sex, I realised that normal sex can be stripped away from men easily and can be hard to come by. Looking back, I would not hesitate to marry that girl simply because I could enjoy great sex with her. Sex is very important for the wellbeing of men and it is the bedrock of a healthy and vibrant life.

If I get the chance to meet a ML whom I like very much and who likes me too, not by words, but by her attitude and behaviour towards me, and she gives me great sex experience, I wouldn’t hesitate to take her out for a date and even propose to her to live together with me. I don’t care about anything else now.

Life is too short. I have to enjoy the moment.

Fungus the Bogeyman
03-08-2025, 09:23 AM
Now, after a failed marriage and over 2 years of life without sex, I realised that normal sex can be stripped away from men easily and can be hard to come by. Looking back, I would not hesitate to marry that girl simply because I could enjoy great sex with her. Sex is very important for the wellbeing of men and it is the bedrock of a healthy and vibrant life.

If I get the chance to meet a ML whom I like very much and who likes me too, not by words, but by her attitude and behaviour towards me, and she gives me great sex experience, I wouldn’t hesitate to take her out for a date and even propose to her to live together with me. I don’t care about anything else now.

Life is too short. I have to enjoy the moment.

Have you learnt nothing?
You think if you marry that ml the great sex would continue?
Once she had her claws on you for money, house, visa or whatever, she would take you for everything and not give it a second thought.
Character matters. Sex providers have none.
Have fun with them. Move on

Wineglass985
03-08-2025, 10:27 AM
Have you learnt nothing?
You think if you marry that ml the great sex would continue?
Once she had her claws on you for money, house, visa or whatever, she would take you for everything and not give it a second thought.
Character matters. Sex providers have none.
Have fun with them. Move on

Isn’t the so called normal marriage with a “normal” woman often turns out to be another scam at a much larger scale when it fails? The so called normal decent women can make you live like a monk and still rip millions off you. With a ML, you can at least enjoy the sex they offer at a much lower cost comparably. They can also be a good companion. They are humans. Some of them have genuine good souls as there are things that cannot be faked. Of course I will take all the necessary precautions to protect my assets from any potential further loss. But it’s ok for me to help them to achieve their dreams like setting down here permanently as long as they are willing to be engaged in a genuine relationship with me. It’s ok.

Blt
03-08-2025, 11:57 AM
First, maybe make sure you can actually afford it.

Second, these kinds of relationships rarely last — if you're too possessive, she’ll just see you as someone interfering with her income.

Unless your money or emotional support makes it worth her time, don't expect too much.

MartyMcHardy
03-08-2025, 12:04 PM
As long as everyone’s having fun.

shaneOppa896
03-08-2025, 02:17 PM
I once dated a so-called “high-end” Instagram model.
Turns out her private life was a mess too—always hanging out with different guys, hooking up casually. So let’s stop pretending that sex workers are the only ones who “sleep around.” Plenty of people outside the industry are just as wild—if not more.

This whole “ML = messy and untrustworthy” mindset? It’s mostly outdated male fantasy trying to feel morally superior.
If you’re serious about dating an ML, here are just three things you actually need to focus on:
1. Go get tested together — trust starts with action
If you want peace of mind and a serious connection, go do the medical check together. Clear results speak louder than anxious thoughts.
2. Don’t treat her like your personal property
The more possessive you get, the more likely she is to lie or pull away. Give her space, and you might be surprised how loyal she actually becomes.
3. Worried she’s still seeing clients? She’s also worried you’re out playing around
Let’s not pretend you’re some saint while she’s the only one with a past. She knows the risks just like you do, and trust goes both ways.



At the end of the day, she’s providing a service—not selling her soul. You’re buying pleasure, not moral superiority.
If you’re emotionally compatible, have amazing sex, and can actually communicate, there’s no reason things can’t work long-term.

gpeck80
03-08-2025, 06:10 PM
"This whole “ML = messy and untrustworthy” mindset? It’s mostly outdated male fantasy trying to feel morally superior."

Women by their very nature are chaotic, emotional and their loyalty can shift as quickly as the wind. Very few dont fit that cliche.

Wineglass985
03-08-2025, 08:36 PM
Looks like quite a few women haters are on this forum. I do hate certain women as they hurt me so much. But I don’t hate them generally. Some MLs give me great sexual pleasure and helped to cure my depression through sex and good communication with them. I like them very much and feel grateful to them.

Ghost of BarneyRubble
03-08-2025, 08:38 PM
First, maybe make sure you can actually afford it.

Second, these kinds of relationships rarely last — if you're too possessive, she’ll just see you as someone interfering with her income.

Unless your money or emotional support makes it worth her time, don't expect too much.
Interesting post.
How long can mls do this work?
At some stage they cannot handle it any longer, the money isn’t worth it or they just want to move on and have a normal life.
Then what? The money they earn doing this isn’t available out there for a large percentage. Best to grab a branch before falling to the ground eh?

Amazoneddy
05-08-2025, 04:52 PM
Interesting post.
How long can mls do this work?
At some stage they cannot handle it any longer, the money isn’t worth it or they just want to move on and have a normal life.
Then what? The money they earn doing this isn’t available out there for a large percentage. Best to grab a branch before falling to the ground eh?

Thanks GBR and all the others who replied to my post. I thought there could be some very negative replies I’ve been pleased by the respect and caution most guys have shown. It’s new territory for me too. Yes she is a woman with normal wants and needs and yes, I have been jealous some days, especially if ML has had 2-3 FS on that shift. We talk about it quite a lot and yes some days she’s too tired for more action. Sometimes I see other MLs for a change. ML is ok with that, since she sees so many guys. 5-7 on a usual day. Yes the money is good, but that’s her choice when to move on. Happy to answer any questions since the tone of all posts has been curious and kind.

Gtlyer
06-08-2025, 12:04 PM
Thanks GBR and all the others who replied to my post. I thought there could be some very negative replies I’ve been pleased by the respect and caution most guys have shown. It’s new territory for me too. Yes she is a woman with normal wants and needs and yes, I have been jealous some days, especially if ML has had 2-3 FS on that shift. We talk about it quite a lot and yes some days she’s too tired for more action. Sometimes I see other MLs for a change. ML is ok with that, since she sees so many guys. 5-7 on a usual day. Yes the money is good, but that’s her choice when to move on. Happy to answer any questions since the tone of all posts has been curious and kind.

Interesting story! So you two still are living together while both of you keep doing what you used to do. One keeps being pounded by others and one keeps pounding others. You must have amazing sex together, right? Otherwise, I can’t imagine how strong a mind can be to maintain a relationship like this.

A Nice Guy
06-08-2025, 02:24 PM
First, maybe make sure you can actually afford it.

Second, these kinds of relationships rarely last — if you're too possessive, she’ll just see you as someone interfering with her income.

Unless your money or emotional support makes it worth her time, don't expect too much.

Never a truer word spoken, you may be the nicest of guys but it counts for nothing if you don't have the financial means to support the lifestyle she has become accustomed to.

Enjoy the moment for what it's worth as it's unlikely to last and end in heartbreak.

CumShot
09-08-2025, 08:22 AM
Thanks GBR and all the others who replied to my post. I thought there could be some very negative replies I’ve been pleased by the respect and caution most guys have shown. It’s new territory for me too. Yes she is a woman with normal wants and needs and yes, I have been jealous some days, especially if ML has had 2-3 FS on that shift. We talk about it quite a lot and yes some days she’s too tired for more action. Sometimes I see other MLs for a change. ML is ok with that, since she sees so many guys. 5-7 on a usual day. Yes the money is good, but that’s her choice when to move on. Happy to answer any questions since the tone of all posts has been curious and kind.

Great, so you can both 'tolerate' the current situation. Where does it lead? What is the future relationship? What common interests do you have (other than massage shops)? How closely are you and her family values aligned?

Apart from the 'success' of dating a massage girl why are you in the arrangement? Are you a visa ticket?

Herpetology
09-08-2025, 09:46 AM
I have a mature Taiwan lady slim sexy hot MY GIRLFRIEND skilled in all aspects of massage we live together

She is kind and caring and so sexy for a mature lady

I do not care if she massages guys or has sex with them


I am mature but dated ladies from 32 to 60 all Asian Thai Taiwan OMG one Persian

I met my girl through one of my massage staff

I do not date my staff AS i HAVE SAID

Asian ladies are the only ladies I date



I have a friend his girlfriend has been with him for 7 years a Taiwan lass a massage girl


I understand Massage girls working with them for 3 years in my shop but treat well






6 massage ladies I know are married to Australian men