Wives and girlfriends

[MassageKing2006]

How many of you punters have wives/girlfriends, and if you do why do you punt. I have a girlfriend but I have only punted once and maybe looking again

[TiredOfOnaholes]

Different flavours of pussy is nice
I'm a greedy cunt.

[bluehat3131]

Punting with no emotion attached should be fine. At 67 yo, my FIL still cheated on his wife. He’s in love with a woman 30 years younger than his age. He got forgiven by his wife because he said that she was a whore, not a lover. Low but it workout hey.

[MasterPaizuri]

In the words of the great Patrice O'Neal.

Men have one flaw. We love pussy we haven't fucked yet

[blackm0nk]

I wonder how those who do indeed have partners would react if they found out their partner is also seeking sexual release outside of the relationship?

[Axeman123]

I wonder how those who do indeed have partners would react if they found out their partner is also seeking sexual release outside of the relationship?I did. It can quite easily destroy you.

[bodog]

I wonder how those who do indeed have partners would react if they found out their partner is also seeking sexual release outside of the relationship?
It would show me wants it more than she lets on

[Axeman123]

It would show me wants it more than she lets on And that she's selective on who she gives it to.

[blackm0nk]

Hmm interesting responses, perhaps you guys aren’t so well matched anymore?

[bodog]

Frequency no, but intensity yes. When things are good it drops off but when life is on the rocks it brings plenty and quality.

[Axeman123]

Hmm interesting responses, perhaps you guys aren’t so well matched anymore? As time goes by you ask yourself if you were ever matched properly.

[GoldfishMan]

How many of you punters have wives/girlfriends, and if you do why do you punt. I have a girlfriend but I have only punted once and maybe looking again

I don't punt anymore, or very rarely. Down to 1 every 2 months or even less. I lost count. Been like this for about 1.5 years now.
But back when I was punting, I always did it when partnered cos I've never been truly single since 19. I reckon the longest stretch was 1+ years when I was a flat broke fresh grad without a job, lol...
Let's just say having a partner never stopped me from punting. As for why.... I guess because I'm an irresponsible horny bastard who's willing to risk the health of my partners for my own enjoyment. It is what it is...

[justincase]

Punting with no emotion attached should be fine. At 67 yo, my FIL still cheated on his wife. He’s in love with a woman 30 years younger than his age. He got forgiven by his wife because he said that she was a whore, not a lover. Low but it workout hey.

The age gap is nothing new, my last JGirl was 40 years younger. There is no love, only infatuation, great sex and company if and when I want it.

Love is a pipe dream inhaled by people who are young at heart and coughed right back up by people who are old enough to know better.

[fixatedperson]

I don't have a partner. When I did I punted a couple of times a year and only HJs.

[Reaper6]

As time goes by you ask yourself if you were ever matched properly.
The hard truth I never expected to learn.


I wonder how those who do indeed have partners would react if they found out their partner is also seeking sexual release outside of the relationship?

I'd be both confused and happy. Confused because im the one with the high sex drive getting knocked back, and happy that I can then openly go exploring. No more cloak and dagger shit, we on the same page.

[bung72]

I'd be both confused and happy. Confused because im the one with the high sex drive getting knocked back, and happy that I can then openly go exploring. No more cloak and dagger shit, we on the same page.

+1.... At this stage in my rel'ship, I'd happily adopt the 'don't ask, don't tell' mantra and live and let live.... :)

[SiberianKhatru98]

I think is a mental disorder on my part. It helps me to deal with my crippling anxiety and makes me feel adventurous. It also feels like I'm treating myself, I have worked my ass off all my life, and have never taken a break since I have memory, so it feels like my only sin besides being a 'model' citizen. Also, I don't engage in risky sexual behaviours, mostly HJ and Body slides

[Axeman123]

+1.... At this stage in my rel'ship, I'd happily adopt the 'don't ask, don't tell' mantra and live and let live.... :) With you all the way.

[Axeman123]

I think is a mental disorder on my part. It helps me to deal with my crippling anxiety and makes me feel adventurous. It also feels like I'm treating myself, I have worked my ass off all my life, and have never taken a break since I have memory, so it feels like my only sin besides being a 'model' citizen. Also, I don't engage in risky sexual behaviours, mostly HJ and Body slides Hearing you all the way.

[AHLUNGOR]

Being an old timer of the forum, no need for introduction that I have been a regular punter and yet self confessed "happily married" old guy. One thing I do pride myself is that while I have been punting for a long time, I never have any "affairs", "girl friend" or "mistress" on the side, (financially tight was the main reason I suppose), never even think about as my family and marriage is upmost important. Knowing my wife, if she ever found out I have cheated - either GF type or punting, my family life will end and I would not allow that to happen.

That's why in last few years, it's getting harder and harder to even have a quickie as the Mrs has been checking on my where about more frequently. Quite a few times she had called me on facetime to see where about was I and if I have been with any female companion...........lol, it's not funny and I was very lucky that I haven't been caught yet. and must be very careful keeping it that way.

Would I stop punting for good, don't think so ! the body and mind is still eager and willing, just need to find a "safe" time to do so. It's a challenge and getting harder and harder. Especially when I'm getting very close to full retirement in the next year or two, I guess once I stop working full time, it will be the end of my punting journey.

As for now, wish me luck and hopefully there's still a few sessions left in my life time.............haha


Cheers

[CharlieM]

Being an old timer of the forum, no need for introduction that I have been a regular punter and yet self confessed "happily married" old guy. One thing I do pride myself is that while I have been punting for a long time, I never have any "affairs", "girl friend" or "mistress" on the side, (financially tight was the main reason I suppose), never even think about as my family and marriage is upmost important. Knowing my wife, if she ever found out I have cheated - either GF type or punting, my family life will end and I would not allow that to happen.

That's why in last few years, it's getting harder and harder to even have a quickie as the Mrs has been checking on my where about more frequently. Quite a few times she had called me on facetime to see where about was I and if I have been with any female companion...........lol, it's not funny and I was very lucky that I haven't been caught yet. and must be very careful keeping it that way.

Would I stop punting for good, don't think so ! the body and mind is still eager and willing, just need to find a "safe" time to do so. It's a challenge and getting harder and harder. Especially when I'm getting very close to full retirement in the next year or two, I guess once I stop working full time, it will be the end of my punting journey.

As for now, wish me luck and hopefully there's still a few sessions left in my life time.............haha
Cheers


I'm in exactly the same boat as yourself AHL. After a few skaty marital years we finally sorted ourselves out and couldn't be more happier with our relationship. Last year I went through a very hard time and my wife was there for me every step of the way. That's why I even feel like more of a cunt for letting my smaller head rule.

And ALH, IM glad to hear its "getting harder and harder" for you as you age. Keep up the good work buddy

[Reaper6]

Being an old timer of the forum, no need for introduction that I have been a regular punter and yet self confessed "happily married" old guy. One thing I do pride myself is that while I have been punting for a long time, I never have any "affairs", "girl friend" or "mistress" on the side, (financially tight was the main reason I suppose), never even think about as my family and marriage is upmost important. Knowing my wife, if she ever found out I have cheated - either GF type or punting, my family life will end and I would not allow that to happen.

That's why in last few years, it's getting harder and harder to even have a quickie as the Mrs has been checking on my where about more frequently. Quite a few times she had called me on facetime to see where about was I and if I have been with any female companion...........lol, it's not funny and I was very lucky that I haven't been caught yet. and must be very careful keeping it that way.

Would I stop punting for good, don't think so ! the body and mind is still eager and willing, just need to find a "safe" time to do so. It's a challenge and getting harder and harder. Especially when I'm getting very close to full retirement in the next year or two, I guess once I stop working full time, it will be the end of my punting journey.

As for now, wish me luck and hopefully there's still a few sessions left in my life time.............haha


Cheers

Legitimately curious - what tipped your Mrs off and made her start wondering about what you're doing ? Was there hints or did you almost get caught ?


+1.... At this stage in my rel'ship, I'd happily adopt the 'don't ask, don't tell' mantra and live and let live.... :)

I'd sign that deal yesterday.

[bung72]

That's why in last few years, it's getting harder and harder to even have a quickie as the Mrs has been checking on my where about more frequently. Quite a few times she had called me on facetime to see where about was I and if I have been with any female companion.....

Fuck me.... damn phones! My wife can't see my phone location, she requested it once, and I said yep, but didn't actually activate it - I don't believe she is sus of anything TBH - she hasn't brought it up again.... My phone is almost always on silent due to work, so I generally don't have to come up with excuses as to why I haven't answered, but she hardly calls anyway! :)

[GoldfishMan]

That's why in last few years, it's getting harder and harder to even have a quickie as the Mrs has been checking on my where about more frequently. Quite a few times she had called me on facetime to see where about was I and if I have been with any female companion...........lol, it's not funny and I was very lucky that I haven't been caught yet. and must be very careful keeping it that way.


Just take a photo of your office and use it as the background on your FaceTime app. Fight fire with fire, bro. Gotta use technology to beat technology, lolll...

[bistro]

Being an old timer of the forum, no need for introduction that I have been a regular punter and yet self confessed "happily married" old guy. One thing I do pride myself is that while I have been punting for a long time, I never have any "affairs", "girl friend" or "mistress" on the side, (financially tight was the main reason I suppose), never even think about as my family and marriage is upmost important. Knowing my wife, if she ever found out I have cheated - either GF type or punting, my family life will end and I would not allow that to happen.

That's why in last few years, it's getting harder and harder to even have a quickie as the Mrs has been checking on my where about more frequently. Quite a few times she had called me on facetime to see where about was I and if I have been with any female companion...........lol, it's not funny and I was very lucky that I haven't been caught yet. and must be very careful keeping it that way.

Would I stop punting for good, don't think so ! the body and mind is still eager and willing, just need to find a "safe" time to do so. It's a challenge and getting harder and harder. Especially when I'm getting very close to full retirement in the next year or two, I guess once I stop working full time, it will be the end of my punting journey.

As for now, wish me luck and hopefully there's still a few sessions left in my life time.............haha


Cheers

High fiving you virtually from here...
Except for the part of having mistress, although not yet...

Been at the top of my career where women see me differently in the office...

gosh my wife was right when men made tons of money, women would tend to get closer whatever dumb thing i said wont matter to them...

It feels so hard to resist as they kept asking me question as im one of the one who know most things and then they slipped in some casual flirt to test the water....

[Keeping Up]

Being an old timer of the forum, no need for introduction that I have been a regular punter and yet self confessed "happily married" old guy. One thing I do pride myself is that while I have been punting for a long time, I never have any "affairs", "girl friend" or "mistress" on the side, (financially tight was the main reason I suppose), never even think about as my family and marriage is upmost important. Knowing my wife, if she ever found out I have cheated - either GF type or punting, my family life will end and I would not allow that to happen.




Totally agree. Went down the affair path a while ago and it was a disaster. Drastic measures required to end it.

Punting is a much smarter option to preserve your home life. Just be have to be careful in a number of ways.

[bung72]

The answer to the 'Why?' question..... I think mine just comes under the tired old 'mid-life crisis' heading! Although I've punted on and off since I was 18! Maybe I'm just a perv?

Ian Moss says it all - "And the money I saved won't buy my youth again"

[Sendmetheacti]

Wife basically stopped having sex 4 years ago.

I pushed for it, asked for it, told her to go to therapy, see a doctor etc.

She basically did nothing, and showed no sexual interest what so ever

So be it, I now go maybe once a month to a brothel. Good part I suppose is that I don't need to worry about bringing anything home as we're never intimate to share it.


Better part is instead of fucking a 36 year old, I now fuck 20 year olds, and instead of lame starfish sex, I sometimes get some real lively women.

[Axeman123]

Wife basically stopped having sex 4 years ago.

I pushed for it, asked for it, told her to go to therapy, see a doctor etc.

She basically did nothing, and showed no sexual interest what so ever

So be it, I now go maybe once a month to a brothel. Good part I suppose is that I don't need to worry about bringing anything home as we're never intimate to share it.


Better part is instead of fucking a 36 year old, I now fuck 20 year olds, and instead of lame starfish sex, I sometimes get some real lively women. Yep. Any port in a storm.

[bung72]

Yep. Any port in a storm.

Some of these 20 year olds aren't 'any port' material.... :D

[Punt2Win]

Hey AHLUNGOR to get around the face time check ins spend a bit of cash on a gym membership and register in some one hour classes. You can never turn up if you wish. Classes go as long as a punt so now you have an alibi lined up if you get caught out and need to think fast.

[Axeman123]

Some of these 20 year olds aren't 'any port' material.... :D Yes see your point. "Garden Of Eden" might be more appropriate.

[MasterPaizuri]

Wife basically stopped having sex 4 years ago.

I pushed for it, asked for it, told her to go to therapy, see a doctor etc.

She basically did nothing, and showed no sexual interest what so ever

So be it, I now go maybe once a month to a brothel. Good part I suppose is that I don't need to worry about bringing anything home as we're never intimate to share it.


Better part is instead of fucking a 36 year old, I now fuck 20 year olds, and instead of lame starfish sex, I sometimes get some real lively women.

Damn she's only 36 and dried up?

I fucked a 40 year old married milf on the gold coast who was the wettest woman I've ever been with.

Crazy how life works out.

Enjoy the 20 year Olds brother!

[ColesBag]

Wife basically stopped having sex 4 years ago.

I pushed for it, asked for it, told her to go to therapy, see a doctor etc.

She basically did nothing, and showed no sexual interest what so ever

So be it, I now go maybe once a month to a brothel. Good part I suppose is that I don't need to worry about bringing anything home as we're never intimate to share it.


Better part is instead of fucking a 36 year old, I now fuck 20 year olds, and instead of lame starfish sex, I sometimes get some real lively women.

Celibacy and monogamy is the most fucked up things that culture has imposed on us. Punt when you can, life is too short to be unhappy.

[Vader]

It is a lot of crap about women not wanting sex. They are the same as men, they want closeness, sex and not boredom. If you are screwing around then you can bet they are as well.

[Reaper6]

It is a lot of crap about women not wanting sex. They are the same as men, they want closeness, sex and not boredom. If you are screwing around then you can bet they are as well.
Legit not all women. Some legitimately loose interest I've seen it and I'm living it. Sometimes it's hormonal reasons sometimes it's depression or both but it does happen. It's dead set the only reason I know about this website , and I can guarantee she ain't stepping out because she's never not home..so much so it makes it real difficult for me to do anything.


Celibacy and monogamy is the most fucked up things that culture has imposed on us. Punt when you can, life is too short to be unhappy.

When you put them together it's down right inhumane torture. Throw in a high sex drive on your part ? Now it's the Gods straight up laughing at you.

That last line is basically the conclusion I came to. Though I'll admit nothing feels worse than stepping out, staining your sense of integrity , and the punt is absolute ratshit. Feels like selling your soul for a slice of mouldy bread.

[Punt2Win]

Plenty of aphrodisiacs for women and supplements/foods to boost certain hormones. Especially if she's only 36. I'm 38 gym junkie and usually horny. Is she VERY docile and never exercises. Being sedentary can destroy SO many things in the body like libido etc.

[Sendmetheacti]

I suppose the problem is because she has a low drive, she doesn't really have the will to change any of it.


She is very sedentary. Office worker type.
Still got a good body though. Shame it will probably fall apart over the next decade or so without me being able to enjoy it.

I've talked about supplements n shit. The problem was last time we really tried to talk about it, she got a bit angry, and I could feel her no longer really willing to discuss.

At that point I just said to myself fuck it, I'm going to punt as I want with 0 guilt, I've tried everything I can.

I think I'd still prefer a solid sex life with the wife over punting but I can see the benefits of punting anyway.

What I really miss is the contextual fucking, like Netflix and chill or pizza and a date type fucking rather than the more clinical brothel type stuff.

I swear you could make a LOT of money trying to open up a sort of Pattaya style bar in Sydney where a guy could go few a few hours, have drinks, chill talk, eat and take one of the girls you get along with upstairs for a fuck/cuddle.

I mean that's all a guy really needs in life right? Food, entertainment and sex.

If it could be priced at like $600 for a.3 hour or so experience from 6pm to 9pm that you could disguise as a work dinner.

Probably consume the entire brothel market in Sydney.

[Sendmetheacti]

That's not true man. I suspected she was screwing around so much, but no.

Snooped phones, computers, everything. She just doesn't do anything sexy.

She's not asexual or something because when we met we fucked like jackrabbits every time.

It's just after 2-3 years/marriage she just started saying it's painful etc. then basically just stopped everything... The ole headache every night.

I was understanding at first and then after like a year of that, I started pushing her to see a doc or a therapist or something which she didn't want to do.


Then she basically showed no interest in even talking about it.

[Punt2Win]

I suppose the problem is because she has a low drive, she doesn't really have the will to change any of it.


She is very sedentary. Office worker type.
Still got a good body though. Shame it will probably fall apart over the next decade or so without me being able to enjoy it.

I've talked about supplements n shit. The problem was last time we really tried to talk about it, she got a bit angry, and I could feel her no longer really willing to discuss.

At that point I just said to myself fuck it, I'm going to punt as I want with 0 guilt, I've tried everything I can.

I think I'd still prefer a solid sex life with the wife over punting but I can see the benefits of punting anyway.

What I really miss is the contextual fucking, like Netflix and chill or pizza and a date type fucking rather than the more clinical brothel type stuff.

I swear you could make a LOT of money trying to open up a sort of Pattaya style bar in Sydney where a guy could go few a few hours, have drinks, chill talk, eat and take one of the girls you get along with upstairs for a fuck/cuddle.

I mean that's all a guy really needs in life right? Food, entertainment and sex.

If it could be priced at like $600 for a.3 hour or so experience from 6pm to 9pm that you could disguise as a work dinner.

Probably consume the entire brothel market in Sydney.

Yeah I guessed as much. If she did do physical activity regularly then it would release dopamine and change brain chemistry which increases sex drive and that may work. But seeing she doesn't want to change then I have no answers. I feel for you man. Doesn't she want to satisfy her husband at all? Like she doesn't care AT ALL. Does she just assume you masturbate or does she pretend sex doesn't exist anymore and expect you to be a eunuch?

[BelowAverage]

I'm married with kids. Being below average in size it feels different after missus gave birth.

[random punter]

Im in a similar boat with some of you.
When we first met wed fuck multiple times a week.
Once she got pregnant her sex drive dropped a bit plus started getting painful to have sex for her.
Once she had our daughter it got even worse plus being back on the pill destroyed what she had.
She did let me fuck her tits just for me to get some load off but its not quite the same.
Shes off the pill now and has got a bit better but maybe once every 1-2 weeks.

Tempted to just get my scratch itched but dont want to get caught and lose it all

[Sendmetheacti]

Im in a similar boat with some of you.
When we first met wed fuck multiple times a week.
Once she got pregnant her sex drive dropped a bit plus started getting painful to have sex for her.
Once she had our daughter it got even worse plus being back on the pill destroyed what she had.
She did let me fuck her tits just for me to get some load off but its not quite the same.
Shes off the pill now and has got a bit better but maybe once every 1-2 weeks.

Tempted to just get my scratch itched but dont want to get caught and lose it all

Haha once every 1-2 weeks is great.

The last time I entered my wife was 2021 December lmao.
Blessing and a curse. Curse because we're a great couple, we still sleep together etc. No kids. Sucks to not have intimacy.

Blessing because without intimacy, I there's no chance of passing anything on, so I just need to take care of myself. So I can just get buck wild with whatever Jap slut.

[AllInJimmy]

I find it strange you say you are a great couple. No offence mate. I feel as though intimacy is intrinsic to a good relationship. Sleeping in the same bed doesn't mean shit. Now if you had quoted all the great things about your relationship it might make more sense.

I feel as though only kids are a reasonable excuse for shit to fizzle. Even then it's still borderline unacceptable. There are too many blokes settling for shit relationships... And that's why you are all here. This is your outlet.

[blackm0nk]

Yeah kinda sounds like just mates at that point..

[bung72]

I look at punting as an extension of watching porn..... why do we watch porn? Men are visual creatures.... that is what does it for us. For me, it's live porn. It doesn't matter how much I've ever been getting with a wife or GF, I've still watched porn. Dudes married to super models and absolutely gorgeous women, still watch porn, and fool around on them too..... it's the world's oldest profession for a reason, and that isn't just to satisfy a tiny niche of weird perverts.... for every 1 married dude on here punting, there are probably 100 not on here, punting away.... :)

[Axeman123]

Im in a similar boat with some of you.
When we first met wed fuck multiple times a week.
Once she got pregnant her sex drive dropped a bit plus started getting painful to have sex for her.
Once she had our daughter it got even worse plus being back on the pill destroyed what she had.
She did let me fuck her tits just for me to get some load off but its not quite the same.
Shes off the pill now and has got a bit better but maybe once every 1-2 weeks.

Tempted to just get my scratch itched but dont want to get caught and lose it allOff the pill. Your lady is thinking of another baby. Nothing wrong with that though.

[fnmfnmfnm]

Off the pill. Your lady is thinking of another baby. Nothing wrong with that though.

Not necessarily, the pill fucks with women’s hormones a great deal and for some it’s just way easier to be off it and just be vigilant with condoms when it comes to bed time, especially if the sex isn’t regular.

[Reaper6]

That's not true man. I suspected she was screwing around so much, but no.

Snooped phones, computers, everything. She just doesn't do anything sexy.

She's not asexual or something because when we met we fucked like jackrabbits every time.

It's just after 2-3 years/marriage she just started saying it's painful etc. then basically just stopped everything... The ole headache every night.

I was understanding at first and then after like a year of that, I started pushing her to see a doc or a therapist or something which she didn't want to do.


Then she basically showed no interest in even talking about it.

Brother I'm sorry for your situation, but if it's any consolation I have a very similar one myself and this is the first time I've read about someone else in a similar boat.

Same deal, went at it like rabbits in the start, life got in the way it slowed down , suddenly it became "Painful" , then had a kid so no one even thought about fucking for months due to exhaustion , now it's just not a topic anymore. I'd estimate once every few months, feels forced.
Much like yourself though, in every other aspect get along perfect.
Wierd as. Only reason I'm on here.

[Sendmetheacti]

She carries her weight financially, hugs and cuddles if things go wrong, we have a half paid off house, don't argue at all, don't get in each other's way, help each other out with work.

I drive her around as she doesnt drive, she organises meals sometimes.

Honestly it's like a room mate best friend.
Which ain't bad.
Mix It with some punting and it's an enjoyable life.
Ya play the cards your dealt.

[forgotmyumbrella]

Do I love my wife? Yes
Do I want to fuck her? Nah I'm good

Do I wanna smash young Asian hotties? Hell yeah
Do I like them? Not a chance

The man who chases two rabbits, catches neither.
Many foolish men expect both, that's where their marriage falls apart.
Same goes for some punters here who fall in love with hookers.

[HardCockInSyd]

It is a lot of crap about women not wanting sex. They are the same as men, they want closeness, sex and not boredom. If you are screwing around then you can bet they are as well.

This is only true to a point - as women get older and have either mental health issues or go through menopause, their sex drive can completely disappear. Ask me how I know.....

[Rdlr84]

I’ve had a super dry run most of my married life. Had sex maybe 20 times over the last 13 years with my partner. For me it’s a case of having no physical attraction to the wife from the start. We spoke about it recently when she had an outburst on why I don’t reciprocate her advances, don’t cuddle, kiss etc. We have a great friend type relationship but no intimacy. I opened up fully and recently told her my true feelings. Weight off the chest but hurt her feelings real bad. Navigating the situation now with therapy about to start soon. I’ve been getting my sexual needs filled through other avenues this whole time. Mainly masturbation. Sometimes massages and the occasional FS. I wish I had this with my wife, I would probably not punt - hard to be sure though as I haven’t been in those shoes.


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[fixatedperson]

I’ve had a super dry run most of my married life. Had sex maybe 20 times over the last 13 years with my partner. For me it’s a case of having no physical attraction to the wife from the start. We spoke about it recently when she had an outburst on why I don’t reciprocate her advances, don’t cuddle, kiss etc. We have a great friend type relationship but no intimacy. I opened up fully and recently told her my true feelings. Weight off the chest but hurt her feelings real bad. Navigating the situation now with therapy about to start soon. I’ve been getting my sexual needs filled through other avenues this whole time. Mainly masturbation. Sometimes massages and the occasional FS. I wish I had this with my wife, I would probably not punt - hard to be sure though as I haven’t been in those shoes.


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If you don't mind me asking, if you had no physical attraction to your wife from the start, what prompted you to marry her?

[Rdlr84]

Arranged marriage. Yes they are a thing in some cultures.


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[Pysterio1]

If my wife gave me her amazing bjs again I wouldnt think about punting again

I have been caught once earlier.. Haven't been back but every now and then im tempted

I've come to realise it's who I am

So best for me is to avoid those situations, make sure I self report my whereabouts, etc etc and try to focus more on her. It's harder but itd what we signed up for when going monogamy

Divorce ain't worth it

[justincase]

Some people need a relationship to feel secure, others don’t….

[Double_Adapter]

Arranged marriage. Yes they are a thing in some cultures.
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Based on all the comments here it seems that if a bloke walks into a regular marriage it's basically suicide but if he steps into an arranged marriage it's straight up murder.....just saying

[Rdlr84]

Double homicide


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[bung72]

If my wife gave me her amazing bjs again I wouldnt think about punting again

I have been caught once earlier.. Haven't been back but every now and then im tempted

I've come to realise it's who I am

So best for me is to avoid those situations, make sure I self report my whereabouts, etc etc and try to focus more on her. It's harder but itd what we signed up for when going monogamy

Divorce ain't worth it

So... the lesson is - don't get caught?

[ColesBag]

I think is a mental disorder on my part. It helps me to deal with my crippling anxiety and makes me feel adventurous. It also feels like I'm treating myself, I have worked my ass off all my life, and have never taken a break since I have memory, so it feels like my only sin besides being a 'model' citizen. Also, I don't engage in risky sexual behaviours, mostly HJ and Body slides

Wanting sexual release and/or naked intimacy isn't a mental disorder at all. You're doing fine.

[ColesBag]

Punting saves more marriages than it wrecks.

[yunglean]

Punting saves more marriages than it wrecks.

I'm not married but I do believe this to be the case. Dudes have higher sexual urges than women and if they aren't met, there will be issues.

Similar to how women have higher emotional needs that need to be met. Issue is that these are often connected to their sexual urges too, so if she finds another guy who can fulfil those emotional needs, chances are he'll also fulfil her sexual needs...

[Reaper6]

Ideal situation would be an agreement with the Mrs to allow you to leave the emotion at the door step out for an hour , check a box , then come back and continue both happy. But what's the odds of this ey

[blackm0nk]

So... the lesson is - don't get caught?

…don’t get married

[bung72]

…don’t get married

You might be on to something?!

[bung72]

Ideal situation would be an agreement with the Mrs to allow you to leave the emotion at the door step out for an hour , check a box , then come back and continue both happy. But what's the odds of this ey

Sweet. Fuck. All. ????

[bummer]

Mate decided to stop punting and tried to get his wife interested is something different.
He joined AFF (Adult friend finder) and found a couple which he met first, then invited around for a bbq.
during the arvo things got a bit heated between the other couple and him and his wife and they all ended up exploring in the lounge room and it turned into fuck fest (so he says).
She now keen on meeting others for joint fun and he reckons she likes it and its not the usual boring fuck.

If I had a wife maybe I try it...

[Jim_cs]

It really comes down to how much your wife is willing to satisfy you. My wife when she was my girlfriend gave me at least a blowjob everytime we met up. Then when we're in a relationship the fun stops. Part of me really regrets not addressing this before we got married.

I don't think it's a fair deal to expect emotional intimacy when the physical intimacy isn't there for the husband or partner. After countless talks, counsellors it still hasn't gotten through, so this is the way to preserve a so called marriage and still have my fun.

If my wife actually made an effort I actually wouldn't punt to be honest. Keep their bellys full and their balls drained is the best advice for a happy monogamous relationship.