Fails

[ReachAroundagain]

Just paid for services for the first time in my life last night

38 years old. Out of a divorce after 15 year marriage though haven't had sex for over 2 years now

First went to a massage place 161 chatswood. Paid for the hour. There was almost zero teasing or buildup. After half an hour just asks me to flip and starts giving me a HJ. She was cute but I couldn't get across the line. Eventually she gives up and I was a bit over it. Massage was decent but I was hoping there'd be more teasing or getting close to me etc to build the anticipation etc.

Ended up going home having another shower then was still horny so went to 78a Artarmon brothel. Girl was cute, gave me bbbj which was great but then she eventually lied down wanted me to fk her but I ended up going soft fairly quickly even in different positions. Couldn't get close to the finish line. Ended up her just giving me a massage till the time was up

So all up spent like 300 and basically got 2 massages out of it. Not the girls fault. Just an epic fail cause once it started happening again at 78a Artarmon and me realising I wasn't going to cum I ended up just getting in my own head and it wasn't really enjoyable at all

So frustrating as when I was married I'd often be a 1 minute man, not all the time. But other times if I'd been wanking too much I couldn't come during sex either. Now it's been over 2 years of me solely wanking and I guess the sensations just aren't the same.

Epic fail. Now I hope after all that I don't pick up some disease to really top it off


Anyway. Needed to get this off my chest. Hope others sessions were more successful

Maybe I'll hold off wanking for the next week and try again on Friday night at the Chatswood 161

[11Bravo]

Seems you're your own worst enemy. I'd suggest a bit more thought and planning. First and foremost, remember, it's just sex. There's no emotional relationship.

1. What are you really after? You just want to fuck someone? You want the tactile sensations, a slow build to release? And what release? Would an edging HJ be enough? B2B with Spanish enough? BJ enough? Or FS?

2. You want a SYT or a skilled pro?

3. Take some time here to read, check the AR's. Check the rosters, shop info threads. Does the shop have a website? Does it advertise on Locanto? Roster on https://www.xpagesforum.com/shop-list? Yea, I know, photos can be bogus, shopped, whatever. Summerville, Pink Lotus, IMO, have decent photos. Find someone you find attractive.
If tactile sensations would be satisfactory for now, I'd suggest YoYo's edging. Unfortunately, she's on holiday until early Oct. . Read the thread (yea, start back 10 pages, then read).
https://www.aus99forum.com/showthread.php?96631-Best-MLs-for-Edging&p=3660993&viewfull=1#post3660993


Mimi@Croydon is another. Not FS, but nuru, she is skilled. Not a SYT, but skilled professional, you betcha. https://www.aus99forum.com/showthread.php?139539-Nuru-Massage
https://www.aus99forum.com/showthread.php?134177-Mimi-the-Master-Croydon-the-hype-is-real
https://www.locanto.com.au/croydon-nsw/ID_7730183534/REAL-PHOTOS-BUSTY-NURU-MASTER-MIMI-IS-BACK-FROM-JAPAN.html


Go to Summerville Massage, Pyrmont. Talk to Summer, the mamasan. Tell her what you're looking for. Or Pink Lotus, West Ryde. Talk to Sophia. LSM Croydon. Kings Massage, Hurstville. Check out the AR's, rosters.
Search here:
https://www.aus99forum.com/showthread.php?79-Easy-get-useful-information-Thread-Display-Option-Prefix-Search&p=2805733&viewfull=1#post2805733
Yes, takes some homework.

In an RnT, during the massage, chat with the girl. Don't be shy, tell her what you're looking for. Same in a brothel. They're not mind readers. In an RnT especially, just relax and enjoy. Think of it as an adventure, enjoy the trip, don't concentrate on the destination.

Good luck.

[bung72]

Maybe 1 hour sessions are too long for you too.... Why not 1/2hr FS, and grab some viagra.....

[fixatedperson]

My first time was a fail. Couldn't keep it up. I kept extending the time. Eventually she finished me off with a HJ.

Since then I have fucked a fair number of girls including doubles and multiple cumshots so I would say nervousness was the cause.

[AGS1980]

Just paid for services for the first time in my life last night

38 years old. Out of a divorce after 15 year marriage though haven't had sex for over 2 years now

First went to a massage place 161 chatswood. Paid for the hour. There was almost zero teasing or buildup. After half an hour just asks me to flip and starts giving me a HJ. She was cute but I couldn't get across the line. Eventually she gives up and I was a bit over it. Massage was decent but I was hoping there'd be more teasing or getting close to me etc to build the anticipation etc.

Ended up going home having another shower then was still horny so went to 78a Artarmon brothel. Girl was cute, gave me bbbj which was great but then she eventually lied down wanted me to fk her but I ended up going soft fairly quickly even in different positions. Couldn't get close to the finish line. Ended up her just giving me a massage till the time was up

So all up spent like 300 and basically got 2 massages out of it. Not the girls fault. Just an epic fail cause once it started happening again at 78a Artarmon and me realising I wasn't going to cum I ended up just getting in my own head and it wasn't really enjoyable at all

So frustrating as when I was married I'd often be a 1 minute man, not all the time. But other times if I'd been wanking too much I couldn't come during sex either. Now it's been over 2 years of me solely wanking and I guess the sensations just aren't the same.

Epic fail. Now I hope after all that I don't pick up some disease to really top it off


Anyway. Needed to get this off my chest. Hope others sessions were more successful

Maybe I'll hold off wanking for the next week and try again on Friday night at the Chatswood 161

Hey mate, disappointing you couldn’t get over the line on both occasions.

Not that I want to speculate, but perhaps there could be underlying matters regarding your inability to get over the line. What I mean by that is as you stated, you’ve only just come out of a long term relationship, haven’t had sex for quite a period of time and you might have a bunch of stuff happening in the background which can cause added stress.

Not to insinuate you’re in a similar situation previously to myself, but mental health can also impact you in these situations as I have experienced in the past. Thankfully I’m managing that aspect of my life through various means including talking to someone along with medication to assist 😉

All I’m saying dude, is don’t put too much pressure on yourself and if what I just mentioned could be the case, then reach out to a either a friend to chat, or other alternatives for support. Fingers crossed it’s purely a minor hiccup having recently separated.

All the best mate.

[trampslikeus55]

Expectations is what got in your way. Life has been tough on you this past period and you felt that you could change things around. Nothing wrong with the idea. Work hard this week and next weekend go one morning for a massage. Pick a low key shop in Artarmon. Have zero thoughts other than a massage and see where it takes you. Results will happen and building routines will take you to along the road. Punting may not be your long term future. Good luck 😎

[CFH]

yep, what can i say? it happens.
next time will probably be better.

[justincase]

You can’t hit it off instantly with an unknown woman unless you prepare yourself mentally to be able to do just that.

For starters are you even horny before you attend the shop or do you expect them to make you horny whilst on the massage bed?

Why not decide you’re going for a punt in a few days time and think about it sexually and how good it’s going to be. Think about it a lot.

Check out her online pics if they’re available and read some reviews on her. Then decide if she’s the right girl/nationality for you.

You have to be in the right psyche before you go in, all positives no negatives. Then after success happens go again in a few days time and make it a positive reinforcement.

[neveragain]

Get some viagra mate. If you've been faithful during your 15 year marriage I assume you haven't fucked with a condom for 15 years right? So now you're fucking with them again get some viagra to stay hard with the reduced sensation

[AGS1980]

Expectations is what got in your way. Life has been tough on you this past period and you felt that you could change things around. Nothing wrong with the idea. Work hard this week and next weekend go one morning for a massage. Pick a low key shop in Artarmon. Have zero thoughts other than a massage and see where it takes you. Results will happen and building routines will take you to along the road. Punting may not be your long term future. Good luck 😎

Out of curiosity, do you have any recommendations for WL in the Artarmon area? Tried Mimi a couple of weeks back, going to have another crack today whilst in the area.

[Wlso]

Welcome to the forum mate and good on you for taking the time to share your thoughts. No shame in that and better to sound board your experience than to feed into anymore anxiety. As others have said, it sounds like youÂ’re caught up in your thoughts and it takes time to find regulars that play into your needs/expectations. Energy is reciprocated in this game so bat the nerves away and treat it like a social outing. A good question youÂ’ve posed and something IÂ’ve experienced a few times myself - is it always a dud punt if you donÂ’t finish? Sure, if the ML/WL isnÂ’t to your taste, but when you genuinely click with the girl thatÂ’s not always the case. Lately IÂ’ve left satisfied even without a finish. All a by product of letting yourself actually relax and putting a little effort into getting to know the girl.

[keebab]

Finishing for blokes is just as much mental as it is physical. I'll make an assumption that throughout your previous dead bedroom, any time you did have any fun, you were lazer focused on making sure she had a good time as opposed to yourself. That's a pretty big mental hurdle for most blokes.

Now you're punting with not only the awkwardness of the situation, but a timer added into the mix and probably adding pressure to perform as well. Its only natural that your rhythm is affected. Just remember that you're there paying for a service. It won't be perfect, but if you relax and enjoy yourself, you'll get what you ultimately pay for.

You're not there to perform and you're not obligated to please anyone but yourself. Don't be a dick, and have fun.

[keebab]

Out of curiosity, do you have any recommendations for WL in the Artarmon area? Tried Mimi a couple of weeks back, going to have another crack today whilst in the area.

Check out Artarmon90, great value shop.

[CharlieM]

Out of curiosity, do you have any recommendations for WL in the Artarmon area? Tried Mimi a couple of weeks back, going to have another crack today whilst in the area.

Did I miss something? Which Mimi are we talking about?

[BrothelVirgin]

If you've been masturbating for years you will have lost sensitivity. Go buy yourself some good quality thin condoms that fit you well. The ones in parlour are cheap and thick and probably the wrong size.

Also it seems like you may be wanting more of a girl friend experience. Check the reviews for girls that offer that. Also if you find you click with a particular girl is usually a lot better the second time.

But like the other guy said. Don't just think about it as having to cum to win. Enjoy the massage. The conversation with the lady. The tangling of two bodies.

[Bman619]

Practice makes for a perfect stranger boner, keep trying and you'll eventually feel comfortable enough to achieve it.

[ReachAroundagain]

Wow thanks a lot for all the replies and support. Makes me feel heaps better about it all though today I sort of laughed it all off and went for a walk in the sun

Definitely a few things going on

Mentally I'm a bit shot. Miss my kids when I'm not with them and when I masturbate even with porn my mind still goes back to my ex and I a lot of the time. Which I know is messed up and not something I try to do. Part of the reason I tried to move on and go and see someone.

Dont really have a friendship circle outside old friends who have all moved away and one of my best friends who died unexpectedly from an accident earlier this year. Most of my social life was with my ex etc

So I think I was missing the connection more than the fkng itself I think.

And yeah first time with a condom in 15 odd years. My penis isn't particularly long but it is a bit thicker than average so I always used slightly larger condoms but maybe the one she used was just normal size too as i felt almost nothing

I think maybe fs isn't for me. It seemed a bit too mechanical for what I'm looking for. Maybe later on when I'm more comfortable with it all

Next time I think I'll just abstain from masturbating for a week or so and try again with a massage hj and try and find someone through the recommendations here who is great at edging, that would be great

Thanks again for all the advice I really appreciate it. Hope everyone had a good weekend

[John11]

Take some meds and find girls who can relax you and turn you on - they do exist

[ReachAroundagain]

Thanks

I'm not sure about the meds part I don't want to go an anti depressants just to get a root, is there something different you're suggesting I look into? Maybe medical weed?

I think maybe next time I go somewhere I'll go to a cheaper massage place where they have to try and work me up and get me hard to convince me for extras rather than the person at 161 who literally didn't go near that part of me until saying flip over then just started jackhammering with lube.

Looks like Hollywood massage artarmon is local and decent prices I'll check out the other reviews of other places too, don't mind travelling too far out of the general chatswood artarmon area

After that I think I'll save my money and pay for an hour session at miss heavens artarmon, and/or centerfolds artarmon. More expensive so will have to go less frequently. But sounds like it could help me with confidence boosting too

[ColesBag]

Wow thanks a lot for all the replies and support. Makes me feel heaps better about it all though today I sort of laughed it all off and went for a walk in the sun

Definitely a few things going on

Mentally I'm a bit shot. Miss my kids when I'm not with them and when I masturbate even with porn my mind still goes back to my ex and I a lot of the time. Which I know is messed up and not something I try to do. Part of the reason I tried to move on and go and see someone.

Dont really have a friendship circle outside old friends who have all moved away and one of my best friends who died unexpectedly from an accident earlier this year. Most of my social life was with my ex etc

So I think I was missing the connection more than the fkng itself I think.

And yeah first time with a condom in 15 odd years. My penis isn't particularly long but it is a bit thicker than average so I always used slightly larger condoms but maybe the one she used was just normal size too as i felt almost nothing

I think maybe fs isn't for me. It seemed a bit too mechanical for what I'm looking for. Maybe later on when I'm more comfortable with it all

Next time I think I'll just abstain from masturbating for a week or so and try again with a massage hj and try and find someone through the recommendations here who is great at edging, that would be great

Thanks again for all the advice I really appreciate it. Hope everyone had a good weekend

Ease your way into it. Divorce is one of the biggest mind fucks of a mans life and lack of sex during the marriage is a mind fuck all in itself. Point being that we're not robots and just can't flip a switch and get back on the fuck trolley after sustained emotional trauma and lack of intimacy. It'll come ( literally ) but give it time and yeah like someone said go see Mimi at Croydon, a true professional.

[Danny801]

Hey mate, thanks for sharing, im sure it will help others too.
Bravo said it well, “ Think of it as an adventure, enjoy the trip, don't concentrate on the destination.”. I always found to get over the line you gotta be in the moment and feel all the sensations and build up.
And i do the opposite to shop myself cumming too quick, think about my dog, grandma etc.

Maybe check out some rosters and find a ML that fits your type, slim, curvy, Latino, asian, Japanese, big naturals, bolt ons, barbie doll look etc etc.
suggesting RNT as theres less pressure to perform from the off, and gives you chance to build some rapport.

[trampslikeus55]

Out of curiosity, do you have any recommendations for WL in the Artarmon area? Tried Mimi a couple of weeks back, going to have another crack today whilst in the area.
Not really for WL. I lived at Roseville for a year but that was 2018. Frequented Roseville Rose, then Chatswood 60 when it opened. You can find a WL you will like in either but both are getting pricey now. Try ML, 104A Hampden Rd. Thai Massage I think is the name. Same crew as 54 Canley Vale. Barbie or Chloe on Saturday. You will get what you need from either. 😎

[andrewv]

Just paid for services for the first time in my life last night

38 years old. Out of a divorce after 15 year marriage though haven't had sex for over 2 years now

First went to a massage place 161 chatswood. Paid for the hour. There was almost zero teasing or buildup. After half an hour just asks me to flip and starts giving me a HJ. She was cute but I couldn't get across the line. Eventually she gives up and I was a bit over it. Massage was decent but I was hoping there'd be more teasing or getting close to me etc to build the anticipation etc.

Ended up going home having another shower then was still horny so went to 78a Artarmon brothel. Girl was cute, gave me bbbj which was great but then she eventually lied down wanted me to fk her but I ended up going soft fairly quickly even in different positions. Couldn't get close to the finish line. Ended up her just giving me a massage till the time was up

So all up spent like 300 and basically got 2 massages out of it. Not the girls fault. Just an epic fail cause once it started happening again at 78a Artarmon and me realising I wasn't going to cum I ended up just getting in my own head and it wasn't really enjoyable at all

So frustrating as when I was married I'd often be a 1 minute man, not all the time. But other times if I'd been wanking too much I couldn't come during sex either. Now it's been over 2 years of me solely wanking and I guess the sensations just aren't the same.

Epic fail. Now I hope after all that I don't pick up some disease to really top it off


Anyway. Needed to get this off my chest. Hope others sessions were more successful

Maybe I'll hold off wanking for the next week and try again on Friday night at the Chatswood 161

Despite what you read on this forum of men banging away and for them it is just physical, most men who have recently gove through divorce will take time to get over the emotional damage before sex is all about mechanical activities with good looking working girls. In summary, take it easy for a while and don't jump at the deep end with punting. Maybe stick to massages with happy ending for a while.

[CharlieM]

Went through the same thing. My advice. For starters, give up the porn and masturbating. Second get hold of some blue tablets. Cut down on the alcohol and get fit. And I suggest Paula from N5M, saw her a few times a couple years ago. She is perfect for someone like yourself.

[tcrawford]

Don't take meds, if you can cum with masturbation you can cum with a wg. It's just nerves and inexperience, it's all in your head. Eventually you become a seasoned punter and don't think anything of it.

Join the gym. Congratulations on regaining your freedom.

[CharlieM]

The meds are just to gain his confidence for now. At his age, once he gets going he won't need them any more after he's had a few good punts.

[suka03]

if you got small fortune to spend. Enjoy yourself travel overseas to SE asian country like Bali, Thai, Viet, Philippines. Like myself i spent only 2k in Bali for 5days including flights, punts (1-2x per day), accommodation and food. Another time did also travel to Thailand.

[dewayne]

Might not hurt to reach out to a therapist for a few sessions. Sometimes it helps a ton just to tell someone in person what you're going through.

I had a bad run of events in the early 2010s with losing a friend, a long relationship ending, and sick family members. Helped to clear my head out a bit.

Best wishes brother

[schloong]

Might not hurt to reach out to a therapist for a few sessions. Sometimes it helps a ton just to tell someone in person what you're going through.

I had a bad run of events in the early 2010s with losing a friend, a long relationship ending, and sick family members. Helped to clear my head out a bit.

Best wishes brother


Good advice right there mate.

Many years ago I was going through a really rough patch with all sorts of shit happening & it got so bad it was affecting my work too. My boss at the time told me a see a Counsellor. Did a few sessions with her & it made such a difference. Strongly recommended. Good luck mate...

[11Bravo]

Might not hurt to reach out to a therapist for a few sessions. Sometimes it helps a ton just to tell someone in person what you're going through.


Good advice right there mate.

Many years ago I was going through a really rough patch with all sorts of shit happening & it got so bad it was affecting my work too. My boss at the time told me a see a Counsellor. Did a few sessions with her & it made such a difference. Strongly recommended. Good luck mate...
I'll pile on; excellent advice. If you were in a car accident, no-brainer to go to the hospital to get checked-out. Well, when life T-bones you, knocks the wind out of you, head spinning... that emotional T-bone just as real as a physical accident. Talking with a professional allows you to catch your breath, stop the spinning, see what's what. That's what they're there for, what they're trained for. 50 minutes a week (yea, you're billed for an hour), 10 weeks... first 3 or 4, grinding; next couple, bit of sanding, the remainder, final polishing. Got my reference from my sister.

True story: I thought I hid it rather well at work. 8 years later, get together for old colleagues, mate comes up, pulls me aside. "Hey, B, you mind me asking what was going on "back then"? Everybody knew you were "off", we were all concerned, but we didn't want to pry. Everything work out OK?" Friends and family can tell.

Punting is fantasy. You're talking real life.

[Bunningsnag]

Book yourself in to see Nicky at Artarmon 90. She'll sort you out

[HarrysReasons]

Spending $200 an hour might be a huge waste, he'd already attempted f/s at Atarmon 78 as he indicated in his first post.

He needs someone to worship his cock for the full session without the pressure of pleasing a woman, at least for now.....

His best bet is Nuru master Mimi at Croydon, guaranteed his cock (and other regions) will be well looked after !!


Book yourself in to see Nicky at Artarmon 90. She'll sort you out

[DYSLENOJD]

I'm going against the grain here, but I personally wouldn't see Mimi. Yes she is good at what she does, but I really struggled to get excited given her age and (lack of) looks/body.

I'm no spring chicken myself however just didn't find the session particularly enjoyable. I'm disappointed I didn't get to experience her in her younger years.

I do agree with seeing a counselor or therapist though. Would suggest at least giving it a go, there's no harm in seeing whether it's helpful.

If all else fails, go visit any of the Thai birds at N5M who will no doubt sort you out!

[Punt2Win]

Wow thanks a lot for all the replies and support. Makes me feel heaps better about it all though today I sort of laughed it all off and went for a walk in the sun

Definitely a few things going on

Mentally I'm a bit shot. Miss my kids when I'm not with them and when I masturbate even with porn my mind still goes back to my ex and I a lot of the time. Which I know is messed up and not something I try to do. Part of the reason I tried to move on and go and see someone.

Dont really have a friendship circle outside old friends who have all moved away and one of my best friends who died unexpectedly from an accident earlier this year. Most of my social life was with my ex etc

So I think I was missing the connection more than the fkng itself I think.

And yeah first time with a condom in 15 odd years. My penis isn't particularly long but it is a bit thicker than average so I always used slightly larger condoms but maybe the one she used was just normal size too as i felt almost nothing

I think maybe fs isn't for me. It seemed a bit too mechanical for what I'm looking for. Maybe later on when I'm more comfortable with it all

Next time I think I'll just abstain from masturbating for a week or so and try again with a massage hj and try and find someone through the recommendations here who is great at edging, that would be great

Thanks again for all the advice I really appreciate it. Hope everyone had a good weekend

Punting is a sport that you get better and better at.

1. Don't wank or watch porn. Eat well and exercise. Tone down alcohol consumed.

2. One day you're just going to wake up horny where you start to throb just thinking of a woman's body. That's the time to go!

3. Don't get in your head thinking about all the baggage. Just think about how hot the girl is and forget yourself in the moment.

4. Trying an edging massage as it takes all the pressure off you having to have sex. You can lay down like a dead fish and let her do all the work.

5. I've heard bodyrotic at camperdown is known for their edging girls so ask reception for one. Preferably one who will also do BBBJ. Good luck

[Rlks1]

This just happened to me tonight with a regularly ML I see.

Session was just different to the others IÂ’ve been back for. Half arroused on the flip, sheÂ’s smoking hot as always asking me to grab her tits. Within 2 minutes IÂ’ve let off a load and dribbled out. Usually IÂ’m shooting off the bed or up my chest with 4-5 solid ropes, and walked out disappointed

Nothing on her, it was me. What do you do