What's one thing you know about sex now that you wish someone had told you years ago.

[aussie_jack]

Good morning gentlemen(and ladies if any are lurking). In the interests of science, I was wondering what's one piece of sex advice that you wish somebody had told you before your first time? I'm sure that many of the experienced members here have some sage advice for a newbie like myself.

[AHLUNGOR]

Good morning gentlemen(and ladies if any are lurking). In the interests of science, I was wondering what's one piece of sex advice that you wish somebody had told you before your first time? I'm sure that many of the experienced members here have some sage advice for a newbie like myself.

So you are a virgin ??

[Oneonone]

Well if you want a good value for money punt go to an Asian Shop!

[CunningLinguist]

Good morning gentlemen(and ladies if any are lurking). In the interests of science, I was wondering what's one piece of sex advice that you wish somebody had told you before your first time? I'm sure that many of the experienced members here have some sage advice for a newbie like myself.

That there is a punters forum where you can get advice about avoiding bad punts and getting good ones!

[aussie_jack]

That there is a punters forum where you can get advice about avoiding bad punts and getting good ones!

Yeah working out that has helped me move from a punter who would just rock up at vixens in marrickville hoping to see whoever was free, to a punter who books ahead and for some afternoon delight at ginza.

Also maybe this topic was a little misplaced here. I'm slowly trying to raise my post count without having to post crappy one liners everywhere.

Also not a virgin.

[heatseeker]

I wish I had the internet when I was younger.
Was a single man for way too long in my youth
Although can't complain these days ; )

But to specifically answer your question, I wish I knew about P2P earlier
I spent a lot of money on girlfriends, dinners, drinks etc, even when these women i met socially, were indifferent to me, and I had to spend far too much time and dollars just to enjoy bedroom exploits
And Sydney seems to have more than its share of arrogant tinewaster women. My humble opinion
I've never been married, so I can't comment on that
These days I don't need to waste my precious time with timewaster women, to enjoy bedroom pursuits
And I have this online community to thank : )

[Wayne]

In the interests of science, I was wondering what's one piece of sex advice that you wish somebody had told you before your first time? I'm sure that many of the experienced members here have some sage advice for a newbie like myself.

Good to see that in Abbott's Australia somebody still values scientific opinion.

From my 30 years + experience of punting, as with my life in general, the one lesson I would say is "be yourself," in every situation. I know it is a cliche. I take it to mean, be relaxed, be aware of your breathe and regulate it, don't let emotion or the circumstance overwhelm you.

I used to be so nervous of what women thought of me, so self conscious. That's why all my early sexual experience were with hookers rather than girlfriends. I thought by paying than I could suppress their criticisms that surely they must have. It took me years to realise that women respond best to honesty and no bullshit. Once you are relaxed and easy going with a woman, the sex is always - always - much better.

[heatseeker]

Another observation
I would lose count how many women I met in my social life, accidentally or deliberately leave random bits of clothing or underwear in my unit, after staying with me overnight

Real annoying when in a month or so time another lady I have met finds the underwear

Thankfully I'm not married

Women, when you leave your clothes or underwear behind, I have no choice but to throw the item in the bin

[Oneonone]

I think that and hope that what most people have got out of this or learnt is that women even working ladies are people and the nicer your treat them the better service you get in return, if you want a good punt treat the lady right.

[Isis]

My response to this very interesting question would be.....

As nice as sex can be, and it can be very wonderful, don't over-rate it and don't over-rate women.
Many women unfortunately subscribe to the "Linoleum theory of Men" that is,
"lay a man well and you can walk all over him for thirty years." So we need to be aware that
we are, unfortunately, not dealing with sex machines, but with highly manipulative control freaks.

That's harsh my friend! Sorry to hear you've met these types of women! Have faith.... There are still some honest and caring gems out there :smile:

[Oneonone]

That's harsh my friend! Sorry to hear you've met these types of women! Have faith.... There are still some honest and caring gems out there :smile:

Unfortunately ISIS they are hard to find and when you find one she is like you not available.

[heatseeker]

Great post crazymonkey

I agree men and women, as a generalisation, see sex differently

After sex, women can have more intense emotional feelings for a guy

Women are literally letting him inside her, and that physically and mentally requires a degree of vulnerability and trust

Men can generally orgasm in a short time with absolutely no emotional attachment

Obviously the opposite also occurs

Women want emotional and emotional security, and take a longer term view of her interaction with a guy

The guy just has to know what the lady's real wants are - are you her partner or just a meal ticket,?

[Sextus]

These days I don't need to waste my precious time with timewaster women, to enjoy bedroom pursuits. And I have this online community to thank : )

Heatseeker, you say your punting career only began two weeks ago. That co-incides precisely with your join date on the forum. With those two pieces of information you could surmise that such was the powerful influence of this forum it launched your punting career on the very same day you discovered it. You rushed home from your first punt to join up. How did that work out? How did you become aware of this forum?

And such is your evangelistic joy at the discovery of the forum and your beginning to punt, that, two weeks later, you are already referring to it as a career.

And now you have a faith and belief that it will save and protect you from all future dud punts - good luck with that!

[birch]

Practice makes perfect is my pearl of wisdom

Luckily practice also happens to be fun - even if it is occasionally expensive.

[syphon]

"In the interests is science"!! Sounds like you have been enjoying "Masters of Sex" on SBS on Thursday nights!
What a great show!

[heatseeker]

Sextus

I am grateful to you. You provided Heatseeker with his avatar, his 'costume', his alter identity
Your avatar formally inducted me into the community, and I wear the costume with pride ; )

I have no 'faith' and 'belief' that will save and protect me from a dud punt as you state
As I say over and over, a dud punt is Heatseekers kryptonite, and I am extremely aware a dud punt can always be just around the corner !
I rely on my experience already as a successful single man, and more importantly, the community support I receive from this forum

Ok, sorry for the wrong use of words.
Its not a career. Its a past time. As I said, I am an apprentice of this art
I do exist, and my mission does also exists

It may be difficult to believe a gentleman experienced in the annals of love already, can not have paid for sex until his 30s
But its true

But you ask for my 'back story'.

As you know, there are other forums apart from this one

I wouldnt normally mention other forums, but to specifically answer your question, I have to

My landlord, in roughly August 2013, mentioned that his marriage had broken up, and he was going to a parlour
I am naive and in my 30s, and I told him that I had never paid for sex before
I have had, and still have, plenty of girlfriends, and im not married, so why pay for sex ?

As an aside, he was a nice landlord, and invited me to a party he was hosting, which of all things included a few young single Japanese ladies who worked in his legal practice
Stupidly I brought a date for the night, and so completely lost the opportunity to meet and date one of these lovely J ladies

Anyway, the point is, that I got curious, after this short chat with my friendly landlord
After a Google Search, I found another forum site, Punter Planet, which had a lot of After Reports.
The site had a chat room as well, but the community mainly seemed to be Melbourne based, and older guys with a supercilious attitude
I learnt a lot in a short time from friends I chatted with on that site
Im an intelligent, systematic guy, who wants to learn first, and not make the basic mistakes due to lack of experience
And there are many basic mistakes to avoid

Anyway I got to know a Sydney based guy on there, who was seeing on average two private escorts a week - way out of my price range
I asked if he wanted to try a parlour with me, as he was already blowing more than $600 a week, and I told him his tastes were very expensive
He wanted me to go with him to Cougartown, a nice parlour, you can Google it
Havent taken him up on that offer, yet

So I joined this forum, already well read and well prepared, and two weeks ago had my first P2P experience after due research. Make sense now ?

I have women in my social life, and this is why I had never paid for sex before. Ever.
Even in my teens and early 20s, when a school friend lost his virginity on stage in Love Machine in Kings Cross when we all were 17, I never paid for sex

I have not got married yet, and I think that shows intelligence.
I havent settled down with the wrong woman, although many women have tried
I know the ins and outs of lovemaking, Im not in this to get "affection" or "quality" time with the opposite sex

To date, I have not had a completely dud punt, and I have invented my own scoring chart I fill in after each P2P, to refine just where any substandard punt can be improved for next time
Im a scientist after all in the day, before I get changed in the phone booth for my evening missions
I dont rely on "faith', or 'belief'. I rely on sharing information with my brothers, I am an apprentice

Punting is not in my DNA. But it soon will be. A lot sooner than a lot of the gentleman on here.

Refining this art can take decades, but I want it refined sooner.

Every post I am asking questions and stating that I am an apprentice. It is through humility that I know that I dont know everything.

Thats why our community is so valuable

[heatseeker]

CrazyMonkey, in Sydney and Melbourne, house prices have become basically unaffordable

I sense that a lot of the problem meeting decent women in these two cities is that at the back of a ladys mind, if you cant fund her dreams of a nice house in a nice suburb, then they are out of your league

Of course Im not saying all women are this way motivated, but Im sure it is a factor in 2013

[Oneonone]

Heatseeker, if you go to
He wanted me to go with him to Cougartown, a nice parlour, you can Google it

I assume its the one in Riverwood, you will find its clean and tidy nothing flash and the ladies are mostly Caucasian and 30 plus.

The price is also more expensive than the Asian shops they are on a par with, and IMHO the service is no where near as good as the Asian shops I go to.

The do have one advantage in that you can have a conversation with them as usually their English is good.

So how much extra is it worth to have a chat, personally I find a lady doesn't talk much while your both having fun, so English isn't usually an issue.

[heatseeker]

Yes Oneonone
My impressions exactly of the place and the prices, and so you see I havent joined him in his planned visit there

I do the research, and my instincts told me that Im better suited at other places

My friend, is only 22 years old, and prefers older Caucasian women, ideally very big breasted

I prefer Asian women, as you and I have discussed before, but am opened minded. I am open to all nationalities, and need to travel more ; )

[wilisno]

That there is a punters forum where you can get advice about avoiding bad punts and getting good ones!
But there wasn't a forum when that happened ! :-(

[wilisno]

Also maybe this topic was a little misplaced here. I'm slowly trying to raise my post count without having to post crappy one liners everywhere.

Also not a virgin.
Good on you bro, you've done all the right things !

[Punter Poontang]

Just as well my machine is still in the shop.



That's harsh my friend! Sorry to hear you've met these types of women! Have faith.... There are still some honest and caring gems out there :smile:

I'm sure he's about to tell us where: S*nsh*n* M*ss*g*

Who wants to buy a vowel?? :-P




But, it has to be said, without the provision of significant monetary rewards, good women are certainly becoming harder and harder to find.


Yeah because by simply splashing the cash, it's much easier to find a "good woman" .... loltastic.


In answer to the OP, there are so many things I now know that I wish I knew when I was younger and fitter and had options all about .... but probably the biggest is just to know that girls love sex too. Spent too much of my youth moving slowly, feeling like a hornbag and suppressing my urges for fear of rejection. If I knew that girls need and want sex just as much as us, I'd have taken the initiative far more often and would probably now require the same size belt as Clive Palmer to fit all those extra notches on it. Thinking back to some of the situations I failed to capitalise on .... jesus .... :-(

[heatseeker]

Haha Punter Poontang
Agree with you totally.
As a generalisation, women love sex just as much as men, they just have to be more careful (pregnancy, bastard men loving and leaving etc etc)

True story, I was single for most of my 20s.

It was at my 21st birthday, and f- was I innocent
At the end of the party I noticed that one of my best female friends (I worked with her parttime at a hamburger place) was hanging around

I saw her sitting on the floor next to me
For some reason, she had no panties on.
We were the only two people left from the party, all my other friends had gone home

She had a glint in her eye

I said, "nice night", "hope you get home safely !" and left

Only a few weeks later I actually realised this lovely lady should have been (and wanted to be) my birthday present, but she was too shy to speak !

I was still a virgin at 21, so I wouldnt have known what to do anyway ; )

[Oneonone]

There were no forums when I started punting unfortunately as the wealth of knowledge and the willingness of brothers to share is priceless. And of course ladies like the lovely ISIS who add a new dimension to this forum.

[heatseeker]

Agreed Oneonone

I doubt I would be visiting any of the lovely parlours in Sydney if it wasnt for these forums

I dread to hear some of your shock stories of life before the internet ; )

[Oneonone]

I guess "Heatseeker" would be wishing someone told him how to make sure you dont' get banned on these forums?

Interesting Question?

[Boney]

What is P2P, person to person, prick to pussy, punter to prostitute?

My answer to the question of what I wish someone had told me long ago is that sex always costs you. If you go out to pick up ladies you pay for drinks, food etc with no guarantee of getting sex, picking up was something I was never good at,I was much too shy and also never liked bars or dance clubs, for me this free sex was much too expensive. Now I pay and I know what I will get, and in general the ladies are friendly and nice people. I have been married and cohabited with the same woman for around 40 years now, nearly all my money and energy goes into my wife and family, if I leave half of my net worth will go, this gets me sex late at night once every couple of months, normally it is make it quick or if you have to. It wasn't until I was talking to the GP about Viagra and he said that maybe the spark had gone out of the relationship. I thought about this, and yes, when my wife said "if you have to" I used to do backflips woohoo it's on tonight. And I was 'faithful' all this time.

One day about 4 or 5 years ago I went to a RnT shop for a massage, I was so uptight that when the mamasan wanted to do the tug part I refused, couple of weeks later I found myself back there with the courage to to go all the way to the tug part. This time I had one of the ml's and that was the start of my career, now I am on the hard stuff in the last year I have been visiting the FS shops.

The other piece of advice is To go with the flow, find out what you both enjoy, shared pleasure is the most enjoyable when both partners are comfortable and enjoying the experience. WL's are humans and individuals, see enjoy that individuality. So don't go with a list of to do's from a porno movie, some girls will be comfortable with this but others may not be, pushing boundaries is ok, but no means no, for me confrontation is not conducive to good sex. And yes I know that there are exceptions but s and m, anal, etc is specialist stuff and not the normal fare. Reviews will help you to find out if the girl will perform your particular fantasy.

Apologies for going off topic, and raving on too long.

[Boney]

PS I have no regrets

"What is done is done, and irrevocably so"

Sir Walter Bacon

[Travelmate]

Heatseeker, you say your punting career only began two weeks ago. That co-incides precisely with your join date on the forum. With those two pieces of information you could surmise that such was the powerful influence of this forum it launched your punting career on the very same day you discovered it. You rushed home from your first punt to join up. How did that work out? How did you become aware of this forum?

And such is your evangelistic joy at the discovery of the forum and your beginning to punt, that, two weeks later, you are already referring to it as a career.

And now you have a faith and belief that it will save and protect you from all future dud punts - good luck with that!

i like your comment

[wilisno]

i like your comment

What's more remarkable was that, being a rookie punter of two weeks, he said he received a lot of pm's from our Brissy brothers asking for advice on the Sydney punting scene !

[Travelmate]

What's more remarkable was that, being a rookie punter of two weeks, he said he received a lot of pm's from our Brissy brothers asking for advice on the Sydney punting scene !

It is so funny!!
I am a rookie too....

[rooter]

I'm fucked if I know ...

[Punter Poontang]

Sex is over-rated

It's nice, but it's still over-rated, usually by those who don't get much......

Maybe you're not doing it right. :-P