Getting too close to a WL

[johnycash]

Hey guys,

first post here, didn't expect to write something like this but here I go...

I have been in punting for 5 whole years, casual, once in a while I go to different places...

now over a past year, I didn't know what was wrong with me and I kept seeing a lady in a joint, didn't click for the first time but second time I gave it a try, things went really wired...

the bottom line is I got too close to her, too involved... I mean I know falling in love shouldn't be the word but I couldn't find a better one... I am doomed. two months ago I told her, we went to Brisbane together, stayed in a hotel, for the first time, she wouldn't charge me the fee and I was quite surprised... I know too much about her than I should, I believed everything she told me.

anyway guys, when I told her what I feel about her, of course I told her about my marriage and children, she told me NO WAY that we can be together, it won't work at all... I mean I get it, it's jut me, I feel so attached to her, feel I wanted her to be a part of my life...

after I saw her in Brisbane, my little brother was like poisoned, it couldn't get hard up, with anyone, even with my wife... too bad... I don't know what to do anymore...

now we become some sort of friends, that no sex involved, just talking, chatting, in her workplace, outside her workplace... I couldn't leave her now... it's too bad... she text me everyday, I text her everyday, she send her kisses to me and I kiss her back, it's like burning hell, couldn't resist, couldn't just let her go...

please guys, advice needed here, leaving my wife and children IS NOT AN OPTION, but how do I get out of this burning hell, this wired cycle...

hit me with anything, I heard them all before so do not be too gentle with me, come on, let me hear it!

[IExperiment]

Hey guys,

first post here, didn't expect to write something like this but here I go...

I have been in punting for 5 whole years, casual, once in a while I go to different places...

now over a past year, I didn't know what was wrong with me and I kept seeing a lady in a joint, didn't click for the first time but second time I gave it a try, things went really wired...

the bottom line is I got too close to her, too involved... I mean I know falling in love shouldn't be the word but I couldn't find a better one... I am doomed. two months ago I told her, we went to Brisbane together, stayed in a hotel, for the first time, she wouldn't charge me the fee and I was quite surprised... I know too much about her than I should, I believed everything she told me.

anyway guys, when I told her what I feel about her, of course I told her about my marriage and children, she told me NO WAY that we can be together, it won't work at all... I mean I get it, it's jut me, I feel so attached to her, feel I wanted her to be a part of my life...

after I saw her in Brisbane, my little brother was like poisoned, it couldn't get hard up, with anyone, even with my wife... too bad... I don't know what to do anymore...

now we become some sort of friends, that no sex involved, just talking, chatting, in her workplace, outside her workplace... I couldn't leave her now... it's too bad... she text me everyday, I text her everyday, she send her kisses to me and I kiss her back, it's like burning hell, couldn't resist, couldn't just let her go...

please guys, advice needed here, leaving my wife and children IS NOT AN OPTION, but how do I get out of this burning hell, this wired cycle...

hit me with anything, I heard them all before so do not be too gentle with me, come on, let me hear it!

I have similar problem more than 10 years ago with a ML.
Anyway there is nothing to fix if your not prepared to leave the kids.
This new girl already told you it wont happen but keep you hanging just incase you take it to the next level.
You should have the answer for your self its just going to be worse.

Two scenario, first one leave the wife but you reckon you will be compatible ???
still your call at the end if you think this will be happy ending at the end with leaving the kids ( so many scenario with this later on as well )

Second scenario dont see her ever again cut all ties if your a man you can take it grow some balls yes you will be in paint but I know how you feel can you leave with out her ??? the longer you dont see her you will forget.

All I can say is I am happy ever after with all the scenario and my kingdon is my domain :)

Good luck on your pain and headache, just remember there is so many scenario including blackmaik from kids and ex ...lol...

[deathstalker]

Hey guys,

first post here, didn't expect to write something like this but here I go...

I have been in punting for 5 whole years, casual, once in a while I go to different places...

now over a past year, I didn't know what was wrong with me and I kept seeing a lady in a joint, didn't click for the first time but second time I gave it a try, things went really wired...

the bottom line is I got too close to her, too involved... I mean I know falling in love shouldn't be the word but I couldn't find a better one... I am doomed. two months ago I told her, we went to Brisbane together, stayed in a hotel, for the first time, she wouldn't charge me the fee and I was quite surprised... I know too much about her than I should, I believed everything she told me.

anyway guys, when I told her what I feel about her, of course I told her about my marriage and children, she told me NO WAY that we can be together, it won't work at all... I mean I get it, it's jut me, I feel so attached to her, feel I wanted her to be a part of my life...

after I saw her in Brisbane, my little brother was like poisoned, it couldn't get hard up, with anyone, even with my wife... too bad... I don't know what to do anymore...

now we become some sort of friends, that no sex involved, just talking, chatting, in her workplace, outside her workplace... I couldn't leave her now... it's too bad... she text me everyday, I text her everyday, she send her kisses to me and I kiss her back, it's like burning hell, couldn't resist, couldn't just let her go...

please guys, advice needed here, leaving my wife and children IS NOT AN OPTION, but how do I get out of this burning hell, this wired cycle...

hit me with anything, I heard them all before so do not be too gentle with me, come on, let me hear it!

Ditch the ML. Not worth it man, you have a family dude, you have kids nothing is wrong with your wife and kids you don't have PROBLEMS in your family.. You're the issue...cut all ties with her stay with the family. Delete numbers , don't contact her , go punt elsewhere and give it three months or so..should be better by then if not Then I assume your going to ditch the family that never did you wrong and live with that guilt..

[Guymartin420]

Trust me, there is only one option. You simply have to cut all connections for a reasonable period of time. What you are feeling is a very intense emotion and it's really hard to contain it.

Stress and pain is always caused by being here but wanting to be there. This is the fundamental cause of all discomfort in our lives. Understand that you are thinking of ditching something which took years in building (family) and going with a fad which may or may not click.

A mans job is to take care of his family- no matter what. You are the rock for them. Don't ever forget that.

People come into our lives for a reason, season or a lifetime. (It's a famous quote). Mostly it is to teach u something or as a response to a wish that u sent out to the universe. Maybe your sex life with ur wife wasn't great and u wished for some change and the universe responded. Doesn't mean it's for a lifetime.

Think about how you felt in your early days of marriage. Go through the old photos, videos, letters etc. try to rekindle that emotion which is now deep buried somewhere inside u. Then "burn the bridge" and tell the WL that it's over.

In short, grow a pair and be a man!

[Oneonone]

She is a wl it won't work give her a miss, forget all about her and move on.

[foleyes]

Your wl is right , it won't work. I would think she would have more experience with this situation and knows better.
Bro you can't get hard with anyone. Keep trying different wl & you might get hard again

[vvillie]

I'm going to have to go with the concensus here and say ditch the wl. The longer you put it off, the more damaging it can be for everyone involved.

Based on the information you've provided, there aren't any major dramas going on at home. So as long as there isn't something you are not disclosing, just think, As much as you may care for this woman, is being with her really worth throwing away the life you have built with your wife and kids?

[Max Impact]

I hope this story has a happy ending! :-)

[johnycash]

I hope this story has a happy ending! :-)

thanks mate, all good.

[johnycash]

Hey guys,

you are great help, I was almost certain what to do now is 100%, besides I am flying to overseas tomorrow, should be a very good time for me to get my head straight. both heads, if you know what I mean~

Merry Christmas and Happy New year!

[CommanderM]

I think you have to find the cause of your needs mate

First are you bored with your sex life you are having with your wife?

2nd are you looking for something that is not there?

3rd is it because you feel lonely bored?


Maybe you need counselling by yourself

[CommanderM]

Good to hear mate

Sex can cloud your judgement. Stay with the wife and family


Take care and have a happy xmas and 2013

[foleyes]

I hope this story has a happy ending! :-)

If he goes to a massage parlour to and is able to get hard on he most likely will.

[Max Impact]

That pun was intended!

[johnycash]

thanks guys, I guess I just need to grow a pair and cut the ties... family is the most important thing anyway... I wouldn't say I have a perfect marriage but so far it's alright

Gonna say goodbye to my girl and live with the pain for a while...

Cheers

[Guymartin420]

thanks guys, I guess I just need to grow a pair and cut the ties... family is the most important thing anyway... I wouldn't say I have a perfect marriage but so far it's alright Gonna say goodbye to my girl and live with the pain for a while... Cheers

Good on you mate! Just curious- what's your age difference with the WL?

[johnycash]

Good on you mate! Just curious- what's your age difference with the WL?
The difference is 5 years