complicated feelings for Korean WL

[romeo4321]

Hello...

recently i have feelings for korean wl...
she is very nice to me..

we met 1 year ago at shop and build good friendship phone call and txt msg..
we always plan to meet outside of shop but i never meet, i cant meet wl outside of shop i scare i get real feelings for her..

i care for her alot and asked her personal questions..
like why you do this?
the more i see her in the shop i can tell she doesnt like it..
last time i saw her i could tell she have no respect for me anymore.

i tell her i cannot see you in shop anymore. we both very sad..

i dont think i can take this relationship outside of shop in case i develope serious feelings for this girl.
my head is very messed at the moment i cant think straight

i feel like a bad man for having feelings for her, then go use her at the shop..
every time i use her at shop something hurts inside, i feel sad and feel like bad man.
like i pay someone close to me to do dirty thing for me.

[foleyes]

You know it's bad then stop it. Be strong. It's best for both of you.

[harmony]

Hi romeo4321
I agree with foleyes, you need to be strong

Love often DOES NOT WORK OUT. Often one or both people leave with strong feelings, and endings hurt !
However endings often allow renewal and more importantly, new healthier relationships to form

The younger you are, the stronger the feelings of attachment you will feel, to a lady that you like
Of course, you can be older and have similar strong attachments
However when you are older, the experience of past relationship endings readies you for the fact that often love doesnt work out

The best way to forget this lady is to find a few other korean ML, or WL, and really focus in the moments when you are with these new alternatives

For some, it is very important to talk about these feelings with other people, so your problem is shared and therefore halved

I would even mention to the new K-girls that you meet that, "Wow, you are beautiful. And I thought there is only one pretty k-girl in the world !!!"

You must dilute these strong feelings you have. Especially if the ML or WL does not share your feelings, this contact must end

You cant be friends with a lady you are interested in.
You must find alternative appealing women to dilute these strong feelings

But the most important rule is: dont be creepy. If a lady doesnt share your interest, then you are deluding yourself, and you need to move on

[wilisno]

This storyline must be in season at the moment ! ;) ;) ;)

[romeo4321]

i know it hurt so much..
i want her to stay in my life because i care about her..
she there to comfort me when i was down...

now .. cant be friends.. cant see her at shop.. thing is i can never be in relationship with WL.. too hurt for me.. or go to shops and other men see.. how i feel?...or she go back to work for money.. how i feel
im very sad...

[harmony]

romeo4321
You are feeling hurt, but please hang in there

One problem is that you relied too much on this one person to share your feelings and to gain your peace

You thought this person was a true friend, but actually, you were paying her to be your friend

You need to realise that putting all your expectation on this lady is unfair and unbalanced

Sharing your problems, and having comfort from someone when you are down, should be down with a true friend, or with a trusted relative, not with a friend who you pay money to !

Once again, you cant be friends with a lady who doesnt like you.

You will end up being her "male tampon" or be stuck in "Friend zone"

What you also dont realise, is that women get on with their lives.

She probably has a boyfriend, but wont tell you because she knows you like her, and she doesnt want to hurt your feelings.

You need to move on, but she is too polite or nervous to tell you, in case you take it personally

Google "friend zone" and learn why it a waste of time to be friends with a girl who isnt interested in you

Here is one article I found quickly, but others may help you more:

http://www.wikihow.com/Escape-the-Friend-Zone

[romeo4321]

i know.. i never like this with girl...
i usually playing and never get emotion..

only this girl.. because i play other girl.. and always come back to her.. and she comfort me..
i open real heart to her..

when i say goodbye.. she cry alot...
i walk out strong and no look back..

no sorry.. because no ones fault... just accident i open my heart..

[vvillie]

This storyline must be in season at the moment ! ;) ;) ;)

Haha, I think it's just something about the holiday period that makes everyone put their feelings out in the open.

But to the op, You say you don't want to develop feelings for this girl, but obviously that ship has sailed. If you can't bear to continue seeing this girl in the parlour, and do not want to further develop your relationship on the outside, I think the best course of action is to cut your ties and move on.

[harmony]

My cheeky definition of when a man has finally matured

"When he recognises he is in the dreaded 'friend zone' with a lady"

A younger or less experienced guy will be in the "friend zone" with a lady and not realise it, continue being in love, and not realise IT IS NOT BEING RECIPROCATED

A more experienced guy recognises his affection is not being reciprocated because he can READ THE WOMANS SIGNALS OF DISINTEREST

The more experienced guy runs 100 miles away from the "Friend zone" because many many a man have been exploited by a woman who keeps him in that friend zone

Do you really want to be her "male tampon" ?

A man and a woman can be friends, as long as neither person wants anything more than friendship

[AHLUNGOR]

I assume you are single , cause if you are married, then what the ??

Since you are single , you have options :

1. See this lady outside the shop and treat her like a normal girl friend and see where your hearts lead you .

2. Continue to go see her in the shop and satisfy your needs

3. Stop going to this shop and find a new WL some where else ASAP ! You will be surprised once your cock is inside another WLs mouth and pussy, how quickly a man will forget!

Just my three cents

Cheers

[CunningLinguist]

I assume you are single , cause if you are married, then what the ??

Since you are single , you have options :

1. See this lady outside the shop and treat her like a normal girl friend and see where your hearts lead you .

2. Continue to go see her in the shop and satisfy your needs

3. Stop going to this shop and find a new WL some where else ASAP ! You will be surprised won your cock is inside another WLs mouth and pussy, his quickly a man will forget!

Just my three cents

Cheers

4. Stop punting and get a real girlfriend.

[Guymartin420]

I had a similar experience, but to a ML. In my case, it was i who put her in the "friend zone" repeatedly...

I will tell everyone here in the forum that story... Not now. ...

[Licker]

4. Stop punting and get a real girlfriend.

5. Dress up in women's clothing and hang around in bars. (Oxford st)
(tune: lumberjack song)

[romeo4321]

@harmony

why talk friendzone?

this nothing to do with friends or no friends.. only option for being friend is because i cant be relationship with working girl..
and i choose no friend because i have feeling.

maybe u try friend before and hurt but i not that stupid..

[AHLUNGOR]

@harmony

why talk friendzone?

this nothing to do with friends or no friends.. only option for being friend is because i cant be relationship with working girl..
and i choose no friend because i have feeling.

maybe u try friend before and hurt but i not that stupid..

I think you have got all your answers right here !

Just stick with this plan then :

1. because i cant be relationship with working girl..

2. and i choose no friend because i have feeling.

Remember this !

Just move on mate!

BTW, do you need a good massage to help you forget ??

[deathstalker]

Romeo...you got the situation under control brother no need to panick you stuck by as a true man..

1. You stayed true to your rules ..never date a WL
2. You already said goodbye to her.

Needless to say more ? Stop seeing her , now talk to a mate you trust about this issue and not another WL then go punt with that mate and find the enjoyment of punting and noemotions again.

If your no mood for action massage is always good therapy, I LOVE massages try it out.

[romeo4321]

thank you brothers.. your kind words give me courage and strength..


i walk tall and proud..

let this be lesson.. love is only man weakness..


money make WL's love dirty..

money make us look dirty to WL's eyes..


truth to this game..

[deathstalker]

Good, now go slay them all for what they are worth!!!
HaHaHa
Do make sure you have this talk with a close friend that you trust don't keep it bottled up!

[Milf_Man]

Time will heal your wounds Romeo.
With each passing day, it will hurt that little bit less.
Be strong, don't see her anymore.

[imagination69]

Plenty of fish in sydney wearing almost nothing this time of the year. Go to the beach on a hot summers day and your mind will be refocused :)

[waynekerr]

1. Never:

- See the same girl twice in succession
- Go to the same shop twice in succession
- Do the same service twice in succession (e.g. do massage HJ, FS, massage no extras, massage nude, FS, massage no extras, etc)
- Swap numbers - ever if the girl laughs at your jokes and thinks you're the cutest customer she's seen ever
- See the same nationality twice in succession (e.g. see Chinese, Korean, Chinese, Japanese, Aussie, Chinese, Korean)

2. Always put the same amount of cash you spend on a punt in a shoebox under your bed

3. Buy an expensive car

4. Take up some exercise like cycling, running or (ugh) join a gym

Remember: No WL will completely trust her BF if she met him punting. No punter will completely trust his GF if he met her punting. Every girl dreams of a guy who will never punt and will be disappointed one day when you see her looking at another girl, ask about her ex customers, ask her if one of her friends works, etc. Every girl gets on your nerves eventually (and you will get on her nerves just as quickly).

A very interesting post brother Altgourami,

I particularly like point 2.

I view punting as a business transaction between a customer and a service provider,
but I am now much older than I was!

WayneK.

[wilisno]

1. Never:

- See the same girl twice in succession
- Go to the same shop twice in succession
- Do the same service twice in succession (e.g. do massage HJ, FS, massage no extras, massage nude, FS, massage no extras, etc)
- Swap numbers - ever if the girl laughs at your jokes and thinks you're the cutest customer she's seen ever
- See the same nationality twice in succession (e.g. see Chinese, Korean, Chinese, Japanese, Aussie, Chinese, Korean)



I do all your " NEVER's " all the time, they have no effects on me. I think all the OP needs is to go out more, see more girls ! ;) ;) ;)